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identity politics: why it matters
Given all the posts we've seen on MeFi in recent years about how arguments rarely change people's minds, I wonder if you might have more success by asking lots of questions and listening. The more you try to change his mind - stating things as facts, especially things he doesn't believe; asking leading questions - the more defensive he's likely to get.
If, instead, you ask a lot of questions that genuinely elicit his own thoughts; reflect those thoughts back to show you… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 11:34 AM on August 18, 2017
I want to build a website, but I'm an amateur.
To build on Wretch729's answer - I would definitely consider a content management system as one route to getting your site built.
Personally, I'm a big fan of Drupal, which does a lot of the heavy lifting for you. You can still go in and fiddle with the HTML and the CSS all you like, but you don't have to build the basic database-plus-interface from scratch. Instead, you use various components to assemble the site, and then you can make little adjustments here and there.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:41 AM on August 4, 2017 marked best answer
Oh, one more thing: If you're interested in Drupal and want to teach yourself how to use it, there's lots of great Drupal documentation online. There's also a pretty active community support forum right at drupal.org, plus support at the Drupal Answers section of StackExchange.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:44 AM on August 4, 2017
Court and Spark, maybe? Nah.
Who Do I Go To For Retirement Planning Help?
As treehorn+bunny says, fee-only financial planners are a great way to go. I recommended Garrett Planning Network to someone once and they've been very happy with their planner.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:47 AM on August 3, 2017
Adult coloring book or other color-in project suitable for oil pastels?
Just thought I'd mention the Color Our Collections program - a lot of museums have made coloring templates available, and you might find something there that's just right for what you want to do.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:27 AM on August 1, 2017
Fixing my prejudices about religion/faith
Seconding Rev. William Barber and Martin Luther King and Jimmy Carter, and adding Joe Biden, as well as Hillary Clinton, who used to teach Sunday school. (Pretty sure Jimmy Carter did, as well.) And let's not forget Tim Kaine.
If you're up for in-depth reading, Jimmy Carter's and Hillary Clinton's memoirs should have some good info for you.
We are witnessing the birth pangs of a Third Reconstruction : "Deep religious… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 12:33 PM on July 31, 2017
Writing exercises to sort through personal issues?
I saw How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything recommended here on AskMe. I've got it checked out from the library and so far I think it's got some good stuff.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:49 PM on July 25, 2017
Yearbook database style, Round two
My favorite tool for this sort of thing is Drupal. (It's entirely possible you could do this easily in Wordpress, as beyond_pink says, but Drupal is my personal favorite.)
Here's how you would do it in Drupal:
* download Drupal
* install it using the handy online documentation - note that you will need to CREATE a database (if you have a cPanel, this should be fairly easy) but you won't have to touch it directly after… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:47 AM on July 21, 2017
Do I REALLY need this much sleep?!
I wonder if it might be helpful to make this a bit less either/or. You've been getting 6.5-7 hours of sleep a night; this experiment suggests that your body would prefer 10. You feel that your current schedule makes 10 impossible. What if you try fine-tuning a bit in the direction your body prefers?
You don't have to choose between the impossible (10) and the bad for you (6.5). If your body really wants 10, 8 or 8.5 is still giving yourself more of what you need than 6.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 11:00 AM on July 20, 2017
Extremely isolated America
I just read the first half of In the Land of the Grasshopper Song, written by two women who lived among tribal communities in Northern California in 1908. They actually seemed to have quite a social life with the people who lived along the rivers; they taught some basic school subjects and did a bit of first aid-type medicine, and so they weren't isolated from other people - but that part of the country took a long time to reach on horseback, and they were certainly a long way from large towns.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:47 AM on July 20, 2017
I enjoy Engines of our Ingenuity (about 4 minutes, all kinds of inventions and ideas: kitchen gadgets, wombats, the digital camera, fractals, John Deere, Bakelite) and Composers Datebook (2 minutes, composers past and present).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 12:23 PM on July 15, 2017
Accurate history games without the conquest
Looking for Non-NYT Crossword Puzzle Books
I always loved Merl Reagle's crosswords, and I have several of his books. You can try three or four of his puzzles using the This Week's Puzzle link at his site (click that one, then there'll be "Previous week" links going back 3-4 weeks) to see if you like them. If you do, there are several crossword books you can order.
(On re-read: I'm sorry my answer is too late for your trip, but I hope it might be useful for you in the future.)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:02 AM on July 14, 2017
Learning a language... when I already know it
The above suggestions are great. I would suggest adding some flashcards - my favorite flashcard software is the excellent and free Anki.
* Post as often as you can on lang-8.com or iTalki (similar to lang-8). When you get corrections, immediately make flashcards for each correction you got - this is something you haven't learned yet (or you wouldn't have gotten it wrong), and the flashcards will let you practice that point until you know it.
* Do… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:53 AM on July 11, 2017
Fun videos to teach Mandarin to a toddler?
First thing we do, let's pay all the lawyers
All of these are great answers. Thank you!
I think I probably will turn this into a web page - I'll post it up on Projects if I ever do get around to it.
(Also on another thread somewhere on Metafilter there was a mention of a ruling yesterday against the EPA; I was able to find the organizations who brought that suit: Environmental Defense Fund, Natural Resources Defense Council, Environmental Integrity Project, Earthworks, Clean Air Council,… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 7:40 PM on July 4, 2017
Innovative jobs programs for people with barriers to employment?
San Francisco's Bakeworks is a project of Toolworks, which has "janitorial and staffing businesses which employ over 100 individuals with disabilities." (The Bakeworks page says they provide employment and training for "people with disabilities, who are homeless or at risk.") I haven't tried their quinoa potato crust pizzas, but their root beer cake is really good.
Better known in SF is the Delancey Street Foundation. From their home page: We’re… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 9:57 PM on July 3, 2017
Recommendations for book club books, shorter than about 320 pages
I recently finished There But For The by Ali Smith, which was just wonderful. Wikipedia says it's 357 pages but the copy I read was 236 pages so I don't understand that at all. It's wonderfully written, has very different perspectives (each section, "There," "But," "For," and "The" is from a different character's point of view) and a mystery that doesn't revolve around a crime. I stay away from bleak books these days, and there were about 4 paragraphs… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 2:58 PM on July 3, 2017
Shifting your purpose to being happy from survival
How did you start focusing on being happy instead of on being practical or whatever you told yourself before you started trying to be happy?
For me, I think it was noticing the difference between what I can and can't control, and noticing imbalances between time spent doing what I "should" do and doing what made me happy. I think a lot of this is a matter of balance.
So what if you reframed that: instead of "focusing on being… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:43 AM on June 30, 2017
Calling all graphic designers...
I wonder if Scrivener might work here? It lets you store images and other types of files (scroll down to the "Your Research - Always Within Reach" section) - I'm pretty sure it basically stores a reference to the image, so it displays it, but doesn't duplicate it inside your Scrivener doc to avoid making that doc ridiculously large. If it doesn't display all your items (I'm not sure how it would deal with fonts or brushes), it would probably be pretty easy to take a screen shot and… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 12:39 PM on June 26, 2017
How do I sort all these electronic design files?
flabdablet's approach sounds great.
I just wanted to add that you could go through the collection in very small batches whenever you have a spare half hour and feel like doing something that's not too demanding. You could pick a random month of files (maybe something from two years ago?) and just glance through them. If anything looks appropriate for your new folder-tagging system, you can add it; and if anything inspires you or gives you an idea for something else… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:17 AM on June 21, 2017 marked best answer
please rec film/documentary re the horror that was AIDS in the 1980s
Nthing The Normal Heart. I lost my best friend to AIDS, so I definitely lived through the time, and yet, when I saw The Normal Heart (play, not movie; I'm glad to hear the film is almost as good), I was reminded of a lot of things from the time that I hadn't remembered - all the things we DIDN'T yet know about the disease, how it spread, how to reduce risk, how people most affected dealt with all the unknowns.
Also, from a completely… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 9:53 AM on June 16, 2017
Poetry about relationships ending
Antilamentation by Dorianne Laux
Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell by Marty McConnell
Nothing by James Fenton
all via the wonderful (MeFi's own? not sure) Captain Awkward, from her recent post of Songs for the Dumped. (Note: these poems are not about being dumped.)
(Thank you for asking this - I had not read any of these three and I thought they were all amazing, so thank you for introducing me to them.)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 1:42 PM on June 10, 2017
LGTBQ musicians/bands from the 80s to early 90s?
What are the best non-fiction books about con men?
A Piece of Blue Sky: Scientology, Dianetics and L. Ron Hubbard Exposed
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 11:16 AM on June 8, 2017
Recommendations for child-appropriate standup comedy?
Seconding Stephen Wright. And maybe Emo Phillips? I haven't heard much recent work from either of these two, but my recollection is that they're both pretty child-appropriate.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 11:11 AM on June 8, 2017
It's summertime and the rules are completely different.
It's been a long time since I read it, but possibly Summerland by Michael Chabon?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:23 AM on June 2, 2017
Looking for a beautiful, fast, free Mac slide show
Walk the walk
Seconding photography. I'm lucky - I live in a city with great architecture, so I can go to different neighborhoods and take pictures of the buildings, which gives me a lot of motivation to get out and walk. If you can pick some interesting places to photograph that are progressively farther away from you, that could help. (Also, since you like to be productive - do include podcasts, as suggested above; I get a lot of foreign language practice in on my way to and from my photography destinations.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:31 AM on May 11, 2017
How and why do singing voices change over decades?
When I watched Don't Stop Believin': Everyman's Journey, a documentary about Journey finding their new lead vocalist, Arnel Pineda, I was really struck by the training and coaching and specific treatments he had to adopt to keep his voice in shape - singing to stadiums night after night can do a lot of damage. You might find those scenes interesting, too.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:27 AM on May 11, 2017
Must-sees in the Bay Area?
I always recommend the San Francisco City Guides walking tours - they're guided by excellent, well-trained volunteers, and free (donations welcome).
They have several tours every day; they offer extra tours in May, so your timing is excellent. Some of the special May tours that are pretty close to BART:
1906: Phoenix Rising - rebuilding after the earthquake
Tenderloin (and more Tenderloin) - diverse history and great architecture in… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:22 AM on May 4, 2017
Best digital tools for learning Finnish?
I'm afraid both of these may lack the points systems he likes, but just in case they're helpful:
The "Pod101" people have a Finnish podcast and some free flashcard things:
and a Finnish Word of the Day:
You can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes.
The 50 Languages site… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:21 AM on May 3, 2017
on a plate or in a hill?
Variant on freezer cake's kidney beans:
Kidney beans, celery, onion, pickle relish, mayo. Best if you can let it chill for a few hours before eating. (IMHO, the onion is essential; I prefer red onion.)
This salad is a famous side at White Fence Farm, a long-running tradition in the suburbs of Chicago.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 1:02 PM on April 29, 2017
What's wrong with my grapefruit?
light reading suggestions
Please recommend your soothing and friendly TV / games / films
I recently saw and loved Jump Tomorrow. There is a brief scene with someone considering suicide (hence the title) but the whole thing is just lovely and sweet and charming.
Also, nthing Detectorists.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 6:13 PM on April 16, 2017
How do you make your brain change gears?
Try transitional tasks - something easy and fun that moves you into the activity you're about to focus on. Maybe think of it as warming up.
For music, it could be playing an easy fun song, or even doing scales if you can make them fun. For language, it could be a quick review of your previous week's vocabulary, or a read-through (out loud) of an older dialog you studied (something that's pretty easy for you now). For programming, it could be writing a super simple mock… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:51 AM on April 6, 2017
enjoyable reads that won't rot my brain
Happy medium in the low carb arena?
I agree with potrzebie that all bodies are different, but to give one piece of anecdata:
I lost weight by counting calories and shrinking portions. I started from a "fat is BAD!" perspective, quickly dropped that, and when I started really paying attention to what I was eating and how many calories things had, I discovered that both fat and sugars/carbs have a lot of calories in them. My personal approach, that has worked for me, is to not avoid either one, but… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:57 AM on March 7, 2017
Interesting Histories -- how to find more!
If you're interested in the PBS American Experience series that Liesl recommended above, note that several episodes (including, usually, the newest ones) are available at the PBS website, and your local library probably has others on DVD (as does Netflix).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:57 AM on February 15, 2017
Give me your fun, easy adult piano books!
I'm sorry I don't have specific books to recommend, but if you have a good library nearby, you might have access to a lot of options.
A search on "easy jazz piano" at my library turns up a lot of options, including "The Best Jazz Standards Ever" and "Torch Songs: A Collection of Sultry Jazz and Big Band Standards."
Checking out your library's online catalog or simply going to the library and pulling piano books off… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:23 AM on February 10, 2017
Shoot to Wound
Sorry this isn't a direct answer to your question (you've already got some great answers above), but just in case it's of interest:
There is a bill before congress right now, the Restricting First Use of Nuclear Weapons Act of 2017, that would prohibit the president from a first strike. If you support such a thing, I encourage you to contact your members of congress, and perhaps also the members of the Committee on Foreign Relations.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:55 AM on February 7, 2017
What would it take to change the way NSC appointees are made?
You might be interested in this brand-new bill to codify who gets to be on the NSC, thanks to six senators, including both from California - Senator Harris and Senator Feinstein. (I can't find it on congress.gov yet, but the Senator Warner links to the text of the bill.)
So what's needed NOW is (a) for the Republican leadership to allow a vote on it, and (b) for enough senators to actually vote yes.
Note that Feinstein and her colleagues have… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 10:33 AM on February 3, 2017 marked best answer
Busywork With Benefits
If you want them to also help others with language studies, may I recommend lang-8?
You can post free-form writing entries for native speakers to correct - AND you can correct the writing entries posted by people learning English, which is a great way to hone your own English skills and try to explain why one particular wording is better than another.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 2:40 PM on January 23, 2017
TV recommendations for the hard to please
I wonder if you might like Alan Plater, if you can find his stuff? I have really loved The Beiderbecke Chronicles and Oliver's Travels.
Neither has a HUGELY long story arc, just because they're such short series (Beiderbecke has a grand total of 12 episodes over 4 seasons, and I think Oliver's Travels is 8?), and sadly, no queer characters, but I think they hit all your other points, and they are just wonderful.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 11:19 AM on January 21, 2017
Apparently we're now a Sunday Dinner family
Oh man, big family get-together feasts with my Hoosier grandma was always beef and noodles - pot roast, plus noodles. Probably something like this roast beef and noodles - the noodles in the photo sure look right.
I honestly don't remember what else we had with it - almost certainly green beans, and probably dinner rolls, and I kind of doubt we had stewed apples but that would be good I think.
I'll see if my mom can shed more light on the rest of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 11:06 PM on January 20, 2017
When and how to call elected officials who are not MY elected officials?
So can someone confirm that it is NOT useful to call Senate committee members, and let me know your reason for saying so (worked for a legislator, involved in a lobbying group, cite)?
I ask because of things like this:
which says "Please be sure to call every member prior to the January 11 hearing.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 1:07 PM on January 10, 2017
Creativity and Distraction
Lynda Barry has students in her writing and drawing workshops draw a spiral while listening to something - other students reading their work, or music; it varies. The practice is mentioned in The Paris Review and The New York Times and in this workshop handout.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 12:19 PM on December 26, 2016 marked best answer
Pimp my Mac
Just a note about text editors: I personally love TextWrangler and use it more than any other app on my Mac, and it's free, so you could try it out for free and switch to Sublime or something if you don't like it. But I'm recommending it not because it's free, but because it's awesome.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kristi at 12:28 PM on December 20, 2016