"I wanted to address the issue of people who associate, either online or in real life, or both with BDSM and their surrounding issues. It is the happy couple who find their sexual tastes intersect. People who lived steeped in the language and the subculture of BDSM often forget that they are, in fact, a subculture. It is a non-normative form of sexuality. And I feel that, in attempting to validate our own desires, we forget that.
" Remittance Girl
writes succinctly about privilege, power dynamics and how sometimes those in to BDSM forget that perhaps it is not for everyone:
"Just that while we are all busy congratulating ourselves on our openmindedness and adventurism, our liberating demands to have our ‘needs met,’ it is worth recalling that our current circumstances are born of having immense scope in our choices. And that is not everyone’s reality."
posted by Megami
on Sep 26, 2013 -
We like to entertain… ourselves mainly… and it’s a comedy show much of the time, with little more than white walls and floorboards for a stage
''Old Master'' shoots with just a cell phone or ipad. His compositions are definitely outside the norm, all with a cast of volunteers, no models.
This is amateur dramatics with a difference.
(NSFW. BDSM, bondage, fetish).
Some of this work is included in this online book
posted by adamvasco
on Jan 31, 2013 -
Years before E.L James brought BDSM to a bookstore near you, Nurse Jones wrote The List
and posted it to alt.sex.bondage. Funny, touching, truthful and arousing for those so inclined The List
changed lives, not the least being Nurse Jones herself. [more inside]
posted by Kerasia
on Jan 24, 2013 -
In Canada an active duty RCMP officer
is under investigation for posting sexually explicit photos on the private Fetlife
service. Further details
of the alleged photos seem to describe a relatively hardcore but completely consensual male/female bondage scenario. [more inside]
posted by thewalrus
on Jul 8, 2012 -
(NSFW) The contemporary meaning of Shibari
describes an ancient Japanese artistic form of rope bondage.
Hikari Kesho aka
Alberto Lisi is an Italian photographer
, some of whose
could be called sublime
Fotofest 2012 Biennial – The Art of Contemporary Shibari Exhibit is currently
with these artists
, all of whom have links to their websites, some of which are more extreme than others.
posted by adamvasco
on Apr 18, 2012 -
E.L. James's Fifty Shades of Grey
started out as Master of the Universe
, an adults-only Twilight
fanfiction posted under the pseudonym Snowqueens Icedragon
. The erotica re-imagining of Bella Swan as a 21-year-old college student and Edward Cullen as a 27-year-old billionaire -- with BDSM tastes -- was published by Australia's Writer's Coffee Shop Publishing in May 2011; names and details linking it to Stephenie Meyer's bestselling trilogy were changed (...for the most part
). In recent months, the book has gone viral
, selling more than 250,000 copies (over 90% in ebook format) and landing the #1 spot on the New York Times Bestseller List. Last week, E.L. James sold republishing rights for the Fifty Shades
trilogy to Vintage Books in a seven-figure deal. [more inside]
posted by changeling
on Mar 15, 2012 -
The Pervocracy is a kinky, feminist sexblog. Holly writes about her experiences as an active member of the BDSM community, a partner in a polyamorous relationship, and an all-around completely horny slut. She also writes editorials from a sex-positive feminist perspective, advice on sexuality and kink, and humorous critiques of sexism online and in the media. [more inside]
posted by Blasdelb
on Oct 12, 2011 -
A new documentary chronicles the rise and fall of Insex.com, one of the early websites. (NSFW)
Co-directors Anna Lorentzon and Barbara Bell look at Insex, the people behind it, and the forces that ultimately brought it down. The stuff that Insex did tends to make even hardcore kinksters flinch a bit. However, as one reviewer points out, they at least put the activities into context
, showing the performers both in the scenes (which include drowning and suffocation--some of this stuff may really hit some triggers for some people), as opposed to the notorious anti-porn documentary, The Price of Pleasure
, which showed sex and kink without exploration of the performers' lives offscreen. One of the most interesting aspects of the film is that they ultimately were shut down not by obscenity laws, but by federal authorities who used the PATRIOT Act
to claim that hardcore porn funded terrorism.
posted by Stochastic Jack
on Sep 8, 2009 -
Friday Free Game Download: If you were presented with the concept of a lesbian BDSM video game, the first word that leapt to your mind would probably not be "adorable." But that is exactly what Mighty Jill Off
is. [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena
on Apr 11, 2008 -
Much of contemporary liberal thought rests on the idea of the Social Contract
. In this scheme, we agree to give up a certain amount of freedom in exchange for the protection and opportunity that society provides. Our individual lives mirror this. We defer to others when politeness requires it. We assert ourselves and our needs with pleases and thank yous. Most of daily life has some power dynamic to it, expressed with the subtlety that civilization demands. And what is implicit in daily life is made explicit in the role-playing of BDSM
, based on the idea of a Power Exchange
, where one party explicitly agrees to give up a certain amount of power to another. For most people who are into this, the “scenes” are circumscribed by rules, usually discussed beforehand, such as appropriate safewords, time limits, etc. For a small subset of this group, the typical safeguards are cast aside and the slave surrenders all aspects of his or her life to the master
. The female submissive Polly Peachum has written about this lifestyle in her essay “Violence in the Garden”
about her life as a 24-7 slave and the sexual dimensions of that relationship.
posted by jason's_planet
on Oct 1, 2006 -
Avadim Chayeinu: A BDSM Haggadah
In some way or another, all who celebrate Passover, end up writing their own Haggadahs. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of different ones to choose from. Tradition says: never forget that YOU were freed from the land of Egypt. The desire to tell one's own tale of liberation and free one's own voice has led to holocaust haggadahs
, gay and lesbian
haggadahs, secular humanist
haggadahs and now, a haggadah for those to whom the term "slave" has an altogether different meaning. (via boingboing.)
posted by jann
on Apr 15, 2003 -
It's the Unaspanker!
Read a good manifesto lately? Meet Robin Whittle, a man who has spent an alarming amount of time on a project called "Fondly and Firmly - The Gentlemanly Art of Spanking the Woman You Love." via cruel.com
posted by gimli
on Mar 13, 2001 -