"My name is David C and I am the biggest idiot on this planet! Every girl I've ever met has done nothing except want me for what I had to offer them, the amount of cash I could throw their way and not for the person I was. One day that all changed when I meet a lady called Quonah..." Should she call him?
posted by feelinglistless
on Sep 3, 2006 -
Drama is impossible today. I don't know of any. Drama used to be the belief in guilt, and in a higher order. This absolutely cruel didactic is impossible, unacceptable for us moderns. But melodrama has kept it. You are caged. In melodrama you have human, earthly prisons rather than godly creations. Every Greek tragedy ends with the chorus — "those are strange happenings. Those are the ways of the gods". And so it always is in melodrama.
His career as a film director lasted more than 40 years, but Douglas Sirk (1900-1987)
is remembered for the melodramas he made for Universal in Hollywood between 1954 and 1959, his "divine wallow
": Magnificent Obsession (1954)
, All That Heaven Allows (1955)
, Written on the Wind (1956)
, The Tarnished Angels (1958, William Faulkner considered it the best screen adaptation of one of his novels)
, Imitation of Life (1959)
-- all considered for decades little more than a camp oddity
. Now audiences are beginning to look deeper at the films of Douglas Sirk, at how, in megafan Todd Haynes' words, they are "almost spookily accurate about the emotional truths
". Now, lucky Chicagoans can enjoy "Douglas Sirk at Universal", matinees at the Music Box
. More inside.
posted by matteo
on Apr 29, 2006 -
is looking for love, specifically someone who shares his love of chowder and his desire to wait out the apocalypse in a bunker. He sings,
and he's one of the world's top five camouflagists.
posted by cilantro
on Mar 8, 2006 -
Celebrate March 20th
Women have a special day set aside: Valentine's Day. Now a new holiday being promulgated for Men to show love and devotion from their significant others.
posted by Postroad
on Mar 5, 2006 -
Escape to Romance
Here's a blogmeister that runs a romantic Powerball and offers the following:
"Romantic_atlanta_2 Are you a member of the Mile High Club? Would you like a free membership? Here is your chance to make your fantasy a reality with the amorous, single webmaster of Grow-a-Brain and the southern hospitality of the folks at Mile High Atlanta."
Do you qualify?
posted by Postroad
on Feb 20, 2006 -
That thing called love.
"National Geographic Photographer Jodi Cobb scoured the globe to document how people define love and how it fits into their lives." Some great photos and interesting commentary.
posted by CunningLinguist
on Feb 17, 2006 -
"Alternately, you might spend time with people who should have got divorced, but didn't, opting instead for a lifetime of bickering and dissatisfaction. Call up Mom and Dad and invite yourself over for dinner. Understand once and for all why marriage has always seemed a fate worse than death to you."
posted by rehpotsirhc
on Feb 14, 2006 -
A wise Mefite once said "I cannot fathom the stress of multiple spouses
," and I'm sure it only gets more
stressful if your loved ones don't know about each other. As Valentines Day approaches, let us take a moment to ponder the difficulties
that two-timing scumbags of either gender will have trying to please everyone at once, on this holiday that was created by a greeting card company, yet ultimately benefits private detectives more than any other holiday of the year.
posted by jonson
on Feb 11, 2006 -
For all the hoo-ha about Callas first bringing real acting to the operatic stage, one has only to view the footage of Risë Stevens legendary 1952 “Carmen” to see what kind of Method she brought to the Met. Stevens was the definitive gypsy wanton, and her performance has it all— fire, ice, and that impossible balance between elegance and sluttiness. Her technique is superb—licking her fingers before extinguishing the candles in what will be her death chamber, then flicking off the wax; flinging her unwanted lover’s ring at him, spitting out a contemptuous
The Metropolitan Opera Guild honors
the Bronx-born singer
, now 92. More inside.
posted by matteo
on Feb 9, 2006 -
US Army Teaches Troops How to Pick a Spouse
"Army chaplains are trying to teach troops how to pick the right spouse, through a program called "How To Avoid Marrying a Jerk. ... It teaches the lovestruck to pace themselves with a R.A.M. chart — the Relationship Attachment Model — which basically says don't let your sexual involvement exceed your level of commitment or level of knowledge about the other person."
I can't decide if this is common sense or takes all the fun out of love. If, indeed, there is any fun in it. Details on the programme can also be found at www.nojerks.com
posted by badlydubbedboy
on Feb 7, 2006 -
The just ordering of society and the State is a central responsibility of politics. As Augustine once said, a State which is not governed according to justice would be just a bunch of thieves: “Remota itaque iustitia quid sunt regna nisi magna latrocinia?”.
Eros and Agape, Justice, Charity, Marxism, and the separation of Church and State in Pope Benedictus XVI's first encyclical letter
, Deus Caritas Est
posted by matteo
on Jan 25, 2006 -
Did the blue dress ever exist?
Regina Louise had a miserable childhood, shuttled from foster home to foster home, at best ignored at best and at worst abused. There was only one happy memory from her childhood: the time she spent with the sole foster mother to ever show her love. But that woman had vanished from Louise's life years ago, and it seemed unlikely they'd ever meet again... (Warning: this newspaper article may make you cry.)
posted by yankeefog
on Dec 31, 2005 -
(Train Man) is the true story of a japanese otaku
who finds love. After saving a beautiful woman on a train from the unwanted attentions of a drunken groper, an anonymous poster writes about the incident on the the Japanese mega messageboard 2ch
. With the encouragement of his fellow internet geeks, he pursues her romantically and posts every detail to 2ch. Japanese media has been obsessed with the story all year, and the original postings
were adapted into a best selling book
, a major motion picture
, an enormously popular TV show
, and even a stage play
. Of course, it may not be real
posted by JZig
on Dec 11, 2005 -
"... we are sweeping everything under the carpet, but the oddness is cropping up all over the place. And then, the carpet starts to move…".
, "le manipulateur" who introduced his latest film, Caché
, at Cannes with a half-amused “I wish you a disturbing evening
”, is the proponent of a "cinema of disturbance
". A cinema of loving self-mutilation
, where time is non-linear
and everything happens in long take shots
; in Haneke's world, guilt destroys lives decades after the original sin
. All his male characters are "Georges" and his female characters are either "Evas" or "Annas", "because I lack fantasy
". Unsurprisingly, he is a Bresson and Tarkovsky fan
. He'll direct "Don Giovanni" at the Paris Opera in early 2006
: "In 20 years of working in the theater, I only staged one comedy, and that was my single failure".
posted by matteo
on Nov 18, 2005 -
Forget love letters, it's love texts
that are all the rage now! "I turned off the phone, dumbfounded. How had we managed to speed through all the stages of an actual relationship almost solely via text message? I'd gone from butterflies to doubt to anger at his name on the screen, before we even knew each other. That was it, I decided: no more text-message flirtations for me. From now on I'd stick to more old-fashioned ways of getting to know a guy. Like e-mail."
posted by JPowers
on Jul 24, 2005 -
has been dead
for a few days
. He was not mentioned here and I somehow missed all this. He was a player in the music biz in his day and kinda looks like me if I stopped trimming my beard for a week or two. RIP.
posted by arse_hat
on Jul 8, 2005 -
The Art of Loving.
What is the problem with modern man? In 1956, psychologist Erich Fromm questioned Western society's ability to foster love: "If we speak about love in contemporary Western culture, we mean to ask whether the social structure of Western civilization and the spirit resulting from it are conductive to the development of love. To raise the question is to answer it in the negative."
Almost 50 years later, what can we say about our culture now? Valentine's Day spending totaled $13 billion
this year, but it seems modern man has not yet found love. Instead he fills it with "entertainment" and forms of pseudo-love which ultimately alienate him from others. Media from dawn to dusk
: Media consumption averages ten hours per person per day in America. What's more, Americans are “media multi-tasking”: using different media at the same time. Ritalin Sales
have soared. Americans carry an average $8,562
in debt on their credit cards. Hummers
. Bling bling
. Crunk juice
. Hooking up
. Baby mamas
. Binge Drinking
posted by MarkO
on Jun 14, 2005 -
The time for more public poetry
is at hand with the soon-to-arrive National Poetry Month. Perhaps you favor love poems? Poets and Writers
listed the 25 best (among those online: #1
). Or perhaps ballads with a beat? This
was once considered the best example, but this offensive poem
is even more famous. Of course, nonsense
, as is alliteration
. Eager to take your own turn? Try some complex forms
. Double sestina
posted by blahblahblah
on Mar 27, 2005 -
I come not to bury love, but to complicate it. There is something wrong with our concept of love. Romantic love (just “love” hereafter) isn't what many of us think it is when we ask ourselves “Do I love her?” or “Does he love me?” Many of us are making some kind of mistake. But what kind of mistake is it, and what is love if it isn't what many of us think it is?
A concept, roughly, is a way of thinking of things or features of things in the world. To have a concept of something is to have a kind of psychological ability to “individuate”, or pick out, all kinds of things in the world, for thought and talk, and for action. Some of our concepts are of psychological states. For example, I have a concept of pain and a concept of belief. I also have a concept of love, as do you. The suggestion that I am making is that there is a mismatch between love and our concept of love. But what is the nature of that mismatch? Love's complications
From The Philosopher's Magazine
posted by y2karl
on Mar 12, 2005 -
The Death of Yesterday
Twenty years ago, an everyday virus destroyed Clive Wearing's brain. Now, all he can remember is music -- and his wife. Here, Deborah Wearing tells how their enduring love has become the one constant in a marriage without memory.
posted by matteo
on Jan 23, 2005 -
When I look at you with my eyes,
be the coolness of my eye.
, a textbook of romantic psychology.
posted by kenko
on Nov 23, 2004 -
Why straights shouldn't marry.
"Phil and Pam both loved to eat Twinkies and Cup Cakes as children. On their first date, Phil ended a day of golf with a bottle of champagne and Cup Cakes to munch on as they watched the sun set over the Hudson." (via
posted by adrober
on Sep 25, 2004 -