"In a bizarre case involving threats of kidnapping, beatings and physical torture
— including the use of an electric cattle prod— two rabbis were charged
in New Jersey on Wednesday in a scheme to force men to grant their wives religious divorces." [more inside]
Obamacare: One Less Reason to Get Married.
Erin Gloria Ryan of Jezebel writes: Insurance Marriages had become to the 21st century what shotgun weddings were to jokes about hillbillies. Back in 2004, the LA Times wrote about couples that married for insurance, couples who for varying reasons had not wanted to marry, but who had been driven to marriage by financial necessity. ABC News posted its own roundup of With This Policy, I Thee Wed-style couples in 2008, as did the New York Times. In 2008, 7% of couples who married reported doing so primarily for the insurance benefits. [more inside]
Temporary marriage: the next big thing?
The divorce rate in Mexico City is huge, with half of marriages ending within two years. Some lawmakers there are introducing a reform to the civil code that would make marriage contracts renewable, with a minimum of two years. [more inside]
This week Pat Robertson
(controversial as always) addressed an uncomfortable question. What are we obligated to do when our spouse becomes completely incapacitated? This is a relatively common situation for the elderly, one person declining faster than the other, but the same questions remain as with a couple in their thirties. Do you live with celibacy, divorce or commit infidelity? Dan Savage’s
rules on cheating include a pass for caregiver/spouses in this situation to preserve the marriage. Things can become more difficult when the sexual relationship does not end
after a partner becomes infirm.
Divorce rates are higher than ever? Think again.
A large majority—92%—of children whose families make more than $75,000 a year live with two parents (including step-parents). At the bottom of the income scale—families earning less than $15,000—only 20% of children live with two parents.
Of those who first tied the knot between 1975 and 1979, 29% were divorced within ten years. Among those who first married between 1990 and 1994, only 16.5% were.
The Harvard Study of Adult Development is the longest prospective study of mental and physical well-being ever conducted. For 72 years, researchers at Harvard have been following 824 individuals through war, career, marriage and divorce, parenthood and grandparenthood, and old age. Designer Laura Javier
took ten of those cases and visualized them in the Elements of Happiness
. [via flowingdata]
1. Tin Huey T-Shirt.
2. A silk-screened poster from the Sept. 22, 2000, Mary Timony (of Helium) concert in Oberlin, Ohio.
3. "Crazy Rhythms" by the Feelies (on white vinyl).
4. A big-ass dining room table.
5. The Futon.
6. One audio MiniDisc of the Black Keys' first live performance, July 2002.
7. 7. One black-and-white photo of Patrick and me, taken in 2003, at Apple Studios.
A marriage, and divorce, in seven mementos.
My wife of 12 years packed up her belongings last year and moved out of our home. After her car was loaded I couldn't help but notice that a single item remained in her section of our closet, her wedding dress.
"You forgot something" I told her.
She replied "And what's that?".
"Your wedding dress", I said.
"Yeah, I am not taking that" was her response.
"What do you expect me to do with it?" I asked.
And to that she replied, "Whatever the $%^@# you want".
And this is what I did.....
Let's Call The Whole Thing Off.
The author [Sandra Tsing Loh] is ending her marriage. Isn’t it time you did the same?
Oxford Professor & Fellow of the Royal Society James Murray
uses mathematical modelling to predict whether a marriage will survive or end in divorce, with 94% accuracy
His lecture to the Royal Society will be available for view on demand within two days.
Please don't divorce us.
An emotional argument for overturning Prop 8.
in Tampa, FL has issued a 30-day sex challenge
: If you're married, have sex every day
(PDF of daily workbook). If you're not married, don't have sex at all
(PDF of daily workbook). There's a blog
, there's a billboard
, there's a lot of press
. [more inside]
GayHappinessFilter: Early studies
on the subject concluded that "heterosexual relationships may have a great deal to learn from homosexual relationships." (pdf)
But even so, do gay relationships
tend to end sooner?
Perhaps, but according to recent research,
gay and lesbian couples are just as committed in their relationships as heterosexuals. (pdf)
In fact, same-sex couples are actually more satisfied with their relationships, (pdf)
and reported more positive feelings toward their partners and less conflict than heterosexual married couples. (Probably just as well, since just because you can be a gay newlywed doesn’t necessarily mean you can be a gay divorcee.
) So what’s the secret to gay happiness? Most likely not ”the most satisfying orgasm you can get ... pure sexuality ... almost like pure heroin,”
although that’s a heck of an endorsement from a “researcher” who claims to be against it.
Marriage in America: The Frayed Knot.
"As the divorce rate plummets at the top of American society and rises at the bottom, the widening “marriage gap” is breeding inequality."
"When a marriage dies, what should be done with the wedding ring? Until now, millions of wedding rings have been banished to remote corners of sock and underwear drawers. Now you can give these wedding rings the proper final resting place they deserve
I Love You Kenisha.
My dear sweet Kenisha,
If you find this page, please forgive me for my failure to be a the kind of leader in our marriage and our home that God has called me to be.
When ever you decide to come home, I'll be here waiting for you. If I'm 100 years old, and on my death bed, and you haven't come back yet, I'll still be waiting for you!!! I love you with all my heart!!!
Well, if the track record of straight marriages is any indication, this was bound to happen sooner or later. "Less than seven months after same-sex couples began tying the knot in Massachusetts, the state is seeing ts first gay divorces."
Divorce, in the situation of an unhappy marriage, does not necessarily lead to happiness...
Does this throw doubt on our culture of individualism and the pursuit of happiness? Maybe we should stop being self-obsessed and stick it out
Does the Internet lead you astray??
Is Internet addiction
leading to the breakup of marriages or is it just the time and the age of the folks breaking up?? Or is this a plague of starter marriages
which has nothing to do with the Net???
Following "The Rules"?
One of the co-authors of "The Rules
" is getting divorced, even as the third book in the series -- Rules III: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work-- goes to press.
Darva the gold-digger wants out
is anyone surprised? It was a matter of time...