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In Defense of Bad Sex

"It’s like parenting or establishing friendships, or pretty much any other intimate, cooperative endeavor: It takes attention and recalibration to be done well even when you’ve made a particularly felicitous match." Sex can be unpleasant, awkward, or even upsetting - and that's okay. In Defense of Bad Sex.
posted by sunset in snow country on Jan 29, 2016 - 88 comments

"You’re a survivor now, not a victim."

Most American rapes go unreported and unpunished. In part because ideas about what constitutes a ‘‘real rape’’ still hinder investigations and prosecutions, and many police officers continue to read vulnerability as complicity. But there is another unacknowledged side to the investigation of sexual assault: the huge numbers of victims who are children or teenagers. New Haven, CT detectives estimate that more than 80 percent of their cases involve minors — a number only slightly higher than national statistics. Such cases are rarely reported immediately, which means that there is rarely any physical evidence to investigate. "To Catch a Rapist:" How New Haven's special-victims unit fights a hidden epidemic of sexual assault that is disturbingly difficult to investigate. (Some may find the descriptions and topics in this article disturbing or triggering.)
posted by zarq on Jan 8, 2016 - 24 comments

A family of nudists like this can scare a whole parish out of its wits.

An ABZ of Love [NSFW], or, Inge and Sten Hegeler's bewitchingly illustrated 1963 book that Kurt Vonnegut told his wife to read, "[if] you are as interested in sex as you say you are." [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings on Dec 24, 2015 - 3 comments

Swipe right on monogamy

Swipe right on monogamy [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on Dec 23, 2015 - 71 comments

...and then all that was left was the porn

"But in the dark crevices of the Internet, something else was brewing: without warning, Erin Esurance became masturbation fodder for the very demographic she was designed to target." How Esurance Lost Its Mascot to the Internet.
posted by naju on Dec 21, 2015 - 131 comments

solo intimacy DIY

I Was a Teenage Fruit Fucker (probably NSFW) [more inside]
posted by flex on Dec 18, 2015 - 71 comments

"A bold race bred there, battle-happy men causing trouble & torment"

“So at Christmas in this court I lay down a challenge: / If a person here present, within these premises, / Is big or bold or red-blooded enough / To strike me one stroke and be struck in return, / I shall give him a gift of this gigantic cleaver / and the axe shall be his to handle how he likes. / I'll kneel, bare my neck and take the first knock. / So who has the gall? The gumption? The guts? / Who’ll spring from his seat and snatch this weapon? / I offer the axe — who’ll have it as his own? / I’ll afford one free hit from which I won't flinch, / and promised that 12 months will pass in peace, / then claim / the duty I deserve in one year and one day. / Does no one have the nerve to wager in this way? [more inside]
posted by Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey on Dec 10, 2015 - 14 comments

Why Blowjobs Are More Intimate Than Sex

Okay obviously NSFW and it's College Humor, but when you think about it, why are blowjobs considered less intimate than penetrative sex?
posted by Megami on Dec 7, 2015 - 62 comments

Sex, long life, and cooperative breeding

How do you get both cooperation and promiscuity, a rare combination in a world dominated by selfish genes? The key, it appears - at least in birds - is long life. "Promiscuous cooperative species are exceptionally long lived."
posted by clawsoon on Nov 18, 2015 - 2 comments

"No one wants a fart-themed surprise sneaking up on her."

"Not everyone is so shy about queefing. Some people are downright enthusiastic about it. How else can we explain things like queef fetish forums, queef championships and queef-themed pornography? In her 2013 song, 'Queef,' Awkwafina incorporates the proud line, 'You need to embrace your queefing. You can’t be scared of it anymore. It’s gonna save the world.'" Queefing: How to Get Down with Sexual Embarrassment (By Carrie Weisman / AlterNet) [previously and relatedly]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on Nov 16, 2015 - 28 comments

"with the door locked; because of the morals of the maids’’

Sex, Death and Mushrooms
posted by telstar on Nov 8, 2015 - 24 comments

MARPUSS

It’s a Thursday morning, and you’re sitting around with nothing to do. You had a job, but it exploded, so now you’re stuck here in your boring house. Suddenly, your phone rings. Murder, Cheat, and Fuck Your Way Through Boston
posted by Rustic Etruscan on Nov 8, 2015 - 46 comments

"'Human Trafficking' Has Become a Meaningless Term"

Does "human trafficking" mean "modern-day slavery," as President Obama says? No, "the word is a way to target marginalized groups like immigrants and sex workers in the name of a (confused or cynical) humanitarianism." [more inside]
posted by John Cohen on Nov 1, 2015 - 73 comments

It sounds like you're living your best life!

Amber Rose wrote the book on it: How to Be a Bad Bitch [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on Oct 27, 2015 - 31 comments

Gif that's what's for dinner

The latest thing is Recipes as animated GIFs:
Pull-out monkey bread
Avocado & Eggs breakfast
Better than sex brownies
Homemade Nutella
Apple roses
Pizza dip
PES guacamole
Mozzarella sticks
Archer's Margarita
[more inside]
posted by growabrain on Oct 22, 2015 - 105 comments

Heirs to the Sexual Revolution

And yet, for all there is to worry about — and we old folks love nothing more than worrying about the sex lives of young people — campuses are still filled with college kids excited about one another and the thrill of a night that’s just beginning. To them, college sex isn’t a headline but something real. In an attempt to get past the existing media narratives, and the moralizing that comes with them, New York asked college students what they think about the campus-sex climate. Or, rather, how they experience it.
[more inside] posted by the man of twists and turns on Oct 22, 2015 - 17 comments

YADKCOLSPAC

OCTOBER 22 IS INTERNATIONAL CAPS LOCK DAY!!!" EVERY YEAR WE GET TOGETHER AND MAKE SALMON FOR TOAST, EVERY YEAR WE GET A CROCKETY BLOAT, EVERY YEAR WE GET DRUNK ON THE DOCKS, AND EVERY YEAR WE HAVE SEX WITH OUR CAPS LOCKS!!!! [more inside]
posted by nickmark on Oct 21, 2015 - 134 comments

He likes big butts and he cannot lie

Robert Crumb talks to The Observer about misogyny, sex, fame, cartooning and getting older in a sprawling interview.
posted by Artw on Oct 19, 2015 - 70 comments

You can't spell America without Gay Cabal

Author and historian Bob Arnebeck writes about early American history and its Founding Fathers' "relationships with men beyond conventional propriety." Featured characters include war hero and Washington D.C planner Pierre Charles L'Enfant, the first inspector general of the US Army Baron Von Steuben , and Alexander Hamilton. Bonus: Revolutinary America's tolerance for homosexuality by Victoria A. Brownworth.
posted by The Whelk on Oct 7, 2015 - 25 comments

Need A Little Sugar in my Bowl

He shakes my ashes
Greases my griddle
Churns my butter
And he strokes my fiddle
My man, is such a handy man

Alberta Hunter - My Handy Man

Euphemisms in the blues. NSFW. [more inside]
posted by ashbury on Oct 3, 2015 - 51 comments

Moving towards a future of sex with robots whether we like it or not

Robot ethicists have launched the Campaign Against Sex Robots, seeking a ban on the development of robotic sexytimes. Robot ethicists Kathleen Richardson of De Montfort University and Erik Billing from University of Skövde are the co-creators of the Campaign Against Sex Robots, which seeks to bring awareness to the issue and proposes a robot sex ban. They compare it to similar campaigns that seek to limit development of “killer” robots.
posted by sciatrix on Sep 18, 2015 - 296 comments

Right from the start it was both sexual & social: Ask Isadora sex advice

"Jewish grandma Isadora Alman pioneered the American sex-advice column, then found her work obsolete." - Jonathan Kiefer, Tablet. [Ask Isadora website / essays for Psychology Today]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on Sep 14, 2015 - 9 comments

Highlights from Key & Peele's incredible run

In its all-too-brief 3½ year run, Comedy Central's sketch comedy powerhouse Key & Peele burned brightly, leavening Peabody-award-winning social commentary with sublime silliness and Hollywood-quality production values, all centered on the impeccable character acting of co-stars Jordan (Peele) and Keegan-Michael (Key). By the time its end was announced, characters like the Substitute Teacher, the East/West College Bowl players, and Obama's Anger Translator had captured the popular consciousness, while skits like TeachingCenter and Negrotown deftly spotlighted our most pressing problems. With the finale airing tonight, and the dynamic duo free to tackle other projects, why not revisit the program's concentrated brilliance in the form of ~100 of their very best short bits available on the web, sorted loosely by topic. [more inside]
posted by Rhaomi on Sep 9, 2015 - 76 comments

Myles Jackman

One lawyer’s crusade to defend extreme pornography. Myles Jackman is Britain’s leading obscenity lawyer. But he does not merely defend the accused: his life’s great plan and purpose is to rid this country once and for all of its laws criminalising extreme pornography – laws that he regards as morally and socially iniquitous. (contains descriptions of sex and pornography)
posted by dng on Sep 9, 2015 - 17 comments

like I'm the only person who ever mixed a margarita in a sailor's mouth!

How Many Men Did The Golden Girls Sleep With, Exactly?
Refinery 29 claims to have tallied up the numbers. (A quick summary courtesy of Jezebel.) [more inside]
posted by flex on Sep 1, 2015 - 54 comments

Dear Future Bedmate,

"How To Make Me Come" is a collection of anonymous essays penned by women about their orgasms. (Content NSFW: Text only.)
posted by zarq on Aug 28, 2015 - 44 comments

Everything you always wanted to know about panda sex

Since the pandas’ arrival, the team at Edinburgh zoo had already tried three times to breed the bears – with considerable fanfare and public attention – and each attempt had ended in disappointment. After a thoroughgoing review of these attempts in late 2014, this year’s season carried with it a sense of added pressure. But the keepers had also come up with one or two new tricks. A few weeks earlier, Maclean had daubed urine from Long Hui, an impressive male panda kept at Schönbrunn zoo, in Vienna, all over Yang Guang and Tian Tian’s enclosures, in order to spice the air with competition and possibility. “She spent a lot of time sniffing and seeing what was going on,” said Maclean. “He came out and was just like, ‘Whoa!’ He was all over the place.”
posted by ChuraChura on Aug 26, 2015 - 17 comments

Sexe & ye Syngle Gyrle

Thus Man’s most noble Parts describ’d we see;
(For such the Parts of Generation be;)
And they that carefully survey’t, will find,
Each Part is fitted for the Use design’d:
The Purest Blood we find, if well we heed,
Is in the Testicles turn’d into Seed;

Aristotle's Complete Masterpiece isn't by Aristotle, is no masterpiece, and is far from complete, but from its publication in 1684 well into the 1930s, it served as by far the most popular sex manual in the English language.
posted by Eyebrows McGee on Aug 21, 2015 - 4 comments

Your Sex is Not Radical

Your Sex is Not Radical In queer radical circles and in much of the left, the worlds in which I operate, there’s a widely held idea that one’s political radicalism can be attached to one’s sexual practices. This is why those who practice BDSM and are variously “sex positive” are often equated with left politics. But the sad truth that many of us learn after years in sexual playing fields (literally and figuratively) is that how many people you fuck has nothing to do with the extent to which you fuck up capitalism.
posted by modernnomad on Aug 19, 2015 - 52 comments

"If someone doesn’t want to have sex with you, don’t have sex with them"

In the United States, only 22 states require that sex education should be taught in their schools. Of those, only 13 insist upon medical accuracy. There is no federal standard. As a result, classroom lessons that teach purity culture – the idea that virginity is a state of moral accomplishment – are pervasive. John Oliver's Last Week Tonight covers Sex Education in America. (NSFW) The end of the segment features a modern sex education video created by LWT, narrated by several celebrities (including Laverne Cox, Nick Offerman, Jonathan Banks, Kristen Schaal and Aisha Tyler) that touches on topics outdated lessons may be ignoring. [more inside]
posted by zarq on Aug 15, 2015 - 45 comments

“...a bit of a shock to find, all of a sudden, that I am driving Yeats!”

A Lazarus Beside Me by Avies Platt [London Review of Books]
“‘Are you, by any chance, going to Norman Haire’s party?’ I inquired. ‘I rather think that is where I’m supposed to be going,’ he replied. A little strange, that, I thought. But I said, ‘That’s where I’m going, so perhaps I may give you a lift?’ ‘Thank you,’ he said. ‘That’s very kind of you.’ And we got into the car and drove off. At first neither of us spoke. I was concerned with joining the stream of traffic in Lower Regent Street. Then he asked abruptly: ‘Are you connected with the arts?’ ‘I don’t know about connected,’ I replied guardedly. ‘I’m interested.’ ‘And may I ask the name of my kind chauffeur?’ he continued. ‘Platt,’ I said. ‘Avies Platt. And may I ask yours?’ ‘Yeats,’ he said! ‘W.B. Yeats.’ And added: ‘I’m a poet.’.”
posted by Fizz on Aug 13, 2015 - 17 comments

"The men in this town have a serious case of pussy affluenza"

"I call it the Dating Apocalypse,” says a woman in New York, aged 29. “Guys view everything as a competition,” [Alex] elaborates with his deep, reassuring voice. “Who’s slept with the best, hottest girls?” With these dating apps, he says, “you’re always sort of prowling. You could talk to two or three girls at a bar and pick the best one, or you can swipe a couple hundred people a day—the sample size is so much larger. It’s setting up two or three Tinder dates a week and, chances are, sleeping with all of them, so you could rack up 100 girls you’ve slept with in a year.”
posted by modernnomad on Aug 9, 2015 - 148 comments

"Women – Love each other, support each other, defend each other."

Herself.com (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by zarq on Aug 7, 2015 - 13 comments

"I’ll be 25. I can’t rent my first car as a virgin. They’ll know."

The Atlantic: On "Late"-in-Life Virginity Loss. Vice's predictably Vice-ier take. Meanwhile, Dr. Nerdlove and Gawker's After Hours have advice. [more inside]
posted by Rustic Etruscan on Aug 6, 2015 - 15 comments

Why Straight Men Have Sex With Each Other

Dr. Jane Ward discusses her new book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men with New York Magazine.
posted by Elementary Penguin on Aug 5, 2015 - 91 comments

“Is There Anybody In The World Who Is On My Side?”

"After surviving one of the most high-profile and long-running school sex abuse scandals in history, a group of 32 men and women banded together to seek solace and justice — only to find that public outrage, a star attorney, and overwhelming evidence are no match for a legal process stacked against even the most privileged or traumatized." - Sam Roudman
posted by the man of twists and turns on Jul 24, 2015 - 13 comments

Duck Club

Ask a Manager is a work advice site linked to sometimes on the green. In April a letter was published on a sex club at work and in June an update was sent in, with some pretty interesting details Real or fake? Commenters were divided.
posted by Aranquis on Jul 6, 2015 - 72 comments

Hot Girls Wanted

Rashida Jones has produced a new documentary about the "amateur porn" industry and follows several young women trying to make it in Miami. Here is an interview with Gianna Toboni of Vice about the film. [more inside]
posted by stinker on Jul 3, 2015 - 69 comments

where everyone is bisexual and no one is bisexual

As much as we wish it weren't so, the queer world still exists apart -- discrete, you might say -- from the straight world, and to be a bisexual woman on OKCupid is to travel back and forth between them, bicoastal, bilingual, bicultural, always apologizing to one on behalf of the other.
The Two Faces of Bisexual OKCupid, by Frankie Thomas at the Hairpin.
posted by Stacey on Jun 29, 2015 - 37 comments

“You can ruin my life when this show is over.”

"He sent me long emails about how I was a tool of the devil. I pictured him with two computer screens open — one for looking up scripture, and another to Mapquest the location of his next bathroom rendezvous. We were never going to have the cool kind of gay dad." Why I Answered My Dad's Gay Sex Ad by Aussa Lorens
posted by The Whelk on Jun 20, 2015 - 85 comments

Cliteracy

IN 1969, WE PUT A MAN ON THE MOON. IN 1982, WE INVENTED THE INTERNET. IN 1998, WE DISCOVERED THE FULL ANATOMY OF THE CLITORIS.
posted by the man of twists and turns on Jun 3, 2015 - 13 comments

Men Adrift

For those at the top, James Brown’s observation that it is a man’s, man’s, man’s world still holds true. Some 95% of Fortune 500 CEOs are male, as are 98% of the self-made billionaires on the Forbes rich list and 93% of the world’s heads of government. In popular films fewer than a third of the characters who speak are women, and more than three-quarters of the protagonists are men. Yet the fact that the highest rungs have male feet all over them is scant comfort for the men at the bottom.
posted by Chessboxing on May 31, 2015 - 81 comments

New Wave Goodbye

'New Wave Games Journalist' and frequent Guardian and Rock Paper Shotgun columnist Cara Ellison is leaving games journalism, and she lays out her reasons in an essay on her site. Some of her best-known writing includes her S.EXE series about sex in a games for Rock Paper Shotgun, a verse review of an Anna Anthropy game for The Guardian, the Embed With Games series and a heartfelt tribute to indie game maker Increpare.
posted by Charlemagne In Sweatpants on May 29, 2015 - 26 comments

How many partners have you been with? Can you remember everyone?

Tell us how many people you’ve slept with. Our calculator will tell you if that’s a lot. Slate features a sex history calculator. Input your age, gender (male or female) and number of sex partners since 18 and compare results with other participants.
posted by zardoz on May 28, 2015 - 260 comments

How TV Sex Got Real

Whether it’s two female prisoners competing to see who can coax the most orgasms out of their fellow inmates in Netflix’s Orange Is the New Black or a good, old-fashioned kiss-and-cut-away on ABC’s Scandal—the way intimacy is shown on the small screen has come a long way since 1952 when CBS forbade Lucille Ball from calling herself “pregnant” on national TV, substituting instead the priest-approved word “expecting.”
posted by ellieBOA on May 21, 2015 - 21 comments

Sex and gender doubleshot

17 Pathbreaking Non-Binary and Gender-Fluid Novels | You might be sexually fluid and not realize it — or even care
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on May 18, 2015 - 61 comments

On My Mom, The Sex She Had, and The Adoption She Didn’t Plan

"For my mother and women like her, now in the final chapters of their lives, people crave a narrative that forces adoption as the only possible solution." "Overwhelmingly then, adoptive parents, like myself, decide how the mothers who birthed our children should be perceived." [more inside]
posted by xarnop on May 9, 2015 - 39 comments

The men in the room were taken aback that we even had to think of this.

My approach in shooting the portraits was to create a community experience. I set up open calls for women and female-identifying individuals to have their photographs taken holding whatever made them feel most safe walking home alone.
Iowa-based artist Taylor Yocom presents: Guarded. [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on May 7, 2015 - 196 comments

The Dickonomics of Tinder

When Tinder first came along, it was heralded by some as the Grindr for straight people and a hook-up app that women would actually use. Men braced themselves for what was supposed to be a rush of incoming babes, women who had been released from the confines of a Girls Gone Wild! VHS but didn’t expect anything so extravagant from them as a novelty T-shirt for taking their clothes off. Simple girls, horny girls. When Tinder matches occurred, these men stormed into our messages with all the social grace of Steve fucking Urkel but none of his endearing sincerity with appeals like, “Sexy dress. Hook up?” They used the precious real estate of their bio to complain about women rather than entice them. They wore jerseys for teams that suck. They attempted to order women to their homes as if they were chicken fingers on Seamless. And almost every last goddamn one of them found their whiskey habit absolutely fascinating.
"Dick is abundant and low value." Alana Massey on successfully using Tinder as a hook-up app. [NSFW header illustration]
posted by automatic cabinet on May 1, 2015 - 221 comments

Sex Simply Wouldn't Be the Same Without These 11 Kickass Women

Women haven't always gotten to play a big role in the scientific advancements, studies and cultural conversations concerning sexuality. […] But numerous powerful women have elbowed their way in, taking control over female sexuality and introducing innovations that actually what women want and need.
[more inside] posted by ellieBOA on Apr 30, 2015 - 15 comments

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