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I am so sorry. I lost my mother earlier this year and, like your stepfather, it was after a long illness that rapidly progressed. It's hard to feel ready and also not ready. We managed the Life Celebration for my mom, my sister and I. I was happy not… [more]
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Why would a doctor refuse immediate payment? This doctor isn't refusing payment, they are refusing uninsured patients. They may literally not have a price set for a procedure outside of the price insurance sets or they may not have a… [more]
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I think you're shifting responsibility from yourself to a stranger. This is not a good strategy for fixing your problem. Agreed. And I sympathize that it's hard to find solutions to these sorts of problems. I would also add that it's a… [more]
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If I saw a headstone with "Husband, Son, Brother, Friend" I would think lots of people loved him, full stop. Likewise. I've spent a lot of time in cemeteries lately and I always love this phrasing. I think "he loved and… [more]
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Nothing at all could make today better for me. [more]
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It's not inappropriate at all. What Mitch means is that it's inconvenient (for him to have to justify it), so he wants you to drop it. But inappropriate, no. I have been in this situation (as the underpaid woman) working for a website… [more]
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Yeah I would be a little less accommodating in my email. Your suggestion: "Thanks, but [company] is 30-45 minutes from Midway Airport, and I assume longer with rush hour; I'm having trouble understanding how I can get from [company] to… [more]
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Not all as well known but good examples of the genre: Last Dance with Mary Jane by Tom Petty Ballad of Josie and Ed by Bow Thayer Four Blue Walls by The Mammals Rubin and Cherise by the Jerry Garcia Band Silver by Nirvana Transistor Radio by… [more]
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For the record, I not only answered this question in under a minute, but let the admin record show I fixed a typo in the question first. [more]
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I put up the transcript for people who would prefer to just read and not watch this talk. [more]
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When my mom died this summer one of the things my sister and I talked about in our slightly punchy "Man this is all so ridiculous isn't it?" way was that mom never found out that the time I said my friend's car had broken down and all four… [more]
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I actually favorite things I want to remember for the podcast and then unfavorite them after the podcast has been recorded, but I don't go all out and un-contact people. We should call favorites star-bellies or something. [more]
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Nope, still seems reasonable to me. [more]
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Beeswing and 1952 Vincent Black Lighting by Richard Thompson. (a lot of his stuff actually) Best Ever Death Metal Band out of Denton by The Mountain Goats King Henry and John Barleycorn by Steeleye Span Most murder ballads. [more]
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I'm being unsupportive because I'm basically saying "don't discuss your genuinely-felt emotions with me," which isn't okay. Also here to say "No, this is okay" And it's tough, right, because if your spouse was… [more]
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I've been poking around in what was happening at Radcliffe in 1935. There were some changes happening on campus, but nothing major but it might be (noting the black tights) because of the death of William Byerly the last living founder of Radcliffe… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Squirrels don't get that it's cool inside and they will not really be aware that you're out of town (you have a pet sitter coming in, the place isn't uninhabited). If you're super worried, you could put aluminum foil (maybe) or something that is… [more]
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Even the idea of finding a family doctor, which I've heard is notoriously difficult in my province (Alberta), gives me anxiety. Awww I am so sorry you are going through this. It may be helpful to know that one of the side effects of… [more]
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My partner has an adult child living at home with mh issues about your kid's age (I am using kid here just as shorthand, he's 22). The most challenging thing is the "doesn't leave the house" stuff. Here are a few strategies which they use… [more]
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wildly inferior layout/style. ... cold dead hands ... [more]
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is there something a little Marie Antoinette-ish about a charity in this country, which is full of terrible poverty, that says "Oh no! There are people who don't own real estate!?" Generally speaking, to me, no. This seems like… [more]
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I don't know offhand. He does seem to be responsive to comments on his Shop page on his website. He was a strong advocate for CC licenses on his works as recently at 2013. [more]
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If I'm reading this and your last question correctly, you went from being an employee of hers to freelancing over the summer. And now she hasn't gotten you the things you need to do the job without you riding herd on her? I think that's a doorway to… [more]
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He told me not to worry about it but not to do it again That would be my mantra He told me not to worry He told me not to worry He told me not to worry He told me not to worry He told me not to worry Sounds like you have some… [more]
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Limit the size of your family, or adopt. This is huge for two main reasons 1. obviously fewer people consume fewer resources, but also 2. having children makes people a lot more inwardly-focused (for decent reasons) and so they are… [more]
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Good luck wenestvedt! I have to say, I was sort of like "Do marketing for the conference... ehhhhhh" but Lauren was a delight to talk with and what started out to be a 10-20 minute interview turned into what you saw here. I was having a… [more]
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I have an awful lot of MARC records from NYPL I think... (might not all be books) that I'd happily put up on Dropbox for you. You can also get similar sets from LoC and Open Library. [more]
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I keep track of every book I read. I found that it was easier for me to put down books I didn't like when I still would enter them on my booklist (i.e. got credit for them even though I marked them as "unfinished", I am a cheevo-driven… [more]
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His grave didn't deserve the timid wallflowery dance around the malice and brutality that defined his life that it got here, much less the tone deaf praise. Not disagreeing that the man was seriously lousy in many ways, but isn't this… [more]
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foster a pregnant mama cat? This was going to be my suggestion. My mother did this (both once when I was a child and then again more recently). It's sort of fun to have a cat around the place, and then kittens but also to have the kittens… [more]
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I know this seems like a very solipsistic question, I feel embarrassed about that too. It is fine to think about your feelings, and to care about yourself. My mother died this summer after a longish illness. We didn't even get along… [more]
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Here are mine! Thanks to everyone who was patient and kind as I was slightly in over my head. You were all charming hiking companions. A little chagrined I had no need of my layers or something waterproof but the weather was pretty terrific. Thanks to everyone who made the trip and Dr. Fetish and nosila for hosting. [more]
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If you like plague novels, Year of Wonders is very much like this. Very sheltered rural woman in 1666 learns about the world. Very much agree with the Secret Garden suggestion too. [more]
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It's actually easy: stay together until you don't. This has been my approach. I would say this does not work if you have certain things you need to seriously plan a life for, like having children. Everything else, literally everything… [more]
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The relative dearth of comments here vs. the initial spate of hundreds on earlier "getting involved" threads speaks volumes. I like to think that people finally got off the internet Two Minute Hate Machine and decided to go into… [more]
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I have a mom who is (in my opinion) living with undiagnosed BPD. Your examples are similar, though more troubling, to things that happened to me. I think the best interpretation is that they didn't know any better or were, themselves, getting out… [more]
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I got two abnormal pap smear results six months apart, each showing abnormality with the technical term being "atypical squamous cells." To me this feels a bit like saying "Hey I have an unusual looking mole and the doctor… [more]
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Along the same lines... I spend a lot of time online but I try to balance time I spend creating with time I spend consuming. This works offline as well. I read books, but I also try to make postcards and write letters. I'll eat out, but I'll also try… [more]
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"hey, how would you feel about switching parking spots?" I'm in favor of a slightly more direct approach "Hey I'm going to need to switch back and use the other parking spot." (just in case their response is "We… [more]
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Absolutely. Hugs. [more]
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I love these types of questions. My favorite example of this is the Eddie Vedder song that was used in Into the Wild Hard Sun, is actually by Gordon Peterson (Indio) which was big in Canada brifly but who sort of faded away afterwards. But… [more]
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I like LH's stories about how he met his wife; they give hope to the rest of us nerdy linguophile crankster nerds. [more]
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I will probably be there! And am driving down from Vermont if someone needs a ride from points north. [more]
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I need to get my old Flickr account shut down. I own the account but I cannot access it and I don't have either a Yahoo account or any recovery email or phone number connected to it. When Yahoo bought Flickr, there was a period of time… [more]
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Me and my SO both have really nerdy hobbies that we are into and which other people sometimes consider unappealing. That's on them. I think the first bit is to make sure you internalize that ("That's their issue, I love my hobby") so you're… [more]
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And I don't think these are really "intrusive thoughts" They sound like intrusive thoughts to me. I have anxiety and a lot of times there will be one thing, whatever the thing is, which will set my mind off and then it will be… [more]
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I pay extra for paper towels that come in those smaller rip-off sizes because I usually only need about a third of a paper towel anyhow. [more]
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