The Identity Project
"seeks to explore the labels we choose to identify with when defining our gender and sexuality." Accompanying each portrait are words the subjects prefer to use to describe themselves -- "Boi," "Provocateur Lesbian Dandy," "Queer Femme Beefcake," "Gold Star Gay Wife," "Gay Masculine of Center," "Lezzer Queer Bossy Mama," "Inbetweener," "Legally Married." By San Francisco photographer Sarah Deragon. [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities
on Mar 8, 2014 -
Rory and Paris: The Real Gilmore Girls
I am going to make you want something that you may or may not have already known that you wanted. I am going to make you realize that the real love story at the heart of Gilmore Girls took place between two tightly-wound, highly-strung, overachieving rivals-turned-roommates who wore matching ties and skirts and engaged in sexually charged fencing sessions. The mutual respect, admiration, and trust that sprang up between Rory Gilmore and Paris Gellar was hard-fought and slowly earned; theirs was a friendship forged and refined slowly over the years. They grew into the shape of one another. Put aside your dreams of Jess, that human sneeze; let Logan sail away on his yacht of indifference into the sunset: Rory/Paris are endgame.
is a series
on The Toast ... [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns
on Jan 3, 2014 -
John Scalzi responds to a troll
Cheezburgering "This is what a feminist looks like" on a photo of him in a regency-era gown.
Over the weekend, some dudebro with a history of shitting on women took this picture of me and meme-ized it, with the intent, given his personal history and predilections, of mocking me — both for my views as regards women, and for wearing a dress.
Dudebro: Let me detail for you the various ways this picture has utterly failed you as an attempt to ridicule me.
posted by modernserf
on Aug 26, 2013 -
What Comes After The Twink?
"Somewhere along the way "twink" has stopped being just a cutesy, mildly negative stereotype and become something more malignant: An easy shorthand for a lot of vicious stereotypes about gay people, a way to covertly make fun not just of someone's mild gender variance but really their "gayness" as well."
posted by andoatnp
on Jul 12, 2013 -
During this Pride season, 44 years after Stonewall and 17 years since HAART
was introduced, writers reflect on what the past can teach us about the way forward and what the end of DOMA has to do with it. John Weir on AIDS, death, trauma, and liberation
; Reina Gossett on resistance, assimilation, and the life of Marsha P. Johnson, one of the first to fight back at Stonewall
. And Stonewaller Sylvia Rivera
at the 1973 Christopher Street Liberation Rally
, recently rediscovered by Reina Gossett, and Gossett's reflections on what Rivera, like Johnson and countless other transwomen of color, had to do to make space for herself.
posted by liketitanic
on Jun 30, 2013 -
The Test Shot
is an online visual project that aims to document and celebrate the variety and strength of transmasculine style. Ballet dancing "princess boys"
, dapper transmen fresh out of a golden age musical
, hipstery trans* boys
, preppy boy dykes,
and video journalists in traditional Pakistani menswear
showcase the diversity in how people interpret and express their gender through their favorite clothing. Original Plumbing
[warning: non-explicit ad for porn site] is the premier print magazine dedicated to the sexuality and culture of FTM trans guys. OP documents diversity within trans male lifestyles through photographic portraits and essays, personal narratives and interviews. Read an interview with the creators
, Dr. T's medical advice column,
or check out blog entries on living in an all-male dorm,
, how to get into queer porn as a trans guy,
, and deciding to carry a baby after transition.
. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana
on Jun 10, 2013 -
"Reading Harriet the Spy today as an adult, I find a queer subtext throughout. Not only is Harriet the quintessential baby butch, but her best friends, Sport and Janie, run exactly contrary to gender stereotypes. Sport acts as the homemaker and nurturing caretaker of his novelist father, while Janie the scientist plans to blow up the world one day. It was as if Fitzhugh was telling us kids back in the sixties that you didn’t have to play by society’s rules, the first lesson a queer kid has to learn in order to be happy
posted by mokin
on Mar 30, 2013 -
is a slam poem performed at last year's Brave New Voices
festival. There's a transcript here
, though it's worth noting that the page gets the poem's title wrong.
Written and performed by Shanita Jackson and Dakota Oder, it becomes even more impressive when you realize that both women are still teenagers...and from the looks of it, Jackson was only fourteen
at the time.
posted by MeghanC
on Mar 7, 2013 -
Your Holiday Mom: "This season, supportive moms have gathered to send a holiday message to all LGBTQ children, teens and young adults who are without family support and who would like a 'stand-in Holiday Mom'–or 40! Knowing that not every mother is ready to accept her own LGBTQ child exactly as-is (as hard as this is for us to imagine), we moms have written to extend our love beyond that of our own family."
posted by cowboy_sally
on Dec 2, 2012 -
However long it takes for a real victory to be certified—no matter what happens on Election Day, it will be too early to unfurl a "Mission Accomplished" banner—the once ragtag march of lovers has acquired an air of inevitability. Edith Eyde's prophecy is almost fulfilled: gays are more or less regular folk. All the same, many who came out during the Stonewall era are wondering what will be lost as the community sheds its pariah status. They are baffled by the latter-day cult of marriage and the military—emblems of Eisenhower's America that the Stonewall generation joyfully rejected. The gay world is confronting a question with which Jews, African-Americans, and other marginalized groups have long been familiar: the price of assimilation.
—Love on the March
by Alex Ross. [more inside]
posted by Kattullus
on Nov 7, 2012 -
Bill Brent was the publisher of the zine Black Sheets and the alternative sexuality directory The Black Book and the author of the book How To Make a Zine (recently republished in a revised edition
) as well as a lot of erotica writing. He was very active in the San Francisco Bay Area sexuality, kink, and zine scenes from the early 90s onward. Unfortunately, he committed suicide in August 2012; Liz Highleyman penned an in-depth obituary of Bill
posted by larrybob
on Aug 30, 2012 -
Right now Baltimore, MD plays host to FemmeCon
, a biannual gathering for those who "seek to explore, discuss, dissect, and support Queer Femme
as a transgressive, gender-queer, stand-alone, and empowered identity and provide a space for organizing and activism within Queer communities". Some of the issues faced by queer femme culture include femme invisibility in larger queer culture
, the lack of non-stereotypical role models
, being classed 'femme' by default
, dismissal as "too much"
, as well as intersectional issues of femme with race
, and disability
. In the meantime, femme subcultures such as tomboy femme
, hard femme
, and FEMME SHARKS
as well as femmes in specific regions
come together for inspiration
and support from each other - as well as from appreciative butches
posted by divabat
on Aug 18, 2012 -
What happens when you mash up Cinderella, Disney songs, queer culture, and top 40 hits? This
, apparently. [SLYT]
Warning for general ear-worminess. I'll be humming this all week.
posted by MeghanC
on Jul 28, 2012 -
The two largest groups that provide ex-gay counseling are Exodus International, a nondenominational Christian organization, and NARTH, its secular counterpart. If Exodus is the spirit of the ex-gay movement, NARTH is the brain. The organizations share many members, and Exodus parrots the developmental theories about same-sex attractions espoused by NARTH. Together with the late Charles Socarides, a psychiatrist who led the opposition to declassifying homosexuality as a mental illness, Nicolosi formed NARTH in 1992 as a 'scientific organization that offers hope to those who struggle with unwanted homosexuality.' By 1998, the group was holding an annual conference, publishing its own journal, and training hundreds of psychiatrists, psychologists, and counselors. Nicolosi remains NARTH’s most visible advocate.
[...] When I first reach Nicolosi on the phone, he says he remembers me well and that he is surprised that I 'went in the gay direction. You really seemed to get it.'
Gabriel Arana talks about his experiences with attempting to change his sexual orientation: My So-Called Ex-Gay Life.
posted by shakespeherian
on Apr 11, 2012 -
YA authors asked to 'straighten' gay characters.
Two YA authors posted about their unhappy experience
with trying to find an agent for their book that includes gay characters. Soon, a representative of the previously unnamed agency (though also not the actual agent in question) posts a rebuttal
. Debate flies back and forth in the comments, on Twitter
, and on various blogs, with writers coming forward with their own experiences. (1 2 3
, among many others.) Cleolinda has a detailed and informative summary
of the whole situation. (Previously.
posted by kmz
on Sep 19, 2011 -
Want to know what your old high school is doing to protect and support its LGBTQ students? Write Your Principal
encourages and collects correspondence about anti-bullying efforts between alumni and their alma maters. [via projects
posted by lalex
on Oct 18, 2010 -
1969: The Year of Gay Liberation
is an online exhibit of the New York Public Library focusing on the radical gay rights movements of the late sixties and early seventies, focusing on the organizations The Mattachine Society of New York, Daughters of Bilitis, Gay News, Gay Liberation Front, Radicalesbians, Street Transvestites Action Revolutionaries and the Gay Activists Alliance, and the events of the Stonewall Riot and Christopher Street Liberation Day. This is but one part of the NYPL's fine LGBT collection
, which includes, among other things, resources for teens
, AIDS/HIV collections
, and digital collections on ACT UP
, Barbara Gittings and Kay Tobin Lahusen
, Bessie Bonehill
, Gertrude Stein
, Gran Fury
, Julian Eltinge
, Richard Wandel
and Walt Whitman
posted by Kattullus
on Oct 1, 2009 -
What with all the changes lately, sometimes I'm not sure where my right to marry whomever I want to has been ensured. Can I Marry Gay?
is a handy reference with state by state information, and keeps me up to date. Worried about recent state Supreme Court decisions forcing you to join teh gay? Must I Marry Gay?
is for you. [via mefi projects
posted by ocherdraco
on May 20, 2009 -
a relatively complete listing of gay pride days around the world. just in case you're proud only once a year.
posted by patricking
on Jun 17, 2000 -