Surveyor.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 10:19 AM on August 7, 2008

Friendship has no obligations.
Friendship has no expectations.
Friendship is based on respect.
Friendship has compassion.
Friendship is responsible.
Friendship is always kind.

All else is just fear. Fear is full of conditions. In every relationship there are two halves. You are only responsible for your half. You can never truly know what the other half feels, or believes. Yet, we naturally try to be responsible... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:32 PM on August 6, 2008

You can use the Amazon Filler Item Finder to look for products at any price (including sub-dollar) to fill up a $25 order to qualify for free shipping.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 7:52 PM on August 5, 2008

There are Habitat for Humanity builds going on in the UK.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:06 PM on August 3, 2008

Give your best every day. No one can expect more. No one will expect more. By giving your best, you show your boss you care for his, and your, success.

You can also support your boss by living in the present, right here and now. Whatever has happened at the job in the past, let it go. This means you can enjoy what is happening right now. Dwelling on the past will lead to self-pity, pessimism, and suffering and prevent you from doing your best. Look out the windshield,... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:00 PM on August 2, 2008

Agreeing with the consensus that you seem perfectly responsible. I believe you will be fine with the occasional indulgence.

In your background, you haven't mentioned any life partner or children. That is a factor that could conceivably change the course of your financial future. If you plan on extending your family, your expenses will increase considerably. Your budget will completely change. Your saving for the future will involve a lot more than just retirement.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:44 PM on August 2, 2008

Do not project outcomes.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:40 AM on August 1, 2008

Polekitties.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:23 AM on August 1, 2008

Turning 40
40 things about being 40

From a personal perspective, I was 40 when I got sober after ~22 years of alcoholic drinking. Looking back now 15 years later, I see it as essentially when I became an adult. As a practicing alcoholic I was still living emotionally as a teen. When the fog cleared in my brain, the mind matured, and the world made a lot more sense.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 1:16 AM on August 1, 2008

Your potential wife will be wearing it and looking at it for the rest of her life. If she cares how she looks, she will care how this looks. She will show all of her friends this ring. It will be compared with others every time someone else gets married.

So, how much should you spend on it? The answer is pretty simple - spend whatever you can afford to make your wife happy. That means both time and money. You are going to be with this person many many years. Most of the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:11 PM on July 29, 2008

I have been using Ortho Max for a couple years with great success. No ants at all, or spiders, or beetles, etc. About every couple months spray it around door and window frames, dryer vent, anywhere bugs might try to get in. I purchase it at Target.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:12 AM on July 29, 2008

Wow Jennifer S. Your article The Art of Living Alone is terrific. Thank you.

Anonymous, I suspect you are feeling an emptiness. It is the absence of love. You have felt the love of your husband, and given him love in return for nearly all your adult life. Suddenly the ability to share your love and to receive love have vanished, and you are left with a void.

In times like these it is very natural to fall into deep fear. Fear... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:27 PM on July 25, 2008

Does your employer have an Employee Assistance Program?

If so, that is your first step before Human Resources. Most progressive EAPs are completely private in nature and won't even discuss your treatment with your immediate superior if you don't want them to.

If not, most likely your employer will be mostly understanding of your predicament and applaud your desire for recovery. Unless you have dealt with them in bad faith about your drinking in... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:58 PM on July 25, 2008

I agree with All.star. Heavily accented speech, overuse of slang or casual cursing, or poor diction can be indicators.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:08 PM on July 25, 2008

Expect the unexpected. That's what I came to expect from psych drugs. Oddly enough, Wellbutrin is the one that worked for me, without any anxiety at all. Paxil, on the other hand, had me bouncing off the walls with anxiety. Zoloft made me a complete and utter moron (some would say permanent damage), and Celexa dehydrated me.

Point being, all anti-depressants act differently with different individuals. It takes time, but you need to work with and have patience with her... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 12:10 PM on July 25, 2008

I am in sporting goods.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 4:40 AM on July 23, 2008

The Asics GT2130 or other similar running shoe from Brooks, Mizuno or Saucony will provide excellent cushioning and support for your flat feet, as well as having a mesh upper that should keep your feet from getting hot.

Hopefully your doctor gave you exercises to help with the fasciitis. When I had it, I kept a can of soup in the freezer that I would then roll back and forth under my foot. The cold from the frozen can helped with inflammation and the rolling motion... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:05 PM on July 22, 2008

Followup to my previous comment, and since you asked for more shoes:

Brooks Adrenaline
Mizuno Wave Inspire
Saucony ProGrid... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 10:00 PM on July 22, 2008

I can share my story with you, but to fight your own demons, you really need to speak with a professional. You must also realize that getting well takes time. There is no quick fix. It does not happen overnight. There is no silver bullet. It takes time, patience, diligence, and most importantly belief in yourself.

I have battled two periods of depression in my adult life, both after age 40. The first came in 1994 when I was about a year sober in my recovery from... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:26 AM on July 21, 2008

Bette Midler
Boogie Woogie Bugle Boy
In the Mood
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:29 PM on July 20, 2008

Create a flyer advertising your availability that has those tear-off strips with your phone number. Put them up on grocery store bulletin boards, gyms and workout clubs, anywhere that gets heavy mom and dad traffic.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:53 PM on July 20, 2008

This long past the end of the relationship, you run the risk of becoming obsessive. Let's say the phone call doesn't go so bad. Then you're going to want to try again the next time you're curious, and the next time. Do not become a stalker. You are better than that. There are millions of other guys out there.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 1:04 PM on July 20, 2008

Carl Sagan's Cosmos
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 11:32 AM on July 20, 2008

The hat style appears to be weekender. The particular logo is from the Sports Heritage Division. Like you, I'm coming up empty finding the exact hat. There are plenty of khaki weekender caps with the traditional three bar logo, but ...
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:36 PM on July 19, 2008

You may want to look at this response I had in another alcoholism thread. Email is in profile. Feel free anytime.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:13 PM on July 18, 2008

The hard truth is that a lot of marriages don't survive substance abuse recovery. Here's hoping yours does. Mine didn't.

Not to put a downer on your relationship anonymous, but like paulsc, my marriage ultimately didn't survive either. Two years after getting sober, my wife and I began drifting apart. Eight years after getting sober, we divorced. The good news was I was able to go through the process without alcohol.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:25 AM on July 19, 2008

Just to put a finishing touch on my comment above, communication with your wife and family through your recovery is paramount to successfully staying sober, and to maintaining a healthy relationship. As you work to replace alcohol in your lives, do it together as much as possible. It will really help with long-term support.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:44 AM on July 19, 2008

Speaking as an older man, we aren't so bad. While it may be a boost for my ego to "date" a 25-year-old, I certainly understand the ick factor. I think your last sentence answered your own question. It is best not to judge your friend. You can move on without her, but you can also be there for her if the need arises in the future.

Remember, life would be boring if we all lived the same. That's why we have menus. Don't freak yourself out worrying about your friend.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 10:32 PM on July 18, 2008

I wear these among other cushioned athletic shoes.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:48 PM on July 18, 2008

A good starting point is lanic.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 7:18 AM on July 18, 2008

everygoodturn.com
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 6:32 AM on July 18, 2008

In addition to repaying the loan, you may consider doing something special for her. Perhaps a day at the spa would be a nice thank you. Good of you to make right with this.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:56 PM on July 17, 2008

See Jack Nicholson's character Melvin in As Good As It Gets.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:29 AM on July 17, 2008

Agreeing with brain cloud. Off the southwest coast of Florida, in the Gulf of Mexico, sit two little islands or keys, Sanibel and Captiva. When I was last there about 20 years ago, they hadn't yet lost the simple charms of the undiscovered getaway. That's subject to change, as most Florida property has succumbed to the tourist trap in the past decade. The islands have been a bird sanctuary through most of the past century, attracting many of the exotic water fowl common to the southern wetlands.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 6:01 PM on July 16, 2008

As I've become older, my ability to be comfortable with myself is directly proportional to my willingness to help others through volunteer work. In my case, I've done work with troubled teens and recovering addicts and alcoholics. There is lots to do out there. Consider offering some of your time to Big Brothers, Big Sisters or to a local hospital; take an interest in animal rescue; Meals on Wheels or a similar program is a great way to get your feet wet.

The whole point... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 10:25 AM on July 16, 2008

Phoenix escort services
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Phoenix useful numbers
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:00 AM on July 14, 2008

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posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 4:41 PM on July 13, 2008

Science has shown us that the formation of the Universe was a messy business that left quite a bit of litter behind in the form of giant ice balls and big, nasty rocks; many of which have the unfortunate habit of crashing into our planet uninvited and at highly inconvenient times. A fact the dinosaurs know about only too well. Or would have, if there were any still alive, and had brains larger than a throat lozenge, which they're not and they didn't, so just forget I even brought it up.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 11:23 AM on July 12, 2008

About a dozen years ago, I switched from Coke to Diet-Coke. Granted, it took awhile to get used to the taste change, but I eventually did and I actually prefer the taste of Diet Coke now. A few years after that I also went with the caffeine-free stuff on the recommendation of a dermatologist treating me for rosacea. So I eliminated both the sugar and caffeine over time. In recent years I have made an effort to mix more water into my liquid diet and I now probably drink more water that Diet Coke.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 6:34 AM on July 12, 2008

Butch.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:15 PM on July 11, 2008

All the suffering and drama in your life is the result of what you have learned. The image you have of yourself is the result of years of projections upon you. You perceive all the distorted images others create for you, and at a certain point you take all these images and try to make sense of them. You create another whole image of yourself, and project it to the outside world. Unfortunately, this is the image others have created for you, not who you really are yourself.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:15 PM on July 11, 2008

It's your vacation, not theirs. Be yourself. Wear what pleases you.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 5:59 PM on July 10, 2008

Newport Beach Summer Jazz Series Friday night Ottmar Liebert & Luna Negra.

Newport Art Museum and Art Association.

Brick Alley Pub and Restaurant.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 11:13 AM on July 10, 2008

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posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 10:21 AM on July 10, 2008 marked best answer

Lead by example. Show your siblings what a strong, independent life you have. As a former user yourself, you know your brother will get clean when he is ready. Your maturity and experience can be his path when he wants it. Be there for him when he needs you, and remember to always take care of yourself first.

Your parents are the ones who sound like basket cases. They are the ones needing counseling. Perhaps send them a book or two about the dangers of enabling. I'm... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 6:03 AM on July 10, 2008

I can only speak from personal experience, tell you about what worked for me. I had to find out what the root of my depression was. Ultimately, it turned out to be financial woes, though there were a lot of other contributors that compounded it. When I was able to resolve the root cause, I began to get better.

Anti-depressant medications were a mixed bag for me. Paxil sent me to the rubber room, I gained 50 pounds while on Wellbutrin, Zoloft made me downright stupid and... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 8:33 PM on July 9, 2008

Just to chime in that greyhounds are wonderful, loving animals. I know you will enjoy yours as much as I did mine.
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 4:07 PM on July 9, 2008

It's like a cat chasing his tail. The drinking makes him sad. He's sad, so he drinks. Something needs to be done to stop the loop. Is a family intervention and a trip to rehab out of the question?
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:35 PM on July 8, 2008

When was the last time you set goals for yourself?

I would suggest making two lists. The first is commonly referred to as a gratitude list. It consists of the little things, and the big things, that we are genuinely thankful for in our day to day lives. Start with twenty things, and don't stop until you have twenty. Tomorrow pick it up and add 20 more. When you have 100 things you are grateful for on your list, you may begin to wonder why you were unsatisfied in the... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by netbros at 9:08 PM on July 8, 2008