Relax on your pristine white couch and enjoy these realistic depictions of motherhood
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Private Ceremonies. "Most women don’t talk about their abortions and miscarriages. Virtually none go through the experience with a loved one at their side. The greatest gift an abortion counselor can give is to bear witness, to be with a woman as she goes through this private journey, to witness her strength and weakness, her grief, her relief, her pain."
A first person essay from a former abortion counselor.
'News of impending fatherhood affects men in different ways. Some guys pump their fists. Others light cigars. A few flee. When 33-year-old Colin Furze
learned that his girlfriend was pregnant, he channeled his paternal excitement into building the world’s fastest baby stroller.
' The twin-exhaust, 10-horsepower, gasoline-fueled pram has four gears. And cupholders. And it can accelerate to 50mph in less than 30 seconds. [more inside]
"Older parenthood will upend
American society." "Is waiting to have kids a big mistake
?" "Why do women believe they can delay children
for so long?" "Older men are more likely than young ones to father a child who develops autism or schizophrenia, because of random mutations
that become more numerous with advancing paternal age."
"Premature babies born at the edge of viability force us to debate the most difficult questions in medicine and in life. After just 23 weeks of pregnancy, Kelley Benham found herself in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) with a daughter born so early neonatologist doctors would call her a "micro preemie." New technologies can sometimes keep micro preemies alive, but many end up disabled, some catastrophically so. Whether to provide care to these infants is one of the fundamental controversies in neonatology. This is the story of how Benham and her husband, Tom French, made the difficult choice: Fight for the life of their micro preemie baby or let her go?
" [more inside]
The Mommy-Fight Site.
What does it mean to raise a child in "America’s highest-income, best-educated Census area
? D.C. Urban Moms and Dads
might be as close as it gets to a field guide to parentis Washingtonianis
" [more inside]
I'd always been fascinated by the trope of the doppelgänger and its long literary life, from Dostoyevsky to Nabokov to Spider-Man. Often, in books, these physical doubles represent the worst a character is capable of. Lately, though, perhaps because at age 41 I'd begun feeling less like the captain of my life and more like its deckhand, I'd started wondering if there was someone out there who embodies not your worst self, but your freest one—a person who encapsulates everything you've ever dreamed of becoming. Let's call him your Cooler Self. All those dreams that got lost along the way, the ones that were casualties of chance or duty or cowardice: There's a "you" out there—a mountain climber or war photographer or race-car driver—who brought them to fruition.
So I vowed to hunt down my Cooler Self
NPR is reporting that the Susan G. Komen foundation is severing it's ties and halting grants
to Planned Parenthood, cutting off "hundreds of thousands of dollars", mainly earmarked for breast exams.
Komen says the key reason is that Planned Parenthood is under investigation in Congress — a probe launched by a conservative Republican who was urged to act by anti-abortion groups. [more inside]
Jeff Atwood, co-founder of StackOverflow/StackExchange (previously
) is also fairly well known for blogging about programming and human factors. Today he wrote a post about Parenthood.
The Harvard Study of Adult Development is the longest prospective study of mental and physical well-being ever conducted. For 72 years, researchers at Harvard have been following 824 individuals through war, career, marriage and divorce, parenthood and grandparenthood, and old age. Designer Laura Javier
took ten of those cases and visualized them in the Elements of Happiness
. [via flowingdata]
One in every 8 babies born in the US is premature
. A new study (pdf/via)
published online Wednesday in Ultrasound in Obstetrics and Gynecology
indicates that vaginal progesterone gel can help women who are pregnant for the first time and at risk of premature birth extend their pregnancies, reduce potential complications and boost the health of their newborns
. [more inside]
"I Have Sex
" is a video made by student group Weslyan Uncut
to protest federal cuts
to Planned Parenthood funding. via @heathercorinna
"It was like trying to have a relationship with a sea sponge, or a single-cell protozoa. She didn't do anything! Or at least, nothing I could understand." — Phillip Toledan, The Reluctant Father.
A photo-essay on the cultural expectations of parenthood.
Perhaps it's not surprising, given their intrinsic connection: sex and parenthood come together in Moms in Babeland
, a blog run by the eponymous sex toy boutique (NSFW, obvs)
. [more inside]
What Dads Don't Need for Father's Day
: "A team of psychologists headed by Dr. Toni Zimmerman from Colorado State University analyzed the top-selling parenting books. Using a feminist perspective, they trawled the books for hidden gender messages. In findings published earlier this year, they concluded that the two mega-best sellers, John Gray's Children Are from Heaven
and Laura Schlessinger's Parenthood by Proxy: Don't Have Them If You Won't Raise Them
are filled with stereotypes, formulaic advice and information that does not conform to research findings." Both books scored low in a feminist analysis
of best-selling parental advice books. Kathleen Trigiani also wrote a series of essays
on John Gray entitled "Out of the Cave: Exploring Gray's Anatomy".
or: Partnership status and the human sex ratio at birth: a paper by Karen Norberg
Could the sex of a child be influenced by the status of the parents' relationship at the time of conception? In a sample of 86,436 births in the United States, we find a small excess of sons among births to parents who were married or living with an opposite sex partner before the child's conception, compared to births to parents who were not. This is the first evidence that household arrangements can affect the human sex ratio at birth, and could explain the fall in the proportion of male births in some developed countries over the past thirty years.
(Data published on FirstCite
via The Economist
(special note for mathowie: No word yet as to whether or not those single moms can also reliably produce offspring with an astigmatism.)