Claire Meyer and Alan Linic
, a twentysomething couple in Chicago, have been keeping a public record of every fight they have fought
since August of 2013.
Blake Jamieson used his marketing background to game Tinder's system.
Right now, though, you can google “polyamory” and get a whole lot of nearly-identical polynormative hype articles, and you can meet up with locals who’ve read the same articles you just did, and you can all get together and do polynormative poly exactly the way the media told you to. And if that’s all you ever bother to do then essentially you are selling yourself short. You are trading in the monogamous norm for polynormativity, which relatively speaking isn’t all that much of a stretch, and stopping there because you may very well think that’s all there is (and you already racked up a whole bunch of cool points anyway). You aren’t encouraged to really think about this stuff without any imposed models at all, which means you never get to figure out what actually might work best for you. As such, the most fundamental element of polyamory—that of rejecting the monogamous standard, and radically rethinking how you understand, make meaning of and practice love, sex, relationships, commitment, communication, and so forth—is lost in favour of a cookie-cutter model that’s as easy as one, two, three. The deepest and most significant benefit of polyamory has become increasingly obscured by media representation, and as a result, is getting farther and farther out of reach for anyone who’s just starting out. the problem with polynormativity
, at Sex Geek
From 1999 to 2003, the largely-female UK comedy trope Smack The Pony
had a series of short skits based on video dating ads. Youtube user myLastTears
has edited them together into a supercut: 1
- 4 [more inside]
Angry Jane Doe:
"I have started to sleep around. I sleep with men I am not dating. I sleep with men and refuse to date them, actually. I come to their houses, fuck them, say thank you for a nice time, and don't let the door hit me on the ass on the way out. You might think this is a pretty good deal, but it is not. Because I fuck and tell. Because I'm pissed." (NSFW.) [more inside]
Want to Be My Boyfriend? Please Define
is the winner of a 2008 New York Times essay competition asking college students to write about what love is like for them. The competition runs again
Sex Is Cheap: Why young men have the upper hand in bed, even when they're failing in life.
Remember this thread
from last weekend? Here is another interesting take on the dynamics of modern heterosexual relationships.
: "Normally you wouldn't think an arsonist would be good at sex. Boy was I ever wrong!" [slightly NSFW]
Why I'm Alone
: "People ask me why I'm still alone, and why I don't seek to date much, eight years after my husband died. I thought about it the other day, and came up with a few of the reasons."
do we click
? any questions? ask mary
. [possibly NSFW]
We think we know what we want, but sometimes we're totally wrong
. A woman spends a year dating anyone who asks her out, and finds The One. On the way, she dates a homeless man, 10 taxi drivers, two lesbians and a mime. How much do we really know about what we want until we find it?
You can be a better boyfriend.
Helpful though sometimes unfriendly tips like "put on pants sometimes," "make sure you don't smell,
" and "don't touch girls who aren't your girlfriend.
" Via cior
Mathematical proof Mathematical proof that it is impossible to find a girlfriend.
"Without going into the specifics of precisely which traits I admire, I will say that for a girl to be considered really beautiful to me, she should fall at least two standard deviations above the norm." -pdf here- via
What's wrong with dating? everything.
And those two hellbound teens look so happy, too.
Are you tired of being alone and your friends and family thinking that you are gay or just can't get a girlfriend. If so, then I am the woman you are looking for.
, and me
too. And then there's the nun
Why Are Love And Lust Always Talked About As Opposites?
Even a much-respected philosopher like Simon Blackburn
makes this essentially epistemological mistake. The horrific modern expression "in lust" is a further example. How can you lust after someone without loving them a little (or a lot) too? Or vice-(and the word vice
is well applied)-versa? [More inside.
Who wants to marry a Kucinich?
"I think we're in a day in age when partnerships are imperative to making anything happening in the world. And I certainly want a dynamic, out-spoken woman who was fearless in her desire for peace in the world and for universal single-payer health care and a full employment economy. If you are out there call me." -- Dennis Kucinich, Nov 5, 2003
brings you the first electronic device that allows gay men and women to meet safe and discreetly!" Guess the inventor's never heard of the Internet. Oh, yeah, this gaydar? It vibrates
. Links are safe, but standard pop-up warnings apply.
Ever wonder what women are really talking about?
Now's your chance to find out
! Learn the secret woman-language of Láadan
, and drive the ladies wild!
When she sees the SIZE of your bank balance, she'll be digging YOUR "gold" in no time!
Today's Independent on Sunday
newspaper carried the story of these fake ATM receipts showing a balance of $314,159.26
"After you write your number on this receipt (conveniently folded in your wallet), hand it to the member of opposite sex and watch how fast they call you!"
Tragically, they look nothing like UK ATM receipts, but it had me wondering - what's the lowest-down dirtiest line/ trick you (sorry: I mean, a friend of yours
) ever pulled in an attempt to impress a member of the desired sex?
Meet Judd Arthur
and Kristen Claire
, two attractive singles with eerily similar design sensibilities who just need a date. Maybe their sites are so similar because this past February, Judd
apparently contracted their mutual friend Chris to register domains for them(in his name, for some reason) and he farmed designing it out to someone he knows in the design group at his job
. To get the word out about their datelessness, flyers are being posted on bulleting boards in public places. Have you
seen Judd or Kristen, and where? I'm curious how much they get around. I'm in Chicago.
Attention Men: Woo your love tonight by transforming yourself into a 19th Century Gentleman.
Oh, who says civility is dead? Although your Maxim may tell you how to bring your mate into ecstacy during takeoff in an airplane restroom, perhaps it's time that we all take a hint from this Gentlemen's Guide to really well-bred Ladies
. Then, sweep her off her feet by learning to dance at An American Ballroom Companion's Dance Instruction Manuals
, which features plenty of videos
for you to study. Ladies, do you yearn for more old-school gentlemen in your life? Would you swoon? Because I need a date tonight.
Hookup vs. Dating
Seems that the 'hook up' is gaining popularity with girls (it's always been popular with boys) in high school and college these days. More and more women are looking to expend their sexual energy in a manner that they perceive to be safe and committment-free. Why didn't this happen when I
was in high school?
What's Joe's Big Secret?
The FOX network has quietly finished production on "Joe Millionaire," a seven-episode series that combines elements of Fox's "Who Wants to Marry a Multi-Millionaire?" with ABC's "The Bachelor."
I won't spoil the "secret" for anyone who cares but isn't someone's financial status a valid factor when forming a relationship. If you lie to someone the entire time during a relationship doesn't that effect your perceptions and feelings towards the person who lied to you?
Hot Sex Tips And Sure-Fire Techniques For The Uncompromising Sexual Predator Of Today:
An irresistible Flash-requiring entertainment for men and women alike, built around the eternal quest of how to turn on the opposite sex.[As in "The Rottweiller suddenly turned on its owner and savaged both his ankles", that is.
No more Mr. Nice Guy. Nice guys have believed a myth, this myth is the essence of what I call the Nice Guy Syndrome. The Nice Guy Syndrome represents a belief that if Nice Guys are good, they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life.
Are you a nice guy? Take the test
, if you are, better hurry, there are still therapy groups
City as Loser?
Iron City was ranked last out of 40 cities in this year's "Best Cities for Singles" in Forbes magazine. Not that Forbes is the ultimate arbiter of the single life (don't they specialize in male readers over 35 with money?), but your best defense of Pittsburgh or your own medium- or small-sized town would be appreciated.
I'm curious whether other mefi bloggers have the same luck with the opposite sex
(or same sex, if that's your thing) as this man
. Is it just me, or is Dobbs
the luckiest blogger on the block?
How to Flirt.
"Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction." What social science can tell you about flirting and how to do it.
Won't Commit, Can't Commit Or Just Doesn't Know How?
Are single men of a certain age better off alone...or just losers? The Observer's Nick Compton
does a good job of presenting the contemporary evidence for both cases.[N.B. Forget, for the moment, women face the same dilemma...
"There should be a law about these people
with web diaries or they should all wear identifying clothing or something, so that innocent bystanders who don't need some perverse kind of public fame can know to steer clear." Or, using Google to flush out potential dating disasters.
The Deacon Effect. "Two ladies will be tested. The two ladies chosen were "Sarah" and "Katie". Katie is the typical nice girl, on one hand she will probably put up with a ton of shit, on the other she probably has idealistic image of how men are supposed to act, think: Gentlemen. Sarah is your typical raving bitch, she won't put up with any sh*t, on the other hand her image of men is less idealistic and more "bad boy", think: Biker Trash. Both ladies will experience "Sabastian the ass..."
Two ladies. One man. Does being a jerk actually get you chicks, or does nice guys finish last? Sabastian finds out, in the name of science.
Breakup businesses in Japan
I wouldn't be surprised is this became a television show in Japan. Best line: "Men can always be seduced if the woman operative is reasonably good-looking," says Hiwatashi. "That's an absolute. Men are basically simpletons."
Ironic that BYU would be ground zero for non-committal sex.
Interested in taming your man?
Upon first review of the advice given, I was guffawing, and thinking man what kind of milksop
would this be effective on. After thinking some more about it, I started to wonder if I would be affected by it. I mean would my Pavlovian response to sex, in effect, allow my wife to train me, and would I mind?
She didn't feel the same way, and that was that.
Crush.nu has formally ceased publishing stories. Jack
mentions the possibility of a book (for which you are able to send submissions right now), but the project as it was on the web is no more than its archives. I know it hasn't been updated in quite a while, but I'm going to miss it terribly all the same. What will you miss most about it?
Where were these girls when I was in college
I just graduated a year ago and I don't recall women just wanting to "hook up."
Husband's internet date turns out to be his wife
now i ask you, what are the odds? sooner or later something like this had to happen...
Teenage myths about contraception
"Coke douches work and you can use crisp bags as condoms" and "Putting a watch around your penis before sex means the radioactivity of the dial kills off sperm."
Come back, love!
200+ signatures can't be wrong. My girlfriend just broke up
with me, but I have yet to resort to petitions or grammatically poor high-school doggerel
in an effort to repair our relationship.