I just asked you to watch the dog!

November 19, 2024 9:49 AM

Woman discovers dog-sitter used her house for OnlyFans content. (slCBC)

This is posted more for "uhhhhh, well huh. I guess that is a thing that you could do whilst dogsitting." But a reminder: sex work IS work, but perhaps do not do said work when dogsitting.

posted by Kitteh (104 comments total)

At least cut the dog owner a break on your rate.
posted by Captaintripps at 9:53 AM on November 19, 2024 [17 favorites]

This is a hot topic of conversation this morning -- I heard people discussing it on the bus and someone mentioned it to me at work, as well.

It's a known issue with AirBnB, but I wouldn't have guessed you'd have to watch out for it on Rover.
posted by jacquilynne at 9:56 AM on November 19, 2024 [6 favorites]

The animals were not in any of the images.
lol
posted by Glinn at 9:57 AM on November 19, 2024 [10 favorites]

It's a known issue with AirBnB, but I wouldn't have guessed you'd have to watch out for it on Rover.

whaaaaaaa that is wild what
posted by Kitteh at 9:59 AM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

I don't see any isssue with using AirBnBs for this, after all they want to be treated as hotels, and hotel rooms have long been a staple of many pornographic shoots.
posted by zekesonxx at 10:05 AM on November 19, 2024 [56 favorites]

The animals were not in any of the images.

Or the artistes hopefully.
posted by biffa at 10:08 AM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

YOU HAD ONE JOB!
(not two)

Freaky as all getout. But, likely every hotel room you have ever stayed in has had someone fuck there before...
posted by Windopaene at 10:10 AM on November 19, 2024 [10 favorites]

Something something working two jobs from home
posted by saturday_morning at 10:14 AM on November 19, 2024 [12 favorites]

The dog-sitter did not respond to a request for an interview.

Which is foolish of her, because this viral story is the best marketing opportunity to get a zillion new people to sign up for her OF that she's ever gonna get.
posted by mstokes650 at 10:15 AM on November 19, 2024 [29 favorites]

I'm trying to decide how much I would care if this happened in my house. I'm not sure I would really care, as long as whatever happened didn't involve bodily fluids being left behind. Apparently she filmed in one person's bed and I would definitely not be okay with that. But filming in my bathroom? Is that any worse than pooping in my bathroom? Probably not. There's unlikely to be any overlap between the people watching the Only Fans content and the people who would recognize the bathroom tile.
posted by Redstart at 10:19 AM on November 19, 2024 [7 favorites]

I’m a dog behaviorist and I could tell you some things about Rover sitters in particular; multiple deaths, lost dogs, maimed dogs left to die outside in the winter. Word of mouth is your friend here.
posted by chainringtattoo at 10:20 AM on November 19, 2024 [9 favorites]

To be clear, I do not believe that Rover was involved in this transaction, I was just making a joke based on a) a popular gig-based app known for having an issue with people using other people's houses for porn and b) a popular gig-based app known for providing dog sitters.
posted by jacquilynne at 10:23 AM on November 19, 2024 [4 favorites]

It's a known issue with AirBnB, but I wouldn't have guessed you'd have to watch out for it on Rover.

It's a funny distinction in a way but also feels like a pretty clear one: are you paying me to be in my house, or am I paying you to be in my house? Latter feels like much more of a "hey, no implied permissions to do anything in here you weren't contracted for". But I can also see an opportunistic content creator letting those sort of distinctions blur in their mind. Gonna dogsit for you and watch some TV while I'm here. Gonna dogsit for you and work from my laptop while I'm here. Gonna dogsit for you and do a little wetwork on the bathroom floor while I'm here. Catch as catch can in the gig economy, baybee.
posted by cortex at 10:24 AM on November 19, 2024 [26 favorites]

This feels like a perfectly reasonable side hustle synergy to me. Get paid to be in a *really nice house*, much nicer than you can afford, and crank out horny content on a regular enough basis for The Algorithm to promote you to enough people that your OnlyFans can fill in the gaps between other jobs.

I'm sitting here taking a break from drawing furry porn; "providing regular horny content" is a big part of my job. If I was doing this while sitting around a rich dogsitter's nice place, that'd be a nice bonus. Double dipping my time!

I mean I can see the "it feels fucking weird to know my dogsitter masturbated in my place" angle but I can also see the "efficiently maximizing the value of my time so I can survive in this capitalist hellscape where machines are ravenously devouring every possible creative profession" angle.
posted by egypturnash at 10:26 AM on November 19, 2024 [28 favorites]

So the dog owner noticed her sitter had an OF...was the sitter using the same name for both? That would be surprising and unwise. But people have been stupider.

I think "invasion of privacy" is an odd thing to be offended about. More like "unauthorized use of my home for your (other) business."
posted by emjaybee at 10:27 AM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

It's totally fine to fire someone for doing things in your house that you don't want them to do, up to and including making porn. It doesn't really matter if there's a legal angle to it - the gig economy is at-will, and PornoPup9000 will no longer be getting dog walking gigs from the "no diddling yourself in my powder room" set. I'm 100% certain that there are people who would be all about it.
posted by grumpybear69 at 10:30 AM on November 19, 2024 [6 favorites]

Homeowner deserves 20 percent of gals earnings.
posted by Czjewel at 10:32 AM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

Yeah, the thing is also, I know people who specifically buy new beds and couches to make sure that no one else has masturbated or fucked there ever. So it could also be a devaluation of property and detrimental reliance on assurances of responsibility.
posted by corb at 10:34 AM on November 19, 2024 [4 favorites]

> A few weeks ago, Joudrey LeBlanc came across a video of the dog-sitter on social media advertising an account on OnlyFans, a subscription website mainly used for pornographic content.

Really want more details here. One does not simply "come across" horny content, especially not if you watched it long enough to figure out it was happening in your house. No shame in it, but if you're consuming it it's harder to get mad about the mode of production
posted by dis_integration at 10:40 AM on November 19, 2024 [19 favorites]

I mean there's a pretty bland route: dogsitter has social media presence, dogsitter does OF stuff, dogsitter advertises OF stuff on their non-OF social media presence, dog owner looks at dogsitter's social media. Bad opsec by the OF/dogsitter but doesn't require the dog owner to do anything other than like look at their dogsitter's insta.
posted by cortex at 10:46 AM on November 19, 2024 [5 favorites]

One does not simply "come across" horny content

Yoooo I wish this were true. You ever been a woman online?
posted by phunniemee at 10:48 AM on November 19, 2024 [24 favorites]

One does not simply "come across" horny content

That jumped out at me* too; not stigmatizing the homeowner for liking porn, but what are the odds you go onto OnlyFans and find your dogwalker? Can OF performer search results be filtered geographically?


*As did '"come across' horny content' but anyway
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 10:50 AM on November 19, 2024 [4 favorites]

I know people who specifically buy new beds and couches to make sure that no one else has masturbated or fucked there ever.

Wait, they told you this? Wouldn't getting "I'm a prude" tattooed on their foreheads be less cringe?
posted by axiom at 10:58 AM on November 19, 2024 [7 favorites]

OnlyFans providers advertise their OnlyFans content in places which are not OnlyFans.

Algorithms love to recommend related accounts and content, so if you follow your dog walker's dog walking account on Instagram, there's a solid chance that Instagram will suggest you follow your dog walker's OnlyFans account on Instagram also, unless your dog walker is quite good at separating the two halves of their life at all times.
posted by jacquilynne at 10:58 AM on November 19, 2024 [18 favorites]

not stigmatizing the homeowner for liking porn, but what are the odds you go onto OnlyFans and find your dogwalker?

I don't know, but the probability of it happening to any of the people who know what your house looks like are a lot higher. Then you just have to account for the probability of them telling you about it.
posted by grouse at 10:58 AM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

You know, I like to say I didn't just fall off the turnip truck, but clearly this is untrue
posted by Kitteh at 11:05 AM on November 19, 2024 [5 favorites]

Bad opsec by the OF/dogsitter but doesn't require the dog owner to do anything other than like look at their dogsitter's insta.

Yeah, I know a fair number of people who use Instagram to advertise a porn business along with other businesses. Might be especially common in the arts.

One issue here besides prudeness is that people who recognize your house might think you’re involved in the porn, possibly exploiting the presumably younger and less affluent dog walker. And if you’re philosophically opposed to porn or something specific in the video, you might not want the association any more than you’d want someone filming political YouTube rants at your kitchen table without your knowledge.
posted by smelendez at 11:06 AM on November 19, 2024 [7 favorites]

Well, with enough onlyfans subs, maybe she'll be able to afford a house of her own. She's a fucking entrepreneur, let that industrious capitalist live!
posted by kittens for breakfast at 11:16 AM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

For me this comes down to "I'm paying you to watch my dog, not focus on your other side hustle." I know dogsitting isn't the most strenuous of tasks, but "casually watching TV or reading a book while dogsitting" is one thing and "sequestering yourself in another room and devoting your entire attention to something completely else" is another.
posted by Greg_Ace at 11:18 AM on November 19, 2024 [8 favorites]

She wasn't housesitting, she was dogsitting. Presumably there comes a reasonable time after which the period of dogsitting one is being paid for is over. If the sitter was to leave the house at all other times, that should have been specified and not left to the sitter's discretion. That said, J/Oing in the homeowner's bed is probably something no one should be expected to have to explicitly forbid, though I'm sure she will going forward.
posted by kittens for breakfast at 11:25 AM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

One does not simply "come across" horny content

And if one does, a Wet Wipe should not be used to clean the screen
posted by chavenet at 11:26 AM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

It's a known issue with AirBnB, but I wouldn't have guessed you'd have to watch out for it on Rover.

More likely to find it on Scruff, surely. (Woof!)
posted by fight or flight at 11:39 AM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

One does not simply "come across" horny content

Well not with that attitude...
posted by spilon at 11:40 AM on November 19, 2024 [11 favorites]

Regarding the algorithm issue, this is absolutely a thing. I have a couple of friends who are sex workers and they have to be really careful that people in their non-sw life don't have any interactions at all with their sw content on social media. No likes, no follows, try not to look at their videos or even search for their content. Trying to silo things as much as possible. And even with all of that, they've still had sw clients find their real accounts through the recommendations, which is obviously a big problem.

Personally I think it fucking sucks that this woman went to the media to out her dog walker without that person's consent. This is the kind of careless act that puts sex workers in very real danger. Ironic from someone complaining about her privacy being violated.
posted by fight or flight at 11:47 AM on November 19, 2024 [17 favorites]

One does not simply "come across" horny content

Has Peanut the squirrel been forgotten already? Also, if you have a FB account, next time you're scrolling past the Reels, stop scrolling next time you see an attractive person. You don't even need to watch the reel, just pause for 3 seconds. The next time you get Reels loaded, there will be similar attractive people.
posted by CheeseDigestsAll at 11:50 AM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

from the article: Joudrey LeBlanc came across a video of the dog-sitter on social media advertising an account on OnlyFans

I guess that's one reason for not running an ad-blocker.
posted by Lanark at 11:53 AM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

it fucking sucks that this woman went to the media to out her dog walker without that person's consent.

Nowhere in the article does it name or 'out' the dog walker in any way.
posted by Lanark at 11:56 AM on November 19, 2024 [7 favorites]

I don't actually have a problem with someone doing this in my space while catsitting. The usual caveat applies to anyone in my space: Try not to break or stain anything, but if you do, just tell me and we'll figure it out. And of course don't neglect the actual job.
posted by limeonaire at 12:09 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

if any OF workers want to pop over to my place for dogsitting, that's cool. fyi, I don't have a dog.
posted by j_curiouser at 12:14 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

Nowhere in the article does it name or 'out' the dog walker in any way.

Only because the dog walker refused to give a comment and presumably did not give permission to use their name or identifying details.

I bet LeBlanc's friends are all having a fun time trying to track them down, though.
posted by fight or flight at 12:18 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

I bet LeBlanc's friends are all having a fun time trying to track them down, though.

I always feel like statements like this reveal more about the person who's saying them. If it were my friend I'd be like "ew, in your bed? did you at least know to change the sheets??" and not seek out anything else.
posted by phunniemee at 12:35 PM on November 19, 2024 [5 favorites]

Wait, they told you this?

Yeah, it was used to explain why they weren’t okay with estate furniture. Thats when I learned such feelings existed!
posted by corb at 12:35 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

I’m a dog behaviorist and I could tell you some things about Rover sitters in particular; multiple deaths, lost dogs, maimed dogs left to die outside in the winter. Word of mouth is your friend here.

Yikes, that is awful. Rover is one of my side gigs, and I pride myself on being an excellent dog-sitter. The thought of neglecting someone else's pet horrifies me as much as the thought of neglecting my own.

I know people who specifically buy new beds and couches to make sure that no one else has masturbated or fucked there ever.

I mean, if I'm furnishing my home, I prefer to have non-sploogified furniture too. I don't think it's that outrageous... Of course, I also hate buying used clothes because the idea of some stranger's gross body and fluids being on it kinda squicks me out.

My partner is right now cat-sitting for a couple who have multiple security cameras throughout their house, including under their beds (to watch the cats, I guess). I better warn her not to get her freak on...
posted by Saxon Kane at 12:56 PM on November 19, 2024

I’d be upset if my home were identifiable like by the tiles and pool.

However I think there is a lot of opportunity here for a Pretty Woman lesbian remake with a few tweaks, with love between a celebrity dog walker falling for a savvy sex worker with dog walking gigs on the side.
posted by warriorqueen at 12:58 PM on November 19, 2024 [7 favorites]

Personally I think it fucking sucks that this woman went to the media to out her dog walker without that person's consent. This is the kind of careless act that puts sex workers in very real danger. Ironic from someone complaining about her privacy being violated.

So much for the tolerant privacy-conscious Left!
posted by grouse at 1:03 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

All else aside, this sounds like the plot to a porno intro.
posted by atbash at 1:04 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

"I saw Goody Dogsitter on the Only Fans!"

"GIRL, what you were doing on the Only Fans???"*



*apologies to the meme
posted by Kitteh at 1:05 PM on November 19, 2024 [6 favorites]

Maybe the dog walker was creating content for dander fetishists?
posted by PlusDistance at 1:10 PM on November 19, 2024

Can OF performer search results be filtered geographically?


If they can't both directions, IE: return local results for searchers and restrict local results to locals for performers (yes, i know that won't work), they are just leaving money on the table.

One does not simply "come across" horny content

Once again I lament the loss of old guard Whitehouse.com
posted by Mitheral at 1:36 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

The article also notes that after seeing the ad for her dog sitter's OF account, the AirBnB owner paid the $7.99 to see the sitter's videos, and that's where she saw the unique bathroom tiles. So, she wasn't on OF anyway, she paid specifically to investigate. At least, that's her claim.
posted by but no cigar at 1:37 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

At least, that's her claim.

Honestly I think someone who was already paying for porn ala carte would have been a little more chill and discreet about the whole thing in the first place.
posted by cortex at 1:39 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

If they can't both directions, IE: return local results for searchers and restrict local results to locals for performers (yes, i know that won't work), they are just leaving money on the table.

I don’t think they would want to create the impression that they are facilitating any kind of in-person activity. That’s where site owners have gotten in serious (prison serious) trouble in the past.
posted by atoxyl at 2:18 PM on November 19, 2024

No shame in it, but if you're consuming it it's harder to get mad about the mode of production

Well, to paraphrase Edna Lovejoy,

Won't somebody please think about the bodily fluids!? will always have real meaning when it's your bathroom floor.
posted by y2karl at 2:27 PM on November 19, 2024

MacKay said although this is likely not a criminal matter, there may be some civil liability in an instance like this under the tort of "intrusion into seclusion."

"Your home is your private space, your ultimate private space — your castle," said MacKay

The homeowner brought this story to the press...
posted by AlSweigart at 2:27 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

I think "invasion of privacy" is an odd thing to be offended about. More like "unauthorized use of my home for your (other) business."

I would absolutely be upset if someone filmed the interior of my home without my knowledge or consent and posted it on the internet, even without specific location data. I would absolutely feel like my privacy had been violated in such an instance.


Regarding only buying new mattresses etc.: having seen how some people treat their mattresses (eg. sleeping on them with no mattress protector, and sometimes not even a sheet), I would be worried about what bodily fluids had soaked down into the mattress if I were buying a used mattress. Perhaps my lower levels of concern heretofore about other cushioned furniture reflects a lack of imagination or experience on my part. But there’s also the potential bedbugs issue.
posted by eviemath at 2:30 PM on November 19, 2024 [6 favorites]

Gonna dogsit for you and do a little wetwork on the bathroom floor while I'm here.

Whoa, I... I thought "wetwork" was a euphemism for spycraft that included assassination. Not to SWERF the place up or anything but as a homeowner I would be at least somewhat indignant if my dogsitter got up to that.
posted by a faded photo of their beloved at 2:36 PM on November 19, 2024 [4 favorites]

Which is foolish of her, because this viral story is the best marketing opportunity to get a zillion new people to sign up for her OF that she's ever gonna get.

Not to mention the new dog clients!
posted by dobbs at 2:38 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

Anyway, from the article, the homeowner found the advertisement for the dog sitter’s OnlyFans on other social media, and it sounds like there was something from the advertisement itself or other comments on it or something that made it clear that some of the content filmed for the OnlyFans account was filmed in at least one other location where the dog sitter had a dog sitting gig? (Sorry for lack of specifics, I read about this earlier today.) Which then led the homeowner to wonder if their house had also been used in such a manner, and to investigate. But even if they were just like “huh, that’s our dog sitter. Wonder what they do on their OnlyFans” - or were maybe considering OF and that curiosity was the tipping point into subscribing (do you subscribe to OF as a whole, or to specific creators individually?) - even if so, who cares? They could be not-anti-sex work and still upset about the privacy invasion of their home being filmed and distributed on the internet. Or they could have complicated feelings about porn, as seems to be the norm for most people, and thus not be perfectly consistent according to how some other random people on the internet think would be consistent behaviour. That’s normal.
posted by eviemath at 2:39 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

I know this is the internet where anybody can say anything, but this is true: Probably 25 years ago, a friend of my parents was staying at their house while they were gone, and he, a talented amateur (or so we thought) photographer, shot a series of risqué-but-not-porn photos of a nude woman, in their bed -- wrapped up in their sheets -- without asking.

Which we'd have never found out about, except he sold one image to a company that made art postcards, and through sheer circumstance a friend saw it, bought one, and said to my parents, "Hey, isn't this your bedroom?!?"

To make matters worse, there was a painting hanging on the wall behind the subject, and the postcard company absolutely did not get clearance for that, so my parents were angry, the painter was angry, and it turned into a giant brouhaha. My dad is still mad about it and I don't blame him.
posted by BlahLaLa at 2:44 PM on November 19, 2024 [15 favorites]

(I also don’t think doing a second job while dog sitting is necessarily a bad thing, if it doesn’t negatively impact the dog sitting. So I think the dog sitter in this case made an error in judgement about not using a backdrop to obscure their filming locations when in other people’s private homes, but it also doesn’t seem like the worst thing ever to me, even though I’d certainly be upset if my home were one of the featured filming locations. I view this article more as a useful reminder that not everyone has the same starting assumptions about stuff, so it’s a good idea to have expectation-setting conversations when hiring someone to work in your home if that would also upset you.)
posted by eviemath at 2:46 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

I'm an unabashed smut peddler, and I think that what this woman did was wrong and gross. It's wrong to film any sort of content in a private residence without permission. It's really wrong to film explicit content (which presumably involves some degree of nudity) in somebody's bed without their permission. I hope she at least gave the sheets a good wash afterwards, so the homeowners weren't unknowing sleeping on a bed full of her juices and grit!
posted by Ursula Hitler at 2:54 PM on November 19, 2024 [18 favorites]

So, going on the above comments, I take it a lot of people here would be cool with it if they hired a plumber and he posted videos of himself jacking off in their kitchen while he was supposed to be fixing the dishwasher? Or only if he charged money for the jackoff videos because then it is a legit side gig?
posted by fimbulvetr at 3:12 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

For the most minor or minor things, those are really great bathroom tiles.
posted by Nancy Lebovitz at 3:26 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

The apparently straight-faced consultation of professors for the article leaves me about 95% certain the dogsitter in question was Eleanor from The Good Place
posted by Phobos the Space Potato at 3:55 PM on November 19, 2024 [6 favorites]

Ceiling cat is watching you on OnlyFans.

But he still doesn’t like you or the dog.
posted by JustSayNoDawg at 3:55 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

But there’s also the potential bedbugs issue.

Short of fire or earthquake I cannot think of anything more frightening.
posted by y2karl at 3:55 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

I know people who specifically buy new beds and couches to make sure that no one else has masturbated or fucked there ever.

Wait, they told you this? Wouldn't getting "I'm a prude" tattooed on their foreheads be less cringe?

I'm with the group (there are dozens of us?) that doesn't find this prudish. In my grad-student days, I definitely wouldn't turn my nose up at cheap used furniture (though I think I never had a used mattress), and I slept from time to time on a grad-school couch that had to have seen some untoward activities in its long life, but I'm certainly glad to be able to afford now to have a bed that no-one else has slept on, let alone partaken on of any sexual activity. (Although it wasn't my motivation per se; I just wanted "new bed," which I perhaps naïvely assumed came with this bonus for free.) I don't think that's especially prudish, but maybe I'm "no, it's the children who are wrong"-ing it.
posted by It is regrettable that at 4:07 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

So, going on the above comments, I take it a lot of people here would be cool with it if they hired a plumber and he posted videos of himself jacking off in their kitchen while he was supposed to be fixing the dishwasher? Or only if he charged money for the jackoff videos because then it is a legit side gig?

Yes, because I’m not homophobic (actually homophile!) or classist?…

Jk, I would be a little squicked out no matter who was jerking off in my house, but honestly, even as I say that I’m like “why?”. If I had a guest stay over and they jerked off in their bedroom, it wouldn’t bother me at all…. So why is it that hiring someone who then jerks off outside their duties any different? Is it a class/power thing? I dunno…. But there is a difference … but honestly I can think of worse things than a plumber rubbing one out in my kitchen or whatever…. this is literally the stuff of cheesy gay porn!
posted by flamk at 4:30 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

I live in a 135 year old building and just assume that every square inch of it has either been f****d in or died upon.
posted by kyrademon at 4:32 PM on November 19, 2024 [7 favorites]

can i be clear on whether he (a) fixes the dishwasher, (b) at the quoted rate, and (c) doesn't leave a mess
posted by cortex at 4:34 PM on November 19, 2024 [10 favorites]

It is not a homophobic thing or a class thing. Geeze. It is a matter of consent, a breach of trust, completely outside is expected behaviour in this type of business situation, and a violation of privacy by posting videos of the inside of someone’s house.

If I have guests stay overnight at my house that is very different then if I hire someone to do a job at my house. For guests, I am their host, not their employer. I would fully expect consequences if I was caught by my employer using an empty office boardroom to shoot porn in my lunch hour.
posted by fimbulvetr at 5:00 PM on November 19, 2024 [13 favorites]

A plumber can't put the pipes in a crate, leave the premises entirely for a couple hours, and still be considered to successfully perform the task of "plumbing".
posted by LionIndex at 5:00 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

This story makes me think of this Seinfeld clip.
posted by fimbulvetr at 5:17 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

When I think about it, the home-versus-office question is partly a question of "how much do I have to see/know about this". If someone were petsitting for me and discreetly took some non-messy photos in my home without photographing anything really recognizable of mine, I would not be nearly as unsettled as if someone were taking those photos in an unused conference room. If they're petsitting, I'm already agreeing that they have a certain amount of run of my home (and I've probably vetted them a bit) and I just have to accept that they might go through my medicine cabinet or look into a drawer, etc. I'm unlikely to walk in on that. If someone is doing something in an unused conference room in a shared space during work, there's much more of a chance that someone will walk in and there's a higher level of pretense between office workers. A petsitter, even a non-nosy one, is going to be aware of much, much more of my personal life than I ever share with people from the office, so for me it would feel less weird than if an otherwise buttoned-up coworker were filming something at work.

For me this is one of those things that American culture has trouble with - it's something that I wouldn't really be thrilled about but it's not something where I'd sue or call the cops, and there isn't a lot of space in our culture between "best thing ever" and "I'm calling 911". It's really just more of an "eh, try not to let me find out next time, ESPECIALLY by making ANY KIND of mess".
posted by Frowner at 6:00 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

MAUDE: "Lord. You can imagine where it goes from here."

THE DUDE: "She walks the dog?"
posted by Sauce Trough at 6:06 PM on November 19, 2024 [10 favorites]

MAUDE: “Don’t be fatuous, Jeffrey.”
posted by toodleydoodley at 6:09 PM on November 19, 2024 [4 favorites]

I think that if the video is the only way I know it happened, I don't think I care.

Nothing left behind, job I actually hired them got done to my satisfaction, there was never a chance I'd walk in on them, and the rest isn't my business. I'm pretty confident I could convince myself of that if it actually happened.
posted by VTX at 6:15 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

this is one of those things that American culture has trouble with - it's something that I wouldn't really be thrilled about but it's not something where I'd sue or call the cops

Honestly I'd be furious if someone was even taking photos in my home without my knowledge, but I'm an activist and would be concerned about those photos being used against me to the cops, even if I didn't want to call the cops.
posted by corb at 6:16 PM on November 19, 2024 [5 favorites]

So, going on the above comments, I take it a lot of people here would be cool with it if they hired a plumber and he posted videos of himself jacking off in their kitchen while he was supposed to be fixing the dishwasher? Or only if he charged money for the jackoff videos because then it is a legit side gig?

I'd be pissed if he jacked off instead of fixing the dishwasher. I wouldn't be thrilled if he jacked off in the dishwasher. But honestly, the guy should be an expert at cleaning flithy ass surfaces. I don't really want to watch him jacking off, but if he cleans the jacked-off on surface properly afterward, I don't really care. I've been in the presence of at least an average amount of sex and jacking off, the idea doesn't especially freak me out.
posted by kittens for breakfast at 6:20 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

MetaFilter: this is literally the stuff of cheesy gay porn!
posted by y2karl at 6:33 PM on November 19, 2024 [2 favorites]

If I found out that the plumber I hired had filmed himself jacking off in my kitchen, I guess I might think twice about hiring that guy again, but I can't imagine calling his employer or the newspapers to complain about it. (Assuming I found out well afterwards, not by walking in on him.) What do I even have to complain about, really? I think it's okay for people to film themselves jacking off. I think it's okay for someone working at my house to do non-work activities while they're there (making a phone call, going out to their car to eat a sandwich) as long as they're not charging me for it and it doesn't inconvenience me in any way. If I wasn't home or I was out working in the garden and the plumber decided to sit in my kitchen and watch videos on his phone for half an hour after he fixed the dishwasher, I guess I wouldn't care. The impact to me is the same - zero - if instead of watching videos he's making one for Only Fans. I'd be a lot more upset about him overcharging me or doing a crappy job or lying about the work he did - all things that contractors do every day without anyone writing news articles about it.
posted by Redstart at 7:13 PM on November 19, 2024 [1 favorite]

I would be chagrined if the narrative by the plumber were, "look at this dumb customer not realizing how transgressive and awesome I am, what a normie". I would be angry and kick them out if they did this while I was home. I would mostly not think about what the plumber might be up to if he were fixing something while I wasn't there. I mean, he might do nothing inappropriately sexual but, like, sneeze all over my counters, which would also be ick.

This reminds me of Nextdoor, really. People are just constantly freaking out because their door cameras show people sitting on their stoop in the middle of the night, or cutting through their backyard, or poking around in their trash - things that aren't crimes except in the very uptight "get off MAH PROPERTY" way. Like, there are people all around us almost all the time, and some small percent of those people are going to do things in our vicinity that are mostly harmless but that we'd rather not think about. The solution here is not to think about it.

Similarly with germs. We are all utterly unclean, so to speak. If you eat in restaurants or shared breakrooms or lie down on a hotel bedspread or take the bus or buy things and don't immediately wipe them down with disinfectant, you are going to be touching things that are invisibly ick, and even if you wash your hands frequently, you're still going to be touching the ick. Now if this just intrinsically bothers you so that you can't relax, sure, fine, take unusual steps to deal with the ick. But if it more or less doesn't worry you unless you think about it, for heaven's sake don't think about it.

Life is full of unsavory but not illegal or harmful happenings; if you spend all your time worrying about whether the dog sitter is taking dirty photos or a teenager is idling on your stoop, you'll have a nervous breakdown.
posted by Frowner at 7:17 PM on November 19, 2024 [5 favorites]

I don't really care about the porn angle, but if I hired someone to catsit or do other work in my home while I'm away, and they posted photos or videos showing the interior of my home online without my permission, I would be pissed off. Maybe I'm weird in this day and age in having a sense of privacy about my living space, but for me that is a serious violation of trust. Even for friends and family I've invited over, I prefer at least the implied consent of letting me see them take the photos so I can speak up if there's something I'd rather not have photographed. But in hiring someone to come into my home, a basic level of respect for my privacy should be implicit in the job description.
posted by biogeo at 7:51 PM on November 19, 2024 [8 favorites]

I, for one, am shocked — shocked — to find that gambling a gig economy is going on in here!
posted by eustatic at 10:13 PM on November 19, 2024 [3 favorites]

I'm trying to decide how much I would care if this happened in my house. I'm not sure I would really care, as long as whatever happened didn't involve bodily fluids being left behind.

I wouldn't give two shits about the fucking or the fluids, I'd be out for blood for the streaming the inside of my house to randoms on the Internet.
posted by Dysk at 12:26 AM on November 20, 2024 [5 favorites]

It's a known issue with AirBnB

and sometimes the results are nothing short of righteous.
posted by flabdablet at 12:54 AM on November 20, 2024 [1 favorite]

honestly I can think of worse things than a plumber rubbing one out in my kitchen or whatever

Ya, he could be peeing in your coffee cups.
posted by Mitheral at 4:56 AM on November 20, 2024

→ My dad is still mad about it

BlahLaLa's Pa's Brouhaha, then?
posted by scruss at 5:14 AM on November 20, 2024 [8 favorites]

MetaFilter: at least an average amount of sex and jacking off
posted by slogger at 5:33 AM on November 20, 2024 [4 favorites]

I mean, filming your sexytime content in an AirB&B seems about on par with filming it in a hotel room. It's a space that someone has paid to make use of. But a private home, it seems exceedingly rude to do something like that without any kind of consent.
posted by rmd1023 at 5:54 AM on November 20, 2024 [5 favorites]

I once moved I to an apartment that had been a porn studio, which was kind of obvious when we toured it. It was cleaned before we moved in and never bothered me. But I was super angry when a contractor I hired to work on my house had his business partner do whole fashion shoot there without asking, then lied about it when I found out from neighbors. She uses one as her profile picture on her website. It was just the most absurd piece of a bad contractor experience.
posted by sepviva at 6:33 AM on November 20, 2024 [3 favorites]

MetaFilter: I just assume that every square inch of it has either been f****d in or died upon.
posted by limeonaire at 6:43 AM on November 20, 2024 [1 favorite]

Renting out homes for commercial film production is a common business. ianal, but it seems to me there's a theft of services issue.
posted by Sophont at 8:19 AM on November 20, 2024

I mean, if I'm furnishing my home, I prefer to have non-sploogified furniture too. I don't think it's that outrageous... Of course, I also hate buying used clothes because the idea of some stranger's gross body and fluids being on it kinda squicks me out.

"I think of it this way. If you're going to get a sandwich, you would just enjoy it more if you knew no one had fucked it."
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 8:31 AM on November 20, 2024 [3 favorites]

Metafilter: Filled with juices and grit.
posted by Joey Michaels at 9:09 AM on November 20, 2024

Eh, this is mostly just prudishness and anti sex work bias. If someone is staying in your home, you have to assume they're having sex or masturbating in the bed / shower, and you'd just wash the sheets when you get home anyway. Who really cares if they film it? (I'd be a bit more mad if they were doing stuff on surfaces you could reasonably expect NOT to have a stranger's butt on, like the kitchen counter, but I'm a bit of a germaphobe)

Short films (non-adult) get made in AirBnBs ALL THE TIME, and most of the time the homeowners aren't told about it in advance. Would the homeowner be mad if it was some film school project where there was a heist and characters got shot and killed in her bed? Probably not, even though violent short films are arguably morally worse than consensual sexy short films.

Also... I really don't quite believe that "the homeowner saw an ad on Facebook for the onlyfans creator", like what? That sounds very implausible. I go on Facebook every day and I've never once seen an ad for OnlyFans (!!!), let alone randomly just happening to see one of the very few pieces of OF content in the whole entire world that just happened to befilmed in her home (!) Kinda made me wonder if the homeowner has a partner who actually knew what was happening, followed that creator, and the woman making the complaint found the OF in hubby's browser history.
posted by nouvelle-personne at 9:55 AM on November 20, 2024 [3 favorites]

Eh, this is mostly just prudishness and anti sex work bias. If someone is staying in your home, you have to assume they're having sex or masturbating in the bed / shower, and you'd just wash the sheets when you get home anyway.

Uh, a dog sitter is there to care for the dogs,. They're not a paying guest, they're an employee. And the issue wasn't that they were jerking it in the bathroom, the issue was that they were filming it and putting it on the internet. If I hired someone to put groceries in my fridge while I wasn't home and then they filmed a bukkake session in my living room, that would not be OK!
posted by grumpybear69 at 11:09 AM on November 20, 2024 [7 favorites]

My partner and I got drunk and discussed this at length last night.

We came to the agreement that 1.) if we caught our petsitter doing OF shoots in our apartment we would find it extremely funny 2.) While we may not hire them again, we would certainly not pursue any kind of legal action about it, and the very LAST thing we would do is go on the news. Because what the hell, Amanda?

The degree of the transgression, we agreed, depends on whether this took place in a location that is easily cleaned (in this case, yes) and whether there was an expectation that this sitter was staying in our place, which is to say we put out sheets for them and had the general expectation they would be living their life there, showering, eating, etc. (in this case, no.)

Which I guess makes this instance medium uncool? But still very funny.
posted by Phobos the Space Potato at 11:40 AM on November 20, 2024 [1 favorite]

Also disturbing: that there are multiple people on Metafilter - where we’ve had various posts taking about social media algorithms - who think that since they’ve never seen an ad for certain content on Facebook, that means that no one else could plausibly have either, regardless of differences in friend groups and how their or their friends’ social media behaviour might impact the extremely highly individualized algorithmic feeds that all social media sites present us nowadays.
posted by eviemath at 11:51 AM on November 20, 2024 [6 favorites]

Side note, because people apparently don’t read the links: TFA was a day-dog-sit situation, not an overnight situation or dog+house-sitting situation.
posted by eviemath at 11:54 AM on November 20, 2024 [6 favorites]

This story makes me think of this Seinfeld clip yt .

Or the other one where George's mom accuses him of 'treating his body like an amusement park'.
posted by The_Vegetables at 2:32 PM on November 20, 2024

So am I to understand that some of you are getting ads for OnlyFans on your regular social media feeds? I mean, I'm not, but then, I'm not the target audience and I don't tend to follow a lot of That Sort of Thing without using an InPrivate browser or something (IOW, no judgement here). I asked the Schmoop, who is much more the targeted demographic for such things, and he's never seen an OnlyFans ad on socmed either (and knows he could tell me if he's seen/used them).

Is it just Instagram (which neither of us have) that would be showing it?

The article specifically said the homeowner saw the OF ad that showed the unique tile that made her investigate further, so I don't know why some of you have it entirely backwards:

"A few weeks ago, Joudrey LeBlanc came across a video of the dog-sitter on social media advertising an account on OnlyFans, a subscription website mainly used for pornographic content.

She realized immediately it was recorded in her house, because her bathroom is covered in a distinctly patterned tile. Joudrey LeBlanc then paid $7.99 for a month's subscription to the dog-sitter's page, where she discovered the explicit content. "
posted by cinnamonduff at 7:34 PM on November 20, 2024 [1 favorite]

My guess is that she didn't see a paid advertisement, but rather a piece of content the dogwalker/OF star had created and posted on (probably) Instagram to promote her OF account. Those sorts of 'model' accounts are all over Insta and a lot of those models also have other accounts that aren't related to their sex work. But unless you are super careful at how you manage the relationship between accounts and how you manage accessing those accounts to keep Meta from linking them, content will leak across that line. Someone who follows your cute dog photos account may end up being suggested a Reel from your sex work account because Meta knows those accounts are related based on past activity between the two and sort of assumes if you like one, you might like the other.
posted by jacquilynne at 8:25 PM on November 20, 2024 [5 favorites]

I too am a (former) porn slinger, and I'd be annoyed if my dog sitter was doing porn and sharing the interiors of my home without my permission. I don't want the positions of my entry points and the state of my yard out there in the wild, as well as neat capsule of how profitable a break and entry would be. Especially if there's anything to tie the dog sitting angle to my house being you know, empty for long enough to need a dog sitter.

That's before you get to how long it takes to set up and film a take, which is time in which my dog is in a crate and not being you know, dog sat.

I probably wouldn't go to the media about it, mind you. I'd just not hire that dog sitter again and maybe go hey, it's really rude to post extensive video of other people's houses on the Internet without their consent, maybe ask next time or just not fukken do it.
posted by Jilder at 6:23 PM on November 22, 2024 [6 favorites]