John Banvard, 95, Gerard Nadeau, 67, were married
Thursday at a Chula Vista, CA Veterans' senior living facility. Mr. Banvard, a World War II vet, and Mr. Nadeau, a Vietnam vet, have been together for 20 years, and were married at the facility despite the opposition of some residents. In response to the opposition, Mr. Nadeau said, "Oh, that's their problem not mine, but you know what this will do, open the door for other people." [more inside]
An n-gram analysis of wedding announcements in the New York Times going back to 1981. See, for example, the decline in elite prep schools
, how well the five boroughs are represented
, or the rise (and fall) of hedge fund managers
among the newly wed. The site's creator offers a more detailed look
over at Rap Genius.
As his wife, how do I respond? That he survived? That he’s brave? That he’s a hero for letting me talk about it? That I will stand beside him with a personal mission and public vow that nobody will ever hurt him, physically or emotionally, again, the way they did during his 30 months as a choirboy from 1988 to 1990
A Conservative Catholic Now Backs Same-Sex Marriage
"Among religious conservatives, opposition to same-sex marriage has remained essentially unquestioned.
Which is why “The Things We Share: A Catholic’s Case for Same-Sex Marriage
,” an essay by Joseph Bottum, published Friday on the Web site of Commonweal magazine, is something new in this debate."
Marriage equality comes to Minnesota
and Rhode Island
at midnight, August 1, and the Minnesota DFL state senators wanted to congratulate
their same-sex newlywed constituents. [more inside]
When Nada Al-Ahdal discovered that her parents had sold her she ran away
. She is 11 years old, and this is her message
. [more inside]
New York was the closest to drive to, but they’d both need to be there for the license and return for the wedding. Out, they decided. California and Washington, and the knot of northeastern states that have legalized same-sex marriage, were too far. Maryland required only one partner to come for the license. Then a 48-hour waiting period. It was an hour and 10-minute flight. This might work, they decided: A destination wedding in Baltimore
Master Bedroom, Extra Closet: The Truth About Gay Marriage
"In the fight for marriage rights, gay activists have (smartly) put forward couples who embody a familiar form of unity... But not all gay unions are built on the straight model, particularly when it comes to the issue of monogamy... The gay rights movement has made a calculated decision to highlight the similarities, not the differences, between straight and gay love on the road to marriage equality."
Picture this. You're one of the 3 million-ish users of Duolingo, doing online Italian lessons so you can talk to your Italian boyfriend in his own language. Halfway through one of your daily lessons, you're given the sentence "Lui ti ama" to translate. "He loves you" -- cute coincidence. But then it starts getting stranger
The French Right Marches against Gay Marriage
. Last month, France became the thirteenth nation
to recognize same-sex marriage. A large religious and political movement continues to protest loudly against the Socialist government's "Mariage Pour Tous" (Marriage For All) law. [more inside]
made against gay marriage in the House of Lords, England, during debate of the Governments proposed Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Bill
To document the amazing beauty of the moment, Photographer Brady Dyer had his girlfriend Emma take a 360 panorama at sunset from their rooftop in Florence, Italy, it ended with unexpected sweetness
. [slyt | via]
Although ethnic Mandi women share power with their male counterparts and are able to own property, the custom of mother-daughter joint marriages
continue. [more inside]
Today is the last day in session for the Illinois House before the summer break, and LGBT advocates are hoping that when they convene at 10:30am, they will address and vote on SB10
, legislation already passed by the state Senate to enact marriage equality in the state of Illinois. [more inside]
New Zealand legalises same-sex marriage
, becoming the first country
in the Asia-Pacific region and the 13th country
to do so.
The bill was passed with a wide majority, with 77 votes in favour and 44 against. "In our society, the meaning of marriage is universal - it's a declaration of love and commitment to a special person," said Labour MP Louisa Wall
. The declaration of the vote was followed by a waiata
With 71 votes from the Chamber of Deputies, Uruguay became the third country in the Americas to legalize gay marriage.
From the article:
While some countries have carved out new territory for gay and lesbian couples without affecting heterosexual marrieds, Uruguay is creating a single set of rules for all people, gay or straight. Instead of the words "husband and wife" in marriage contracts, it refers to the gender-neutral "contracting parties."
Political Identification: communist
"Dear Bloody Red Heart,
I have recently started seeing a communist woman, and I really like her, but my problem is that I still have overwhelmingly strong feelings for the communist woman I had a thing with in the summer, and who has gone to fight the good fight in other lands. Should I tell the comrade I’m currently seeing about my divided affections? As we are not yet in full communism, I fear I may not have enough to go round…
From: Bloody Red Heart"
Always remember that information is power, and functions as such." [more inside]
Anyone who tells you their rules for a happy marriage doesn't have one.
"Marriages are made of lust, laughter and loyalty - but the three have to be kept in constant passage, so that as one subsides for a time, the others rise”
Patrick Stewart is getting married. Ian McKellan will officiate
. [more inside]
Earlier today, the Supreme Court heard oral arguments in the California Prop 8 case, Hollingsworth v. Perry
. SCOTUSblog has a round-up of their analysis of today's arguments here
. NYT article
. LA Times article. [more inside]
Santa Fe officials are encouraging same-sex couples to apply for marriage licenses, pointing out that the state doesn't need to pass a marriage equality law because New Mexico law already allows same-sex marriage
BBC/NRI reports that women in China are being labeled "sheng nu" or "leftover women" after the age of 27.
Beyond the traditional family pressure to get married, the Chinese government is applying pressure on single women to get married, fearful that a growing population of single men could cause civil unrest. [more inside]
describes some of the legal restrictions of "civil partnerships", why she should never be allowed to get married, and why she loves her wife. A 30 minute podcast from BBC Radio 4
LOI, Vietnam — They had no plan to break barriers or cause trouble.
But 30 years ago in this bucolic village in northern Vietnam, the fierce determination of one group of women to become mothers upended centuries-old gender rules and may have helped open the door for a nation to redefine parenthood.
Save your marriage... with a writing
workshop. Link to paper: (PDF)
When Bill Met Shelly Bill Ott will always remember the moment he met Shelley Belgard. It was in spring 1988. He was 12 and sometimes shy. Into music, sports and, suddenly, girls.
Get Your Shit Together
helps you do what it says on the tin. After her husband died in a 2009 bike accident, Chanel Reynolds
created the site as a step-by-step toolkit to help keep track of important life documents and tasks. Four days after its launch, the New York Times
got in on the action. [more inside]
Ada Laurie Bryant, 97, and Robert Mitchell Haire, 86, were married last Saturday.
The two met in 2007 at their retirement community and were widow and widower. They began going on regular lunch dates after they both realized they hate going to dinner alone, even though they knew it meant they might be labeled a "couple" by the other residents. The bride is keeping her name.
Following an incident
at Fort Bragg where Lt. Colonel Heather Mack's wife, Ashley Broadway, was told she could not join the Association of Bragg Officers’ Spouses, the Marine Corps has issued guidance
that spouses clubs operating on its bases and installations must offer membership
to the same-sex spouses of gay and lesbian service members. [more inside]
In 2009, William Marotta, donated his sperm to a lesbian couple. Although they did not go through a licensed physician, per Kansas state law, the three signed an agreement relieving Marotta of any financial or paternal responsibility.
The women, who co-parent 8 children, broke up in 2010, and the state of Kansas is now attempting to get Marotta to pay child support. [more inside]
A remarkably non-sensational report on polyamorous families
. Bookended by 50 Shades of Grey
, this 20/20 "special report" on Sierra, Martin, Molly, David, Aaron, Romy, Mark, and J provides a lovely counterpoint to the usual moralizing hand-wringing one finds in media coverage of open relationships.
The Gay Marriage Plot: On November 6, four states -- Maine, Washington, Maryland, and Minnesota -- took the side of gay marriage in ballot referenda. The improbable sweep for an issue that spent decades as an across-the-board political loser has already changed the landscape for gay rights in America -- and could provide a new framework for other causes.
Paul Harris is the head of the Marriage License Department for Clark County, in the American state of Washington. Today, after 40 years with the same man, he can finally apply for his own marriage license
. [more inside]
Families in Flux
:"As household arrangements take new directions, scientists attempt to sort out the social effects" [more inside]