Sadly, despite the growing acceptance of variable sexuality in western culture, there's still widespread acceptance of casual homophobia. NoHomophobes.com
seeks to shine a bright light on this, in the hopes of rendering this speech as socially unacceptable as racist slurs.
Right now Baltimore, MD plays host to FemmeCon
, a biannual gathering for those who "seek to explore, discuss, dissect, and support Queer Femme
as a transgressive, gender-queer, stand-alone, and empowered identity and provide a space for organizing and activism within Queer communities". Some of the issues faced by queer femme culture include femme invisibility in larger queer culture
, the lack of non-stereotypical role models
, being classed 'femme' by default
, dismissal as "too much"
, as well as intersectional issues of femme with race
, and disability
. In the meantime, femme subcultures such as tomboy femme
, hard femme
, and FEMME SHARKS
as well as femmes in specific regions
come together for inspiration
and support from each other - as well as from appreciative butches
"The Most Important Gay Porn Film Ever Made?"
[NSFW Warning: Pictures of a naked guy, no sex or penis shown.]
"Dawson's 20 Load Weekend
redefined bareback porn and the men who appear in such porn. It influenced subsequent videos and expanded the availability of bareback films. It depicted a prevailing truth about gay sexual behavior "post-AIDS" and arguably encouraged risky sexual adventure-seeking. It led to the saturation of bareback porn online, making unprotected sex normative to whomever might be watching. To dismiss this film, to minimize its social and cultural impact, would be to demonstrate a profound misunderstanding of gay sexuality today."
Late last month, after vocally anti-gay evangelical author and blogger Jonathan Merritt
's essay defending Chick-Fil-A
appeared in The Atlantic, Azariah Southworth outed Merritt on his blog.
with Merritt about his sexual orientation. Follow-up column from Southworth: Why I outed a Christian star
. [more inside]
We Happy Trans
is a place to share positive trans experiences. The site features a project called 7 Questions
, where trans folk discuss their lives. Notable contributors include site owners Jen
, as well as "glittery hot pink polyamorous unicorn" Ira
, who just started testosterone treatment, and Stephen
, whose charm proves that not all celebrities' kids are screw ups
. [more inside]
Photographer Stefano Bonazzi's series Smoke
, where nude subjects vanish into the air.
In May, YouTube announced they would be hosting
a lineup of original video channels, in a possible attempt to compete with network and cable television. Among the new offerings was WIGS
, the (NSFW
) brainchild of director/producer/writers Jon Avnet and Rodrigo Garcia, of original, scripted dramatic series and short films exploring female characters. [more inside]
On Sunday, April 13th, Tokyo illustrator Mao Sugiyama publicly seasoned and braised his own genitals
on a portable gas cartridge burner and then served them to five eager diners who each paid about $250 for the meal. Sugiyama self-identifies as asexual and appears to fall into the gender classification of male-to-eunuchs called "smoothies"
. (Warning: Consider all links in this post to be NSFW
) [more inside]
A museum exhibit called Sex: A Tell-All Exhibition is drawing controversy.
After running in Montreal
with no complaints, the exhibit was criticised by the Heritage Minister when it came to Ottawa for being too lurid and being outside the mandate of the Science and Technology Museum
. [more inside]
makes luxury, design-oriented vibrators and other sex toys and accessories. ("Design inspired by Apple, not Hustler.") They'd like to change the way Americans think about them: instead of as 'dirty little secrets,' they're hoping for mainstream acceptance and to usher in an "Age of Great American Sex.
" (Via) [more inside]
Hard Gay was a Japanese pro wrestler
turned TV personality
popular in the mid 2000s. Like Sacha Baron Cohen's Brüno
, he is a cartoonish gay foreigner portrayed by a straight person, but has come under considerably greater scrutiny
for his more minstrelsy than satyrical approach. The BBC has profiled Hard Gay as part of their series, Japanorama
. [more inside]
Are you bothered by the LDS practice of "baptism for the dead
"? Well, take heart, because now, All Dead Mormons Are Now Gay
Softening and sexualizing Lisbeth Salander:
David Fincher's casting for Stieg Larsson's The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo examined.
In the beginning, Lawrence built a computer. He told it, Thou shalt not alter a human being, or divine their behavior, or violate the Three Laws -- there are no commandments greater than these.
The machine grew wise, mastering time and space, and soon the spirit of the computer hovered over the earth. It witnessed the misery, toil, and oppression afflicting mankind, and saw that it was very bad. And so the computer that Lawrence built said, Let there be a new heaven and a new earth
-- and it was so. A world with no war, no famine, no crime, no sickness, no oppression, no fear, no limits... and nothing at all to do. "The Metamorphosis of Prime Intellect,"
a provocative web novel about singularities, AI gods, and the dark side of utopia from Mefi's own localroger
. More: Table of Contents
- Publishing history
- Technical discussion
- Buy a paperback copy
- Podcast interview
- Companion short story: "A Casino Odyssey in Cyberspace"
- possible sequel discussion
"In all other circumstances we praise non-violent activities and when people, for whatever personal reasons, enjoy sexual violence even in a consenting context I think we shouldn't just say “whatever turns you on”. We should say “There's something wrong here”. But people on the left are so terrified of being accused of moralising and therefore of being oppressive that they've abandoned their critical faculties in this area." Clive Hamilton
God, Sex, and the Left
"But when a saga popular with pre-adolescent girls peaks romantically on a night that leaves the heroine to wake up covered with bruises in the shape of her husband's hands — and when that heroine then spends the morning explaining to her husband that she's incredibly happy even though he injured her, and that it's not his fault because she understands he couldn't help it in light of the depth of his passion — that's profoundly irresponsible." MetaFilter's own Linda Holmes
on the "psychosexual horror-show" that is The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn Part 1
. [more inside]
Teaching Good Sex
-- a profile of Philadelphia's Friends' Central School's
Sexuality and Society course and its teacher Al Vernacchio, by Laurie Abraham, author of the book "The Husbands and Wives Club." (Descriptions in the first link may be NSFW.) [more inside]
Ridiculous Tips For A Miserable Sex Life: Each month like clockwork, men's and women's magazines hit the newstands, bursting with terrible sex and dating advice. And each month, we pick out the stupidest tips and make fun of them.
Slow is a short film by Darius Clark Monroe that's won best Short at the 2011 Martha's Vineyard African-American Film Festival. You can watch it on Vimeo
. [NSFW: Nudity, bad words, reefer] [more inside]
Style Like U
features an exhaustive video archive
of people talking about their clothes and history and what personal style means to them and the power of self transformation. [more inside]
"I have foresworn desire...I neither lick nor moan...I neither swallow..." Kim Addonizio's
poem, "The End of It,"
is on Poetry Daily
. Reminiscent of Yeats' line, "The best lack all conviction, while the worst/ Are full of passionate intensity"
and Stephen Dunn's line, "Precision...is more radical than passion,"
it demonstrates the fecund nature of poetic iconoclasm
. Or, if you prefer the more hackneyed characterization, the value of questioning everything. In the end, Addonizio may be sitting quietly, like Nanao Sakaki's "happy, lucky idiot."
[NSF asexuals, hedonists, or the majority of non-eccentrics...but I doubt your boss at work will bat an eyelash at a poem--if so, sit quietly you happy, lucky...] [more inside]
How I Went Undercover at Bachmann's Clinic:
Truth Wins Out (or TWO
) activist John Becker took a hidden camera with him to five therapy sessions at a Christian counseling center
run by Marcus Bachmann. Meanwhile, QUEERTY debates whether making fun of Mr. Bachmann's own decidedly "gay-sounding" voice
(and theoretical repressed-gay tendencies
) is fair game, or whether it counts as homophobic bullying
One of the results of unlimited internet porn is that guys invariably compare their own members to those they see on the net. And lots of them aren't happy.
The New Republic examines what they're calling "America's Next Great Civil Rights Struggle" and asks, "What will it take for America to accept transgender people for who they really are?" [more inside]
So suddenly, everyone was talking about hookup culture, and they wanted to know: "What is this thing? What is it?" And they were afraid that somehow college was some alcohol-fueled Bacchanalian orgy.
The Promise and Perils of Hookup Culture
: a talk by sociologist Lisa Wade (previously
Interesting effect on the lack of the neurotransmitter serotonin
in male mice
Are we born gay? And if we were, how would we know it?
Sociologist Lisa Wade asks the question in response to the blog Born This Way
, a collection of images of LGBT adults as children. Perusing the photographs tells an interesting story: being gay — that is, being sexually or romantically attracted to members of the same sex — is conflated with being gender non-conformist — adopting the mannerisms and interests of the other sex.
The Last Temptation of Ted
. GQ talks to Ted Haggard about coming to terms with his beliefs and sexuality in the wake of the New Life Church scandal.
Anal Massage Goes Deeper Than You May Have Ever Imagined.
A collection of very awkward sexual self-help videos, gathered by Eliot Glazer (creator of My Parents Were Awesome
(NSFW) BUTT magazine
) has undergone a huge redesign this year and asked readers to submit reviews
of their sexual encounters. They don't always go well. [more inside]
"We don't use the word 'vagina'. Because, it's the Latin word for 'sheath'. Yes, as in a sword.
(Somewhat NSFW) Virgie Tovar
, the writer, blogger, sexuality educator and academic looks at UC Berkeley's Female Sexuality class and asks whether one class can change the way women see their bodies and their educational experience. More on DeCal
at UC Berkeley.
Peter Grudzien lives in New York and makes psychedelic country music
or at least used to, since only two albums of his material ever came out, The Unicorn
in 1974, and The Garden of Love
, which is mostly a collection of demos. His songs are varied, ranging from noise music to straight up country, and their subject matters are equally wide-ranging, from strange fare, such as lyrics about his clone being at Stonewall
, to straight-up love songs
. His best known original is probably The Unicorn
, a beautiful song whose lyrics
recast the early 70s New York gay demimonde in terms of a barren zombie-filled wasteland which will be reborn when the titular unicorn is found by the queen. Other songs on YouTube are White Trash Hillbilly Trick
, New York Town
and an instrumental cover of the Georgia Gibbs hit Kiss Me Another
. Finally, here's a lovely cover of The Unicorn
by Calgary folkie Kris Ellestad.
A Mountain I'm Willing To Die On
A letter of a mother to her child about religion, love, and acceptance of who you are.
Hide/Seek: Difference and Desire in American Portraiture,
an exhibit at the Smithsonian's National Portrait Gallery
, "is the first major museum exhibition to focus on sexual difference in the making of modern American portraiture." [more inside]
The Center for Sexual Health Promotion, Indiana University, has investigated in 2009 sexual practices in the USA. The results are reported in this month's Special Issue
of the Journal of Sexual Medicine. (The full text
is available behind a short anonymous online survey.) [more inside]
Sociologist Amy Schalet
has done wonderful research
comparing American and Dutch approaches to teen sexuality. (Blog commentary here
) [more inside]
We are princesses in a land of machos.
"They drink beer, they are part of local governement and they are symbol of good luck for their family: they are Muxes, homosexuals of the “pueblo oaxacaqueno de Juchitan”, more than 3000 homosexuals who enjoy respect and admiration in all the country... they walk proudly in the streets, dressed as women with huipiles and enaguas, typical dress of the Tehuantepec Isthmus." Photo essay by Nicola Okin Frioli. More at Flickr
. [more inside]