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The faint terrestrial echo of the hideous laughter of blind mad gods

Alex Gonzalez's "Lovecraft Letters" re-imagine problematic online dating messages as NSFW communication with unnameable creatures from beyond (1 2 3 4). Mallory Ortberg's hilarious "Texts from H.P. Lovecraft" focus on HPL himself, while Richard Svensson's brief video "The Lovecraft Alphabet" and David Haden's "Consult Mr. Lovecraft" plot generator present cute illustrations or parodies of HPL's work. [more inside]
posted by Monsieur Caution on Sep 12, 2015 - 8 comments

'Feminist' seemed to put guys off, but now I realize, who cares?

Bumble, founded by Tinder co-founder Whitney Wolfe, is a dating app where women call the shots. [more inside]
posted by halifix on Jul 29, 2015 - 79 comments

where everyone is bisexual and no one is bisexual

As much as we wish it weren't so, the queer world still exists apart -- discrete, you might say -- from the straight world, and to be a bisexual woman on OKCupid is to travel back and forth between them, bicoastal, bilingual, bicultural, always apologizing to one on behalf of the other.
The Two Faces of Bisexual OKCupid, by Frankie Thomas at the Hairpin.
posted by Stacey on Jun 29, 2015 - 37 comments

The Dickonomics of Tinder

When Tinder first came along, it was heralded by some as the Grindr for straight people and a hook-up app that women would actually use. Men braced themselves for what was supposed to be a rush of incoming babes, women who had been released from the confines of a Girls Gone Wild! VHS but didn’t expect anything so extravagant from them as a novelty T-shirt for taking their clothes off. Simple girls, horny girls. When Tinder matches occurred, these men stormed into our messages with all the social grace of Steve fucking Urkel but none of his endearing sincerity with appeals like, “Sexy dress. Hook up?” They used the precious real estate of their bio to complain about women rather than entice them. They wore jerseys for teams that suck. They attempted to order women to their homes as if they were chicken fingers on Seamless. And almost every last goddamn one of them found their whiskey habit absolutely fascinating.
"Dick is abundant and low value." Alana Massey on successfully using Tinder as a hook-up app. [NSFW header illustration]
posted by automatic cabinet on May 1, 2015 - 221 comments


After complaints and boycotts over the limited options it gave for users to describe their gender and sexuality, internet dating site OKCupid has begun testing a far more inclusive self-identification system. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on Nov 18, 2014 - 162 comments

Shocking news: personality doesn't matter when dating online

OkCupid: we experiment on human beings! But by comparing Love Is Blind Day to a normal Tuesday, we learned some very interesting things. In those 7 hours without photos...people responded to first messages 44% more often, conversations went deeper...in short, OkCupid worked better. When the photos were restored at 4PM, 2,200 people were in the middle of conversations that had started “blind”. Those conversations melted away. The goodness was gone, in fact worse than gone. It was like we’d turned on the bright lights at the bar at midnight.
posted by shivohum on Jul 28, 2014 - 96 comments

Because God can use the internet too.

If you're looking for someone to date, other than Jesus, look no further. And the follow-up: Christian Tingle 2.
posted by emjaybee on May 2, 2014 - 47 comments

Beating the Tinder Game

Blake Jamieson used his marketing background to game Tinder's system.
posted by reenum on Apr 20, 2014 - 65 comments

they really said this.

It Happened to Me: I am the Most Popular Woman on OKCupid, and by most popular, I mean the "most messaged."
posted by and they trembled before her fury on Apr 13, 2014 - 210 comments

If you’re a gay man, pose outdoors

25 Wired infographics claim to show how to create the perfect online dating profile. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna on Feb 6, 2014 - 54 comments

The Professor, the Bikini Model and the Suitcase Full of Trouble

A world-renowned physicist meets a gorgeous model online. They plan their perfect life together. But first, she asks, would he be so kind as to deliver a special package to her?
posted by Optamystic on Mar 8, 2013 - 196 comments


Come into my igloo: online dating as eight year old. Virtual worlds like Fantage are fun, innocent, bright-colored versions of the massively-multiplayer online games that teenagers and adults play. They also unintentionally function as online dating sites for the elementary and middle school set. [more inside]
posted by modernnomad on Feb 20, 2013 - 31 comments

A Million First Dates: How online romance is threatening monogamy

A recent Atlantic article magazine raises the question of whether online dating discourages long term commitment. This is not the first time Atlantic has raised concerns about online dating sites. In 2006, the tone of an article on the topic was neutral. Not so much in 2010, 2011, and more recently. But perhaps we just all need more data.
posted by bearwife on Jan 29, 2013 - 65 comments

"Prosecco's basically the same thing," he said dismissively.

Inside the dark world of the online sugar daddies.
posted by Sebmojo on Sep 23, 2012 - 73 comments

A 4-month Online Dating Experiment Using 10 Fictional Singletons

"Is online dating a different experience for men than it is for women? To find out, I conducted a 4-month experiment in the US and UK using 10 dummy dating profiles. Here's what happened..."
posted by surenoproblem on Jun 30, 2012 - 165 comments

Is online dating destroying love?

Is online dating destroying love? We are doomed, perhaps, to be unsatisfied creatures, whose desires are fulfilled only momentarily before we go on the hunt for new objects to scratch new itches. Which suggests that online dating sites will be filling us with hopes – and disappointments – for a good while yet. [more inside]
posted by modernnomad on Feb 7, 2012 - 124 comments

"You wouldn’t go to a restaurant that hasn’t been reviewed. Especially in the era of Internet dating, why would you go on a date with a person who hasn’t been reviewed?” NY-based founder Tom Padazana

Rate your EX. ExRated's mission is to empower singles by giving them character reviews of potential dates, and allow them to express themselves through multiple choice reviews designed to help them realize what went wrong in the past and how to make the right dating choices in the future. How does it work?
posted by Fizz on Oct 12, 2011 - 65 comments

Purchase thy enemy.

This morning, Match.Com and OKCupid tied the knot, after Match paid OKCupid $50 million in cash. OKCupid have been longstanding and outspoken critics of Match and eHarmony's business models, going as far as to call both sites deceptive scams on their corporate blog. Naturally, those criticisms silently disappeared from OKCupid's blog within minutes of the acquisition being announced.
posted by schmod on Feb 2, 2011 - 147 comments

How you like them apples?

"DateHarvardSQ is a unique online dating platform matching discerning women with Harvard University educated men determined to make a difference in the world as foremost doctors, lawyers, businessmen, academics and professionals. DateHarvardSQ is owned and operated by a dedicated team of Harvard University graduates, whose goal is to help their community of peers find meaningful relationships across the globe." Ladies, be sure to check out to Preview the Harvard Men waiting for your Smile.
posted by grouse on Sep 2, 2010 - 90 comments

Love, Lies, and Online Dating

"At its worst, online dating becomes compulsive, a kind of mania, and feeds our appetite for endless choice, and the idea that there’s always a better choice. Maybe there’s something to be said for less choice, or at least a sense of geographical limits. That said, I’ve heard from a lot of people, more all the time, who have found the “perfect” person this way. And the stigma of it is rapidly fading ... The worst online dating story I ever HEARD involved a female friend, here is the gist: This really good-looking guy contacts her about her profile and says something to the extent of: “You look beautiful, but are you 100 pounds? I only date women who are 100 pounds or less. If I think you are lying, I will bring a scale.”
posted by geoff. on Aug 5, 2010 - 141 comments

Why Online Dating Is So Unsatisfying

Dan Ariely on why online dating is so unsatisfying. [more inside]
posted by AceRock on Jul 19, 2010 - 159 comments

Sadly they all died from a disease caught from an undisinfected telephone

OKCupid prides itself on being a free (though ad-supported) dating site that (supposedly) doesn't use underhanded methods to make money. But The Consumerist is reporting that some members are receiving notice that, as Beautiful People, "You will now see more attractive people in your match results."
posted by waraw on Jun 15, 2010 - 211 comments

The Case For An Older Woman

"Older women are awesome."
posted by Groovytimes on Feb 16, 2010 - 465 comments

The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures

"In looking closely at the astonishingly wide variety of ways our users have chosen to represent themselves, we discovered much of the collective wisdom about profile pictures was wrong."
posted by Groovytimes on Jan 22, 2010 - 51 comments

Your Looks and Your Inbox

"This week we will be confronting a fact that, by definition, haunts the average online dater: no matter how much time you spend polishing your profile, honing your IM banter, and perfecting your message introductions, it’s your picture that matters most." (Previously 1 2 3)
posted by gman on Nov 24, 2009 - 123 comments

The race is on.

"We’ve processed the messaging habits of almost a million people and are about to basically prove that, despite what you might’ve heard from the Obama campaign and organic cereal commercials, racism is alive and well." The people who run the dating site OkCupid continue to analyze the aggregate data of their users, shedding light on preferences and behavior. The most recent OkTrends post takes a look at their compiled racial data: Your Race Affects Whether People Write You Back. (previously 1 2)
posted by naju on Oct 7, 2009 - 459 comments

hi cutie ur realy sexy. msn?

How (not) to write an online-dating message, based on a sample of 500,000 "first contact" messages. [more inside]
posted by Kadin2048 on Sep 14, 2009 - 79 comments

Match.com Sued for Deception

Online dating site match.com is being sued for deception by a New York man who claims their practice of keeping up profiles of non-paying members who have no ability to respond to suitors "defrauds the consumer of his/her time, labor, and emotional investment"
posted by The Gooch on Jun 19, 2009 - 93 comments

But... is he REALLY the worst person in the world?

CBS News talks to John Fitzgerald Page. (sorry for the brief commercial first) His original callout on Gawker, with the body of the offending email read around the world. But he is more than just an angry member on Match.com: his impressive resume can be found on his site and he is a TV and film actor. [more inside]
posted by Unicorn on the cob on Nov 20, 2007 - 113 comments

That better be a Trekkie you're dating!

According to a recent Zogby poll, parents would rather their daughter meet a date at a bar or a Star Trek convention than through online dating.
posted by Afroblanco on Jan 31, 2007 - 44 comments

Fatuous hookups for vapid people

We live in an ugly world. War, disease, famine and ugly people seem to rule our daily lives. Darwin Dating is a dating site that cuts through this ugliness and has been created for attractive people only. Darwin Dating has been designed by hot people for hot people. You won't be able to join unless you are objectively beautiful. Our strict rules and natural selection process is the perfect way for attractive people to hook up.
posted by psmealey on Jan 28, 2007 - 121 comments

Subtle, no?

wealthymen.com Not covered in previous "dating sites" thread. I just heard the ad on the radio. Wish I could post that, too. It's even better than the site.
posted by wfc123 on Aug 25, 2006 - 20 comments

YourNameHereMeet dot com

Lonely? Online? Unwilling to fuck people that aren't exactly like you? Good news! The PeopleMeet Empire has a dating website custom designed specifically to fit your needs, whether you're Italian, Jewish, Divorced, Marriage Minded, Asian (nonspecific), Asian (specific), Old, Really Old, Christian (Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, Baptist, Presbyterian, Pentacostal, Born Again, Mormon or Other), Republican, Democrat, Midget, Fit, Fat, the Outdoor type, the Indoor type, a Pet lover, Professional, some kooky Black variation of the earlier types, or even (gasp!) Californian.
posted by jonson on Aug 20, 2006 - 64 comments

Geek love

Tall, Dork, and Handsome The online dating website where guys who love Star Trek can meet women who will reformat their hard drives. Do these profiles speak your language? This guy "prefers to make love under black lights." This nerdette has "realized that the book 'the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy' has all of the qualities I'm really looking for [in a guy]." Only thing verboten on the site: No pictures. via
posted by onlyconnect on Jun 7, 2005 - 40 comments

Take my brother....please!

"Interested in meeting my brother Jon, ladies? Due to the expected high demand, I will be forced to prescreen all e-mails received. Please send a nude photo of yourself, and a short explanation of why you think you would be a good match for my brother Jon, to me." A really swell brother wants a really swell girl to marry his brother Jon.
posted by iconomy on Feb 11, 2003 - 22 comments


TheraDate "We stack the deck in your favor—like no one ever has—to help you find the right life partner....TheraDateSM requires its members to currently be in psychotherapy for at least two months or discharged from therapy for no longer than two years."

A new service whereby shrinks play matchmaker for their clients. Blurs the therapist/patient relationship a bit, it would seem. With so many more people in NYC seeing shrinks since 9/11, business should be booming. There's also an article about it in the current issue of the New York Observer. When the going gets weird...
posted by martk on Apr 11, 2002 - 15 comments

"gorgeous guy" sought on craigslist's "missed connections" forum acquires throngs of lusty admirers waiting along his commute.

"gorgeous guy" sought on craigslist's "missed connections" forum acquires throngs of lusty admirers waiting along his commute. the next day it was a group of 5 people at his bus stop. The next day, 10. "One guy was holding a camera." As he approached them, they all stopped talking suddenly.
posted by palegirl on Jun 8, 2001 - 18 comments


This is how I always pictured internet love. The corpse in the fridge is the kicker. I thought you brits knew we were all nuts in the states.
posted by john on Feb 22, 2001 - 5 comments

Couples who click online,

Couples who click online, notably Meg Hourihan and Jason Kottke. Photo as well.
posted by jhiggy on Feb 11, 2001 - 53 comments

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