The Emotional Costs of Fidelity
I recently came across Suburban Sex Blog
, the blog of a 30-something, married with children, sexually deprived male suburban dweller who posts about the frustrations of having a wife who just doesn't want sex. After reading this entry where his wife tells him to just "get over it
" after he confronts her about the complete lack of sexual contact between the two of them for months, I knew I'd found a blog that I'd be checking in on frequently. Guys blogging about their sex lives is nothing new you might think, but instead of filling their blogs with macho bragging about their conquests, there's a growing number of good blogs where
married guys are opening their hearts about the insecurities, depressions and fear that goes with trying hard to make a marriage work instead of giving into the temptation of cheating.
After going through some of these issues myself while my wife was going through a period of depression I know first hand how an emotionally distant wife can wreak havoc with everything from one's self-esteem, concentration and general mental well being. These blogs put things into a perspective that many men refuse to share, and many women never even suspect.
posted by DragonBoy
on Jun 11, 2004 -
The San Francisco Chronical has an observance
on the 10th anniversary of the death of Randy Shilts. His second book, And the Band Played On
opened my eyes to the AIDS epidemic, as I am sure it did to a lot of straight people. I was amazed to see him pilloried in the gay press as being a traitor to his "kind." My understanding is that this disfavor arose from his assertion that aspects of the hard-won sexual freedom enjoyed by many gay men were also killing them. Anyone want to weigh in on this?
posted by Danf
on Feb 17, 2004 -
: "The next time you walk into a gay public place, be prepared for a chorus calling you everything from a quisling and a betrayer to a selfish, fiendish, nasty example of a human being." Michelangelo Signorile's open letter to the VP's gay daughter.
posted by archimago
on Jan 27, 2004 -
Women are sexually aroused by women regardless of which gender they have sex with.
"Researchers measured the psychological and physiological sexual arousal in homosexual and heterosexual men and women as they watched erotic films. There were three types of erotic films: those featuring only men, those featuring only women and those featuring male and female couples. As with previous research, the researchers found that men responded consistent with their sexual orientations. In contrast, both homosexual and heterosexual women showed a bisexual pattern of psychological as well as genital arousal. That is, heterosexual women were just as sexually aroused by watching female stimuli as by watching male stimuli, even though they prefer having sex with men rather than women."
posted by NortonDC
on Jun 14, 2003 -
blogs were created by the "peers" of gay, lesbian, bi, and straight kids in Kentucky who have been struggling
for their right to a safe space.
They had a sponsor, Kaye King, who is an English teacher and a certified counselor. They did research and learned that there were 1,200 such clubs nationally. Tyler McClelland, a senior, says they just wanted a supportive group, where no one whispered "queer" behind their backs.
Bill O'Reilly has called the ACLU terrorists for taking on the case
, which is currently in federal court
posted by djacobs
on Feb 9, 2003 -
- the BBC reports on an american man who, at the age of 40, developed completely uncontrollable and ammoral sexual impulses after developing a tumor in the right lobe of the orbifrontal cortex. After the tumor was removed, he returned to normal. More inside...
posted by Irontom
on Oct 21, 2002 -
There is no more excuse not to know at least where to look for it, --with graphic topography and description
of the top entertainment spot, the famed G. Do you know how to find it?
posted by semmi
on Jul 5, 2002 -
M. is a girl living as a boy
and his school is helping to keep his secret. Is that just asking for trouble? And should a 13 year old be considered for gender-reassignment therapy or is this just an extreme case of tomboy-ism that s/he'll grow out of? [NYT mefi/mefi]
posted by mdn
on May 26, 2002 -
Harmful to Minors
In the introduction to her book
she writes that " 'Harmful to Minors' launches from two negatives: Sex is not ipso facto harmful to minors; and America's drive to protect kids from sex is protecting them from nothing. Instead, often it is harming them." Is she right, some think she is just evil.
posted by onegoodmove
on Apr 4, 2002 -
Was tonight's "Will and Grace"
a coming out episode for Rosie O'Donnel? Sure, it was her character that came out---(though, so was Ellen's)---but she seemed a little choked up when she said the line: "Jack, I'm gay." PlanetOut.com
discusses the matter and reports that Rosie will be coming out for real in her soon to be published Biography: "Find Me." Either way, though, whether it was just her character or Rosie speaking through the character, it was a prettty memorable TV moment.
posted by adrober
on Jan 31, 2002 -
Have a favorite vehicle?
Looking for a late night, post-office party romp, well keep an eye out for the Spanish or Italian gent in his Porsche Boxter, or the Chesire lady in her Volkswagen Beetle. Be sure to stay clear of stick shifts and men from Southeast England.
posted by Voyageman
on Dec 18, 2001 -
Have you ever wondered about your sexuality?
If you're like me, no. But, you might want to mosey over here and check on it anyway. Who knows what happened to it since the last time you looked?
This quiz attempts to guess your sexuality based on the answers you give to multiple choice questions. There's a AI program behind it that grows more intelligent as more people take the quiz.
posted by RustyBrooks
on Aug 29, 2001 -
An Orgy of Abstinence. "Questions plant ideas," warns Peter Brandt, director of issues-response for the conservative Christian group Focus on the Family.
Well we wouldn't want things like questions or ideas in our schools, now would we?
posted by MarkO
on Aug 1, 2001 -
Critics call Abercrombie & Fitch catalog soft porn.
I can't comment on the catalog itself, since I haven't seen it; I just had to laugh out loud though when I read this sentence: "Boycott organizers contend the company... is wooing younger customers and using sex to popularize its image." Oh, the horror! Also striking was A&F's spin on it, calling it " the Norman Rockwell of 2001." Clearly, a divide in perceptions.
Can anyone who has seen the offensive/inoffensive material in question explain why it is/isn't any different from the marketing practices of, oh, say, everyone else
posted by topolino
on Jun 22, 2001 -
Calling all Kaycee detectives
! The antithesis of all things Kaycee has been found. "Uninhibited, straightforward and nasty," Slutblog
is the journal of one woman's battle to overcome a debilitating nymphomania.
While waiting for updates on the Kaycee situation, does anyone care to out the creator of this trash?
posted by dogmatic
on May 21, 2001 -
How to become heterosexual.
Dr. Spitzer, "a Jewish, atheist, secular humanist" and psychiatrist, has found that it is possible to change sexual orientation.Question #1
Would it also be possible to make straight people gay?Question #2"...11 percent of men and 37 percent of women reported a complete absence of homosexual indicators"
Homosexual indicators? Such as ..........?
...... oh never mind.......
posted by nonharmful
on May 9, 2001 -
Were SF attorneys having sex with dogs?
Robert Noel and/or Marjorie Knoller own the dogs that killed Diane Whipple. Now a search warrent is released that looked in a Pelican Bay prison cell for "any materials or correspondence describing sexual acts by Noel or Knoller that involve dogs." It doesn't sink much lower than this.
posted by bjennings
on Mar 1, 2001 -
Boy Scouts: 1 Gay Memebers: 0
Court Says Boy Scouts Can Bar Gays, which is slightly troubling, in that a psuedo-national organization can make rules that go against government policy. I don't see how a scoutmaster being gay has anything to do with teaching kids how to tie knots and go camping though.
posted by mathowie
on Jun 28, 2000 -
The same-sex domestic partnerships bill
in Vermont has been approved
by the state's lawmakers. "The continued denial of these legal protections, benefits and responsibilities to a small but vulnerable class of Vermont's citizens diminishes their humanity, dignity, freedom and independence.
" It's about damn time, hopefully other states will soon follow suit. Oh, and if you have a problem with this, listen to this
and let me know why you continue to have problems with it.
posted by mathowie
on Apr 25, 2000 -