Why I Stay Closeted In Asia (SLBF)
I denied it, as my father and sister begged me to.
posted by yeoz
on Oct 9, 2013 -
I couldn't exaggerate to you how much my mother's face lit up, or how much I wanted, for a shameful second, for my lie to be true. I began to tell her a story, got into the groove, told it with what could be called pizzazz, or maybe just mercy. A monthlong fling with a Korean girl became a year ("I liked her; she had a cocaine problem"). Immediately she laughed with relief.
"I wouldn't know how to deal if you were, you know, that" she said.
Professional wrestling's relationship with homosexuality and non-heteronormative presentation has long been downright hostile: from Gorgeous George
in the 1950s, to "Pretty Boy" Pat Patterson
in the 1970s, "Adorable" Adrian Adonis
in the 1980s, Golddust
in the 1990s, the infamous Billy and Chuck
in the 2000s, and even Orlando Jordan
in the 2010s, wrestlers who present as effeminate or who "might be gay" have always been portrayed as heels
, drawing boos from the crowd. Perhaps unsurprisingly, the suggestion of female homosexuality
has been called upon only to titillate.
And although former performers like Patterson
and the late Chris Kanyon
publicly acknowledged their homosexuality after their active careers had ended, and though the WWE recently hired openly-gay
retired professional golfer Jane Geddes as VP of Talent Relations
, there hasn't been an active, out WWE Superstar until now, when Darren Young, asked if he thought there was a place for a gay wrestler, told TMZ
that he's "gay ... and happy."
posted by uncleozzy
on Aug 15, 2013 -
How Ellen DeGeneres Helped Change The Conversation About Gays
"Ellen DeGeneres is ... almost a litmus test of where we have been as a society," [Dietram Scheufele, a communications professor at the University of Wisconsin] says. "When she first came out and really put the issue of same-sex partnerships on people's agendas, and I mean people who really wouldn't have thought about it, I think the country was still in a very different state."
From her first stand-up performance on national TV in the US
in 1986, the same year that the Supreme Court ruled that states have right to enforce code of sexual behavior
, to 2008, when Ellen married Portia de Rossi
, after California's Supreme Court ruled a previous ban on gay marriage to be unconstitutional, Ellen's public life has mirrored the broader shift towards accepting homosexuality. [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief
on Mar 26, 2013 -
25 YEAR OLD RECENTLY OUT ARTIST CHRONICLING HIS ADVENTURES INTO THE WORLD OF GAY. Just a regular guy who happens to like other guys. Currently living in NYC. Work in animation, write and draw for a living. Hopeless romantic. Things I like: cartoons, writing, drawing, uke, piano, basketball, pokemon.
He's dorky, awkward, and struggling with a bit of the ol' internalized homophobia, but I think he's going to be OK
posted by Nomyte
on Mar 24, 2013 -
describes some of the legal restrictions of "civil partnerships", why she should never be allowed to get married, and why she loves her wife. A 30 minute podcast from BBC Radio 4
posted by Stark
on Feb 20, 2013 -
At last night's Golden Globe Awards, actress Jodie Foster
was presented with the Cecil B. DeMille Lifetime Achievement award. During her speech
, the notoriously private actress touched on the very notion of privacy, her sexuality, and the difficulty of being a public person with a normal life.
Reactions have been mixed. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie
on Jan 14, 2013 -
"Look, goddamn it, I’m homosexual, and most of my friends are Jewish homosexuals, and some of my best friends are black homosexuals, and I am sick and tired of reading and hearing such goddamn demeaning, degrading bullshit about me and my friends." - Merle Miller.
In 1970, two years after Stonewall, Joseph Epstein
wrote a cover story for Harper’s Magazine, Homo/hetero: The struggle for sexual identity
, that came to chilling conclusions: "I would wish homosexuality off the face of this earth." His incendiary language prompted author/journalist/writer Merle Miller to come out of the closet in the New York Times Magazine, with an angry and poignant plea for dignity, understanding and respect: "What It Means to Be a Homosexual." 40 years later, that essay helped inspire the launch of the "It Gets Better" campaign. Via [more inside]
posted by zarq
on Oct 17, 2012 -
Well, here goes. I really resent the term, but I use it because it’s recognized and accepted.
From some seventy years of personal experience, I can tell you that there’s not much “gay” about being homosexual. For the first twenty years of my life, I had to live in the shadows, in a culture that was — at least outwardly — totally hostile to any hint of that variation of life-style.
), at age 81, has come out. He discusses the announcement in more detail on the JREF
podcast For Good Reason
posted by Horace Rumpole
on Mar 21, 2010 -
is the first Welshman to have played in 100 rugby union test matches for his country. He also played in three tests for the British and Irish Lions on their tour of New Zealand in 2005, captaining the side in two of those matches. The 6'3", 226 lbs. utility back now plays for the Cardiff Blues. At one point, the Welsh rugby legend held the try-scoring record for Wales. In today's Daily Mail, Thomas revealed he is gay
. [more inside]
posted by jleisek
on Dec 19, 2009 -
Jamiel Terry, the gay son of charismatic anti-gay activist and Operation Rescue founder Randall Terry, wrote an article
for Out magazine about growing up in a fundamentalist household. Randall Terry responded
to his son's article. Interviews with Randall
about the exchange.
posted by Falconetti
on Nov 17, 2006 -
Boston Herald sports reporter outs himself
in print and asks why people in the world of sports still have to hide. Frankly, I'm out because I can't come up with a single logical reason why I should have denied myself the right to live and work as openly and freely as everyone else. Nor should anyone find a reason why an openly gay athlete should be denied the right to play a team sport without fear of becoming a target of prejudice or physical harm.
for more info on the subject, and an interesting pro and con
on whether gay baseball players should come out.
posted by amberglow
on Sep 30, 2003 -
There is a conspiracy theory that has been making the rounds on the net for quite
some time now. In it, the actor Elijah Wood (Frodo)
and Dominic Monaghan (Merry)
are a gay couple that have been together since the filming of The Lord of the Rings.
And they want to come out...but contracts and a whole lot of money at stake are keeping
them in. So what do they do? Start testing the waters by infiltrating a gay gossip site
called Data Lounge
. Test the waters. Get media attention brought to them so they can out
themselves as smoothly as possible and not get in trouble. Going on for some time now,
the saga is up to thread 14
and shows no sign of slowing down. There are cryptic posts,
shoutouts through clothing, PR beardings
, sheep, photographs
, insiders and trolls. And
the strangest thing of all is that some of the proof is strangely compelling. Examples of all this
and the "proofs" can be found here.
So after looking at many of the "facts", do you think it possible that two young actors might be
trying to test the waters to come out in a novel fashion? And more importantly this all raises
the question; do you think mainstream America (and the world in general) is ready to accept
young openly gay men in cinema as leading men? Or is it career suicide?
posted by Windigo
on Feb 4, 2003 -
Here's an 'update'
on the gay highschool football capitan that decided to come out of the closet and was warmly accepted, blah blah blah. I was reading this and I realized that I have absolutely *no* idea how my friends would react if I, or anyone else, 'came out'. Although I knew a few gays while I was growing up in the states, I do not know a single gay person in Poland. It made me think...
posted by jedrek
on Apr 27, 2000 -