"I often think about my long-ago friend, and I wonder what happened to her,"
wrote children's author Eric Carle in his book "Friends"
, published last year, inspired by his friendship, as a 3-year-old, with a young girl growing up in Syracuse, New York. He did not know her name, just that that she was the daughter of Italian immigrants. Last Sunday, over 80 years after he last saw her, he and his long-lost friend, Florence Ciani Trovato, reconnected.
Until this point,
your friendships happened through a vague combination of forced institutional socializing, classes, sports and booze. None of your friends can remember exactly how they became friends with each other. But now you are an adult, and now that friend-making is a conscious act, you realize you don’t know how to do it.
traces the evolution of friendship from classical times to the modern Internet age. By William Deresiewicz
, literary critic and former associate professor of English at Yale. (Warning: long.)
Virtual Friendship and the New Narcissism
. Examining the social rules and norms, as well as the pitfalls, of electronic "friending" (yes, it's a verb now - or is it a gerund?)