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Fireman uniforms, bust size, dogs and flowers: for science

Nicolas Guéguen is a researcher in human behaviour who runs curious and somehow whimsical experiments. With the help of a small army of "confederates", he studies the effects of various stimuli, including dogs, smiles, fireman uniforms, bust size (inflatable), hair color, music, flowers, figurines, touching, mirrors, names etc. on the courtship, sexual, helping, chivalrous, tipping, buying, hiring, compliance or eating behaviour of unsuspecting victims. Because not all experiments are successful, he has also published one failure in the Journal of Articles in Support of the Null Hypothesis. Selected papers are listed below the fold. [more inside]
posted by elgilito on May 17, 2013 - 6 comments

Intent counts here.

Right now, though, you can google “polyamory” and get a whole lot of nearly-identical polynormative hype articles, and you can meet up with locals who’ve read the same articles you just did, and you can all get together and do polynormative poly exactly the way the media told you to. And if that’s all you ever bother to do then essentially you are selling yourself short. You are trading in the monogamous norm for polynormativity, which relatively speaking isn’t all that much of a stretch, and stopping there because you may very well think that’s all there is (and you already racked up a whole bunch of cool points anyway). You aren’t encouraged to really think about this stuff without any imposed models at all, which means you never get to figure out what actually might work best for you. As such, the most fundamental element of polyamory—that of rejecting the monogamous standard, and radically rethinking how you understand, make meaning of and practice love, sex, relationships, commitment, communication, and so forth—is lost in favour of a cookie-cutter model that’s as easy as one, two, three. The deepest and most significant benefit of polyamory has become increasingly obscured by media representation, and as a result, is getting farther and farther out of reach for anyone who’s just starting out.
the problem with polynormativity, at Sex Geek
posted by davidjmcgee on Jan 28, 2013 - 221 comments

Coronet Instructional Films

From the mid 40s to the mid 50s Coronet Instructional Films were always ready to provide social guidance for teenagers on subjects as diverse as dating, popularity, preparing for being drafted, and shyness, as well as to children on following the law, the value of quietness in school, and appreciating our parents. They also provided education on topics such as the connection between attitudes and health, what kind of people live in America, how to keep a job, supervising women workers, the nature of capitalism, and the plantation System in Southern life. Inside is an annotated collection of all 86 of the complete Coronet films in the Prelinger Archives as well as a few more. Its not like you had work to do or anything right? [more inside]
posted by Blasdelb on Nov 1, 2012 - 41 comments

Take that, Caitlin Flanagan

Focusing on career -- how hookup culture empowers women
posted by msalt on Sep 9, 2012 - 51 comments

Excuse me, what time is it? I want to be able to remember the exact moment I posted this.

How to pick a successful pickup line (in two graphs)
posted by Brandon Blatcher on Aug 17, 2012 - 81 comments

The Score on Scoring

There is a dating guide for Stanford University (PDF file), and it includes a foreword by Philip Zimbardo.
posted by reenum on Jun 24, 2012 - 42 comments

Jon Hamm says, Slow Your Roll

Are you a teen girl tired of looking for advice in fluffy magazines? Perhaps you should Ask A Grown Man! Watch Jon Hamm, Paul Rudd, Hannibal Buress, and other gents dole out advice on love, sex, and who farts (spoiler alert: everyone).
posted by ThePinkSuperhero on May 9, 2012 - 53 comments

The Sugar Daddy Recession

The bad economy has forced some women into arrangements with less than ideal men.
posted by reenum on Mar 13, 2012 - 54 comments

Is online dating destroying love?

Is online dating destroying love? We are doomed, perhaps, to be unsatisfied creatures, whose desires are fulfilled only momentarily before we go on the hunt for new objects to scratch new itches. Which suggests that online dating sites will be filling us with hopes – and disappointments – for a good while yet. [more inside]
posted by modernnomad on Feb 7, 2012 - 124 comments

On a Wingman and a Prayer

Busy people in need of a boost in the bars are now relying on professional wingpersons.
posted by reenum on Jan 11, 2012 - 77 comments

F**k Statistics

Statistical analysis of OKCupid profiles exposes some sexually fascinating revelations:

- Herbivores like giving oral more than omnivores
- Twitter users are more likely to masturbate today
- Christians and Atheists are just as likely to claim they have never masturbated
- The correlation between men who prefer gentle sex & use of the word 'boating'

I f**king love statistics [more inside]
posted by 0bvious on Aug 31, 2011 - 75 comments

Hello, my name is Tara and I scream my own name during sex

From 1999 to 2003, the largely-female UK comedy trope Smack The Pony had a series of short skits based on video dating ads. Youtube user myLastTears has edited them together into a supercut: 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 [more inside]
posted by The Whelk on Aug 21, 2011 - 18 comments

Angry Jane Doe

Angry Jane Doe: "I have started to sleep around. I sleep with men I am not dating. I sleep with men and refuse to date them, actually. I come to their houses, fuck them, say thank you for a nice time, and don't let the door hit me on the ass on the way out. You might think this is a pretty good deal, but it is not. Because I fuck and tell. Because I'm pissed." (NSFW.) [more inside]
posted by velvet winter on Jul 27, 2011 - 339 comments

And the battle of the sexes continues...

Sex Is Cheap: Why young men have the upper hand in bed, even when they're failing in life. Remember this thread from last weekend? Here is another interesting take on the dynamics of modern heterosexual relationships.
posted by fernabelle on Feb 25, 2011 - 138 comments

You’ll be pleased to note, it also makes it easier for you to dust.

My Fault, I'm Female [more inside]
posted by lunasol on Jul 19, 2010 - 712 comments

We are a marriage preservation service

The Ashley Madison agency: Adultery business now open for gays! [more inside]
posted by Potomac Avenue on Nov 21, 2009 - 76 comments

Love in the Time of Darwinism

Kay S. Hymowitz strikes again. Previously, she wrote an article positing that "that too many single young males (SYMs) were lingering in a hormonal limbo between adolescence and adulthood, shunning marriage and children, and whiling away their leisure hours with South Park reruns, marathon sessions of World of Warcraft, and Maxim lists of the ten best movie fart scenes."
Now she has a new thesis: That angry, disenfranchised single young men use "Darwinist" philosophy to justify "resistance to settling down" and "unsentimental promiscuity". [via]
posted by shotgunbooty on Nov 17, 2008 - 164 comments

Republicans just can't get away from this stuff even if they wanted to

If you were asked to design the perfect weapon to exploit this vulnerability as it manifests itself in attractive, urban gay men, you’d want something that would intensify our isolation, exaggerate our propensity to objectify each other, and persuade us to objectify ourselves -- by encouraging us to believe that our purpose is to look good and have lots of sex. Manhunt would be your perfect weapon
"Has Manhunt Destroyed Gay Culture?". It's a great article, but what happened after its publication may be just as interesting. [more inside]
posted by Weebot on Aug 28, 2008 - 49 comments

The Serial Seducer

Meet Paul Janka. He has recently been featured (twice) on NBC's Today Show, as one of New York's finest lotharios. You can also read his 17-page dating manifesto (pdf). Since his television appearance, reaction has varied from highly negative to positive, with little middle ground. Could he represent a new paradigm for dating in a post-feminist world?
posted by smoothvirus on Dec 31, 2007 - 124 comments

It's quieter than you think on the Wellesley College Senate bus.

On average, college students are having a medium amount of sex.
posted by goodnewsfortheinsane on Sep 23, 2007 - 59 comments

Cooking, Seduction And National Cultures

The Food Of Love: Oh, forget about music already. What should you cook if you want to woo a lover? According to Lisa Hilton, it all depends on what nationality (s)he is and what country you're living in... P.S. Shame on The Observer for choosing the inflammatory but incidental title I've Never Had Good Sex With A Vegetarian!
posted by MiguelCardoso on May 15, 2004 - 23 comments

Secret Chick Language

Ever wonder what women are really talking about? Now's your chance to find out! Learn the secret woman-language of Láadan, and drive the ladies wild!
posted by majcher on Jul 30, 2003 - 28 comments

Hooking Up During War

The Bartender gives tips for those of you who are worried that the war will hinder your ability to "hook up with foreign hotties."
posted by Juicylicious on Mar 29, 2003 - 10 comments

How Are You Gentlemen?! You have no chance with the ladies. Make your time.

Attention Men: Woo your love tonight by transforming yourself into a 19th Century Gentleman. Oh, who says civility is dead? Although your Maxim may tell you how to bring your mate into ecstacy during takeoff in an airplane restroom, perhaps it's time that we all take a hint from this Gentlemen's Guide to really well-bred Ladies. Then, sweep her off her feet by learning to dance at An American Ballroom Companion's Dance Instruction Manuals, which features plenty of videos for you to study. Ladies, do you yearn for more old-school gentlemen in your life? Would you swoon? Because I need a date tonight.
posted by Stan Chin on Feb 14, 2003 - 11 comments

Dating is for dinosaurs, now it's Hooking Up

Hookup vs. Dating Seems that the 'hook up' is gaining popularity with girls (it's always been popular with boys) in high school and college these days. More and more women are looking to expend their sexual energy in a manner that they perceive to be safe and committment-free. Why didn't this happen when I was in high school?
posted by cpfeifer on Jan 19, 2003 - 159 comments

Hot Sex Tips And Sure-Fire Techniques For The Uncompromising Sexual Predator Of Today:

Hot Sex Tips And Sure-Fire Techniques For The Uncompromising Sexual Predator Of Today: An irresistible Flash-requiring entertainment for men and women alike, built around the eternal quest of how to turn on the opposite sex.[As in "The Rottweiller suddenly turned on its owner and savaged both his ankles", that is.]
posted by MiguelCardoso on Jun 28, 2002 - 14 comments

No more Mr. Nice Guy.

No more Mr. Nice Guy. Nice guys have believed a myth, this myth is the essence of what I call the Nice Guy Syndrome. The Nice Guy Syndrome represents a belief that if Nice Guys are good, they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life.
Are you a nice guy? Take the test, if you are, better hurry, there are still therapy groups available!
posted by patrickje on Jun 13, 2002 - 35 comments

I'm curious whether other mefi bloggers have the same luck with the opposite sex (or same sex, if that's your thing) as this man. Is it just me, or is Dobbs the luckiest blogger on the block?
posted by Badmichelle on Jun 10, 2002 - 16 comments

Doctor of love anthropologist Helen Fisher argues that romance, marriage and divorce follow predictable patterns as old as the species. The evidence is as near as your local bar. Objective observations about Love and what it means when her toes curl.
posted by stbalbach on Mar 15, 2002 - 8 comments

Non-Committal Makeout.
Ironic that BYU would be ground zero for non-committal sex.
posted by po on Oct 6, 2001 - 8 comments

Interested in taming your man?

Interested in taming your man? Upon first review of the advice given, I was guffawing, and thinking man what kind of milksop would this be effective on. After thinking some more about it, I started to wonder if I would be affected by it. I mean would my Pavlovian response to sex, in effect, allow my wife to train me, and would I mind?
posted by patrickje on Sep 28, 2001 - 11 comments

Where were these girls when I was in college

Where were these girls when I was in college I just graduated a year ago and I don't recall women just wanting to "hook up."
posted by aj100 on Jul 26, 2001 - 30 comments

Teenage myths about contraception

Teenage myths about contraception "Coke douches work and you can use crisp bags as condoms" and "Putting a watch around your penis before sex means the radioactivity of the dial kills off sperm."
Many more....
posted by nonharmful on Jul 17, 2001 - 31 comments

Come back, love!

Come back, love! 200+ signatures can't be wrong. My girlfriend just broke up with me, but I have yet to resort to petitions or grammatically poor high-school doggerel in an effort to repair our relationship.
posted by BoatMeme on Jul 6, 2001 - 22 comments

OK, so we all know the cliche about men being visual, and woman being narrative as it applies to the appreciation of web erotica. Is that true? As a male, I know what turns my crank, (I don't think my sharing that is important considering it's banality) but have no idea if the internet has grown as a sensual media by women for women. Nerve.com seems to have a balanced approach, but that's all I know. So I ask all the ladies in the MeFi house what intelligent stuff do you click to scratch that itch, if at all?
posted by machaus on Jun 21, 2001 - 26 comments

Naked photos website gives angry boyfriends revenge

Naked photos website gives angry boyfriends revenge
this is not exactly a new idea, but it makes you think twice about letting your significant other take pics of you in your birthday suit.
posted by bwg on Mar 26, 2001 - 3 comments

Justin's Relationship Resume

Justin's Relationship Resume is a very practical approach to surveying ones past, and is an interesting read. What level of relationship are you qualified for? [via dangerousmonkey.com]
posted by th3ph17 on Jan 15, 2001 - 4 comments

Valentines day is coming

Valentines day is coming and what better gift to get for the one you love than gourmet body paint...in passion fruit flavor no less (mmmm....passion fruit)
posted by dangerman on Jan 25, 2000 - 2 comments

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