OkCupid: we experiment on human beings! But by comparing Love Is Blind Day to a normal Tuesday, we learned some very interesting things. In those 7 hours without photos...people responded to first messages 44% more often, conversations went deeper...in short, OkCupid worked better. When the photos were restored at 4PM, 2,200 people were in the middle of conversations that had started “blind”. Those conversations melted away. The goodness was gone, in fact worse than gone. It was like we’d turned on the bright lights at the bar at midnight.
Blake Jamieson used his marketing background to game Tinder's system.
Come into my igloo: online dating as eight year old. Virtual worlds like Fantage are fun, innocent, bright-colored versions of the massively-multiplayer online games that teenagers and adults play. They also unintentionally function as online dating sites for the elementary and middle school set. [more inside]
A recent Atlantic article magazine raises the question of whether online dating discourages long term commitment.
This is not the first time Atlantic has raised concerns about online dating sites. In 2006, the tone of an article on the topic was neutral. Not so much in 2010
, and more recently
. But perhaps we just all need more data.
"Is online dating a different experience for men than it is for women? To find out, I conducted a 4-month experiment in the US and UK using 10 dummy dating profiles. Here's what happened...
Is online dating destroying love? We are doomed, perhaps, to be unsatisfied creatures, whose desires are fulfilled only momentarily before we go on the hunt for new objects to scratch new itches. Which suggests that online dating sites will be filling us with hopes – and disappointments – for a good while yet. [more inside]
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This morning, Match.Com and OKCupid tied the knot
, after Match paid OKCupid $50 million in cash. OKCupid have been longstanding and outspoken critics
of Match and eHarmony's business models, going as far as to call both sites deceptive scams on their corporate blog
. Naturally, those criticisms silently disappeared
from OKCupid's blog within minutes of the acquisition being announced.
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"At its worst, online dating becomes compulsive, a kind of mania, and feeds our appetite for endless choice, and the idea that there’s always a better choice.
Maybe there’s something to be said for less choice, or at least a sense of geographical limits. That said, I’ve heard from a lot of people, more all the time, who have found the “perfect” person this way. And the stigma of it is rapidly fading ... The worst online dating story I ever HEARD involved a female friend, here is the gist: This really good-looking guy contacts her about her profile and says something to the extent of: “You look beautiful, but are you 100 pounds? I only date women who are 100 pounds or less. If I think you are lying, I will bring a scale.”
Dan Ariely on why online dating is so unsatisfying
. [more inside]
prides itself on being a free (though ad-supported) dating site that (supposedly) doesn't use underhanded methods to make money.
But The Consumerist is reporting that some members are receiving notice that, as Beautiful People, "You will now see more attractive people in your match results."
"Older women are awesome.
"In looking closely at the astonishingly wide variety of ways our users have chosen to represent themselves, we discovered much of the collective wisdom about profile pictures was wrong.
"This week we will be confronting a fact that, by definition, haunts the average online dater: no matter how much time you spend polishing your profile, honing your IM banter, and perfecting your message introductions, it’s your picture that matters most.
" (Previously 1 2 3)
"We’ve processed the messaging habits of almost a million people and are about to basically prove that, despite what you might’ve heard from the Obama campaign and organic cereal commercials, racism is alive and well." The people who run the dating site OkCupid
continue to analyze the aggregate data of their users, shedding light on preferences and behavior. The most recent OkTrends
post takes a look at their compiled racial data: Your Race Affects Whether People Write You Back
. (previously 1 2
How (not) to write an online-dating message,
based on a sample of 500,000 "first contact" messages. [more inside]
Online dating site match.com
is being sued
for deception by a New York man who claims their practice of keeping up profiles of non-paying members who have no ability to respond to suitors "defrauds the consumer of his/her time, labor, and emotional investment"
According to a recent Zogby poll
, parents would rather their daughter meet a date at a bar or a Star Trek convention than through online dating.
We live in an ugly world. War, disease, famine and ugly people seem to rule our daily lives.
Darwin Dating is a dating site that cuts through this ugliness and has been created for attractive people only. Darwin Dating has been designed by hot people for hot people. You won't be able to join unless you are objectively beautiful. Our strict rules and natural selection process is the perfect way for attractive people to hook up.
Not covered in previous "dating sites" thread. I just heard the ad on the radio. Wish I could post that, too. It's even better than the site.
Lonely? Online? Unwilling to fuck people that aren't exactly like you? Good news! The PeopleMeet Empire
has a dating website custom designed specifically
to fit your needs, whether you're Italian
, Marriage Minded
, Really Old
, Christian (Catholic
, Born Again
, the Outdoor type
, the Indoor type
, a Pet lover
, some kooky Black variation
of the earlier types
, or even (gasp!) Californian
Tall, Dork, and Handsome
The online dating website where guys who love Star Trek can meet women who will reformat their hard drives. Do these profiles speak your language? This guy "prefers to make love under black lights."
This nerdette has "realized that the book 'the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy' has all of the qualities I'm really looking for [in a guy]."
Only thing verboten on the site: No pictures. via
"Interested in meeting my brother Jon, ladies? Due to the expected high demand, I will be forced to prescreen all e-mails received. Please send a nude photo of yourself, and a short explanation of why you think you would be a good match for my brother Jon, to me." A really swell brother wants a really swell girl to marry his brother Jon
"We stack the deck in your favor—like no one ever has—to help you find the right life partner....TheraDateSM requires its members to currently be in psychotherapy for at least two months or discharged from therapy for no longer than two years."
A new service whereby shrinks play matchmaker for their clients. Blurs the therapist/patient relationship a bit, it would seem. With so many more people in NYC seeing shrinks since 9/11, business should be booming. There's also an article about it in the current issue of the New York Observer.
When the going gets weird...
"gorgeous guy" sought on craigslist's "missed connections" forum acquires throngs of lusty admirers waiting along his commute. the next day it was a group of 5 people at his bus stop. The next day, 10. "One guy was holding a camera." As he approached them, they all stopped talking suddenly.
is how I always pictured internet love. The corpse in the fridge is the kicker. I thought you brits knew we were all nuts in the states.
Couples who click online,
notably Meg Hourihan and Jason Kottke. Photo as well.