For queer women, it’s all caution tape.
August 7, 2018 11:44 AM Subscribe
The unimaginability of sexual or romantic desire between women that gives intimacy its alibi works in tandem with that other thing: the way in which we all grow up knowing not just that women can be used, but how to use them. We internalize both. We learn—we all learn—that we can lean on women in ways that we can’t lean on men, and, at the same time, that that leaning, the bodily closeness of it, is elevated, more pure, more innocent for its lack of want. We’re all complicit, and we’re all suffering.
But some of us do want, too.
-- Sadie Graham: how our cultural obsession with platonic 'girlfriends' sidelines queer women