Eric Berry goes to the International Mr. Leather event
"Much like the leather community in general, IML is overwhelmingly represented by gay males. While leather fetishes are by no means exclusive to gay men, the amount of women I encountered at the event could more or less be counted on two hands, as compared to the thousands of men I saw.
But the more time that I spent at the event, the more I had to question whether or not the ratio of men to women I saw was truly representative of those within the leather community, or whether or not there was some sort of institutionalized segregation of women." EVERYTHING IS NSFW [more inside]
About the only place this book hasn't been is in my hands, open and upright, with my eyes pointed at it. But that's about to change. Because I'm going to read this book in 20-minute bursts over the next eight hours. Why 20-minute bursts? Because that's how long it takes for a batch of my mother's Slog-famous Christmas Snowball cookies to bake. I'm going to put a tray in the oven, read, swap trays out, read some more. And I think it's fair to say that by the end of the day today—after all my Christmas cookies are baked—I will have read more of this book than Sarah Palin wrote.
- Dan Savage reviews Good Tidings and Great Joy: Protecting the Heart of Christmas.
The 92 Street Y in New York has just launched an amazing online resource, 92Y On Demand
, with recordings from their massive catalog of some of the interviews and performances that have occurred there going back to 1949. Some of the many speakers include Kurt Vonnegut
, Chinua Achebe
, Sherman Alexie and Sapphire
, Dylan Thomas
, Maria Bamford
, Lou Reed
, Dan Savage
, Junot Díaz and Jamacica Kincaid
, Maurice Sendak
, Ruth Reichl with Ann Patchett, David Rakoff, and Leonard Lopate
, and Neil DeGrasse Tyson
Remember when Dan Savage started a campaign to convince LGBT teens that "it gets better"? It's a noble cause, but sadly there's still a huge subset of the population out there for whom it will only get worse...
In the wake of historic victories on marriage equality in Maryland, Maine, and Washington state, and the defeat of an anti-equality constitutional amendment in Minnesota, LGBTQ people are thanking their straight family and friends
for their contributions to the cause. [more inside]
The letter of the day
at the Savage Love blog tells a story of cruel abandonment, and provokes an outpouring of love in response.
Sucks To Be A Straight Guy.
Stepping away from the microphone, Jesse Thorn interviews Dan Savage, advice columnist of Savage Love.
This week Pat Robertson
(controversial as always) addressed an uncomfortable question. What are we obligated to do when our spouse becomes completely incapacitated? This is a relatively common situation for the elderly, one person declining faster than the other, but the same questions remain as with a couple in their thirties. Do you live with celibacy, divorce or commit infidelity? Dan Savage’s
rules on cheating include a pass for caregiver/spouses in this situation to preserve the marriage. Things can become more difficult when the sexual relationship does not end
after a partner becomes infirm.
has started a new campaign
(NSFW) to prod Rick Santorum
into avoiding attacks on gay people during his presidential campaign run. He has come up with a new definition for the name "Rick".
Rules of Misbehavior:
On Dan Savage, America's leading ethicist. (Via longform.org)
It gets better. Billy Lucas committed suicide
September 9th. Hate messages
have been left on his memorial page. Dan Savage was looking for a way to reach out to every gay kid in high school and tell them that they have something to live for, so he started another youtube channel
, encouraging submissions from those who have gotten through it. Dan has a well known sex advice column
, former evangelical missionary, and “Rent-a-meanie” the Twisted Monk: "I guess is some ways, I’m finally fulfilling the calling I had when I was a kid and being that evangelist, changing the world one bedroom at a time.
[most links contain no nudity but might be NSFW anyway] [more inside]
"The One is a lie. Every long term relationship is a myth, and myths are built of lies. What's beautiful about a long term relationship is that I pretend that my boyfriend is the lie I met, when I first met him, and he does the same favor to me. You become The One because someone is willing to pretend you are."
Dan Savage on The Price of Admission
[SLYT]. [more inside]
"I love reading your letters—I do.
But I couldn't get into it. I just don't have a column in me this week." A sweet, sad eulogy from columnist Dan Savage.
Tell, but don't ask.
Dick's lesbian daughter is pregnant. Mary Cheney and her partner Heather Poe are having a baby. But she'd rather not talk about it. The future grandparents think any mention of their daughter's sexual preference is out of line
. Dan Savage thinks otherwise.
Dan Savage intensifies his smear campaign against Sen. Rick Santorum. How far is too far? How low can he go? Here's some background
on the whole dirty, frothy affair. The Santorum-Savage feud was also previously discussed here
. (first link is NSFW)
Dan Savage is a man on a mission: he wants his coinage of "santorum"
to go all the way to the top of a Google search for "santorum"
, and he's calling on bloggers to help him do it
. The comments of Senator Santorum (R-Homophobia) on the Supreme Court's anti-sodomy case were previously discussed here
takes on the Rolling Stone "bug chasing"/HIV+ gay sex story in his column today, and lambastes one of his favorite sacred cows, Gay Men's Health Crisis
and other outreach groups that seem to have a lackadaisical attitude towards their clients' risky behavior. He's written
about this before
, in the case of Seth Watkins, an HIV+ sex education worker who admitted in the NYTimes he has unprotected casual sex at clubs. Does any of this coverage increase awareness of the still-plenty-big threat of HIV, or does it just make gay men look bad? Respectful discussion within...?
Dan Savage and sixty nine other (mostly) men want to know who looks best in their tighty whities
. [background info
Friends! The time for action is now. Will you let your voice be heard?
Savage Love's Kleenex Study.
The previous links reminded me of this gem from Dan Savage's past. Makes me want to switch to towels.
Dueling Covers in Seattle
The Dan Savage-edited Stranger strikes again, with a well exected parody
or The Seattle Weekly's "Best of Seattle
Writer Guilty of Voter Fraud
From his stunt during the primaries, Salon writer Dan Savage has plead guilty to a misdemeanor charge of voter fraud to avoid trial on a felony charge.
It looks like Dan Savage is in a bit of trouble
for that stunt he pulled and wrote about for salon
. He volunteered for Gary Bauer's campaign in Iowa before their caucuses and attmpted to infect the candidate and his staff with the flu he was suffering from. Now he may be charged with voter fraud and assault. Also see salon's reader's reactions. So was Dan just kidding in the article or did he really lick doorknobs? Think he's going to get in serious trouble?