bring them together
June 28, 2018 7:49 PM   Subscribe

Since 2011, Butches and Babies (not to be confused with baby butches) has been compiling photos.
It’s not at all easy to march through the world shattering gender norms at every turn. So when a butch holds a small child, relatively unaffected by gender (in a cognitive/behavioral sense), it is a simultaneous exchange of healing and freedom. Maybe I think about this too much, but that’s what I see. Every single time. I see hope and a new world.

For more delight, see the Butches and Dogs Tumblr, started in 2017. Previously on Butch awesomeness.
posted by spamandkimchi (20 comments total) 36 users marked this as a favorite
 
Babies and dogs?! This post could not be more perfect!
posted by Johnny Wallflower at 8:00 PM on June 28, 2018 [4 favorites]


Wow! I know one of these people and I'm going to see them next week, inspired to visit in part by the baby. Crazy small world, y'all. Thanks so much for sharing this link; it really made me smile.
posted by eirias at 8:05 PM on June 28, 2018 [1 favorite]


I... also know one of these people. Fuckin weird. And great!

I might have a small tear in my eye.
posted by selfnoise at 8:09 PM on June 28, 2018 [1 favorite]


I believe I'm featured in an early post? Jill and Everett are amazing.
posted by latkes at 8:27 PM on June 28, 2018 [1 favorite]


Well damn, I feel awkward commenting because for now I’m in the minority for NOT knowing one of these people, but I gotta say: this makes my day! I also immediately showed my girlfriend and she said “but you don’t like babies” and I admitted I was just in it for the butches. But now I hear there are butches AND dogs? This is the wholesome content I signed up for the Internet for all those years ago!
posted by the thorn bushes have roses at 8:38 PM on June 28, 2018 [15 favorites]


I don't know them either... But damn that made my day. Thanks!
posted by chapps at 9:17 PM on June 28, 2018


My partner and I should have an infant in a few months. I know only a few butches, but a couple are good friends and I'm wondering if they'll consent to hold the baby as it would be as photogenic as this. My suspicion is there'd be glaring involved.
posted by deadwax at 9:40 PM on June 28, 2018 [3 favorites]


OMG!Matching pink button ups and bow ties! Adorbs!
posted by vespabelle at 10:34 PM on June 28, 2018 [9 favorites]


God bless all these lovely people who have the strength to break gender norms (hopefully until they're a fucking thing of the past) and care for the next generation so that we, feminine-presenting people who'd rather eat tree bark than engage with a small child, can break ours. 👏
posted by Vesihiisi at 10:41 PM on June 28, 2018 [23 favorites]


You just articulated something I hadn’t ever realized, Vesihiisi, about my femme identity paired with total indifference (or fear or dislike) when it comes to children. I guess I subconsciously thought subverting gender norms was something only masculine of center queers got to do without realizing that I, too, could be a gender traitor (I mean that proudly).
posted by the thorn bushes have roses at 11:00 PM on June 28, 2018 [7 favorites]


Quick hand me a baby! You know what's really gender affirming? Being slightly down because you're growing out your last buzz cut and feeling like you're not queer enough because its a bit long in the back and then seeing a slideshow of some very handsome butch women and realizing that your hair is right in the middle of the cuts these wonderful ladies/people have. I can grow my hair out and still be butch! Srsly though hand me a baby, they are so cute XD
posted by Homo neanderthalensis at 12:54 AM on June 29, 2018 [14 favorites]


Yaaaay!
posted by XMLicious at 2:24 AM on June 29, 2018


This legit made me cry. Thanks for posting it.
posted by joycehealy at 4:14 AM on June 29, 2018


The happiness in these photos is contagious!
posted by cooker girl at 4:28 AM on June 29, 2018 [1 favorite]


These are adorable and I'm so glad you posted them here :D
posted by harriet vane at 5:03 AM on June 29, 2018 [1 favorite]


I am also in approval of all of these shenanigans.
posted by zenon at 6:40 AM on June 29, 2018


Tiny Carhartt overalls!
posted by TheWhiteSkull at 6:57 AM on June 29, 2018


Great post. Every single one of those pics is joymaking.
posted by Faintdreams at 7:08 AM on June 29, 2018


The wife matching her son was the "awww!" moment for me.

Also: new life goal.
posted by jb at 7:16 AM on June 29, 2018 [1 favorite]


Just started on these, but here's an early favorite.
posted by Halloween Jack at 12:37 PM on June 29, 2018


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