A heartwarming proposal
January 21, 2010 6:54 AM   Subscribe

A very cute way to propose
posted by muggsy1079 (47 comments total)

This post was deleted for the following reason: This proposal has been nerfed. -- cortex



 
Aww.
posted by jquinby at 7:01 AM on January 21, 2010


What if her answer, the one she would have really given at home on the couch, would have been *no*?
posted by Danf at 7:01 AM on January 21, 2010


My wife would have killed me if I did this. She doesn't even like me to talk loudly in the store for fear of attracting attention.
posted by DU at 7:03 AM on January 21, 2010 [3 favorites]


Even the massive chip on my shoulder about trendy Londoners can't stop this being rather lovely.
posted by Abiezer at 7:04 AM on January 21, 2010 [1 favorite]


That's sweet and very romantic. :) :)
posted by zarq at 7:18 AM on January 21, 2010


I have absolutely no idea why someone would want to share this moment with the whole world.

I have absolutely no idea why someone wouldn't understand that some people are very private about their love, and others find it very romantic to occasionally shout "I LOVE THIS PERSON" in loud and goofy and creative ways.
posted by Tomorrowful at 7:21 AM on January 21, 2010 [11 favorites]


the close-up of her reaction was what made this for me. just wonderful.
posted by namewithoutwords at 7:23 AM on January 21, 2010 [2 favorites]


Genuinely lovely.

Although, yes, I really want to hear anecdotes about big, public, ultra-romantic proposals that were met with a 'no'. This probably makes me a bad person.
posted by game warden to the events rhino at 7:28 AM on January 21, 2010 [1 favorite]


I thought that was really wonderful.
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 7:31 AM on January 21, 2010


Although, yes, I really want to hear anecdotes about big, public, ultra-romantic proposals that were met with a 'no'. This probably makes me a bad person.

Failed Proposals
posted by zarq at 7:33 AM on January 21, 2010 [1 favorite]


Cute, but wasn't that movie about a marriage that a disgruntled employee was forced into to save his boss from deportation?
posted by MikeFrankel at 7:34 AM on January 21, 2010


Why does the billboard say 'Hopefully'? It's essentially guaranteed that if the gentleman proposes to his lady 'The Proposal' will happen.

Pretty cute regardless.
posted by preparat at 7:35 AM on January 21, 2010


The thing that i think a lot of people miss about "omg what if she said no" is that a non-trivial portion of proposals are pure formality - the discussion about "are we going to get married?" has been had, both parties agree - or she agrees, and he's at least ostensibly waffling - and her answer is absolutely known in advance. Personally I'm kind of put off by the idea that you both want to get married but it's not a real engagement until he goes through the knee-and-ring ritual but hey, that's me. Personally, I'd never do a crazy public proposal if it was a real question, but if it was just a proposal and declaration of my aw-shucks love for my lady... damn straight, I'd go for maximum spectacle. (I'm also assuming my totally hypothetical girlfriend gets as much a kick out of absurd public spectacle as I do, of course.)
posted by Tomorrowful at 7:35 AM on January 21, 2010 [4 favorites]


Why does the billboard say 'Hopefully'? It's essentially guaranteed that if the gentleman proposes to his lady 'The Proposal' will happen.

It says "18 HOPEFULLY". The joke is that if everything goes the way it's supposed to, what follows will be not be suitable for children.
posted by EarBucket at 7:41 AM on January 21, 2010 [3 favorites]


What if her answer, the one she would have really given at home on the couch, would have been *no*?

It isn't like one of those basketball arena proposals where the camera hits the "lucky" couple. Nobody walking the streets knew who the people were, so if her answer was no, the people walking by wouldn't know.
posted by Ironmouth at 7:42 AM on January 21, 2010


My (now) wife and I had been together for about six years before I proposed, and we'd had theoretical conversations about the idea getting married, but when I got down on one knee (in front of a church in her old neighbourhood, which is where she first agreed to go out with me) and pulled the ring box out of my pocket she was still pretty damn surprised.
posted by The Card Cheat at 7:45 AM on January 21, 2010


Personally, I'd never do a crazy public proposal if it was a real question, but if it was just a proposal and declaration of my aw-shucks love for my lady... damn straight, I'd go for maximum spectacle.

Yeah I think if the whole 'Hey should we get married?' issue hasn't been discussed to the point where you both already know each other's answer by the time you're proposing then maybe you shouldn't be proposing. YMMV, I'm sure, but a proposal really isn't just a higher-degree will-you-go-on-a-date-with-me thing.
posted by shakespeherian at 7:52 AM on January 21, 2010 [1 favorite]


I took Gem to Blackheath fireworks on the 5th November. I thought that it would be romantic with all the whizzy, bangy, wooo! that comes with a good quality firework display, plus you can easily engineer a situation where we'd be there with friends and she wouldn't put two and two together.

What I'd failed to take into account was that at these big public displays, you don't get to choose the music.

So I think I'm probably the only person on the planet whose wife gets all schmoopy when she hears the Jurassic Park theme.
posted by Jofus at 8:06 AM on January 21, 2010 [12 favorites]


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posted by clarknova at 8:08 AM on January 21, 2010


Well, I'm glad that he didn't have a "DONATE NOW" button located waaaaay at the bottom of the page. /sarcasm

What a cute proposal!
posted by banannafish at 8:09 AM on January 21, 2010


sweet
posted by caddis at 8:10 AM on January 21, 2010


This question won't be popular - but are these grand public, gimmicky proposals often more about a guy who like attention?
posted by davebush at 8:10 AM on January 21, 2010 [1 favorite]


likes attention
posted by davebush at 8:11 AM on January 21, 2010


The getting down on one knee thing has got to go.

It's tacky and trite.
posted by Zambrano at 8:14 AM on January 21, 2010


This question won't be popular - but are these grand public, gimmicky proposals often more about a guy who like attention?

Eh, maybe. I can't really say for sure, because I'm such a shy geeky introvert that I made sure to propose when there was absolutely nobody who could see us, but I can imagine that there's a lot of romance implicit in the willing-to-make-a-public-spectacle-of-oneself aspect; i.e. Here's how much I love you: I want every stranger on this street to know it.
posted by shakespeherian at 8:15 AM on January 21, 2010


Must be nice to have the right to marry the one you love.
posted by Nelson at 8:23 AM on January 21, 2010 [2 favorites]


Damn you, women who look pretty when you cry!
posted by emilyd22222 at 8:24 AM on January 21, 2010


No no no no... You have to get that all on VIDEO (Gratuitous MeTa Self Link). And I've been hesitant to post it... It's great for us and the family to see; but the world? Not ready for that yet.
posted by namewithhe1d at 8:28 AM on January 21, 2010


What kind of personality type does this kind of thing? I wonder what kind of person you would have to be to do this sort of thing. I would hate it.
posted by anniecat at 8:32 AM on January 21, 2010


I have absolutely no idea why someone would want to share this moment with the whole world.

Neither did they, and they've asked that the pics be taken down. What were they like?
posted by bonaldi at 8:33 AM on January 21, 2010


Burhanistan: Ditto on the offhand, not-really-planned proposal, except that I did it in Munich on vacation, because hey, it's Europe. I could see a better chance was not going to present itself, and when we tell the story it comes off as "romantic" instead of "lazy."

Which it totally was.
posted by rusty at 8:33 AM on January 21, 2010


May I make a request please? Can MeFites agree to post no more "Oh do let's share our love with the world, darling" proposals until the one where the guy detonates a thermonuclear bomb in the High Arctic, producing a massive burst of radiation that actually rips through the Van Allen belts in a detectable rhythm in which the radio waves spell out "Wendy den Hoeppner, will you let me crackle in your hemispheres from now until eternity? Signed, Lester" in Morse Code?

Cause it's coming. A guy in a time machine told me.
posted by Mike D at 8:34 AM on January 21, 2010


Ha! I must have been the last person to see them. If there's anything dumber than proposing via giant theatre marquee in public, it has to be getting all bashful about the pictures being... public.
posted by rusty at 8:35 AM on January 21, 2010


I missed it. I must have been 90 seconds too late. So can anyone who saw the original post explain what happened?
posted by yeti at 8:39 AM on January 21, 2010


"Heartwarming" is a matter of opinion. This would be impetus for me to seriously reconsider marriage to a particular person.
posted by Coatlicue at 8:39 AM on January 21, 2010


Anybody happen to save the images? Or at least could tell us what it was.
posted by Mechashiva at 8:40 AM on January 21, 2010


Look, just give up. None of these can match the romance of when I asked t'other 'alf to marry me.

It was in a layby under the M1 in Watford...
posted by twine42 at 8:40 AM on January 21, 2010


Anybody happen to save the images?

Well, since the couple went out of their way to have the images taken down from that website out of respect for their privacy, maybe we should respect their privacy too and not post the same images here.

But yeah, it'd be nice to know what happened for thos of us who are just seeing this post now, after the photos have been taken down. In fact, isn't this FPP now deletion-worthy since it doesn't have an interesting link anymore?
posted by Jaltcoh at 8:49 AM on January 21, 2010


But yeah, it'd be nice to know what happened for thos of us who are just seeing this post now, after the photos have been taken down.

Pictures of a movie theatre marquee that read:

[GIRLFRIEND'S NAME]
[BOYFRIEND'S NAME]
IN
THE PROPOSAL
18 HOPEFULLY

Followed by reaction shots of the girlfriend as she realized what it was.
posted by EarBucket at 8:54 AM on January 21, 2010


Arg! What happened?
posted by craven_morhead at 8:55 AM on January 21, 2010


It's a shame the photos were taken down, but I'm having a great time with that Failed Proposals blog that zarq posted upthread.
posted by The Lurkers Support Me in Email at 9:07 AM on January 21, 2010


Personally, I find the whole idea that a woman has to wait for a man to "propose" marriage to be offensive and an indication that the people involved aren't mature enough to be getting married. I mean, a marriage is supposed to be a commitment between two people to share their lives, come what may. That commitment doesn't just happen, it evolves.

Then again, I may just be cranky because I just had my wisdom teeth removed.
posted by fairywench at 9:13 AM on January 21, 2010 [4 favorites]


That commitment doesn't just happen, it evolves.

While I agree with you, I think you're barking up the wrong tree. Most people I know did the whole proposal/engagement/marriage thing not because of patriarchy (although that is obviously the origin of the practice) or immaturity, but because romance is often tied to tradition and making personal a long-standing cultural narrative.
posted by shakespeherian at 9:21 AM on January 21, 2010 [1 favorite]


If I surprised my SO with a giant ring she would probably kill me. Or wonder if aliens had taken my brain. The money for the ring could have gone toward a new TV, or a house! Similarly, I'm pretty sure she would not appreciate some goofy romantic, but public, announcement if the aliens replaced my brain with pudding.

We are sort of in that "port-marriage" category that I think made it to the Blue recently, where couples are just not seeing the point of the whole thing. We are about as married as you can get, and since our state really doesn't care in terms of taxes or legal access, there is little incentive to go through the process. Also, we don't belong to a church, so that aspect of marriage doesn't even apply.

This is not to say that we are against marriage in principle; to the contrary, if we needed to get married to satisfy some requirement (i.e., if we were in the US and there were questions about access to my own child if something went wrong at the hospital giving birth, which is a real concern) we'd take the bus to city hall this weekend.

While the concept of marriage, and why people get married, has changed a lot through the ages, it really has lost most of its social and legal meaning in this modern world. It has morphed rather quickly into primarily a personal position.
posted by clvrmnky at 9:26 AM on January 21, 2010


Actually, that Failed Proposal should be a FPP in itself. It warmed the deep crevices of my cold, rock-like heart.
posted by fuq at 9:27 AM on January 21, 2010


Could we maybe delete this post, since there's nothing to see anymore?
posted by PercussivePaul at 9:30 AM on January 21, 2010


Erm, yep. There's nothing to see anymore so let's delete this post.
posted by MrMustard at 9:33 AM on January 21, 2010


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