Walk of Shame
February 20, 2012 4:53 PM Subscribe
You've been there (well, if you've ever had any fun you've been there). It's the morning after, and you've got to get back home from wherever you ended up after a night of debauchery... otherwise known as "The Walk of Shame." Need a lift?
I've always been bemused by people who call it "the walk of shame". When you're heading out the previous evening for your debauch, isn't it the goal to have to stumble home blearily the next morning, carnal exhaustion evident in every movement, rather than to come home responsibly at 11:30pm with a mild buzz and no sexytimes? (Plus what munchingzombie said about the video's double standard.)
posted by hattifattener at 5:09 PM on February 20, 2012 [16 favorites]
posted by hattifattener at 5:09 PM on February 20, 2012 [16 favorites]
Why are they not using this awesome song as their theme?!
posted by ApathyGirl at 5:13 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
posted by ApathyGirl at 5:13 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
The best part was, it wasn't even funny!
posted by mrnutty at 5:15 PM on February 20, 2012 [12 favorites]
posted by mrnutty at 5:15 PM on February 20, 2012 [12 favorites]
The concept "walk of shame" is one of those American concepts around sexuality that are completely alien to my culture (and most other cultures I'm aware of). Even after living in the US for the better part of a decade, those still weird me out.
posted by Kattullus at 5:17 PM on February 20, 2012 [6 favorites]
posted by Kattullus at 5:17 PM on February 20, 2012 [6 favorites]
This video reminded me why I'm glad I'm not in college anymore. Not the walk of shame, but the entire notion of it's existence really (and the "its ok for the guy, but not the girl" dynamic).
Also, I wonder how many guys get a pass at the walk of shame because once they unpop their collar, it looks like they are just out for a lazy walk to get breakfast somewhere. Since things such as jackets and actual functional clothing are ok for guys to wear on a night out on the town, they can pass more easily the next morning as they walk home.
Maybe someone in the ultra light backpacking world will start marketing micro down jackets and sweat pants so there are options if a fine night out means you aren't returning home that night, yet will still fit easily in a small purse.
> When you're heading out the previous evening for your debauch, isn't it the goal to have to stumble home blearily the next morning, carnal exhaustion evident in every movement, rather than to come home responsibly at 11:30pm with a mild buzz and no sexytimes?
Walk of Shame always had an added connotation of not exactly a great night, more of a "well, at least I got laid" result.
posted by mrzarquon at 5:18 PM on February 20, 2012 [7 favorites]
Also, I wonder how many guys get a pass at the walk of shame because once they unpop their collar, it looks like they are just out for a lazy walk to get breakfast somewhere. Since things such as jackets and actual functional clothing are ok for guys to wear on a night out on the town, they can pass more easily the next morning as they walk home.
Maybe someone in the ultra light backpacking world will start marketing micro down jackets and sweat pants so there are options if a fine night out means you aren't returning home that night, yet will still fit easily in a small purse.
> When you're heading out the previous evening for your debauch, isn't it the goal to have to stumble home blearily the next morning, carnal exhaustion evident in every movement, rather than to come home responsibly at 11:30pm with a mild buzz and no sexytimes?
Walk of Shame always had an added connotation of not exactly a great night, more of a "well, at least I got laid" result.
posted by mrzarquon at 5:18 PM on February 20, 2012 [7 favorites]
I don't think it was intended to be funny. :-|
here's the newspaper article about it.
posted by HuronBob at 5:18 PM on February 20, 2012
here's the newspaper article about it.
posted by HuronBob at 5:18 PM on February 20, 2012
This is apparently real -- post-mortem interview.
posted by grobstein at 5:24 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
posted by grobstein at 5:24 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
Led me to google "the stride of pride". Let's see.
Hmm. Uhh, I think it's SFW.
Aha...
Walk of Shame Is a Stride of Pride in a Harvey Nichols Dress WTF?
posted by yoHighness at 5:28 PM on February 20, 2012
Hmm. Uhh, I think it's SFW.
Aha...
Walk of Shame Is a Stride of Pride in a Harvey Nichols Dress WTF?
posted by yoHighness at 5:28 PM on February 20, 2012
The term "walk of shame" always confused me.
I guess I never realized I was supposed to be ashamed.
posted by louche mustachio at 5:29 PM on February 20, 2012 [3 favorites]
I guess I never realized I was supposed to be ashamed.
posted by louche mustachio at 5:29 PM on February 20, 2012 [3 favorites]
Yeah, the draconian taxi cab laws in AA will drag this down pretty quick...not to mention the stalkers she is going to have to avoid for the rest of her life.... Other than that, it's a great idea!
posted by HuronBob at 5:30 PM on February 20, 2012
posted by HuronBob at 5:30 PM on February 20, 2012
"I guess I never realized I was supposed to be ashamed."
maybe you weren't doing it right... ?
whatever "it" is.....
posted by HuronBob at 5:31 PM on February 20, 2012
maybe you weren't doing it right... ?
whatever "it" is.....
posted by HuronBob at 5:31 PM on February 20, 2012
Walk of Shame always had an added connotation of not exactly a great night, more of a "well, at least I got laid" result.
I always felt it was more of "I got laid, but I probably should have passed."
posted by LordSludge at 5:31 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
I always felt it was more of "I got laid, but I probably should have passed."
posted by LordSludge at 5:31 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
When you're heading out the previous evening for your debauch, isn't it the goal to have to stumble home blearily the next morning, carnal exhaustion evident in every movement, rather than to come home responsibly at 11:30pm with a mild buzz and no sexytimes?
In my circles, Walk of Shame has the connotation that you wouldn't necessarily be proud of where you are walking from.
Be it stalker ex-girlfriend, that guy who tries too hard to be Jersey Shore, that girl with the annoying voice, whatever. The point is, you aren't walking with your head held high.
posted by madajb at 5:33 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
In my circles, Walk of Shame has the connotation that you wouldn't necessarily be proud of where you are walking from.
Be it stalker ex-girlfriend, that guy who tries too hard to be Jersey Shore, that girl with the annoying voice, whatever. The point is, you aren't walking with your head held high.
posted by madajb at 5:33 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
maybe you weren't doing it right... ?
whatever "it" is.....
Or maybe I was.
*heh heh heh*
posted by louche mustachio at 5:38 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
There's an excellent documentary on this "walk of shame."
posted by buriednexttoyou at 5:38 PM on February 20, 2012
posted by buriednexttoyou at 5:38 PM on February 20, 2012
> In my circles, Walk of Shame has the connotation that you wouldn't necessarily be proud of where you are walking from.
Yeah, this sums it up pretty well. I mean, if you had a great night and met some awesome person, you probably would still be hanging out with them, or be able to get a ride with them back to where your house is, or so on.
So the shame can be interpreted two ways: That person walking home should be ashamed of sleeping around, or I am ashamed at how low my standards were last night.
posted by mrzarquon at 5:41 PM on February 20, 2012 [3 favorites]
Yeah, this sums it up pretty well. I mean, if you had a great night and met some awesome person, you probably would still be hanging out with them, or be able to get a ride with them back to where your house is, or so on.
So the shame can be interpreted two ways: That person walking home should be ashamed of sleeping around, or I am ashamed at how low my standards were last night.
posted by mrzarquon at 5:41 PM on February 20, 2012 [3 favorites]
The concept "walk of shame" is one of those American concepts around sexuality...
As an American: No, it isn't.
posted by DU at 5:42 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
As an American: No, it isn't.
posted by DU at 5:42 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
From the article...
The senior art and design major from Farmington Hills is interested in comedy and said her ultimate goal is to be a red-headed version of comedienne Chelsea Handler, but she thinks the Walk of Shame Shuttle can help her reach that goal.
"I still want to be a comedy writer, but I feel like this is really helping me get that off the ground. ... A lot of people are seeking me out and have read my writing."
Don't quit your day job. Unfunny and I'm not sure how doing a video where you're seen as a humorless hectoring nanny-type is supposed to be good for business or your comedy career.
posted by jessamyn at 5:43 PM on February 20, 2012 [12 favorites]
The senior art and design major from Farmington Hills is interested in comedy and said her ultimate goal is to be a red-headed version of comedienne Chelsea Handler, but she thinks the Walk of Shame Shuttle can help her reach that goal.
"I still want to be a comedy writer, but I feel like this is really helping me get that off the ground. ... A lot of people are seeking me out and have read my writing."
Don't quit your day job. Unfunny and I'm not sure how doing a video where you're seen as a humorless hectoring nanny-type is supposed to be good for business or your comedy career.
posted by jessamyn at 5:43 PM on February 20, 2012 [12 favorites]
Countdown until Joss Whedon casts her in something: 5... 4...
posted by George_Spiggott at 5:44 PM on February 20, 2012
posted by George_Spiggott at 5:44 PM on February 20, 2012
Walk of Shame always had an added connotation of not exactly a great night, more of a "well, at least I got laid" result.
I always felt it was more of "I got laid, but I probably should have passed."
"At least I got laid" and "probably shouldn't have" are two ways of saying the same thing.
posted by Lesser Shrew at 5:45 PM on February 20, 2012
I always felt it was more of "I got laid, but I probably should have passed."
"At least I got laid" and "probably shouldn't have" are two ways of saying the same thing.
posted by Lesser Shrew at 5:45 PM on February 20, 2012
The only time its actually shameful is when the person in question is coming out of room/house that doesn't belong to their current S.O.
Especially if said person or his roommates are present.
(male or female)
posted by Slackermagee at 6:01 PM on February 20, 2012
Especially if said person or his roommates are present.
(male or female)
posted by Slackermagee at 6:01 PM on February 20, 2012
I would've laughed if one of her passengers threw up on her.
posted by stinkycheese at 6:08 PM on February 20, 2012
posted by stinkycheese at 6:08 PM on February 20, 2012
HuronBob posted "You've been there (well, if you've ever had any fun you've been there)."
Never been there; have had and continue to have plenty of fun.
posted by Mitheral at 6:10 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
Never been there; have had and continue to have plenty of fun.
posted by Mitheral at 6:10 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
This is not only wrong in how it demeans women, but is a huge legal liability as well. The instant you start transporting people for money you open yourself up to all sorts of driver and vehicle licensing, testing, and inspection issues.
95% of the drivers on the roads are terrible drivers; nothing in this women's planning and decision making processes leads me to bet that she is at all qualified to do this.
posted by PareidoliaticBoy at 6:30 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
95% of the drivers on the roads are terrible drivers; nothing in this women's planning and decision making processes leads me to bet that she is at all qualified to do this.
posted by PareidoliaticBoy at 6:30 PM on February 20, 2012 [1 favorite]
95% of the drivers on the roads are terrible drivers; nothing in this women's planning and decision making processes leads me to bet that she is at all qualified to do this.
Nothing in any of my rides in a regular taxi have led me to believe the drivers are qualified to do it.
posted by madajb at 6:50 PM on February 20, 2012 [5 favorites]
Nothing in any of my rides in a regular taxi have led me to believe the drivers are qualified to do it.
posted by madajb at 6:50 PM on February 20, 2012 [5 favorites]
Yep. Taxi drivers are some of the worst out there.
posted by PareidoliaticBoy at 6:55 PM on February 20, 2012
posted by PareidoliaticBoy at 6:55 PM on February 20, 2012
Walk of Shame in post-collegiate life is a real thing and specifically described the walk one would take from my last job to the Del Taco two doors down. It was an admission that you had given up in your goal to have a healthy, tasty lunch, and that you no longer even cared about preventing gout or diabetes. When Del Taco closed the Walk of Shame crossed the street to Subway, but let's face it, Del Taco at its best is far more shameful than Subway can ever be on its worst.
My current job is far enough from restaurants so that any walk is no longer a walk of shame, 'cause hey, exercise before you pound back that Panda Express.
posted by infinitewindow at 6:59 PM on February 20, 2012
My current job is far enough from restaurants so that any walk is no longer a walk of shame, 'cause hey, exercise before you pound back that Panda Express.
posted by infinitewindow at 6:59 PM on February 20, 2012
By that definition, the lunch walk of shame for me is a beer hall. Not too bad.
posted by mrzarquon at 7:15 PM on February 20, 2012
posted by mrzarquon at 7:15 PM on February 20, 2012
I guess it's interesting as a document of how even women can support sexism: Slut shaming -- not just for men!
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 10:27 PM on February 20, 2012 [4 favorites]
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 10:27 PM on February 20, 2012 [4 favorites]
I was expecting college a cappella. Silly me.
And Stephanie K has a one minute song about the same.
She wants to be a comedy writer? Good luck, lady.
posted by knile at 12:10 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
And Stephanie K has a one minute song about the same.
She wants to be a comedy writer? Good luck, lady.
posted by knile at 12:10 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
Upon further reflection, I'd like to start a sort-of competing service in Ann Arbor: Weekend morning Chinese food delivery for hungover people. "Wok Of Shame," I'll call it. wokka wokka wokka!
posted by knile at 12:15 AM on February 21, 2012 [5 favorites]
posted by knile at 12:15 AM on February 21, 2012 [5 favorites]
I've done it plenty of times. And shame was never a part of it.
posted by Splunge at 2:52 AM on February 21, 2012
posted by Splunge at 2:52 AM on February 21, 2012
For me, the Walk of Shame is going back to the nightclub/loft/warehouse/whatever two days later to pick up my bike.
On the other hand, going home from the party the morning/afternoon after always made me pretty happy with myself. I'd look other people in the eye and think, "Guess who had more fun than you last night?"
posted by LMGM at 3:39 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
On the other hand, going home from the party the morning/afternoon after always made me pretty happy with myself. I'd look other people in the eye and think, "Guess who had more fun than you last night?"
posted by LMGM at 3:39 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
The concept "walk of shame" is one of those American concepts around sexuality that are completely alien to my culture
Nope, it exists here as well - see the Harvey Nichols ad above.
the worst kind of walk of shame is when you go to a fancy dress party dressed as Emma Peel, get a migraine, have to stay over, and end up going home the next day in a PVC catsuit and go-go boots.
posted by mippy at 6:15 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
Nope, it exists here as well - see the Harvey Nichols ad above.
the worst kind of walk of shame is when you go to a fancy dress party dressed as Emma Peel, get a migraine, have to stay over, and end up going home the next day in a PVC catsuit and go-go boots.
posted by mippy at 6:15 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
In college, it could be "Walk of Shame" or "Walk of Fame" depending on how the person you slept with looked with in daylight when you were sober.
I never really thought of it as any kind of slut-shaming; we said Walk of Shame for guys, too.
posted by Chrysostom at 6:30 AM on February 21, 2012 [2 favorites]
I never really thought of it as any kind of slut-shaming; we said Walk of Shame for guys, too.
posted by Chrysostom at 6:30 AM on February 21, 2012 [2 favorites]
That was painfully, agonizingly unfunny.
posted by Forktine at 6:36 AM on February 21, 2012 [5 favorites]
posted by Forktine at 6:36 AM on February 21, 2012 [5 favorites]
I guess I always thought the shame part was because you're still wearing your costume, which is now ridiculous in sober daylight. Pity that slut-shaming has to come into it.
posted by echo target at 8:08 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
posted by echo target at 8:08 AM on February 21, 2012 [1 favorite]
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