MetaFilter

MeFi post: My Month of Hell

Actually, I bet you could have some kind of "like Crossfit but for the weak" deal where you had the same kind of emphasis on daily intense fitness but had a different selection of classes and a different approach to range of motion.

Almost everyone in my general age/social cohort would probably really benefit from a frequent, intense bodyweight exercise class, for instance - squats, push-ups, those reverse tricep thingies, planks, etc. Maybe mix that up with... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:43 AM on July 13, 2015

“They actually didn’t drink Kool-Aid at Jonestown,” he says, referring to the 1978 mass cultic suicide of more than 900 people. “It was actually Flavor Aid.”

Well, at least one of the gay CrossFit cult members shares one of my many pet peeves, so I am now more pro-CrossFit than I ever have been in the recent past.
posted to MetaFilter by Shepherd at 10:38 AM on July 13, 2015

I have friends who swear by CrossFit and others who don't. The ones who love it tend to use phrases like, "it changed my life," "I got so fucking fit," or "it is amazing, man."

I wanted to try it...because why not? I asked a friend about it and her response to me was, "IIRC, you have lower back problems, right?" I said that yes, once or twice a year, I throw my back out horribly, sometimes simply by having an intense sneeze. She... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Kitteh at 10:37 AM on July 13, 2015

I find that going to class makes me angry. I despise doing activities in a group. I tend to think that even walking down the street with more than one other person is humiliating.

did i write this article and forget about having done so
posted to MetaFilter by poffin boffin at 10:33 AM on July 13, 2015

Die, CrossFit, die.
posted to MetaFilter by imnotasquirrel at 10:30 AM on July 13, 2015

He also has huge, bloody calluses on his hands. When I ask another CrossFitter, Steve, about his own scabby calluses, he says, “I guess I haven’t found any lifting gloves that I really like yet,” which I later learn is probably a lie. No one in CrossFit wears lifting gloves, because massive, disgusting, bloody hands are a sort of hanky code among members — a way to spot your own in society, as well as a badge of honor.

hmm, a gym whose patrons are... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by indubitable at 10:27 AM on July 13, 2015

Downs explains. “There’s a vulnerability in [gay men’s] development that they really appeal to, that phenomenon of wanting to fit in and be with the other guys.”

Experts call this "being gay".
posted to MetaFilter by dr_dank at 10:24 AM on July 13, 2015

The first thing that strikes me about the response is that it's written in "the royal we" - obviously one person is writing - but the response condemns the author, and then extends him a collective offer of repentance if he chooses to return.

And we're supposed to believe that this *isnt* a cult? The leader speaks for everyone, asserts the nessecary nature of The Mission and condemns the wayward disciple?

Yeah, no thanks.
posted to MetaFilter by Avenger at 10:22 AM on July 13, 2015

MeFi post: Once you let yourself see it, it’s there all the time.

I am currently helping a family member make sense of a very public callout she experienced in her workplace over a microaggression. It's been very hard, but she's doing the work - reading everything she can and doing some very honest soul searching.

She and I are talking a lot about White fragility, about the need to withstand criticism, about not expecting credit or absolution or welcoming arms at the end of the process (or even for the process to "end").... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by ducky l'orange at 12:40 PM on July 13, 2015

White people have no idea how to be silent when their feelings get hurt.
...
Nobody does until it's beaten into them.

You guys are both white, right? White offs aren't helping either, tbh.
posted to MetaFilter by Sonny Jim at 12:39 PM on July 13, 2015

This was thought-provoking. Thanks for posting it. I especially liked this: White people and Black people are not having a discussion about race. Black people, thinking as a group, are talking about living in a racist system. White people, thinking as individuals, refuse to talk about “I, racist” and instead protect their own individual and personal goodness. In doing so, they reject the existence of racism.

But arguing about personal non-racism is missing the... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by zarq at 11:52 AM on July 13, 2015

MeFi post: A hex on your hexagonal airline seating!

For long flights, I wouldn't mind what they did in the 5th element: sedate passengers and stack them in sleeping pods.

Sounds a lot like my plans for Anaesthesia Airways. Basically, the day of your flight, someone sneaks up behind you with a giant mallet, bops you over the head, and slips you into your travel canister, which is then rack-loaded into the plane. When you reach your destination, you're unloaded, delivered to your hotel, and put in bed.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by sexyrobot at 10:05 AM on July 14, 2015

also this layout would definitely encourage gropers and creepers to target anyone wearing a skirt, or basically anyone with a crotch.

First Class
Business Class
Economy Class
Hi Whatcha Reading Class
posted to MetaFilter by prize bull octorok at 9:50 AM on July 14, 2015

The recent market trend seems to show that passengers will give up basically everything to save a few bucks in airfare.

I feel like I hear this kind of dismissive tone in a lot of conversations about airline flights, as if it's totally unreasonable for people with tight budgets to want to travel, and it really bothers me (not trying to pick on you, this is just the most recent example of something I encounter a lot). There are tons of reasons people... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 9:48 AM on July 14, 2015

It's not so much "oh no, eye contact" as the potential for the fixed glassy-eyed stare of someone who wants to be Sky Friends persisting for six hours or more
posted to MetaFilter by prize bull octorok at 9:42 AM on July 14, 2015

But agreeing with allkindsoftime ... there's no way this can be made safe for evacuating.

More importantly, if you increase the capacity of a 737-800 from 170 to 230 with this, you're going to need to add at least two doors, which is a *major* modification.

The FAA rule -- everybody has to be able to get off in 90 seconds. The number of people onboard basically determines how many doors and exit windows a plane has to have.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by eriko at 9:34 AM on July 14, 2015

Some mid-level engineer just got his $500 patent bonus guys.

THis is never getting built.

Simmer down.
posted to MetaFilter by GuyZero at 9:32 AM on July 14, 2015

Has anyone patented the idea of stacking passengers into the fuselage like fire-wood yet?

For long flights, I wouldn't mind what they did in the 5th element: sedate passengers and stack them in sleeping pods.
posted to MetaFilter by Sangermaine at 9:28 AM on July 14, 2015

How do you get up to pee if you're not on an aisle?

You gin up the courage to ask your seatmates to let you through to do your business. They comply because the alternative to not letting you through is much, much worse for them.
posted to MetaFilter by asperity at 9:26 AM on July 14, 2015

at what point in human history did we slip from the cool awesome future timeline to this shitty awful future timeline and how can we go back and kill whoever needs a-killin in order to MAKE IT FUCKING STOP
posted to MetaFilter by poffin boffin at 9:25 AM on July 14, 2015

This will never be a thing. There's no way passengers could safely evacuate their "row" in a configuration like this because the main space savings in the design comes from occupying row space not utilized in the current straight row design. Not to mention that you'd have people crashing into each other rather than all heading in the same direction as they scramble to get out.
posted to MetaFilter by allkindsoftime at 9:24 AM on July 14, 2015

Basically my reaction to this idea.
posted to MetaFilter by Navelgazer at 9:21 AM on July 14, 2015

Has anyone patented the idea of stacking passengers into the fuselage like fire-wood yet?
posted to MetaFilter by Poldo at 9:20 AM on July 14, 2015

MeFi post: Your World Will Never be the Same

At night, we would hear the terrifying screams from the distance. Sleep was impossible, and in our tortured state, we increasingly began to turn on each other.
"You go check!"
"No – you go!"
posted to MetaFilter by Kabanos at 7:02 AM on July 7, 2015

I was prepared to roll my eyes at this, but it was really well done. Particularly this one:

On the rare occasion that we ventured beyond the walls of our battle-worn domicile, we encountered small, weary groups of others who shared our situation. We would gather together in the schoolyard, desperate for companionship, eager to ask questions like: “Where were you when it happened?”, “What are you doing for food?”, “Do you know anything about the new strain of... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by 256 at 6:28 AM on July 7, 2015

MeFi post: "Girl has look of mild panic."

even if this thread descends into rage fuelled anarchy and name-calling it will all have been worth it for the puppet anecdote. the terrible puppets are the party dog of this thread.
posted to MetaFilter by poffin boffin at 11:50 AM on July 7, 2015

Also I'm sure I've read other hilarious livetweets of terrible dates and one of them was REALLY GOOD but there are so many livetweets of terrible dates because the universal experience of men being terrible and so I do not know how to find them again

Wait, but how is he acting like a sexist jerk? Yes, he's self-involved, but someone earlier in the thread pointing out women can be bad dates too. So if the genders were reversed, and the woman was self-involved,... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by NoraReed at 11:47 AM on July 7, 2015

He was super-excited and animated and obviously having a great time detailing the natural history of all his Pokemons.

She looked like she wanted to die.

He never. noticed.

I have had lunch with someone who did this exact thing, but he's 11 and my nephew, so it was still sort of endearing.
posted to MetaFilter by gladly at 11:44 AM on July 7, 2015

I mean, some recipes don't have anchovies, but those recipes are wrong.
posted to MetaFilter by jaguar at 11:44 AM on July 7, 2015

Always anchovies.
posted to MetaFilter by jaguar at 11:43 AM on July 7, 2015

Will no one think of the fragile delicate egos of the self-involved blow-hards?
posted to MetaFilter by The Whelk at 11:42 AM on July 7, 2015

A few months ago my family went to a restaurant popular with local college students for date-night, and there was a couple right next to us who were on their first date. Not only did she look very put-together and he had obviously not bothered to change out of his grubbies, but he spent literally the entire date talking about his Pokemons. Every time she tried to turn the subject, he'd go along for exactly one sentence and then say, "So my Cheherazade, which I... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Eyebrows McGee at 11:41 AM on July 7, 2015

The best date I overheard/saw at Starbucks was this dude whose very loud opening line was about how he'd A) cut off the entire tip of his index finger! B) on Halloween! C) while making stew! I was dying to tell somebody, but after trying and failing and ultimately giving up on properly conveying the awesomeness of that absurdity in a tweet (STEW!!!!), I looked up just in time to see him open his backpack and take out four—yes, FOUR—horrifying puppet/marionettes. Just splayed them out all over... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by mothershock at 11:36 AM on July 7, 2015

"IF YOU REPLACE THIS SITUATION WITH A TOTALLY DIFFERENT ONE, IT WOULD BE SEXIST"

"IF YOU REPLACE THESE WORDS WITH COMPLETELY DIFFERENT WORDS, THE MEANING CHANGES, AND WOULD BE SEXIST"
posted to MetaFilter by NoraReed at 11:35 AM on July 7, 2015

I just have a hard time believing everyone would be lol'ing quite as hard if it were, say, an MRA type live-tweeting what he considered to be a "hilarious" conversation between two women he considered pretentious.

How come two totally different things are treated differently? Hypocrisy!
posted to MetaFilter by kmz at 11:34 AM on July 7, 2015

Yeah, like, how about somebody starts a twitter account called Women Who Looked Nothing Like Their Profile Pictures. You all should be totally fine with that, right?

This is about a million orders of magnitude more personal AND cruel, not to mention shallow, plus it just entrenches the deep deep misogyny in our culture. Call me back when making fun of borderline-sexist assholes on dates with women is a symptom of shallowness and systemic misandry (it will never be).
posted to MetaFilter by easter queen at 11:34 AM on July 7, 2015

I just have a hard time believing everyone would be lol'ing quite as hard if it were, say, an MRA type live-tweeting what he considered to be a "hilarious" conversation between two women he considered pretentious.

Probably not. MRA types are not known for their wit or powers of observation.
posted to MetaFilter by caryatid at 11:33 AM on July 7, 2015

how close are you to typing 'misandry'

asking for a friend
posted to MetaFilter by Kitteh at 11:32 AM on July 7, 2015

Why would something that focuses on the physical appearance of women be like something which lacked even a single instance of physical descriptions of a man.
posted to MetaFilter by poffin boffin at 11:32 AM on July 7, 2015

I feel like this amount of information is absolutely enough information to make me think that he is a bad person, or at least a person who lacks any real self-awareness or restraint and thus perpetuates Bad.

I feel like calling out this behavior is a feminist act, and I think shaming men for acting like entitled, sexist, mansplainy jerks is absolutely in the public interest. Especially because it is common knowledge that this sort of thing happens all the time. This is... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by likeatoaster at 11:30 AM on July 7, 2015

We're shaming people for being uninteresting on a date?

His name was not mentioned. He's just Generic Douchecanoe Overheard in a Cafe. How was he shamed?
posted to MetaFilter by caryatid at 11:26 AM on July 7, 2015

If I ever get a time machine, I'll step into it, find my 22-year-old self, grab him by his neck and start screaming.

"Shut the fuck up. Shut. The. Fuck. Up."
"But, who..."
"Shut the fuck up. Stop talking. Just stop."
"But how..."
"You'll know, dude. If she wants you, you'll know. And if she wants you and you don't know? You don't want... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Cool Papa Bell at 11:18 AM on July 7, 2015

My submission for Dates I've Been On That I Wish Someone Had Live Tweeted:

"I've only read parts of 50 Shades of Grey but it was enough to tell that it was horribly written. I mean, because I'm a writer, I'm trained to notice things like that she didn't give enough description about the buttplugs. Like, if it were me, I would have gone into much more detail." At which point he does just that, rhapsodically describing the buttplugs he has known.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by mcduff at 11:13 AM on July 7, 2015

but it's not like we have any reason to think he's a bad person

We can't know for sure until we try the damn puttanesca sauce
posted to MetaFilter by prize bull octorok at 11:12 AM on July 7, 2015

Think about the worst dates you've ever had. Would you like them to be live-tweeted?

God, actually I would. I've only been on one real clunker (at least in public), but if it had been live-tweeted at least SOMEONE would have been amused.
posted to MetaFilter by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 11:11 AM on July 7, 2015

Not only have I been on that date myself, but once upon a time, in art school, there was an extremely conventionally attractive young woman in my life drawing class (she not only looked like a Barbie doll, but her hair and nails and makeup and clothing was always impeccable--she really stood out among the grungy students). Anyways, some guy was standing next to her seat as we were all drawing, telling her amazing facts about how rich and accomplished and enlightened he was, when he got to a part... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by ernielundquist at 11:02 AM on July 7, 2015

You know, I went out on a lunch date once. I listened to her, asked her relevant questions, shared bits of my experiences in response to her questions, found out things she liked and didn't like, shared what I liked and didn't like, and so forth. Neither of us got mysterious text messages, and at the end I got her phone number for future possible dates.

I guess it would've been boring for a twitter feed. But, reader, I married her.
posted to MetaFilter by nubs at 11:00 AM on July 7, 2015

Not really getting how this is an invasion of privacy if the couple are never identified...?

Not now, but what happens when they release the movie about this guy who never really feels like he fits in. Like he's just different.
posted to MetaFilter by Gary at 10:58 AM on July 7, 2015

i will bet all of the change in my pockets against all the change in your pockets that even if Guy reads the tweets, he will have no idea it was him
posted to MetaFilter by kagredon at 10:56 AM on July 7, 2015

I think "you should try my puttanesca sauce" ranks up there in the top things you should never say on a date.
posted to MetaFilter by peeedro at 10:55 AM on July 7, 2015