When the sex is good, it is 10% of the relationship. When the sex is bad, it is 90% of the relationship.

It is time to let this really nice guy go, and find a really nice guy who gives you earth-shaking orgasms.
posted to Ask Metafilter by hworth at 6:42 PM on September 3, 2008

Eudaimonia : If I were in her shoes (and I have been,) these are the things that would be running through my mind if you *didn't* contact me:

"After 3 years, he's already forgotten me after 7 days?? He really *didn't* love me, did he?" - and this can either lead to the conclusion of - "What a jerk, I'm totally better off", OR "I'm not worth it to him"

And this is exactly why you SHOULDN'T contact... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by grimmelm at 4:38 AM on September 2, 2008

Let's review:

Monday, he said he wants you in his life. Sometime later that week, he changed his mind, but doesn't respect you and your feelings enough to tell you. On Friday he ignored your texts, email and phone calls. On Sunday, you find out he broke up with you on Facebook. When he finally decides to call you back, he then blames you for being too busy for him and that living 2 hours away and only seeing each other on the weekend is just too... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Brandon Blatcher at 9:15 PM on August 31, 2008

I have had laser hair removal done on my legs and hamster. With laser hair removal you have to have several sessions done (5 or more) to get it all since hair grows in cycles and it’s impossible to get it all at once. With my legs I’ve gone 4 sessions and the only hair that remains is so fine and light that it’s not a big deal at all to shave. With the hamster, well after only one session I was surprised how much is gone and frankly it’s a little freaky b/c I wasn’t necessarily hoping to go... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by texas_blissful at 5:05 PM on August 29, 2008

parkerama took the wind out of my sails by writing exactly what was on my mind, only better.

This, in particular, is something I've long believed:

Personally, I've never bought the whole "I need to get my life sorted out before I can be in a relationship" thing. You "sort out your life" as you live it--it's not as neat and compartmentalized as a) first I get my shit all sorted out, then b) I am completely together... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by UbuRoivas at 11:50 PM on August 28, 2008

People naturalizing are already required to demonstrate knowledge of English (except for the very old).

Proposed amendments never address that. What they do is make English the OFFICIAL LANGUAGE!!! Doing so has the following benefits:

(1) It helps you kick out icky brown people whose cooking smells funny.
(2) It gives you a reason to feel superior to some icky brown people whose cooking smells funny.
(3) It... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ROU_Xenophobe at 8:49 AM on August 28, 2008

The general Miss Manners line is to just say you can't "Oh I'm sorry that's just impossible" and then be confident that any further questions are rude on the part of the asker. It seems like really you just have a problem with busybodies in your workplace and your relationship to them and their prying questions. So generally speaking the way to go forward with this sort of thing is to

1. give a flat aswer that doesn't invite further questions and refuse to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jessamyn at 5:57 AM on August 26, 2008 marked best answer

I'm of the opinion that if you cannot trust your SO, you can either work on it -- if it's your own neuroses -- or not be with them -- if they have proven untrustworthy.

In my own relationship, I am female and the vast majority of my friends are male. I can go out to a movie and dinner with them, alone, and my fiance does not care because he knows I wouldn't do anything. I would trust him to do the same but all his friends happen to be male. I hug my male friends, I... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Nattie at 3:50 PM on August 24, 2008

Yeah, that's the actual official and free place to do it (you can avoid all the upselling of other things they'll try to sell to you). There are like dozens of fake free credit report sites, so I totally understand asking this, I have to triple-check this every year or so I hit up annualcreditreport.com to make sure I got the right place.
posted to Ask Metafilter by mathowie at 1:58 PM on August 22, 2008

For guys, friendship only means no relationship, but it does not necessarily mean no sex.
posted to Ask Metafilter by randomstriker at 12:23 PM on August 22, 2008

This depends. Are you trying to stream video within the Internet Channel like with Youtube? If so, I don't really have many tips to stream it to HTTP. If the Wii supported network streams out of the box, I've never heard of this, and forgive me for sounding like an idiot.

There is currently a huge homebrew scene for the Wii thanks to an exploit found in The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess disc (Wii, not Gamecube version). If you copy a hacked savefile to your SD... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by mccarty.tim at 9:17 PM on August 20, 2008 marked best answer

my greatest fear is how our government is going to respond. more erosion of freedom in the name of security. mark my words.
posted to MetaFilter by rebeccablood at 10:10 AM on September 11, 2001

Maybe, maybe not. Could well be, but could be other issues.

The important point is, have sex if what you want is to have sex. Just as a guy shouldn't use "I bought you dinner (which I didn't enjoy for itself, but just as a pre-payment for sex)" just as a token he can turn in for sex, you should enjoy sex for itself or forego it. You shouldn't see sex (implicitly and by itself) as a promise of a future relationship.
posted to Ask Metafilter by orthogonality at 8:18 PM on August 11, 2008

Ah, in response to your follow-up, someone said this to me the other day: If you'd feel bad telling one of your dates that you're sleeping with someone else, that's fine, as you shouldn't be sharing that with them anyway. But if you feel bad while you're sleeping with that someone else, then it's not fine and you're supposed to now have a conversation on the topic of exclusivity.

Feel free to replace "sleeping with" with any age- or... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by RJ Reynolds at 5:19 PM on December 7, 2005 marked best answer

Wow, your backstory for trying to reason why you dig Asian chicks sound SO familiar. No but seriously, I really don't get what your backstory has to do with anything. It sounds more like you're just trying to reason yourself into thinking your singular-minded attraction is OK with a bit of romance. You even admit you're particularly into chicks who look a certain way that does not at all remind you of this girl you used to be infatuated with. And don't give that tenuous "Well she's Asian... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by kkokkodalk at 9:56 AM on August 1, 2008

First of all--the fact you worry about this means you're not some jerk. Don't beat yourself up over this.

I'm Korean, but only physically (was adopted by age 2, grew up in the States). I've wrestled a lot with this "Asian chicks are hot" attitude, and I've come to a few conclusions for myself personally about it.

I don't have a problem with guys who find the physical features Asians typically have attractive. In fact, I find it... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by ifjuly at 8:33 AM on August 2, 2008

Dude! You're gay!

I read him less as gay, and more as what I call unfortunately straight -- guys who really do like vaginas, but they don't like the human beings who happen to be attached to them.

If it's just a matter of never having learned how to be friends with women -- how to appreciate them as people and to accept them, flaws and all -- then I think the OP... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by scody at 8:33 AM on July 2, 2008

If not, why not? you'd think that atheists would be the most extreme

I don't follow you. Believers have to convert the evil non-believers because they think that scores them points with their God. They only reason they see to live is to get God to like them so they have a good afterlife. So it follows that they are going to be pretty passionate.

Atheists believe there is no God, so they don't need to waste our time... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jrockway at 10:33 PM on August 9, 2008

I'm late too.

My mother actually qualified for the 96 Olympics in Atlanta in archery. She hadn't even touched a bow until her mid 40's when she dated a deer hunter. After a few years she won her local competitions, and then state ones, beating all women and all men with a cheap little $200 hunting bow.

She showed up for Olympic qualifying with that same little $200 bow and qualified for the last spot on the team against all others using... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by sanka at 10:00 PM on August 8, 2008

My vote is with the disappearing without warning, or rather, a short message or phone call saying that you are not capable of staying in such constant contact and that for your sake you too need a little time. For a man that has broken up with you on the grounds that he needs some alone time, this should hardly come as a shock.

And what's more, fuck him. I'm sorry to sound embittered, but you really don't owe this man anything, and you need to focus on... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by nonmerci at 10:18 AM on August 5, 2008

Does Obama have the sauce to mix it up in November? What is McCain's beef with Obama, and will he boil over at the debates?

McCain doesn't think Obama deserves to be running against someone of his stature, and he's legitimately insulted by the idea that Obama is doing so well against him. That's why his campaign is devoted entirely to mocking and attacking Obama as a celebrity with no actual presidential qualities.

What, at... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by XQUZYPHYR at 10:09 AM on August 2, 2008

Both my husband and I have lived in Japan. The first time I went as an exchange student there were lots of little things that pleasantly surprised me, and in completely different ways than what I was expecting.

The good things:

- You can get whole meals from convenience stores. Hot water is even provided when buying bowls of dried noodles.
- The selection of cleverly designed stationery and office supplies is astounding. There... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Alison at 8:21 PM on July 23, 2008

This doesn't answer the question exactly, but try to go find and read personal experiences of Third Culture Kids (also). Or try visiting sites/support groups with a forum where you can hash out these identity issues you're having with people who've gone through a similar thing. I remember for years feeling weird and not sure how to describe myself until my homeroom teacher in the 8th grade came back from taking a seminar on the topic with at an international school teachers' conference. As he... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by kkokkodalk at 11:40 AM on July 14, 2008

I am a grad student and I live in Manhattan, and all my friends are rich yuppies making lots of money, so I feel completely qualified to answer this. First, ignore wfrgms and everyone who's saying you shouldn't have a social life (and it's not at all worrying that you're thinking about this- it's good and smart and shows foresight). Graduate school shouldn't be your entire life; while it definitely will take up all of your time if you let it, it's not healthy to do nothing but study. I'm going... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by alicetiara at 11:06 PM on July 13, 2008 marked best answer

I just dont understand men!!!!

There's nothing to understand. He's a prick. Some people have string after string of bad relationships and chalk it up to Mars Vs. Venus or "women/men are all asses" or some other bullshit. Or they've seen one too many Hugh Grant movies and believe in some "he's my soulmate, and my destiny is to fix him" mega-ultra-super-grand-bullshit.

The truth of the matter is that there are... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Skwirl at 10:42 AM on July 10, 2008 marked best answer

Couple of thoughts. First two are in conflict-

1. It's in your nose because your body is trying to get it out. If you defeat this mechanism you may get more bacteria, germs etc. than you otherwise would, and may get sick more often.

2. If you expose yourself to more bacteria, germs etc. than you otherwise would, you may build up your immune system and get sick less often.

Make up your own mind about this one.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by stupidsexyFlanders at 9:32 AM on July 10, 2008

Document your progress to mark your accomplishments, however small. And pets really help, especially dogs, since they're such social creatures who need to be out in the world.
posted to Ask Metafilter by judith at 9:16 PM on July 9, 2008

Start with a bacon sandwich, in about 20 minutes you will be demanding steak tartare. Welcome back to the top of the food chain.
posted to Ask Metafilter by zemblamatic at 10:30 AM on July 9, 2008

The internet
Rolls long a tongue of memory
and declares
That you want this and she said
That: You won't get away to
Make it weigh more or
Less, can't redact, can't unstress
The bitter taste of ill wrought
Word and unthought friend
posted to MetaFilter by Mister Cheese at 3:46 PM on July 1, 2008

Holy crap. This is what happens when you spend the night sleeping.

The saddest thing to me about all this is TNH's part in it. Like others, I've always liked and respected her (I second Mo's "She's wise, funny, and good at things that many other people want but fail to achieve"), and she's been helpful to me in the past, but she's not looking good here, and unlike Mo (and TNH) I refuse to take the "stand by the people you like no matter what they do and... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by languagehat at 7:11 AM on July 2, 2008

After 12 years of marriage where the sex has only gotten better I can only add this:

Establish the rule that each of you are in charge of your own orgasm and the other must obey the directives of this rule. Like everybody said above be explicit.

Don't fuck in a bed.

Don't fuck laying down.

Don't fuck as much at night. If you do the lights stay on and do it early—not at bed time.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by tkchrist at 10:07 PM on June 27, 2008

I used to be in your shoes, and I'm here to tell you that things can change! You're only 31 - waaaaay too young to be giving up.

I was a pretty, fun, smart girl who was single for 5 years. My problem was that I got too good at being single. Like you, I built a great single life full of friends and fun. Whenever anyone came into my life who wasn't completely perfect, I would dismiss them because I already had a great life without them. When someone came into my life who... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by jrichards at 6:51 AM on June 26, 2008

...since Leibniz so freely admits to the relationship in the Ask.Me, it seems like he either didn't read or doesn't quite grasp the spirit of the guidelines.

His problem is actually that his grasp of symbolic logic is lacking. You see, Leibniz insists that all propositions have a subject-predicate form, and hence his symbolism cannot account for relations. Technically speaking, his symbolism is a subset of the monadic fragment of... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by voltairemodern at 7:54 PM on June 10, 2008

He would purposely say hurtful things to me like, "well, my friends probably hate you because you're (____)" or bring up how I am unfair and mean to him with examples from years ago.

Does it matter if he is cheating or not? Don't put up with that kind of shit.
posted to Ask Metafilter by heatherann at 3:03 PM on June 21, 2008

"Give me a call at (555) 555-1234 if you'd like to set up a time for us to meet."

Stop doing that. Really. Really, really, really. Stop that. Now.

You got an email lead specifically because that person did not want to speak on the telephone with you for initial contact. Any conversation you can have on the telephone you can reasonably carry on via email, and referring email users to the telephone is a great way... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by majick at 10:09 AM on June 22, 2008

I use BE and I don't have this problem. I like the ultra-soft rounded Kabuki brushes that you're supposed to apply the minerals with. They're nice, but I mostly use these for blush. I like a blunt-cut brush that is dense and not as soft. It's better for foundation application. The denseness of the brush seems to buff out the product more. It blends better and you're not left with a layer of powder that can be rubbed off easily. Also, when you're done applying, rub your face lightly with a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by LoriFLA at 11:50 AM on June 12, 2008 marked best answer

I have two suggestions for you, get a nice air purifier for the bedroom and clean it often, and get a dog and blame the farts on it.
posted to Ask Metafilter by BobbyDigital at 1:46 PM on June 11, 2008

As a Korean who's been subjected to the Wait-Wait-Let-Me-Guess-Your-Ethnicity Game over the years, I suggest you check out http://www.alllooksame.com/.

My favorite is when people (mostly non-Asians) explain why I MUST be Chinese/Japanese/Vietnamese/Filipina because of the shape of my face, skin tone, hair style, eye shape, height, clothes, etc. When they're wrong, it's usually because I either don't follow the "rules" for what I'm supposed to look like... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by yeoja at 1:01 PM on June 8, 2008

dude, that's the palm of your hand.
posted to Ask Metafilter by sergeant sandwich at 10:24 PM on June 6, 2008 marked best answer

Walking my dog. She's just such a happy, funny dog, and I love her so much.
posted to Ask Metafilter by HotToddy at 6:47 PM on June 5, 2008

IANAL, but a quick Google search turns up this site which says that these states do allow you to incorporate LLCs anonymously:

* Alaska
* Delaware
* Indiana
* Michigan
* Missouri
* New Mexico
* New York
* Oklahoma
posted to Ask Metafilter by cdmwebs at 8:09 PM on June 4, 2008

I've also had good luck with the several different Man with a Vans from Village Voice (though it was a while ago). I'm happy to recommend John's Delivery, too (a cool guy with a van who looks just like Albert Einstein. He's not a spring chicken but presumably can rustle up another person or two. He seemed really honest and good-hearted and was fun to get a van ride from (I had a bunch of BB&B stuff to lug home and all the taxis in NYC were somehow missing). Worth a shot. 917-592-8501. I keep... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by kitmandu at 8:25 PM on June 3, 2008

Just for posterity, this isn't convenient for your party, but the aforementioned Piece of Chicken on 45th and 9th is a buck a piece and just amazingly good - the best fried chicken I've had in NYC. It used to be Jezebel's - the restaurant closed but they kept the kitchen open and just started selling chicken out a window. Yummers. They also have fixings - and catfish - for a buck a serving.
posted to Ask Metafilter by CunningLinguist at 11:19 AM on May 31, 2008

One thing I do, like unSane suggested, is talk to people about where they're from. If they're from Montana, I'll say "Where in Montana?" and they'll say "Oh, do you know Montana?" And then I admit that in truth I don't, but always ask that question anyway. I think it seems endearing to people that I always ask that. Anyway, I know it sounds cynical, but it's the mix of questions and mild self deprecation that works for me. I think wild stories aren't the way to go, especially... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by sweetkid at 5:43 PM on March 16, 2008 marked best answer

Similar to Gucky, when my mom brings up a topic that I don't want to discuss, I just immediately and cheerfully change the subject to something else (especially something I know she loves to talk about and won't be able to resist discussing). So we have had discussions like this:

HER: So, are you and Scodyboy thinking of having a family?
ME: Oh, we've chatted about it. So! How are the dogs?

HER: Barack Hussein Obama certainly is a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by scody at 6:47 PM on May 27, 2008

I'm Indian, and of course this stuff never really ended until I got married. What ended up making their marriage obsession manageable was to explain the context to them: "Mom and Dad, you were raised in a culture where parents have a say in these decisions, but I was not. If you didn't want to have an American kid, you shouldn't have come here. But you did, so now you need to understand the implications of your choice. I'm happy you made that decision, not least because it means my future... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by anildash at 11:29 PM on May 27, 2008

I married him, mismatched libido (his is the low one) and all. We're celebrating 17 years this August. I'd had the OMG butterflies thing previously, and that relationship was so full of drama, that I wanted something quiet and reliable. People told me it'd never last (thanks guys).

We've had difficult times, but we both really value the deep friendship and respect between us. Very rarely but not never I think of what it might be like to be with someone else, but in my... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by b33j at 4:25 PM on May 26, 2008

Two words: informational interviews. Two months ago I was pretty much exactly where you are today, except for the industry. Right out of college, excelling at a job I disliked. Do what I did:

Make a list of jobs/industries/companies you want to work. Find 5-10 mid-to-high up people, and send them polite emails to this effect: "Hi, this is my situation right now, but my real interest is in doing [what they do]. I'd really love to learn more about your... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by boots at 3:01 PM on May 20, 2008

I just spent five minutes looking for this old comic I saved, before I remembered that we can't post graphics anymore. [shakes fist at metafilter blue sky]

The comic was two panels:

Panel 1: California - shows a guy saying "have a nice day!" while actually thinking "fuck you"
Panel 2: New York - shows a guy saying "fuck you" while actually thinking "have a nice... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Aquaman at 8:31 AM on May 20, 2008

As a parent, I think a lot about this.

Yes, I would have no second thoughts about moving into this house.

There are "sex offenders" and pedophiles in every neighborhood, every city and town in America. The biggest risk to your child is not the people who are on the registry, but the people who are not. Statistically, your child is far, far more likely to be "molested" (god, how I hate that word) by someone close to or... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by anastasiav at 8:55 AM on May 13, 2008