In preparation for that next talk with your dentist, you might want to read some of the many questions on AskMe about bridges vs. implants. What's best for you will depend on your own history and the current state of your teeth, but from skimming those answers, it sounds like most folks are firmly on the side of implants. One thing I learned was that, if you get a bridge, you may end up having to floss UNDER it, which sounds a little squicky to me.... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 8:38 AM on March 22, 2011
Your profile says you're in DC, and a search at the DC public library for "mnemonics" turns up 62 results, including Harry Lorayne's Page-a-Minute Memory Book mentioned by Estragon above.
Your library even has an interesting page about Harry Lorayne.
I had gotten another of Lorayne's books from my own library (Super memory - super student, which I don't see at your library) and I found it really helpful. For example, the techniques he... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 12:10 PM on March 19, 2011
and i'm wondering what it will take
for my city to rise
first we admit our mistakes
then we open our eyes
the ghosts of old buildings are haunting parking lots
in the city of good neighbors that history forgot posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 9:23 AM on March 18, 2011
Continuing to volunteer when you can is great - and if you'd like things that fit well into your new temping-plus-barista-weekends schedule, take a look at VolunteerMatch. Many of their opportunities are for very short-term things - often, things that only involve one day.
Here's a search for San Francisco:
VolunteerMatch San Francisco
That list turns up several volunteering opportunities that don't require a huge... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 6:01 PM on March 17, 2011
I keep looking for, and paying attention to, the parts of what I'm doing that feel good and are enjoyable.
I don't run or jog. I don't find those activities enjoyable. But I love walking around my incredibly beautiful city, and I enjoy climbing up and down hills and staircases during those walks. I enjoy seeing and hearing birds while I'm out walking and climbing.
I used to get in all my exercise by walking, but then I began to shift things... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:09 AM on March 9, 2011
Lots of good suggestions above. Just to riff on them:
* Are there non-profits you'd like to support in your area? I bet there are. Make a list of 10 or 20 of them and contact them to let them know you'd be available for web design work - either for free or at a discounted non-profit rate.
* If you feel at all comfortable with it, DO charge something. I've done work with non-profits, and charging a drastically reduced rate has worked so much... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 9:06 AM on March 3, 2011
If you can find it, you MUST see Crazy. It's a documentary that shows Dutch soldiers that served in UN peacekeeping missions in former Yugoslavia, Kosovo, Lebanon, Cambodia, Rwanda. They talk about the music that helped keep them sane and deal with their experiences. It's an incredible film. posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:23 AM on March 1, 2011
Nthing the advice to try pushing yourself to do it even when you don't feel like it.
On several AskMe threads about procrastination, I've seen the advice to set aside 15 minutes to just work on the thing you've been putting off. People often find that just getting into it reawakens that inspiration.
It often goes like this:
Wednesday afternoon: WOO! I have a GREAT idea for a short story! I'm going to start writing it the... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 9:18 AM on February 25, 2011 marked best answer
Based on the rack rate notices I've seen posted on hotel room doors, depending on the state, hotels can't just choose to raise the prices whenever they want to whatever they want - they have to honor their posted rack rates.
What, if anything, has changed on your site recently? Did you install any new modules? Update any modules? Make any changes to the menu structure?
What you describe really sounds like something that would be caused by a code change - either installing another module that affects Drupal menus or classes, or updating a module. If that's the case, the solution would probably be to (at least temporarily) reverse that change.
That said, you might get... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 9:16 AM on February 22, 2011
I KNOW how shallow this is. I want it to stop It's not about the money, it's knowing that three people have already failed to "father" me ... Everyone tells you to be zen, to forget and let go, but they never tell you how. Me, I wish my dad was poor and responsible because I'd rather have a student loan than put up with this. I want a daddy.
Phalene, this is NOT shallow. This is very, very deep.
Someone should have given you love and... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 11:53 AM on February 5, 2011
Somebody sent me a MeMail about my post above, about making up a great dad, and asked how you do that, when in fact, if there were a good dad present in your life, so much of your earlier life would have turned out different?
I thought I'd share my reply here in case it would be useful to anyone else:
I guess I have a pretty active imagination, and what makes sense to me is to use the imagination to work around whatever doesn't work... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 8:24 PM on February 6, 2011
Lots of great answers above. Just a couple of additional things that have helped me:
1. Be prepared with something pleasant to think about instead.
For me, re-arguing things in my head can be sort of like an earworm - it pops into my head and it wants to keep coming back. Having something else to think about - something positive - is very helpful in keeping it away. Others have suggested really confronting the feelings underneath the feelings... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 12:05 PM on January 29, 2011
There's a great post about the alien abduction of Betty and Barney Hill. Jim Macdonald retraces the Hills' route and offers excellent commentary on the narrative of a book about the event.
He also makes this important point:
"At this point I will go to a detailed look at The Interrupted Journey: Two Lost Hours “Aboard a Flying Saucer” by John G. Fuller. I must preface this by saying that I mean no disrespect to Betty or Barney Hill,... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 11:07 AM on January 11, 2011
Seconding flashcards and specifically anaelith's suggestion that you can make your own. Take an hour in the evening or on the weekend to write them up, and you have plenty of material to learn and review during your commute. There are also lots of websites with flashcards you can download and print out.
If you do go the crocheting/knitting route, I'd like to second ravelry and note that I thought it was only for hard-core expert knitters, but the fine folks here at AskMe... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 12:08 PM on January 8, 2011
I am not a lawyer, but I used to run a little indie record label in the US.
I strongly second evadery's suggestion to talk to an organization like Artists Legal Advice Services. I had some contact with a similar organization here and it was very helpful - and they had a huge library of books about the business that was helpful as well.
As I understand it, neither ASCAP nor RIAA is likely to be of much use here; contracts like these can contain... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 11:07 AM on December 31, 2010
Look for every hidden opportunity to walk or take the stairs. If you sit in a cube all day, see if you can squeeze in breaks once or twice a day (or more!) to at least walk around the office. If you have stairs, even better.
I used to work on the sixth floor of an office building. One day, I decided to time how much longer it took to walk up the stairs compared to waiting for the elevator. Turns out, it took exactly the same amount of time.
If you decide to talk to a lawyer or the police, can you inquire (in a "I'd like clarification" way rather than an "I'm alleging" way) whether this rises to the level of extortion? I think the formula for extortion is "If you don't do x, I'm going to harm you by doing y." posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:00 AM on December 28, 2010
I'm really really late to this thread, but I just thought I'd mention that I send along a pre-printed notice with my donations that basically says "Thanks for the great work you do. Please don't send me any requests for donations or sell or trade or rent my name to anybody. Please don't use my mailing address or email address for anything."
Some organizations respect that, some don't. The Carter Center has been absolutely terrific about not spamming me with... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 8:14 PM on December 27, 2010
Can you try discussing this with your husband again, with a clear emphasis on "I respect your decision about whether and what to tell them, but I really don't know how to answer the questions they ask me, and I feel terrible lying"? posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 9:44 PM on December 25, 2010
Yeah, when my SF apartment building first got compost bins, each unit got a little bucket and a starter box of biodegradable bags.
Tip: when you're buying the bags in the grocery story, check the size. There are little ones (I think they're 3 gallon) for the little buckets and larger ones for larger containers. posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 2:51 PM on December 23, 2010
It can't hurt to submit a request for a waiver. What's the worst that would happen? They'd say no, and you'd have lost the half hour it took you to write it.
IIRC, there was a point when San Francisco started charging small businesses insane penalties if they'd failed to register and pay the $25 annual fee. They primarily did it to get people's attention, and I believe the fees were routinely waived if you asked nicely and paid the $25.
The Jazz Musician's Guide to Creative Practicing starts with a terrific 14-page summary of music theory, followed by 4 pages of "Problems in Jazz Practice." It then delves into detail, often using specific songs, including "Body and Soul" and "Giant Steps."
Metaphors for the Musician (there are a few sample PDFs at that link), on the other hand, has some really good mindset guidance early on (Part III, Painless Piano), followed... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:48 PM on December 20, 2010
Also riffing on Gilbert: As someone with a similar (Christian, non-strict) upbringing, I've really enjoyed learning a bit about the pagan Wheel of the Year, because, hey: a holiday every six and a half weeks, whether you need one or not.
I have a book called The Year of the Goddess that describes how various peoples have historically celebrated various pagan holy days. Bonus: since it tends to talk about older cultures, the chances of you offending an... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 3:28 PM on December 18, 2010
I just wanted to second Metroid Baby's suggestion to tell yourself you're going to do something for 10 minutes. Or even 5.
This is a suggestion I've seen several times here on AskMeFi, and I think it can be really effective.
There's something about telling yourself it's only going to be a few minutes that makes it seem a lot less daunting, and reassures you that if you really are too tired for a creative endeavor, you can still veg out. But the... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 11:16 AM on December 11, 2010
If you're married (and possibly even if you're domestic-partnered), there's a good chance that this could ruin your spouse's credit, too. If you do get a consultation with an attorney, I'd be sure to ask about how your choices might affect anyone else you're married or partnered to. posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 11:05 AM on December 11, 2010
My favorite item from the Annals of Improbable Research: Kansas Is Flatter Than a Pancake. "In this report, we apply basic scientific techniques to answer the question 'Is Kansas as flat as a pancake?'" posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:48 AM on December 10, 2010
I haven't been to Alcatraz, but if you go, consider bringing binoculars. I've heard the island has great birdwatching - and of course spectacular views. posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:39 AM on December 10, 2010
GTD has the concept of contexts - things you can only do in certain situations, like "Out in the Car" or "Connected to the Internet". GTD also acknowledges that your energy level varies, and encourages you to be aware of that and have a list of easy tasks for when your energy level is low.
I'd suggest having a context (or at least some kind of tag) for "Hard Stuff". (Or "Challenges," if you want to be more positive about it.)... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:19 AM on December 10, 2010
I am a huge, huge fan of his work. He writes about a wide range of things (tennis, basketball, the environment, changes in Alaskan society, oranges, merchant mariners). I have no interest in sports, and I found his book about basketball (A Sense of Where You Are, really about Bill Bradley rather than basketball generally) fascinating and his book about tennis (Levels of the Game, with a focus on Clark Graebner and Arthur Ashe) to be just brilliant.... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 10:35 AM on December 9, 2010
Is there anything pleasant you like to do that's NOT watching TV? I've found that setting aside a good chunk of time (two hours minimum) to watch something natural (waves, clouds, birds) can be really calming and somehow rewarding. It feels mentally and emotionally healthier than watching TV. posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 9:47 AM on December 1, 2010
Answering as a songwriter who's interested in, but not yet experienced in, more formal composition:
I second palacewalls's mention of the Immersion Composition Society. I took a day to try out the Songwriting Game a few weeks ago and wrote 10 songs in 7 1/2 hours, after probably a year or two of writing nothing. And two of them are songs I really, really like.
The thing is: people can answer your questions by saying "Well, I do it this... [more] posted to Ask Metafilter by kristiat 11:42 AM on November 26, 2010