June 7, 2002
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What do big city women want.. men with money
posted by stbalbach (21 comments total)
See the chart at the end. Living in DC which ranks physical at 42(!) the highest on the list I think its time to move.
posted by stbalbach at 5:51 PM on June 7, 2002

In other news, the sun will rise in the east tomorrow morning....
posted by rushmc at 6:00 PM on June 7, 2002

this is taken from personal ads: in other words, this is the first cut. if you live in an expensive city you might figure that you'd like to choose nice (honest, loving) guys from among those who can pull their own weight economically.

or, you know, if you live in a big city it's likely you've already supported at least one musician in your dating lifetime.

sort of a triage mentality....
posted by rebeccablood at 6:09 PM on June 7, 2002

Ding ding ding to Rebecca. No more food stamps, sister.

The longer I date men (which also means the more I age, of course), the more interested I am in finding a "mate" with more income, more savings, and more well-tailored suits.
posted by RJ Reynolds at 6:25 PM on June 7, 2002

Funny, the longer i date men the more interested I am in finding someone whose nice to me. I thought that was maturity, but perhaps it's living in Minnesota.

The older I get the more I realize that I can take care of myself financially.
posted by jodic at 6:47 PM on June 7, 2002

Well, stbalbach, it's just that here in DC, men are statistically more likely to look like federal workers.

If you were a woman who spent all day every day working alongside men who look like Karl Rove and Donald Rumsfeld, you'd put out a personal ad to try to flush out the hotties, too.
posted by Sapphireblue at 6:58 PM on June 7, 2002

The older I get the more horrified I am by the complete unwillingness of the vast majority of apparently inteligent people to question the idea that serial monogamy is actually useful or worth pursuing.
I thought it was paranoia but maybe it's just living with my parents to the age of 28.
posted by davidgentle at 7:13 PM on June 7, 2002

No more food stamps, sister.

You're allowed to work too these days, you know.

if you live in a big city it's likely you've already supported at least one musician in your dating lifetime.

Most musicians can support themselves, even if not much of the income comes through music. Just means you get a song written for you instead of a diamond on your birthday. But that's a plus.

Personal ads may be their own pool, too, of course - that is, perhaps the kind of people more concerned with wealth or other superficial qualities are also more likely to take out personal ads - ? Or maybe I should just accept that negative stereotypes are based on something real & stop fighting it.
posted by mdn at 7:14 PM on June 7, 2002

Another reason big cities suck ass. Oh, and here's a shock, Californians are more materialistic than anyone else in the sample:

"Among large cities where female ad-writers rate men who are good providers over men who are good listeners, San Francisco ranked first -- followed by Los Angeles, Boston, Chicago and Miami, in that order. "

In other words, when she complains that you never listen, just throw her the MasterCard®.
posted by mr_crash_davis at 8:49 PM on June 7, 2002

Uh, I think this gets it:

"Women across the country, who in their personal ads stated preferences for attractive men, were the same ones who also boasted of physical appeal, such as "attractive, blue-eyed blonde."

Shallow woman seeks shallow man. Twas ever thus.
posted by Salmonberry at 8:59 PM on June 7, 2002

This comes as a huge shock to me.
posted by DakotaPaul at 9:00 PM on June 7, 2002


I guess my geeky teenage years spent in front of the computer are about to start paying off in spades :-)
posted by clevershark at 9:30 PM on June 7, 2002

Problem is I am spending my geeky teenage years idling on IRC and so forth instead of building my portfolio. Procrastination and lazyness suck!
posted by spidre at 9:40 PM on June 7, 2002

Appropo of nothing, one of the simultaneously meanest and funniest moments of my college days:

At a packed party, my buddy Anthony is squeezing through the throng while holding two beers. A girl backs into him and the bump spills some beer on her arm. Her boyfriend gets up in Anthony's face, all "hey motherfucker you spilled beer on my girlfriend blah blah*%$@!"

The throng opens up around the developing scene. Anthony just looks at him for a second, cocks his head sideways, and hands off the beers. He reaches into his pocket, pulls out a 20 and throws it on the ground at the guys feet and tells him "Go buy yourself a new ho."

Ah, but I kid. He only had a couple ones. This is college we're talking about here.
posted by NortonDC at 10:42 PM on June 7, 2002


Oh my... that certainly is a college story!
posted by spidre at 11:01 PM on June 7, 2002

posted by Karl at 11:57 PM on June 7, 2002

San Francisco is the worst. There's nothing more romantic than the feeling of being at a job interview. So many dippie ho's in the Marina and Noe Valley who want nothing more than a man with a fatty income so they can afford to wear Nine West to their part-time job saving the whales with sme non-profit... $heesuz.
posted by scarabic at 10:57 AM on June 8, 2002

SapphireBlue, Donald Rumsfeld is hot. Um, or so I hear. And scarabic, everyone knows that you're not actually supposed to talk to girls in the Marina or Noe Valley - they're just for looking. Come down to the Haight or the Mission sometime, and it's not nearly so bad.
posted by jaek at 11:21 AM on June 8, 2002

At a packed party, my buddy Anthony is squeezing through the throng while holding two beers.

I read this as: At a packed party, my buddy Anthony is squeezing through the thong while holding two beers."
Ah, with time's passing the mind gets more fixated, not less.
posted by semmi at 3:26 PM on June 8, 2002

Jaek: word.
posted by scarabic at 11:34 AM on June 9, 2002

I've mentioned this before, but it fits here, so I'll mention it again. A few months ago, I placed the following ad in the Washington City Paper:

Every time you answer someone else's ad, God kills a kitten. Tall urban hipster urges you to please, think of the kittens.

Got ad of the week, special placement, free theater tickets, and many bemused responses, including one from the woman I strongly intend to be with the rest of my life.
posted by MrMoonPie at 7:43 AM on June 10, 2002 [4 favorites]

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