Max Landis comments on 1987's Innerspace trailer
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A Buzzfeed writer exercises her semiotics and gathers a bunch of stock photos to recreate Tinder, the quick glance social dating app, to find out why we swipe
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The Love App.
Digital life and couples culture in South Korea.
The Real Castaway
(2001; 48:13) is a tense and awkward but sometimes beautiful documentary about a teenage boy
moving to the Ulithi Atoll
and seeking companionship to fulfill a romantic fantasy
How to Pick a Life Partner. From afar, a great marriage is a sweeping love story, like a marriage in a book or a movie. And that’s a nice, poetic way to look at a marriage as a whole.
But human happiness doesn’t function in sweeping strokes, because we don’t live in broad summations—we’re stuck in the tiny unglamorous folds of the fabric of life, and that’s where our happiness is determined.
So if we want to find a happy marriage, we need to think small—we need to look at marriage up close and see that it’s built not out of anything poetic, but out of 20,000 mundane Wednesdays.
This is the second of two posts. The first one tells us why we suck at picking life partners
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For it is the future generation in its entire individual determination which forces itself into existence through the medium of all this strife and trouble...That growing affection of two lovers for each other is in reality the will to live of the new being, of which they shall become the parents...The lovers have a longing to be really united and made one being, and to live as such for the rest of their lives; and this longing is fulfilled in the children born to them, in whom the qualities inherited from both, but combined and united in one being, are perpetuated...Therefore Nature attains her ends by implanting in the individual a certain illusion by which something which is in reality advantageous to the species alone seems to be advantageous to himself... Arthur Schopenhauer on the Metaphysics of Love
In a world
On May 30th the 15th Annual Golden Trailer Awards
were handed out in Beverly Hills, CA. There are a total of 75 categories; the 17 top awards were handed out live at the sold-out show and are linked below the fold. [more inside]
An illustrated guide.
"Enjoy life with your bride or groom. Be aware, however, that you're never guaranteed a storybook ending
. Someone who is likely to walk from a wedding may be afraid of commitment, and insecure in relationships. This could pose problems for your relationship
May 7 is International Tell Your Crush Day.
Maybe you found this site after someone told you they had a crush on you. Maybe you thought of the same holiday and we beat you to registering this username. Perhaps you’ve been a fan all along and have always wanted more propaganda to peruse while at work.
Comedian Aziz Ansari has posted a subreddit
asking for relationship and dating experiences. Ansari and NYU professor Eric Klinenberg are using the subreddit as part of their research for a new book on modern romance in the US and elsewhere. [more inside]
Sharon Lee and Steve Miller's Agent of Change and Fledgling are now available as free downloads
. Starting points in the Liaden Universe
, a space opera series notable for its romance elements
and convoluted publication history
, their particular sequences (among others) in the same setting take noticeably different approaches
to common themes such as complicated manners, familial obligations, and meeting a soulmate. Not to mention humanoid turtles. And occasional cats. [more inside]
The romance comic blog Sequential Crush takes a look at an astrology-themed love story from 1970: "Horoscope, Don't Fool With My Heart!
is a tumblr celebration of awful Romance novel covers (Related: Awful Fantasy Covers
"My boyfriend of 7 years and I are both physicists. Here's how he proposed to me
." [Via: Reddit
There is no such thing as Everlasting Love.
Apparently all we have are "micro-moments of positivity resonance
." Deflating the Love Myth, just in time for Valentines Day? [more inside]
When Bill Met Shelly Bill Ott will always remember the moment he met Shelley Belgard. It was in spring 1988. He was 12 and sometimes shy. Into music, sports and, suddenly, girls.
is a professor currently researching how people use the Internet
to break up
with their romantic partners
, but before that she wrote an anthropological study
about "strategic ignorance"
in Samoan immigrant communities
, all of which is just a complicated way of showing that she's the most unusually qualified person on the Internet to comment on the Manti Te'o hoax
From the comedic duo Key & Peele, mentioned twice before
on MetaFilter, comes Pizza Order
, the funniest sketch I've seen in years. Their new season has had some terrific moments – Dubstep
, I said "Bitch"
, Slow Brotion
, and School Bully
, amongst others – but Pizza Order is something special.
Romance novel covers are a frequent subject of ridicule. But they have also featured highly talented illustrators like Alan Ayers
, Pino Daeni
, Elaine Gignilliat
, Phil Heffernan
, and Albert Slark
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One and One Story
, a romantic little platformer. [more inside]
A Scott Pilgrim themed trip to Toronto,
followed by a surprise (single-link photo album).
"... That’s the way with epiphanies: You can’t know in advance what they’ll be. Even me. I can see them coming, but I can’t understand something until I understand it.”
T he man who can see the future has a date with the woman who can see many possible futures.
Katrina Lumsden reads the Fifty Shades of Grey books so you don't have to:
Fifty Shades of Grey
Fifty Shades Darker
Fifty Shades Freed
(contains animated gifs)
Need a blast of pure joy to start your holiday weekend? Here's Isaac's live lip-dub proposal
Posing like a man
: after doing his back in imitating the cover poses fantasy heroines find themselves in (previously
), Jim Hines is now trying out the male equivalent. Will these be any more dignified? The answer might surprise you! [more inside]
Many dating websites help increase their numbers by buying profiles from third party brokers.
A study of mobile phone records
shows according to Professor Robin Dunbar
(of Dunbar's Number
), that women drive romance, that they phone their spouses most until their daughters are old enough to have children, and that we may be heading for a renewed matriarchy.
The Geek Social Fallacies of Sex.
(Probably SFW in itself, depending on your W - no naughty images - but links out may go to NSFW content) Holly Pervocracy (previously
), a feminist sex blogger, revisits Michael Suileabhain-Wilson's
classic but contentious Geek Social Fallacies
Is online dating destroying love? We are doomed, perhaps, to be unsatisfied creatures, whose desires are fulfilled only momentarily before we go on the hunt for new objects to scratch new itches. Which suggests that online dating sites will be filling us with hopes – and disappointments – for a good while yet. [more inside]
"At my then-boyfriend’s house I opened a drawer to borrow a T-shirt. All the T-shirts were perfectly folded, as if ironed. I knew right then and there that I must run for my life.
" And other tales of romantic dead ends.
capturing the exact moment you realize a relationship is doomed
Navigating Love and Autism
- When kissing feels like "mashing your face against someone else’s" and you experience mindblindness, how do you build a relationship? Is it even possible?
- a subgenre of visual novel
where a female protagonist romances one of a selection of male characters. (Make your own!)
Hatoful Boyfriend (TV Tropes)
- a visual novel (download, English patch)
, where a female protagonist attends high school with, and romances, one of a selection of giant talking pigeons and one partridge
. Also she lives in a cave and forages for food. [more inside]
To The Moon
is a stunningly good game about death, love and memories. If you love games and you enjoy love stories, I highly urge you to download it and play it immediately. Here's a review
, but you shouldn't read it. You should just play it. Warning: Have kleenex handy.
In 1994, international super-stud Fabio Lanzoni
released an album entitled Fabio After Dark
. For the first time, his fans
could hear his musing on love, romance and beauty
any time they wished. Oh, and he sang
Love in the Age of Self Consciouness:
Rob Horning argues authentic, risk-taking romantic love has been replaced, in the age of social networking, by peacocking aspiring to sprezzatura
. "Modern identity, then, is born of the alienation of auto-surveillance, which makes the self seem a discrete thing we manipulate from behind the curtain of publicity." [more inside]
It is 2007, and R.P. Salazar is living in Waco, Texas. His email username is rpsalazar. One day an email arrives addressed to another rpsalazar, meant for someone with the same initials and surname but a slightly different email address. He sends it along to the right person, an R.P. Salazar living in Bangkok. Before clicking Send he adds a p.s.: "How's the weather in Bangkok?"
Before the end of 2007, Ruben Salazar and Rachel Salazar are married. Storycorps and NPR report the whole story
. (The text is good, but the audio is even better. Click "Listen to the Story.")
Bad (and some so bad they're good) excerpts from bad romance novels. Includes things like: "And as he ground sinuously against her tender flesh, she began to quake and contract, whimpering with tortured delight. Her senses exploded; her very body seemed to dissolve into a fierce, white-hot blast of elemental heat. And in that boundless, exploding star of pleasure she felt his essence mingle with hers as he buried his face in her hair and erupted, pouring his passion into her soft, responsive frame."
"Danny and Annie Perasa tell the story of their twenty-seven-year romance
. From their first date to Danny’s final days with terminal cancer, this is an intimate and heartbreaking look at true love."