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"Healthy jealousy"

jbickers — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 07:04:21 -0800

"Far from being a healthy free lover in the making, Dr. Hart says, the unresponsive infant is not “securely attached” and will have problems later on in relationships." Why jealousy can be a good thing.

Dan Savage on Youtube

PercussivePaul — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 08:47:18 -0800

"The One is a lie. Every long term relationship is a myth, and myths are built of lies. What's beautiful about a long term relationship is that I pretend that my boyfriend is the lie I met, when I first met him, and he does the same favor to me. You become The One because someone is willing to pretend you are." Dan Savage on The Price of Admission [SLYT]. Dan Savage has been posting clips on his Youtube channel for about six months now. They're much like his advice column, but in general seem to be more in depth, more personal, and less filtered.

Do I know you?

Korou — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 11:11:48 -0800

What you don't know about your friends: The problem, [Francis Flynn, a psychology professor at Stanford] says, is that interacting with people and sharing experiences with them doesn’t necessarily translate into knowing lots of things about them. The main hurdle is the way we talk to those we’re close to: our conversations are usually meant not so much to gather information as to establish rapport and to bond - in short, to make friends.

Get your schadenfreude here

reenum — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 06:53:08 -0800

Recently, there have been a host of websites that delight in exposing the inanity and stupidity of our society. There is the granddaddy, Overheard in New York, which recounts silly conversations heard in the Big Apple, as well as a host of similar sites. There are now a variety of such websites, dedicated to different aspects of our society. First, there are the ones targeted at different groups: STFU, Marrieds, STFU, Parents, STFU, Believers, and My Roommate is Such a Dick. Then, there are the ones that expose the silliness and inanity in our communications: Texts From Last Night, My Drunk Texts, Passive Aggressive Notes, and Lamebook. Relationships and sex loom large as well: Disgusting People I Have Made Out With, Why My Ex Sucks, and I Bang the Worst Dudes. Finally, there is just plain bad luck or failure: F My Life and FAIL Blog. Bonus: Awkward Family Photos and Hot Chicks With Douchebags

Defining passion, as a mother

Brandon Blatcher — Wed, 27 May 2009 08:38:48 -0800

"Yes, I have four children. Four children with whom I spend a good part of every day: bathing them, combing their hair, sitting with them while they do their homework, holding them while they weep their tragic tears. But I'm not in love with any of them. I am in love with my husband."

The latest craze in adult dating.

desjardins — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 16:45:13 -0800

Conjugal Harmony : "Normally you wouldn't think an arsonist would be good at sex. Boy was I ever wrong!" [slightly NSFW]

Why I'm Alone

Brandon Blatcher — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 13:31:45 -0800

Why I'm Alone: "People ask me why I'm still alone, and why I don't seek to date much, eight years after my husband died. I thought about it the other day, and came up with a few of the reasons."

Not real women, mercifully?

Grrlscout — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 11:10:13 -0800

A Real Doll "doctor" gives an interview, describing the art of patching up the dolls and questioning their treatment by their owners.

The Bickersons Rebooted

rudster — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 07:25:23 -0800

A potential implication of J-. B. Pontalis's thought is that integrating with another linguistic and cultural tradition means having to lose one's language. A person with a few years of marriage behind them might like to add: integrating with the other sex means discovering one never had any language at all! ["What?" - "What?"]
[alternate YT link]

Yeah, it's been awhile.

Brandon Blatcher — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:42:14 -0800

"I didn't intend to go without sex for a decade and a half. But celibacy isn't something you necessarily plan."

Pretty girls are like cars that need a lot of oil.

WCityMike — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 13:37:41 -0800

"Pretty girls are like cars that need a lot of oil." Alex Graven, 9, has had How to Talk to Girls, the runaway hit of the Soaring Hawk Elementary School book fair, picked up by HarperCollins. How do you spot these oil-guzzling cars? ""It is easy to spot pretty girls," Alex writes, "because they have big earrings, fancy dresses and all the jewelry." Alex's techniques are already landing him the ladies: he advises his guys to "comb your hair and don't wear sweats" and to "control your hyperness (cut down on sugar if you need to)." Alex tells his fellow guys that "[t]he best choice for most boys is a regular girl. Remember, some pretty girls are coldhearted when it comes to boys. Don't let them get to you." (Unfortunately, Alex still may be naive in some areas, as he tells his readers, "Girls like the smartest boys.") How to approach them? "If I say hi and you say hi back, we're probably off to a good start." When asked why he wrote the book, "Well, I saw a lot of boys having trouble to get girls to like them, so I thought this book will like probably help them."

haven't had a dream in a long time

plexi — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 12:57:10 -0800

'You loser!" screamed Katie, aiming a vase at her husband. "You've destroyed my life,'' she continued, hurling it. "Just look at my hair, look at my nails! You loser, you jerk, you nobody."

Katie's husband, Jack, whose property portfolio disintegrated in the financial crash, had just told his wife that she would have to cut back on her thrice-weekly visits to Nicky Clarke, the nail salon in Harvey Nichols, and the oxygen facials, chemical peels and seaweed wraps at Space NK.

A relationship's ephemera captured in needlework

mojohand — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 06:42:15 -0800

Ginger Anyhow (blog) has embroidered a series of romantic text messages, capturing the 21st century record of the waxing and waning of a relationship in a pre-industrial era form. (via notcot)

Man For Young Girl To Become My Wife

East Manitoba Regional Junior Kabaddi Champion '94 — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 16:04:09 -0800

Man For Young Girl To Become My Wife is the Time Cube of romance

barbed wire kisses

plexi — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:28:09 -0800

The New York Times has finally come out and said it - marriage is about money.

Life as an asexual couple

Brandon Blatcher — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 08:12:40 -0800

Despite not being physically attracted to other people, Paul Cox, 24, explains how he and his wife found love and happiness as an asexual couple.

SideTaker: Need moar drama??

Foci for Analysis — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 07:06:13 -0800

Are you simply not getting enough drama in your life? Do you often get the urge to listen to other peoples relationship problems? Do you like to judge random people and find Relationshipfilter to be insufficient? Well, now there's SideTaker ("Let The World Decide Who's At Fault"), a site where couples give their sides of an issue and let others decide who's right or wrong. Via.

"Letters and letters and letters."

amyms — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 01:51:30 -0800

I love you because you play awesome songs on the jukebox. Who are you? Come here, we can talk. That's Number 165 from 300 Love Letters (but there are really 400 and here's why, and here's an explanation of the project itself). Asia Wong's other projects.

Transvestite Wives

chunking express — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 21:07:27 -0800

Transvestite Wives is a documentary: Part 1, and Part 2.

You Are the Prize to be Won: The Adventures of Guy Alpha

unSane — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 19:51:23 -0800

This is Guy Alpha™, a salesman and delivery person for the Pleasure Factory™. He can transform into Super Hot-Man™ with the help of the Alpha Mind-Power Robe™ stored within his sidekick, Zed Suit™, a walking and talking robotic suitcase. Wherein Guy Alpha demonstrates how to talk to women, what to do next time a woman asks you to lend her money, what to do when she says 'let's just be friends', how to dress and so much more. For the love of God, click the pictures. And take the poll.

"... there is no appeal but mutual love and trust."

amyms — Mon, 26 May 2008 20:01:19 -0800

RelationshipFilter, 1873. An online archive of letters from a wife to her husband, which include an intimate look at their relationship crisis. Emma Spaulding Bryant wrote these ten letters to her husband, John Emory Bryant, in the summer of 1873... The letters describe Emma's visits to a doctor in Cleveland for "uterine difficulties" that had been ailing her for some time. Although we do not have her husband's letters to her from this period, it appears that he accused her of adultery with the doctor and berated her for not being obedient to him. Many of Emma's letters from this period have markings in red pencil, presumably made by John to highlight the sections of her letters that he found suspicious. Emma's responses to John's accusations are indignant, and she rebuts each of his points eloquently and emphatically. Because these letters are unusually frank for this time period, they reveal much about the relationships between husbands and wives in this era, and shed light on medical practices that were often kept private.

The Affairs Of Men

you just lost the game — Tue, 20 May 2008 08:17:50 -0800

What makes married men want to have affairs? A provocative look at an age-old question from New York Magazine.

Happysad

derMax — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 06:51:28 -0800

Happysad is a 2 year old web cartoon from Belgium (in English) by Jeroen. Starring an unnamed male character that fans have taken to calling "the little guy", it is about unrequited love and longing, dating, sex, daily life, and the mystery of girls/women to men - especially in the form of the little guy's object of desire and chief tormentor, known as "the girl" or "Happysad girl". Both his storytelling and his drawing have evolved over the years, as he demonstrates with his recent redrawing of the first comic in the series. The tone is indeed happy, funny, wistful and sad.

30 day sex (or no sex) challenge

ThePinkSuperhero — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 10:59:20 -0800

A church in Tampa, FL has issued a 30-day sex challenge: If you're married, have sex every day (PDF of daily workbook). If you're not married, don't have sex at all (PDF of daily workbook). There's a blog, there's a billboard, there's a lot of press. Wirth told CBS News he believes most people go into marriage "without really knowing each other emotionally, without knowing their partner's emotional needs, and this (the challenge) is a way for people to discover their greatest needs -- both married and non-married couples."

She don't... What now?

ThePinkSuperhero — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 10:57:49 -0800

You talked to her father, prepared a YouTube worthy proposal, gathered all your courage.... and she said no. How will your life go on? And what are you going to do with the ring? Enter I Do... Now I Don't, an auction site that caters to broken-hearted lovers such as you. Started by a fellow who has been there. Buy if you dare. Via