How do I move on from this whilst still retaining respect for her, and for myself?

You can't. You can either move on, or stay trapped, but there's no way to stop her from taking advantage of you and still put a happy face on the whole story. I've stayed in bad relationships because I couldn't face the ugly truth about what had really happened. It's always the wrong thing to do.

Please listen to everyone who's saying that... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by fuzz at 4:29 AM on April 13, 2007

not too pathetic, you should definitely do it. I said it to my ex a few years ago (granted i was 20 years younger than you are now, i think it still applies). I said to her 'you know i love you, and you know i want to be with you. but it wont work, and you're the one whose made that clear. I need to get over you, you've got to let me move on. Please no more phone calls, or text messages for now. I need to get over you"

It was the smartest move I ever made.

YMMV
posted to Ask Metafilter by ZackTM at 7:43 PM on February 27, 2007

See also, recent news about pipeline fires and sabotage in the region.

At this point, I humbly suggest that all fpp's about conflicts in this region be accompanied by pipeline maps or oil field maps. We all know these conflicts are about energy, but the conflicts are going to be spun in the media and by governments as ethnic conflicts or battles for political (rather than economic) independence solely to agitate the local people to action and to keep the corporate and... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Pastabagel at 8:36 AM on August 8, 2008

How, exactly, do we all know this? (NB: honest question)
posted by MarshallPoe at 11:54 AM on August 8

Because at this stage in history, all conflicts are over scarce resources. The ascendance of China and India more than doubles the number of people competing for the resources that 15 years ago were consumed primarily by North Americans, Europeans, and the Japanese.

Oil and energy are not the only resources.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Pastabagel at 9:39 AM on August 8, 2008

The Straightener writes "What are the implications of this conflict for the broader region, i.e. Turkey, Armenia, possibly Iran?"

NATO, which never wanted to include Georgia as a member-state, because that would be too provocative, "gives" Georgia to Russia in exchange for Russia not fulfilling its promises to Iran when NATO blockades Iran and Israel with covert American elint support bombs suspected nuclear sites.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by orthogonality at 9:46 AM on August 8, 2008

Are the links in my comments actually broken? They work for me...

We can be glib about alternative energy and the fact that everything has energy as an input, but oil is not energy and vice versa. A lot of oil is used for energy, but it's only about 50%-60%. An almost equal amount of oil is used for chemicals and materials. You can have an electric car, but you'll need to lubricate the chassis and the gears. Lubricants come from oil. Household products... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Pastabagel at 11:50 AM on August 8, 2008

Yeah, just to be clear, suspension of disbelief basically means, okay, I will accept a crazy premise SO LONG AS everything that proceeds from the premise is believable GIVEN THE PREMISE.

In a movie, the audience will swallow one big fish. This is known as 'the buy'. You are allowed exactly one and it happens in the first act (the first 25-30 minutes). Everything else must proceed logically from that buy, and obey any and all rules which are established by the buy.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by unSane at 9:08 PM on June 17, 2008

There's a lot of advice about posted above maintaining the qualities you're complaining about and seeking out different women. That's all well and good, but I'm going to assume you actually do want to change. I agree with the other posters that you shouldn't lose yourself to this process, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to leather up a little bit. So why not try acting the part a little while and see if you don't start feeling the way you want to feel?... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by EatTheWeak at 1:17 AM on May 23, 2008

Humor, especially racially tinged humor, is a tricky beast, and is best avoided. You have to take your audience into account, and if you're not a member of that race, you have to be aware that your perception of what is harmless/hilarious may not be shared by them.

I'm Asian, and for whatever reason, people feel a bit free-er about letting loose on us. A lot of the time, when somebody lets loose and another person objects, the first person employs the "get a... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Comrade_robot at 7:39 PM on April 29, 2008

You can download M from archive.org.
posted to MetaFilter by octothorpe at 5:48 PM on April 24, 2008

I'm particularly fond of The Art of Travel which has fascinating information from back when travel was actually hard work: results of scientific tests on different types of rope, advice on loading elephants, where to buy a good pith helmet, that kind of thing...


And a Cut'n'Paste from part of a draft blog entry (draft because I never got around to searching for the second set of 20 that Penguin released.)

Now... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by rjt at 10:20 AM on June 13, 2006

Mrs. B says that if you liked Soane's museum, you might also like the Geffrye Museum. The Greenwich foot tunnel is fun, as is Greenwich itself. Gordon's wine bar is a damp, atmospheric, underground Victorian wine bar by the river. How about Kenwood or Highgate cemetery followed by a warm-up drink in the Spaniards. If those are boring, you could try slightly scary, overgrown Abney Park Cemetery (there are a couple of nice pubs nearby on Stoke Newington Church St). You could go on a tour to... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by beniamino at 11:52 AM on September 25, 2007

Hie thee to Sclater Street, just off Brick Lane, on a Saturday or Sunday and buy yourself a bicycle for £30-50 (you'll see the bike guy - if he doesn't have any, ask where you can get one); also a bike-lock, lights, and a reflective strip or jacket. Then get to a proper bike shop and buy a new helmet. That plus any other accessories you might need during your stay shouldn't run to more than £75-£100 all in.

Cycle in the bus lanes, but watch out for taxis, who can also... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Drexen at 5:46 AM on March 18, 2008

which Postroad, on his chair in front of his computer with his coffee and bagel in his apartment summed up quite nicely.

There's just not enough motivation.

yeah, fuck Postroad, world poverty is his fault. even better, it's every MeFi reader's fault -- except for the guy who gave some broken Adidas to some poor kid, now world poverty is not his fault anymore.

as much as one dislikes to rain on the... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by matteo at 9:22 AM on March 1, 2008

I like to steam chopped broccoli and blend it with a little lemon juice, pepper, and garlic, put it on freshly cooked and drained hot pasta (usually rotini), then put in a few 1 cm cubes of Gorgonzola and stir until the cheese is melted.

It makes an attractive green sauce that is tasty, healthy (depending on how much cheese you put in) and different from the usual tomato sauce.

You can substitute steamed spinach for the broccoli and it works just as well.
posted to Ask Metafilter by hurdy gurdy girl at 12:23 PM on March 3, 2008 marked best answer

WHY HAS NO ONE MENTIONED THE TRUFFLE YET?

When you go to fancy, shmancy restuarants, the luxe menu item is 'truffle' (tartufo).

There is a reason for this: it tastes like licking heaven's fragrant armpits hey people , this is a good thing

Pasta (preferably al dente)
1 tsp truffle honey (I prefer the sabatino brand)
1 tsp butter
splash of red devil chili sauce (2-3 drops : any... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by lalochezia at 4:41 PM on March 3, 2008

The best lesson you can learn here: look ahead, not back. You don't get explanations for break-ups. People leave. Relationships end. Shit happens. Trust me, I've gotten dumped a whole mess of times. It's terrible, and every single time, I have wanted to call, write, ask, beg, whatever, for a reason.

Sadly, there's not one. Never. I know, you want to know why. You want a solid answer. But even if there was one, would it make you feel better? Is it easier to let go if you... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Help, I can't stop talking! at 6:45 PM on February 18, 2008

yes, elephants are a good example since it was only recently that we "discovered" that the largest land animal had a long range, subsonic communication system that previously had been completely overlooked. One wonders what else is out there.
posted to Ask Metafilter by Rumple at 10:31 PM on January 27, 2008

i slightly disagree, having been through many painting classes in art school. IF you want to learn technique, by all means take an art class. However, I don't think technical painting is meant for all painters. I would suggest purchasing some paints from Utrecht (which hands down, has the cheapest oil paints you will find -- if you go to a regular art store, you'll find a ton of bullshit "pro" paints that no-one in art school ever uses because they're too expensive) and just painting.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by fishfucker at 10:27 PM on January 10, 2006

I don't trust books to be straight on the supplies you'll need. Usually they're very caught up on some brand or something very specific, when it's more important to understand the general idea behind what you need. Once you know how it works, you can substitute in anything.

1) Something to paint on. I suggest cardboard or a heavy paper. You need to gesso it first. Buy the cheapest gesso you can find, it really doesn't matter -- it's basically white acrylic paint.... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Marit at 10:48 PM on January 10, 2006

It has always seemed to me that the appropriate sex trick depends entirely on the partner in question. My girlfriend and I mesh so wonderfully that almost everything is fantastic. In the past, I've had partners who could only get off if I did this one very specific thing.

But, I certainly have a grab-bag of crowd favorites.

First, oral sex. Give good head, and you can be the lousiest lay on the planet (almost). The trick... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by Netzapper at 8:40 AM on February 28, 2006

I think the fact that I found this thread, 4 months after I missed its dropping off the front page, speaks to something.

4 months is a long time. 1000 years, however, is all a matter of perspective. Who knows if these words on this page will still exist in 1000 years? Or if anything on the internet, or the internet itself, will be around in any form, in 1000 years? Will Earth still have breathing sacks of meat on it in 1000 years? Will the universe still exist?... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by allkindsoftime at 10:57 AM on February 16, 2007

How to get rich: an hour long lecture from one of my college Professors in bullet points.

- Rich = enough resources to be free and to be able to live life as you wish
- Stop wasting money. No smoking, no gambling, and drink in moderation
- Get term life insurance, it is not advertised anywhere because it is too good a deal for the consumer
- Get a job (any job) and put aside 10% of your income after taxes.
- Start early... [more]
posted to Ask Metafilter by pwally at 10:56 PM on January 22, 2008