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Why dating is drudgery

[Mora] Weigel had a revelation: she was always turning to a man to tell her what she was after, and the institution of dating was to blame. It trained women “in how to be if we wanted to be wanted.” Hence “Labor of Love,” an exploration of that training, in which Weigel reaches two main conclusions. The first is that though dating is passed off as a leisure activity, it really is a lot of work, particularly for women. It requires physical effort—all that primping, exercising, shopping, and grooming—as well as sizable investments of time, money, and emotion. In our consumer society, love is perpetually for sale; dating is what it takes to close the deal.
posted by Bella Donna on May 19, 2016 - 36 comments

A Black Eye For Open Science

Recently, a dataset of 70,000 scraped OkCupid profiles from November 2014 to March 2015 was released on the Open Science Framework. The set, which was acquired without the consent of either OKCupid or the profile owners, had no anonymization performed on it, meaning that the profiles could be easily correlated to the people behind them, effectively doxing these individuals, a gross violation of research ethics on a number of grounds. Social computing expert Oliver Keyes described the release as "without a doubt one of the most grossly unprofessional, unethical and reprehensible data releases I have ever seen." [more inside]
posted by NoxAeternum on May 12, 2016 - 66 comments

One Fish Two Fish Catfish You Fish

I told her I didn’t want to continue our date because she had been dishonest, and given that honesty is the foundation of any meaningful relationship, this was clearly not a good start. After a pause, thick with the tension between us, I took some of the hostility out of my voice. “Look, humor is really important to me, and you’re funny,” I told her. “Be honest next time, and you will find you the right guy. It’s not me.” I told her I was going to leave and got up from the table.

That’s when the cameras came out. In front of them, a shiny-faced man dressed in a suit approached me with an extended microphone. It was John Quiñones, and he told me that I was on ABC’s What Would You Do?
posted by Atom Eyes on May 4, 2016 - 135 comments

He's holding a little kitten, and you almost said no.

Amy Schumer hijacks your tinder prof.
posted by phunniemee on May 4, 2016 - 31 comments

$5, same as in town

"Swipe Buster, he said, was an attempt, albeit perhaps a prurient and sordid one, to use a popular company (Tinder) and a juicy lure (cheating) in order to educate people about how much of their personal data is out there and how easily people can get access to it without hacking or breaking rules. (Swipe Buster was originally called Tinder Buster. It changed its name and URL on Sunday evening.)" — Here’s How You Can Check if Your Partner Is Cheating on Tinder by Emily Jane Fox for Vanity Fair. Previously: Tinder Confidential, and relatedly: Ashley Madison has been hacked. [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on Apr 4, 2016 - 8 comments

When to stop dating and settle down, according to math

Optimal stopping is a math theory that can be used to solve real world decision problems. In the real world, it is often applied to help decide when to stop dating and get married.
posted by reenum on Feb 28, 2016 - 61 comments

“Social media is 95 percent of what happens in all relationships now"

Selfies, Dating, and the American 14-Year-Old. "As crushes go from real-life likes to digital “likes,” the typical American teenage girl is confronted with a set of social anxieties never before seen in human history. Nancy Jo Sales observes one 14-year-old as she gets ready to embark on her first I.R.L. date."
posted by zarq on Feb 26, 2016 - 53 comments

One is silver and the other gold.

Make new friends. There's an app for that. (SLHP)
posted by Sophie1 on Feb 4, 2016 - 47 comments

A Victorian booty call: Come see our new Lamp. You can turn it down low.

Young People Used These Absurd Little Cards to Get Laid in the 19th Century.
posted by colfax on Jan 7, 2016 - 65 comments

Swipe right on monogamy

Swipe right on monogamy [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on Dec 23, 2015 - 71 comments

Love In The Age Of Big Data

You might expect love to be the last frontier breached by data. It is the Antarctic of the human experience, richly feeding the oceans of our emotions, yet somehow remaining elusive and unknown. Philosophers have argued over it for millennia without arriving at a satisfactory definition. Poets like Erich Fried capture its strange mix of pleasure and pain, the sense of its essential ungovernability: “It is foolish, says caution / It is impossible, says experience / It is what it is, says love.” [slhuffpo]
posted by ellieBOA on Dec 21, 2015 - 12 comments

Show us off in public, in the light of day.

Stop Paying Lip Service to Diversity D'Arcee Charington Neal writes about dating while gay and visibly disabled.
posted by internet fraud detective squad, station number 9 on Nov 5, 2015 - 10 comments

Your creep is not even a legit creep

Indian comedy group All India Bakchod teams up with dating site TrulyMadly to present the Creep Qawwali (a form of Sufi devotional music), lamenting online and offline creepy guys. [more inside]
posted by divabat on Oct 20, 2015 - 21 comments

Sex Blah-sitivism

We tell women to have sex with as many partners as they desire while neglecting to tell men to study up on female anatomy. But who wants sex if it’s not good? A woman’s right to say ‘meh’
posted by almostmanda on Oct 15, 2015 - 186 comments

But I don't know anybody in New York and I'm on Grinder, so...

On Pop-Up Porno, dating horror stories are lovingly animated as pop-up books.
posted by frimble on Oct 9, 2015 - 10 comments

Don't you just hate things?

"The Disgustings" (12:12 ) is a short film starring Drew Droege and written, directed and starring Jordan Firstman. It's about two gay men living in Los Angeles who just happen to be completely, utterly awful. The Disgustings return in "Save The Date." (5:45)
posted by The Whelk on Sep 22, 2015 - 14 comments

The faint terrestrial echo of the hideous laughter of blind mad gods

Alex Gonzalez's "Lovecraft Letters" re-imagine problematic online dating messages as NSFW communication with unnameable creatures from beyond (1 2 3 4). Mallory Ortberg's hilarious "Texts from H.P. Lovecraft" focus on HPL himself, while Richard Svensson's brief video "The Lovecraft Alphabet" and David Haden's "Consult Mr. Lovecraft" plot generator present cute illustrations or parodies of HPL's work. [more inside]
posted by Monsieur Caution on Sep 12, 2015 - 8 comments

Should you text?

Should you send that text? Bustle has the answer with a handy flowchart. [more inside]
posted by Margalo Epps on Sep 5, 2015 - 24 comments

Mormon breast implants and Jewish Dowries

Dateonomics: What two religions tell us about the modern dating crisis.
posted by jacquilynne on Aug 27, 2015 - 101 comments

I love meat! And peanut butter! Do they have something with both?

Puppy Love, a fetching first date tale, took home 1st place in this year's Des Moines 48 Hour Film competition. Woof.
posted by item on Aug 23, 2015 - 11 comments

"The men in this town have a serious case of pussy affluenza"

"I call it the Dating Apocalypse,” says a woman in New York, aged 29. “Guys view everything as a competition,” [Alex] elaborates with his deep, reassuring voice. “Who’s slept with the best, hottest girls?” With these dating apps, he says, “you’re always sort of prowling. You could talk to two or three girls at a bar and pick the best one, or you can swipe a couple hundred people a day—the sample size is so much larger. It’s setting up two or three Tinder dates a week and, chances are, sleeping with all of them, so you could rack up 100 girls you’ve slept with in a year.”
posted by modernnomad on Aug 9, 2015 - 148 comments

Check Your Location Before Your Assignation

Most popular word used in online dating profiles by state .
posted by WalkerWestridge on Aug 9, 2015 - 60 comments

The best game in the pug dating simulator genre

Dim the lights. Light candles. A romantic evening awaits. An evening of speed dating.
posted by perihare on Jul 17, 2015 - 9 comments

"Girl has look of mild panic."

While hanging out in a coffeeshop, Toronto-based writer Anne Thériault live tweeted the bad date that took place at the table next to hers.
posted by orange swan on Jul 7, 2015 - 827 comments

"You ever seen GI Joe?" / "Lol nope"

Win a Date with Channing Tatum: a Twine game by Mefi's own nerdfish [via mefi projects; also mentioned in MetaFilter Podcast 106] [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on Jul 6, 2015 - 26 comments

where everyone is bisexual and no one is bisexual

As much as we wish it weren't so, the queer world still exists apart -- discrete, you might say -- from the straight world, and to be a bisexual woman on OKCupid is to travel back and forth between them, bicoastal, bilingual, bicultural, always apologizing to one on behalf of the other.
The Two Faces of Bisexual OKCupid, by Frankie Thomas at the Hairpin.
posted by Stacey on Jun 29, 2015 - 37 comments

Nothing about me was ever gross, come to think of it

What I Imagine My Boyfriend’s Ex-Girlfriends Are Doing Right Now (SLNewYorker)
posted by ominous_paws on Feb 11, 2015 - 103 comments

Egg Freezing and Dating

That morning, I was single and 37 years old, almost precisely the average age at which women freeze their eggs, although I didn’t know that then. Freezing my eggs did not change my dating life. What it did do was expose me, again and directly, to the ways we treat women when there is a decision to be made about their bodies: We judge, pressure, and publicly debate a woman’s ability to direct her own life. We fret about women’s susceptibility to “false hope,” about their being manipulated by the egg-freezing industrial complex, rather than believing women to be capable of assessing information and understanding risk. We judge women who pay thousands of dollars to freeze their eggs, rather than spending that energy advocating for those who can’t. We criticize women for not being able to control variables that are necessarily out of their control, something that is insulting to everyone involved. [more inside]
posted by Salamandrous on Feb 8, 2015 - 48 comments

A Date with Mark E. Smith

In the comic 'I'll Be Your Mirror' by Una Baines and Keith McDougall, Ms. Baines (founding member of the bands The Fall, Blue Orchids, and The Fates) tells the autobiographical tale of a first date with Mark E. Smith. [more inside]
posted by item on Jan 21, 2015 - 14 comments

dating while autistic

"are you angry with me?": dating as an autistic woman
posted by and they trembled before her fury on Jan 16, 2015 - 73 comments

OQueerCupid

After complaints and boycotts over the limited options it gave for users to describe their gender and sexuality, internet dating site OKCupid has begun testing a far more inclusive self-identification system. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on Nov 18, 2014 - 162 comments

the law of "fuck yes or no"

"Fuck Yes!" or No - "Think about this for a moment: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you?"
(Fuck Yes, No Less - "How many of us have been taught to let persuasion and doubt override our instincts? How many of us have been taught to live in the grey?") [more inside]
posted by flex on Nov 9, 2014 - 58 comments

Congratulations! Now You're Both Jerks!

How To Correct A Date About Nerd Knowledge: A Choose-Your-Own-Adventure Comic
posted by Navelgazer on Oct 10, 2014 - 134 comments

Never talk about politics on the first date

We Made Young Liberals And Young Labor Date Each Other Vice Australia: "Who are those students who join political clubs at university? They wear suits, push flyers, and disagree by default, but what makes them tick? To find out we paired them up with the people they disagree with most—students from opposing parties—and made them go on dates with each other."
posted by cendawanita on Sep 25, 2014 - 51 comments

A Post About Buzzfeed and Tinder? Just, Ew, No. Moving On

A Buzzfeed writer exercises her semiotics and gathers a bunch of stock photos to recreate Tinder, the quick glance social dating app, to find out why we swipe. [more inside]
posted by notyou on Sep 12, 2014 - 47 comments

Surprise lap dances are not cool.

Stephanie Woodward is a 26 year-old Floridian woman who blogs about dating. Ms Woodward is an attorney who happens to have spina bifida. [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen on Aug 4, 2014 - 37 comments

Ask A Grown Man: Stephen Colbert

Stephen Colbert steps out of character and offers up some earnest advice to young women [more inside]
posted by Philby on Aug 3, 2014 - 61 comments

It's a truth universally recognized that you have no game

How to pick up genteel women in the 18th Century according to period guides.
posted by The Whelk on Aug 2, 2014 - 17 comments

"it is wise to be appropriately pessimistic here"

How we end up marrying the wrong people [more inside]
posted by flex on Jul 18, 2014 - 55 comments

Orientation Police

"I’m gay. I date men. Some of those men have vaginas."
A short comic about dating trans men by cartoonist Bill Roundy, previously featured for his Brooklyn bar review comics. (You may also like his gay romance comics, e.g. this unauthorised Northstar romance.)
posted by MartinWisse on Jul 11, 2014 - 86 comments

Peter and Patricia picked a peck of perfect partners

How to Pick a Life Partner. From afar, a great marriage is a sweeping love story, like a marriage in a book or a movie. And that’s a nice, poetic way to look at a marriage as a whole. But human happiness doesn’t function in sweeping strokes, because we don’t live in broad summations—we’re stuck in the tiny unglamorous folds of the fabric of life, and that’s where our happiness is determined. So if we want to find a happy marriage, we need to think small—we need to look at marriage up close and see that it’s built not out of anything poetic, but out of 20,000 mundane Wednesdays. This is the second of two posts. The first one tells us why we suck at picking life partners. [more inside]
posted by storybored on Jun 27, 2014 - 46 comments

Alan spilled water on me while I was trying to sleep.

Claire Meyer and Alan Linic, a twentysomething couple in Chicago, have been keeping a public record of every fight they have fought since August of 2013.
posted by SkylitDrawl on Jun 6, 2014 - 78 comments

Dr. Nerdlove prescribes No Excuses

Anticipating the start of convention season, Dr. Nerdlove writes, "today I’m going to take a whack at one of the greatest sacred cows on the Internet: the Socially Awkward Exception."
posted by prefpara on May 7, 2014 - 153 comments

So *many* tiny, naked men.

"Objectifying men who objectify women in 3 easy steps:
1. Man sends crude opening line via internet.
2. Draw him naked.
3. Send portrait to lucky man and enjoy results."
I bring you: Instagranniepants. Very NSFW.
posted by Pronoiac on Apr 27, 2014 - 200 comments

Beating the Tinder Game

Blake Jamieson used his marketing background to game Tinder's system.
posted by reenum on Apr 20, 2014 - 65 comments

The quickest way to double your wardrobe

BOYFRIEND TWIN - a tumblr documenting the curious pattern of gay men dating themselves.
posted by The Whelk on Apr 18, 2014 - 66 comments

they really said this.

It Happened to Me: I am the Most Popular Woman on OKCupid, and by most popular, I mean the "most messaged."
posted by and they trembled before her fury on Apr 13, 2014 - 210 comments

"Yeah, I Saw That Online."

9 Steps For Dating Like a Cowardly Drone
posted by The Whelk on Mar 10, 2014 - 94 comments

DTMFA

Comedian Aziz Ansari has posted a subreddit asking for relationship and dating experiences. Ansari and NYU professor Eric Klinenberg are using the subreddit as part of their research for a new book on modern romance in the US and elsewhere. [more inside]
posted by sweetkid on Mar 7, 2014 - 29 comments

The Brie People

It's 1976 and CBS reports on NYC's hot new pickup spot: the department store Bloomingdale's
posted by The Whelk on Feb 27, 2014 - 29 comments

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