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Awesome. Wow.

My non-verbal son communicates through ‘Hamilton’ [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen on Oct 21, 2016 - 14 comments

Everybody Hurts

In which a rich Silicon Valley Libertarian decides to build a children's playground.
posted by Scoop on Oct 19, 2016 - 162 comments

Women Who Wish They'd Never Had Kids

Women all over the world are coming forward to say it: I regret having my children.
Honesty this surprising and inconvenient breeds harsh backlash wherever it goes. In response to Dutton's Daily Mail story, some comments were vicious. "What an utterly miserable, cold-hearted and selfish woman," noted one. Another was astonished "such a vile creature could exist." Some have even accused these mothers of committing child abuse for daring to utter such thoughts.

posted by a strong female character on Oct 7, 2016 - 107 comments

emotional agility: feel it, show it, label it, watch it go

"[O]ne thing that's really critical from an emotional agility perspective and that's actually really quick and easy to do, is to simply recognize your thought for what it is. It's a thought. Or your emotion for what it is. It's an emotion." An interview with author and Harvard Medical School faculty psychologist Susan David, Ph.D., by Sarah Green Carmichael for Harvard Business Review IdeaCast: Building Emotional Agility [audio + transcript] [more inside]
posted by amnesia and magnets on Oct 5, 2016 - 33 comments

The definition of "parent" has been expanded in New York State

New York's highest court has redefined parenthood in a same-sex parenting case. (SLNYT) The Court of Appeals ruled Tuesday in In the Matter of Brooke S.B. v. Elizabeth A. C.C. and Matter of Estrellita A. v. Jennifer D., that the non-married, ex-partner of a biological parent may seek custody or visitation rights of children they once agreed to conceive and raise as co-partners with their exes. The Court, in a 6-0 vote, said that given the legalization of same-sex marriages and other societal changes that have upset the notion of "parents" as being a married man and woman, it was time for it to abandon the precedent of its 1991 ruling in Matter of Alison D. v. Virginia M. [more inside]
posted by holborne on Aug 31, 2016 - 27 comments

“Fear is a natural response,”

One Third of Parents Avoid Reading Children Scary Stories, Study Finds [The Guardian] “A survey of 1,003 UK parents by online bookseller The Book People found that 33% would steer clear of books for their children containing frightening characters. Asked about the fictional creations they found scariest as children, a fifth of parents cited the Wicked Witch of the West from L Frank Baum’s The Wonderful Wizard of Oz, with the Child Catcher from Ian Fleming’s Chitty-Chitty-Bang-Bang in second place. Third was the Big Bad Wolf, in his grandmother-swallowing Little Red Riding Hood incarnation, fourth the Grand High Witch from Roald Dahl’s The Witches, and fifth Cruella de Vil, from Dodie Smith’s The Hundred and One Dalmatians.”
posted by Fizz on Aug 25, 2016 - 57 comments

Due Process

A Family Matter. Each year, California’s child protective services agencies remove thousands of kids from their homes. Some parents decided to fight back.
posted by zarq on Aug 19, 2016 - 64 comments

Eureka! Mycorrhiza

Do trees communicate with each other? "If you're a mother and you have children, you recognise your children and you treat them in certain ways. We're finding that trees will do the same thing. They'll adjust their competitive behaviour to make room for their own kin and they send those signals through mycorrhizal networks."
posted by jillithd on Aug 2, 2016 - 22 comments

Breast-Feeding the Microbiome

Why do human mothers spend so much energy manufacturing complex sugars (the third most plentiful ingredient in human milk) that babies can't even digest? Why do these complicated chemicals pass through the stomach and small intestine unharmed? What if a large amount of breast milk isn't food for babies at all? What if it is food for microbes?
posted by AceRock on Jul 25, 2016 - 19 comments

Can I trust you?

Stealing Hope: A longread series from the Charleston Post & Courier on a group of "emotional scammers" preying on increasingly desperate adoptive parents. (Design Warning: All Links Contain Autoplaying Animations)
posted by Potomac Avenue on Jul 18, 2016 - 5 comments

It’s so much safer in the world of Alexander Hamilton.

"This is all hilarious, of course — a 14-year-old girl utterly fanatical about the Founding Fathers — that is until you realize that it isn’t going away." Joe Posnanski of NBC Sports on taking his 14 year old daughter, Elizabeth, to see Hamilton.
posted by roomthreeseventeen on May 30, 2016 - 67 comments

Children of Heroin Crisis Find Refuge in Grandparents’ Arms

A NYT photo essay: "Not since the crack epidemic of the 1980s and 1990s, analysts say, have so many children been at risk because of parental drug addiction."
posted by DarlingBri on May 22, 2016 - 33 comments

Does Your Daughter Know It's Ok to be Angry?

"Bottling up anger is as harmful, if not more so, than anger exhibited in violent outbursts. How we think of “anger management” should more broadly include teaching girls that it is OK to feel angry. [...] The result [of sublimated anger], for many girls and women, long into old age, is a host of physical, psychological, and emotional damages. Anger impairs people’s immune systems, contributes to high blood pressure, heart damage, migraines, skin ailments, and chronic fatigue. Unresolved anger contributes to stress, tension, anxiety, depression, and excessive nervousness."Soraya L. Chemaly writes about how girls, taught to ignore their anger, become disassociated from themselves.
posted by stoneweaver on May 10, 2016 - 46 comments

Wall Street Journal Guide to Parenting

How to Raise the Next Mark Zuckerberg, 5 Signs Your Child Has What it Takes to be a Tech Entrepreneur, featuring advice such as "Teach children to work like a startup" from the former, and "[Your child is] obsessed with money" from the latter. [more inside]
posted by tippiedog on May 2, 2016 - 34 comments

You work with the temperament you’re given

Some babies are just easier than others. (SL New York Times Well blog)
posted by purpleclover on Mar 14, 2016 - 32 comments

Are picky eaters born or made?

The Boston Globe's Alyssa Giacobbe looks at the science behind picky eating.
posted by zeusianfog on Feb 28, 2016 - 89 comments

"I cannot be that person."

John and Sherry Petersik built a cult following with their website, Young House Love. Then they tried to walk away. The couple behind Young House Love on the process of falling down the rabbit hole from lifestyle bloggers, to full time "brand," and the burnout that resulted. Related, Heather Armstrong (a.k.a. Dooce) on "Why the 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers' had to quit." [more inside]
posted by blue suede stockings on Jan 23, 2016 - 40 comments


Games to Play With Your Child in Which You Barely Have to Move or Talk.
posted by smoke on Jan 8, 2016 - 56 comments


"There was power in a name, and I figured if mine were Elizabeth, maybe the blue eyes and blonde hair would follow. I would look more like her. My mother. She has stories of walking around—me in her arms, my brother in a stroller—and people asking what country we were adopted from. My mother is too polite to say things like, The country of my vagina." "Where I'm Writing From" by Onnesha Roychoudhuri.
posted by roomthreeseventeen on Dec 30, 2015 - 7 comments

GOT for Tots

Who Said ‘Game of Thrones’ Wasn’t for Kids? "What mother in her right mind would tell children the stories about beheadings and torture? A single parent for whom mealtimes are agony."
posted by homunculus on Dec 11, 2015 - 36 comments

They battle forces of darkness none of us can see.

"But at some point, my dad stepped into a phone booth and vowed to be more than the sum of his upbringing. He took on the monsters that followed him and declared war on the dysfunctional demons he carried. He chose to give his children the childhood he didn’t have." A Love Letter to the Cycle Breakers. [TW: childhood abuse]
posted by shiu mai baby on Dec 5, 2015 - 9 comments

It started with bedtime. A coldness. A formality.

"Cold Little Bird," a very good and very disturbing story by Ben Marcus. [SLNYer]
posted by gottabefunky on Oct 23, 2015 - 77 comments

But I Want It

"Maybe you didn’t hear me. I really, really, really want it." Or, "The four conversations you can have with a small child."
posted by Narrative Priorities on Oct 8, 2015 - 82 comments

Mom News Daily

Mom News Daily has been rated the #1 source of information by woman parents. It's satire. [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Oct 1, 2015 - 44 comments

Anis Thomas, Pheynifer Elaine, Whiode Matthew...

"Fact: wearing white and holding your belly is the best way to ensure a healthy baby." Twitter bots 4 momz! is a Twitter list of three humorous Twitter bots from Mefi's own Metroid Baby, spoofing parenting advice from popular media: @FakeMomAdvice, @FakePregAdvice, and @TrendyNames. [via mefi projects]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on Sep 25, 2015 - 14 comments

what happens when a parent's grief goes viral?

"While people have long used online outlets to grieve loved ones and public figures, the intense, intimate mourning rituals for kids like Ryan are something else entirely. And while these rituals create a much-needed space for mourning in a culture that treats grief like it's contagious, not everyone wants their child subjected to such celebrity. But once begun, it's hard to stop."
posted by divined by radio on Sep 17, 2015 - 40 comments

"We" aren't on the travel soccer team."

How Schools Are Handling An 'Overparenting' Crisis via NPR
posted by roomthreeseventeen on Sep 6, 2015 - 128 comments

Message 652

'Honestly, I keep thinking this but not saying it because it sounds really glib, but I never thought about wanting kids until you guys made it look actually appealing somehow.'
'Ha, what?'
'No, I was gonna make some generic self-deprecating remark about how "Oh, it's not all fun and games, you know" but honestly it's the best thing ever.'

posted by the man of twists and turns on Aug 6, 2015 - 13 comments

Tired of image pressure on women of a certain age? Here's the antidote

This recent guest editorial (hopefully the first in a new intermittent column) is a cri de coer from an educated, intelligent and caring middle-aged career woman and mother For most women in the public eye their outward visual image is the most valuable currency available, and the booming cosmetics (and aesthetic surgery) industry banks - excuse the pun - on this. As a senior political staff writer this lady has spent many years in - or at least no more than a door away from - the corridors of power. Here she proves that the pen is mightier than the scalpel.
posted by kairab on Aug 3, 2015 - 31 comments

How Early-20th-Century Americans Taught Their Kids to Be Thrifty

Slate takes a look at some of the concepts in Andrew L. Yarrow's Thrift: The History of an American Cultural Movement including various methods of teaching thrift to children. One tool used was a chart that teaches children how much it cost their parents to support them.
posted by purplesludge on Aug 3, 2015 - 25 comments

"When you change your inner voice, your entire world changes."

After seeing a young friend struggle with body image and depression, Florida-based photographer Natalie McCain was inspired to start the Honest Body Project, a series of portraits of mothers showing their beauty and imperfections to their children, paired with their stories in their own words. “My goal with this project is to help mothers everywhere learn to love their bodies and wear them proudly in front of their daughters,” McCain says. “Stop calling yourself fat. Stop shying away from being in photos. Stop body-shaming. Learn to love your body, and in turn, set a good example and start conversations with your children about how women really look.” A small number of images may be NSFW or triggering. Further details within. [more inside]
posted by zarq on Jul 7, 2015 - 7 comments

Your World Will Never be the Same

Excerpts from either a memoir by a first-time parent or a post-apocalyptic novel.
posted by paleyellowwithorange on Jul 7, 2015 - 33 comments

he can’t see me

“One night we were eating spaghetti and meatballs and it fell out and rolled across the kitchen table. You said, ‘Dad, your eye popped out’ and kept on eating. I’ll never forget it. You must have been seven or eight. He felt so bad about that—for your sake.”
“I don’t think it bothered me,” I say.
“He worried it bothered you.”
The Glass Eye, by Jeannie Vanasco
posted by zarq on Jun 8, 2015 - 7 comments

New color theory: now with more 6-year-old!

"Have you ever turned white?"
"Will I ever-?"
"Daddy's already white."
"But was he always?"
37 Impossible Questions From My Mixed-Race Son (SLBuzzfeed)
posted by Metroid Baby on Jun 8, 2015 - 44 comments

Playground Purgatory

ANNA: I’m always so happy when I’m here, and never feel strange or despondent.
SARA: Me, too. So happy. The sound of all the kids laughing and screaming is so joyous, and doesn’t sound anything like nails on a chalkboard.
ANNA: I’ve never cried behind that tree.
SARA: Me neither.

posted by Metroid Baby on May 14, 2015 - 48 comments

"If one of you gets eaten, we will name the boat after you," I said.

In the summer of 1987, my father tried to murder me with an alligator.
posted by zarq on May 13, 2015 - 18 comments

Life beyond Barney

AV Club has recently completed a series of articles on kids shows that parents won't hate: The Pre-K Years, K-1st Grade, 2nd-3rd Grade and, finally, 8 kids shows to avoid at all costs.
posted by AlonzoMosleyFBI on May 13, 2015 - 126 comments

"She's as wild as a caged animal. Try again in a few days."

My mother is like another country I used to live in, familiar but no longer a place I call home. When I visit, I don't stay long; dysfunction is the official language, the terrain is a desert of constantly shifting emotions, and the weather is grey when it's not dark and stormy. Estrangement is so much easier.
posted by divined by radio on Apr 23, 2015 - 14 comments

"...when CPS gets a call, we have to follow up on every single one."

In December, the Meitiv family, advocates of "free-range" parenting, were investigated for allowing their children to walk home from a park in Silver Spring, MD (previously). Yesterday, they again allowed their children to play in a nearby park. When the 6- and 10-year-old kids didn't arrive home at 6 pm as planned, their parents went looking for them. Two hours later, they received a call from Child Protective Services, who taken custody of the children after "a concerned resident" notified the police. Additional reporting and commentary from Washington Post columnist Petula Dvorak.
posted by Mr.Know-it-some on Apr 13, 2015 - 256 comments

The Parent Rap

Laura June, a "writer and a real cool mom", writes a column for The Awl on parenting her new daughter Zelda.
Tagline: An endearing column about the fucked up and cruel world of parenting.

Follow the delightful account of her life as she contemplates motherhood aging her; philosophises on gender and babywear; realises although her daughter shares her face, she has her own personality; discovers Zelda's taste in music; wonders if they will get along; and celebrates milestones. [more inside]
posted by ellieBOA on Apr 13, 2015 - 15 comments

"She rolls her eyes."

Raising Teenagers: The Mother of All Problems by Rachel Cusk [New York Times]
Children are characters in the family story we tell — until, one day, they start telling it themselves.
posted by Fizz on Mar 20, 2015 - 59 comments

The Discipline of Blending In vs. Independence and Self-Confidence

How Do You Discipline a Child in the Post-Hitting Era? [more inside]
posted by zarq on Mar 6, 2015 - 72 comments

"I still am embarrassed by this memory."

Female company president: "I'm sorry to all the mothers I worked with"
posted by ThePinkSuperhero on Mar 4, 2015 - 118 comments

People do not naturally assume that my family is a family.

Friends often try to assure me that people mean well, urging me to go easy on them, to be gracious, to give people the benefit of the doubt. "People don't mean to be offensive," they tell me. "They just don't know how to say it without coming across that way."

What these friends don't understand is that when the act of defining your family structure becomes an expected part of every day of your entire life, you grow tired of being gracious. It's exhausting to have strangers view your life as an up-for-grabs educational experience. For my kid, it's to constantly hear the underlying message: "Your life, your family, doesn't make sense to me. Someone needs to explain it to me. You owe me an explanation."

It's the people who live comfortably inside majorities who tend to discount any sort of commentary from minorities as being "overly sensitive." And I imagine that it's hard to step back and grasp the fact that when the world you occupy is built to accommodate you, you fit inside the boxes. You make sense. You are expected.
Nishta Mehra writes about her family's experience with learning how to navigate the landscape of interracial adoption in a "post-racial" America: Black Is the Color of My True Love's Hair.
posted by divined by radio on Mar 4, 2015 - 51 comments

"No academic institution... is particularly great for family."

An associate professor of biology with two children speaks more negatively about the effects of balancing work and family on his career: “It's a disaster.” [1]
[more inside] posted by en forme de poire on Jan 28, 2015 - 75 comments

“Parenthood is an exercise in risk management”

It was a one-mile walk home from a Silver Spring park on Georgia Avenue on a Saturday afternoon. But what the parents saw as a moment of independence for their 10-year-old son and 6-year-old daughter, they say authorities viewed much differently. [more inside]
posted by Johnny Wallflower on Jan 14, 2015 - 100 comments

The Rise of Extreme Daycare

In the garden of Dee’s Tots Childcare, amid the sunflowers, cornstalks, and plastic cars, a three-year-old girl with beads in her braids and a two-year-old blond boy are shimmying. These are Deloris Hogan’s 6:45 p.m. pick-ups. Nearby, also dancing, are four kids who won’t be picked up until late at night, as well as two “overnight babies,” as Deloris calls them. Dee’s Tots stays open 24 hours a day, seven days a week; the children’s parents work unconventional hours, producing an unexpected cycle of drop-offs and reunions. One afternoon in August, the kids bounce on the center’s inflatable castles, rustle around at the sand tables, and eat a watermelon snack. Then it gets dark.
posted by internet fraud detective squad, station number 9 on Jan 9, 2015 - 52 comments

Stuff you Learn in Your 40s

There are no grown-ups. We suspect this when we are younger, but can confirm it only once we are the ones writing books and attending parent-teacher conferences. Everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidently.
posted by COD on Jan 7, 2015 - 88 comments

I wonder what my son’s name is. Perhaps it is Jonathant.

Non-working women are more likely to spend their weekdays doing housework or caring for others, while non-working men are more likely to spend that time watching TV. Perhaps, then, it's not surprising how William Giraldi spent his paternity leave (spoiler alert: not parenting). Mallory Ortberg responds.
posted by Metroid Baby on Jan 6, 2015 - 122 comments

We Don't Need No Education

"At least not of the traditional, compulsory, watch-the-clock-until-the-bell-rings kind. As a growing movement of unschoolers believe, a steady diet of standardized testing and indoor inactivity is choking the creativity right out of our kids. The alternative: set 'em free."
posted by COD on Jan 4, 2015 - 85 comments

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