Sarah’s abuser gained access to every password she had. He monitored her bank accounts and used her phone to track her location and read her conversations. She endured four years of regular physical and emotional trauma enabled by meticulous digital surveillance and the existing support services, from shelters to police, were almost powerless to help her. “We wish we could just stop the clock because we need to catch up,” said Risa Mednick, director of the Cambridge domestic violence prevention organization Transition House. To fight back, Transition House and others turn to the same methods used by intelligence agencies in order to keep their clients safe.
posted by ChuraChura
on May 9, 2014 -
It Will Look Like A Sunset
Before our son turned two, we moved to Caleb’s home state of West Virginia. He wanted to be closer to his family. There would be more opportunity for work there. His parents owned a rental house that they would sell to us. There were many compelling reasons for the move, but once there, he was the only friend I had. The loneliness was inescapable. This was common, I told myself. My parents had been married for over thirty years, and I don’t remember my father ever having a close friend. I told myself that he was enough for me.
When the older policeman saw the swelling, the black and blue, and the toes like little sausage links, his expression turned to dismay. “That’s bad. That looks broken,” he said. “Ma’am, does your husband have a phone number we can reach him at? We need him to come back.”
posted by the man of twists and turns
on Apr 7, 2014 -
The first postcard on today's Postsecret is disturbing. (TW: murder, abuse)
The text reads "I told everyone that she dumped me, but I dumped her (body)", along with a picture taken from Google Maps. It was determined that the location was likely Wooded Island in Chicago, IL. A search was made, though nothing was found
. However, as a commenter on Dianna E. Anderson's blog posting about this
points out, the postmark reads 2008
Frank Warren, founder of PostSecret has said he didn't go to the police, and instead sees this as a free-speech issue. [more inside]
posted by Rev. Syung Myung Me
on Sep 1, 2013 -
"In reality, it's surprisingly hard to stop someone who really wants to murder you, especially if he has easy access to a gun. Restraining orders don't create a magic force field around the victim. Shelters help, but they are underfunded and depend on the victim giving up substantial rights to hold a job (which gives the abuser the ability to find you), have a social life, or even speak to family members," writes Amanda Marcotte
, before summarising a Domestic Violence High Risk Team model
of monitoring and escalating controls on the abuser, not the abused. Plus, the approach appears to be making a difference
. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel
on Jul 15, 2013 -
Nicole Ryan, a Nova Scotia teacher, offered a hit man $25,000 to bump off her husband because the police would not protect her from his abuse
(longer, audio only
). In her first 2010
trial, where she raised the defense of duress, she was aquitted; the Crown's 2011
appeal of that acquittal was dismissed, and her third 2013
trial resulted in a stay. But the victim didn't go on the stand to tell his side of the story. [more inside]
posted by saucysault
on Jan 22, 2013 -
When her boyfriend tried to kill the woman with a hammer, her fearless Great Dane jumped in the way
, laying over her body and taking most of the blows until the man threw both of them out of a second story window. The dog suffered multiple broken bones in the attack, sparing his owner’s life in the process. [more inside]
posted by Lou Stuells
on Jun 12, 2012 -
Between 40 and 50 percent of female homicide victims are killed by their husbands, boyfriends, and exes. And, for about half of these victims, police had been alerted to previous incidents of abuse. There is, however, one exception to this grim trend: Maryland. Since 2007, domestic violence homicides in the state have fallen by a stunning 40 percent. What is Maryland doing that other states are not? The answer appears to lie with a former high school nurse, an ex-Washington, D.C., police lieutenant, and their ground-breaking efforts to protect the most vulnerable victims of abuse.
is an article by Tim Stelloh about new method to identify and protect abused women, developed by a group of law enforcement officers and academics (Note: The article features graphic descriptions of domestic violence and murder). The article focuses especially on the work of Prof. Jacquelyn Campbell. You can watch an interview with her here
posted by Kattullus
on Apr 24, 2012 -
Rihanna's 'Birthday Cake': Reasons to listen (Ann Powers, NPR)
"I'm choosing to do something else, though — to wrestle with the material at hand. As a music critic and, on a personal level, as someone who's long considered pop to be a crucial avenue for understanding the intricacies of the human heart and soul, I'm committed to engaging with the music that makes us sit up and take notice. I'm willing to try, even if those songs expose or even encourage aspects of behaviors that aren't so savory. I don't think "Turn Up the Music" tells us much; "Birthday Cake" is a different matter. So I'll continue trying to grasp what's happening in a song that makes many — but not all — of us want to turn away."
all round.) [more inside]
posted by carbide
on Feb 22, 2012 -
On Tuesday, July 28
, Arnold Schwarzenegger eliminated 100% of California domestic violence shelters' state funding. Ninety-four shelters
will be affected, and the cut may lead to domestic violence victims being turned away because of a decrease in the number of staff available, a cut in programs, or shelter closure
asks California residents to contact Schwarzenegger and their state legislators and request that the funding be reinstated.
posted by Four-Eyed Girl
on Aug 1, 2009 -
Men Can Stop Rape
is part of a growing movement to stop rape, sexual assault, and sexual violence by focusing on educating men
. There are efforts to change the climate
on college campuses and curriculum
, Kansas State
, Idaho State
, University of Wisconsin
, University of Texas
, University of Minnesota
, University of Maine
, Portland State
, University of Rochester
, University of Delaware
, Franklin and Marshall
, and Colorado State
, to name a few. Want to start your own? Here's how
Not in college? There's [more inside]
posted by lunit
on Nov 11, 2008 -
Disclosing victim status
could mean being denied that housing is even available. Women strong enough to flee their homes and their abusive situations were more likely to be denied housing outright, something that did not happen to people not disclosing.
posted by jacobw
on Apr 24, 2008 -
Women Rockin' 4 Women 2002 Festival.
THIS IS BIG. Over twenty talented women. Eight female fronted bands. Nine solo female artists. Third annual event. Two sound stages. One venue. One night. Benefitting shelters for victims of domestic violence. More estrogen in one place than you can shake a stick at. You're not busy on September 28th, are ya? Granted, it might be a bit of a commute for some, but... Heaven's gonna touch Earth.
posted by ZachsMind
on Aug 30, 2002 -
Yet another case of zero intelligence.
Two days after Tiffani Ann Alvera notified her public housing resident manager that she had obtained a restraining order against her husband for domestic violence, she received a notice to vacate the apartment within 24 hours. The notice said, "You, someone in your control, or your pet, has seriously threatened immediately to inflict personal injury, or has inflicted substantial personal injury upon the landlord or other tenants," and specified her husband's assault.
posted by jameschandler
on Jul 11, 2001 -