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It's just me and the Night Before Christmas guy! [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by clew
MetaTalk comment - 4 ¾ hours ago

the whole point is that we're all secretly weird in private, right? My sister and I are both different sorts of nerds. Every time we get together one of our conversational bits is a thing I like to call "How do you LIVE?" which… [more]
favorited 8 times, recently by erst, terretu, bilabial, gudrun, languagehat, crush, EndsOfInvention, pjern
MetaTalk comment - Almost 6 hours ago

I have a mom who is (in my opinion) living with undiagnosed BPD. Your examples are similar, though more troubling, to things that happened to me. I think the best interpretation is that they didn't know any better or were, themselves, getting out… [more]
favorited 20 times, recently by numinous
Ask MeFi comment - 9 hours ago

One of my favorite things on that wiki. [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by FireFountain, Lynsey, The corpse in the library, Rock Steady
MetaTalk comment - 14 hours ago

I don’t want to hurt anyone. That may not be an option and you, yourself, are hurting. My mother wrote her own obituary before she died and wow was it helpful. My foster brother took offense at being called a foster brother and it was SO… [more]
favorited 9 times, recently by luckynerd, Meow Face, harriet vane, sheldman, languagehat, permiechickie, bunderful, M., 2 cats in the yard
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

My issue is that it's a garden path sentence. "Have a good rest" is one thing "Have a good rest of the day" is another thing requiring the listener to back up, briefly, to parse it. Science says that we spend a tiny bit more… [more]
favorited 8 times, recently by you must supply a verb, Margalo Epps, bongo_x, lakeroon, 2 cats in the yard, DrMew, the primroses were over, limeonaire
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago


What kind of phone do you have? If it were me (iphone user) I'd put this together with a kiosked iPad that just ran the Messages app. [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by middleclasstool, Celsius1414, daisy55
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

When I think of bad decisions I always think of this Mountain Goats song (lyrics). Most of my bad decisions really could have ruined my life but somehow didn't. Unprotected sex with terrible people who seemed okay at the time, taking drugs during a… [more]
favorited 12 times, recently by hototogisu, peacheater, nangar, bongo_x, mygothlaundry, ethical_caligula, theBigRedKittyPurrs, rtha, theora55, limeonaire, yoga, leesh
MetaTalk comment - 2 days ago

Accessbility features have you covered. Bonus tip: you can use one of these to affix it to the wall. [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by Celsius1414, SaltySalticid, Lyn Never, lakersfan1222, MonkeyToes
Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

Did you know his cousin is a well-known MeFite and someone who is Kind of a Big Deal on The Internet? It's me! Chris is actually as great as he seems, to the extent that we know each other as adults. Our grandfather was a serious… [more]
favorited 17 times, recently by rangefinder 1.4, not_the_water, ActingTheGoat, ankurd, Iris Gambol, biogeo, Halloween Jack, ldthomps, Hairy Lobster, shapes that haunt the dusk, tobascodagama, Alvy Ampersand, middleclasstool, namewithoutwords, bondcliff, sebastienbailard, jedicus
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

I wound up finding a local place to buy the things that GW2tER suggested. I still wish they were cheaper but I used them and they work perfectly even with my weird angled walls, and look great (here are some pix). Thanks again for everyone who helped… [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by rangefinder 1.4
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Can you lend me your words if you have had a similar childhood? "My parents tried their best but they weren't really emotionally equipped to be parents (and were dealing with their own untreated mental health issues). They could be… [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by daybeforetheday
Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

There is no reason you should be interacting with this jerk at all. Get a lawyer (it sounds from your last question like you had one but have not been using them lately). Have the lawyer continue to kick the ball down the field. If your ex tries to… [more]
favorited 37 times, recently by guster4lovers
Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

My mother died this summer. I got two things that were incredibly meaningful to me 1. One of those basic "Huge basket of snacks" things. I pooh poohed it a little at the time but I spent so long being basically unable to really think… [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by Fig, doop, Wolfster, armeowda, MonkeyToes, gudrun, fshgrl
Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Anxiety runs in families. Your mom may certainly love you a lot, but she is also not managing her own anxiety and is turning it into your problem. This is, in turn, leaving you rattled. Which is hard when your anxiety is based on real stuff but also… [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by Lady Li, FireFountain, fshgrl, Hypatia, ChuraChura
Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

is that stupid to assume? Yes. As you said, Partner is an awesome parent. We have NO official legal or financial relationship Children are an official legal relationship, assuming they belong to both of you. This set of… [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by bq, heathrowga, FireFountain, fshgrl, atomicstone
Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Every competent computer fixit person I know, myself included, works on a no fix, no fee basis. I am a competent computer fixit person and this is not always true for me, depending what is wrong. Having a list of 30 minutes worth of… [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by mark k, blueberry
Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago


I call it transactional or mercenary. Put another way, it's not a favor they are doing if they want to be compensated, it's a job/gig/whatever. I think it's good to have balance, however that works. Either you do less emotional labor for them because… [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by RichardHenryYarbo, RhysPenbras, missmagenta
Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

I suppose I could try to use them for day-to-day purposes as well. I'm a librarian and I suggest this. I sometimes like to be in a library for quiet study and I have found there are a few tricks besides just going into a room with a door… [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by willpie, daybeforetheday, languagehat
Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

This is hard. I would concentrate on a few things - Letting the shopkeeper know you are sorry and are wanting to do better (this can literally be an email or reaching out on social media). I think I might drop a note via facebook/email, make a… [more]
favorited 51 times, recently by rachaelfaith, neushoorn, crawfo
Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

That's a really good idea. [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by chesty_a_arthur, peppermind, The Wrong Kind of Cheese, rangefinder 1.4, SillyShepherd
MetaTalk comment - 7 days ago

My best manager basically said "What do you need from me to help you be awesome at your job?" My worst manager rolled out new changes late on Fridays, was conflict avoidant and took credit for the hard work I did. [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by [insert clever name here]
Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

I can be like this, and I work on it. Unfortunately, all these things have lead to me sometimes being perceived as a smart-ass in conversations Part of it for me was reframing things like this. If I am "perceived" as a… [more]
favorited 17 times, recently by daisies, stoneweaver
Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

This is me to a certain extent. I was never suicidal but I've had my moments. What helped me was getting some perspective on my parents' perspective. It wasn't so much that they de-legitimized my pain as they were just totally out of touch with it… [more]
favorited 37 times, recently by aerobic
Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

My postcards/prizes are IN THE MAIL. [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by rangefinder 1.4
MetaTalk comment - 9 days ago

I guess I'm worried parents could be getting a weird vibe here and choosing not to bring family over, etc. They probably are. It sounds like the vibe is weird. When I have friends who are going through stuff, I often leave my partner… [more]
favorited 31 times, recently by jouir, littlecatfeet, Ashen, RhysPenbras, Lady Li, JuliaIglesias, FireFountain, miorita, Swisstine, faineg, lazuli, bongo_x, Temeraria, thereemix, saucysault, mskyle, Karaage, DingoMutt, thetarium, languagehat, thegreatfleecircus, yeahlikethat
Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

follow-up from the OP I went ahead and ordered the books. More importantly, though, I had another anonymous MeFite e-mail me, also with a fake e-mail, who shared my fetish. We both knew that this was a somewhat common thing, but neither of us had… [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by mmascolino
Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

[a bunch more comments removed - very seriously shut up with the "I don't know who this is" threadshitting.] [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by Slinga
MeFi comment - 9 days ago

I'll shovel snow outside in shorts until about -15C which makes everyone I know very uncomfortable. You're that guy! I've always seen guys like you around and never really known what their deal was. I went out to the post office and… [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by heyho
MetaTalk comment - 9 days ago

That's what it sounded like to cortex apparently. I was like "Oh hey him and chococat should be friends!" [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by Huffy Puffy, rangefinder 1.4
MetaTalk comment - 10 days ago

It's good to be honest and I think people in recover especially understand that the world and the people in it are complicated. I don't think you did anything wrong by being honest with your friend. [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by thereemix, vignettist, gyusan
Ask MeFi comment - 10 days ago

so that makes me a nerd, I guess? Or Canadian! [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by wenestvedt
MetaTalk comment - 11 days ago

[Edited post per OP request. Please do not turn this into an argument about the jezebel link that wasn't part of the post. They do GRAR-inducing stuff on purpose, don't be trolled.] [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

Do you edit these in to the main post? If so, my fave posts (that didn't already appear in another winner list - I did love that late fees post so much) were these two. Apex Retail Predator - a thread about Customer Service Wolf that all… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 12 days ago

I think so, idiopath. The blind character winds up looking like sort of an ok dude at first and then really becomes not only not a decent person but you get the feeling he's sort of crazy because he's blind (among other reasons) instead of… [more]
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FanFare comment - 12 days ago

I'm used to seeing them next to links for the registries, I think it's fairly normal. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 13 days ago

via me! [more]
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MeFi comment - 13 days ago

she also told me that I was overeducated and thought too much Fuck her, but CBT is useful for smart people. I did this a few years back and it was life changing. I have a nice therapist who is a lot like me in some ways and unlike me… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 13 days ago

I have a one-year calendar that hangs over my computer which is where I spend a lot of my work time at home. Every year I have a word or two on the top of it. 2017: SEIZE FREEDOM (calendar is called Seize the Day so sometimes I just cover up that… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 13 days ago

I'm in Vermont and we have very light snow here and a little wind. Which is amusing because this is the place people stay away from because "Oooh wintertime!" but it's been fine this year, just cold. I went shopping yesterday and filled the… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 13 days ago

Today was the day! [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 14 days ago

I am a voting official in a neighboring state. This does happen. Voting districts do not always 100% overlap with town borders though usually when we see something like this happening it's because someone has a large parcel and the house is in one… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 14 days ago

I really loved Whole Larder Love by Rohan Anderson who focuses on sustainability and localvore stuff. It's more of a Joy of Eating than an ethical exploration but it does delve in to that sometimes. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Turned out I had The Crud so I have not yet gotten dressed in 2018. It's 20 degrees outside which feels like a heat wave. Maybe today is the day. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

will it basically be the usual boring trapped experience of being in an airport? Yeah. Logan has free Wifi and an always-empty chapel which is great to hang out in. Usually the issue is that other people are really agitated and they can… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Happy New Year everyone. It's cold outside, warm in here. I did not get dressed, and spent the day with my best guy (and I won the Scrabble match!) eating leftovers and talking about our hopes and dreams for the new year. Last night's neighbor party… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

I mostly have worked with libraries who serve populations of people experiencing homelessness. Here are a few programs that may be useful. - Not sure what the status is of SLC's 24/7 library program but I could put you in touch with the library… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

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