Also, googling the phrase "tom kär" gets a few results (76) but not a lot. BUT several of them have it as "t.o.m. kär", which is intriguing.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 3:55 AM on July 22, 2008

Very helpful, thank you both, and initially promising BUT I have to clarify the original Swedish. Because of the handwriting and the fact that the letter's in English I sort of ignored the first word of the sentence/clause, which I took to be an English (universal?) "um", a timid pause. On second look I realise it is "om" (Swedish for "if"?).

The preceding sentence in English can be paraphrased as "I don't know what's going to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 5:49 AM on July 22, 2008

OK, I confess I simplified the context and made up the bit about mistaking "om" for "um", because I was trying to extract this one clause in a sentence that I thought I'd pretty much got the hang of, and I was trying to keep the surrounding stuff fully anonymous. But I'm realising now that it's not so simple to extract a single clause in a language you don't understand, so here, shamefully, I present the sentence as fully as I feel able... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 7:09 AM on July 22, 2008

I don't really mean "fully anonymous" so much as "easily identifiable" I suppose.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 7:10 AM on July 22, 2008

Examples of the flaws I see:

* Not good looking enough
* Having a smile that exposes too much of the upper gums
* Always wanting to hold hands
* Getting fat
* Not having any money
* Being a bit dumb
* Terrible punctuation and a total unwillingness to learn to fix it

Maybe others would see you as shallow for these kinds of reasons for not liking someone... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 3:32 PM on July 1, 2008

I bet you 0000 will work.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 9:58 AM on June 27, 2008

I'd guess that music plays to an older, deeper part of our brain than the newer media you mention and that the repetition is part of that in that in order to be able to get into the place I mentioned before you have to know the music inside out or at least the rules of it.

I think there's something in this. It's worth noting that a lot of music (certainly most contemporary music) is repetitive within the song - even if you listened to a song just... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 1:46 AM on June 25, 2008

Ok, so I get the idea that lube may/may not help (probably may not as it seems to be a length issue)...

But, secondary question: this problem is ruling out just about every position from behind, even cosy spooning, and therefore to my perhaps limited imagination 80% of the good ways to do it. We seem to be left with sort of basic me-on-top/her-on-top. Are there any non-obvious other ways to get it on that don't involve deep penetration?
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 2:41 PM on June 16, 2008

I'm just interested in learning a little more about what makes him tick. I imagine that's not something anyone gushes about to a fan as it's none of our business, curious though we may be. I suppose that I should have thought about my question a little more. I guess I'm interested in whether anyone has gotten to the point where a celebrity has opened up a little in a pen pal sort of way. I'm not interested in publicity stills or autographs.

I imagine... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 1:48 AM on June 11, 2008

Yeah, this happens to me, and I presume everyone. If you're getting it half a dozen times a day I'd say you might want to be tougher. I get it a couple of times a week, maybe, and I'm glad of it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 2:15 PM on June 4, 2008

Kind of a weird question. I know hardcore vegans, and have been pretty hardcore into animal rights in the past, and for sure if I saw leather furniture in someone's house I would have silently scorned them... so if you're scared of that maybe you shouldn't make the purchase. But it'd be pretty bizarre to organise your own home according to friends' beliefs that you don't share. If it bugs your vegan friends too much then they'll stop coming round, that's all. But you won't be rude for doing it,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 12:30 PM on May 27, 2008

Not sure if this counts, but: "Four Months, Three Weeks and Two Days" and "The Counterfeiters." Two excellent foreign films released in Europe in 2007, but only made it here in 2008.

Agreed and, similarly, You the Living and The Flight of the Red Balloon are two of the most extraordinary films I have seen for a long time.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 6:20 AM on May 23, 2008

This happened to me a couple of years ago. You are probably going to lose the tooth.

That's a bit alarmist! The same thing happened to me in November and I won't get around to having the dentist fix it until May 30 (it just needs filled), and I still feel no pain.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 7:11 AM on May 16, 2008

I think I first became aware of time as a medium - the value of seconds and minutes, the measurement of waiting - by sitting through the countdown clocks that used to precede daytime TV programmes in 1970s Britain. These were used mostly for schools programmes, I think, but I definitely first saw them before I started going to school - so aged four at the latest.

By the age of seven or eight I remember having thoughts along the lines of, "In 50 years I will be old,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 4:06 AM on May 8, 2008

If you're coming next weekend then you could check out ladyfest.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 7:04 PM on May 3, 2008

Ask most people how much it would take to put them in porn, and they'd give you something in the high seven figures

You reckon? I'm a straight guy, not dirt poor and desperate, not an exhibitionist, no desire to be part of that world, but you could get me to take part in gay porn for much, much lower than that. Casual sex, even if I wasn't into it, even if I hated it, just wouldn't be that big a deal to me. Wouldn't wanna put a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 3:29 PM on April 28, 2008

My girlfriend is friendly with some of her exes, especially the most recent one, with whom some of the circumstances are similar to how you describe your bf's relationship with this girl. For example, the fact that he's definitely still into her, and the way she hid that we were together from him for a while to spare his feelings. I'm not very comfortable with it, but that's how it goes.

Sometimes I think I'm ridiculously easygoing about this kind of stuff. I'm sort of... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 2:47 PM on April 22, 2008

Extra information: I'm in my thirties, if that makes a difference to theories about me still growing new teeth. Also, three out of four wisdom teeth were removed in 2004. The only one remaining, which though I dare not look may well be black with decay, is in the lower left of my jaw: as far as teeth can get from this horror in my own mouth.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 3:34 PM on April 16, 2008

You're depressed, I reckon. There are all kinds of ways to treat depression described in previous answers to questions. The question you wrote sounds depressed and, yes, boring. And vague. You can't be bothered. That's depression.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 3:16 PM on April 10, 2008

Er, yeah, that's very helpful... I should've found that in a search but didn't think to look for the (obvious) Americanisms 'postgrad' and 'recommendation'.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 10:42 AM on March 23, 2008

"But in this ever changing world in which we live in / Makes you give in and cry" (Live And Let Die - Paul McCartney)

People are always parroting this mishearing. The real words are: "But IF this ever-changing world in which WE'RE LIVING / Makes you give in and cry" i.e. fine grammatically and "Makes you give in and cry" actually makes sense.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 1:37 AM on March 5, 2008

To be clear, I have a number of female friends, all of whom tell me that I am not ugly, do not act in bizarre ways, etc. I have a number of hobbies and activities, am a generally interesting person, and am a good friend.

Seriously, for as long as you describe yourself like this - for as long as it's possible to describe yourself like this - you're going to have problems. These attributes you list are not in themselves attractive. Women/people do not... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 1:56 AM on March 4, 2008

I often work as a proofreader, and there's usually a test.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 9:16 AM on January 24, 2008

If you were truly concerned about her well being, like you let on, you would have gone up to her place in the morning and rang the bell.

I know it looks like that, but a) her doorbell doesn't work, and b) I stood at her bus stop because both times I did consider the possibility that she wouldn't be alone and I didn't want to have a big confrontation (for her sake even more than mine, honestly).
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 4:43 AM on January 21, 2008

Thanks for the responses, all of which were helpful. Freya_lamb’s, I think, was the one closest to what I felt like doing.

But anyway, I met her already. I just got back from lunch.

We met for coffee. Had a bit of chitchat, she’s got an interview for a job blah blah. After a bit, I looked dead serious at her and said, “Tell me the truth.” She said, after a long pause, “I got really drunk and stayed at James’s.” I said, “Are you gonna claim you... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 6:02 AM on January 21, 2008

Don't know if anyone will be reading this now, and I'd be sort of glad if no one is.

But, UbuRoivas, you've got it wrong. Serious business was always on my mind, and hers. The problem was that we didn't really communicate about it enough, and it seemed like other things in our lives had to get fixed first. It's just since we broke up that I understood the ways you can be in a partnership and help each other to fix things together.

Now I really... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 5:43 PM on January 21, 2008

I always think it smells like a dodgy pizza. I don't think it's anything that's actually cooking in there though. The smell is so strong, much stronger than any other restaurant/cafe. I suspect the franchises get a machine that does nothing but emit these vapours.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 4:13 PM on December 13, 2007

eBay/Amazon etc if you've got the time. Seriously, the amount of money you'll get offered in 2nd-hand places in London will make you weep.
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 3:53 AM on December 13, 2007 marked best answer

I work in a form of advertising, as a copywriter. I kinda flopped into it after my whole adult life was spent doing ethically neutral-to-good, creative stuff, that I was never forceful enough to make real money out of. I thought this business was immoral when I got into it, but I also thought that I'd done plenty immoral things before in my life and still remained kind of pure. I thought I could take it, for the experience. I'm making decent money.

It's been six months... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by cincinnatus c at 7:27 PM on December 11, 2007