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WHAT YOUR FAVORITE ’90s BAND SAYS ABOUT THE KIND OF BORED SUBURBAN MOM YOU ARE TODAY

SL McSweeney's sorry, but I know a lot of Mefites are in the right age bracket to feel fully attacked by this article as I did myself.

Nine Inch Nails: You’re learning to pretend that gardening is an adequate replacement for the sexual adventures of your youth.
posted by supermedusa (75 comments total) 27 users marked this as a favorite
 
Not a mom, but for Garbage (closest to my favorite band on the list):

You tell yourself you’re microdosing shrooms for creativity and productivity benefits, but in reality it’s the only way you can deal with the other moms at the playground.

The details aren't exactly right but ... yeah, I'd say that's fairly accurate.
posted by edencosmic at 12:41 PM on May 11 [12 favorites]


Hahaha!

Gets to Nine Inch Nails: RobloxOof. wav
posted by The Manwich Horror at 12:49 PM on May 11 [13 favorites]


They Might Be Giants: You used to be a hopeless autistic teenage nerd, but now you're a hopeless autistic middle-aged nerd. Also, congratulations on coming out!
posted by Faint of Butt at 12:51 PM on May 11 [52 favorites]


Similar thing for suburban dads. Heavy on craft beer thoughts, and, guilty as charged.

I wasn't quite making the connections between the bands and the behaviors in the mom version (I identify as male), but a couple in the dad version (even non-beer related ones) had me go "ah, yes, that clocks".
posted by LionIndex at 12:55 PM on May 11 [6 favorites]


Unlike this one, I actually sort of get most of the references on WHAT YOUR FAVORITE ’90s ROCK BAND SAYS ABOUT THE TYPE OF BORED SUBURBAN DAD YOU ARE TODAY .
posted by JustSayNoDawg at 12:56 PM on May 11 [4 favorites]


Wow, mean!
posted by Lawn Beaver at 1:02 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


I mean, I aspire for this to be my vibe?:

"Because you procrastinated so long on covering your grays, and now people think you’ve chosen to age gracefully, you’ve become a minor feminist icon."
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 1:03 PM on May 11 [21 favorites]


That Sublime one on the dad list is a great dunk.

Boom-shaka-laka indeed.
posted by East14thTaco at 1:08 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


Hooray for not being a mom and living in the suburbs?

Also, the Garbage one sounds closest to me but it would be to enjoy hanging out with moms at the playground. That ain't gonna happen straight.
posted by Kitteh at 1:09 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


but that's the thing. I am not a mom and I do not live in the suburbs, and that one hit way too close!
posted by supermedusa at 1:14 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


tOOL
posted by clavdivs at 1:17 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


I am single, I live in Brooklyn and I had more than one favorite band. What do I win?
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 1:21 PM on May 11 [3 favorites]


I feel like I keep saying this every time 90s listicles appear, but NEEDS MORE BELLE AND SEBASTIAN.

In fact, B&S should be on both the dad list and the mom list based on the number of times I've heard "should we take a Lyft or pay the babysitter for another hour" debated during "The Boy with the Arab Strap".
posted by betweenthebars at 1:22 PM on May 11 [19 favorites]


I am single, I live in Brooklyn and I had more than one favorite band. What do I win?

The Dandy Warhols
posted by betweenthebars at 1:32 PM on May 11 [19 favorites]


Not sure what to make of the fact that my favorite bands only appear on the mom list.
posted by Horace Rumpole at 1:34 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


I do enjoy it when McSweeney's lands. And I can see several of those landing pretty close to my mirror universe persona. (I would look good in a goatee.)
posted by EvaDestruction at 1:35 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


Agreed, the Mom list bands are objectively better. That was the point of this right? It at least reminded me that Harvey Danger existed.
posted by q*ben at 1:36 PM on May 11 [3 favorites]


I have two friends who do pet portraits and I thought of them both as I clicked the link and lo and behold! They’re both mentioned here and one gets interviewed. So cool.
posted by Conrad-Casserole at 1:46 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


Luscious Jackson: You do pet portraits for thousands of dollars and get interviewed about it.
posted by LionIndex at 1:48 PM on May 11 [10 favorites]


Concrete Blonde: You prefer the slow cooker to the Instant Pot but you usually use canned beans anyway.
posted by spamandkimchi at 1:54 PM on May 11 [4 favorites]


CAKE: yeah I'm busted.
posted by gentlyepigrams at 1:55 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


Yo La Tengo: You are taking quilting/archery classes through the local community college and have rashly, optimistically bought all the gear because this time you are going to stick with this new hobby.

Also you are grateful to whoever posts on Metafilter about their annual fundraising marathon appearance for WFMU.
posted by spamandkimchi at 1:59 PM on May 11 [19 favorites]


Working backwards (tori Amos not being a “band” I guess and not on the list), apparently my favorite band was No Doubt (false). Do I get extra points for the fact that I still wear a pair of Birkenstocks I’ve owned since the 90s?
posted by obfuscation at 2:01 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


… I mean I’m also not a mom so there’s that
posted by obfuscation at 2:01 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


I am ambivalent to revolted by these bands. I bought the one NIN album, and I used to like Garbage a lot but they have problematic politics. I guess I’m not really of the 90s. I should probably be microdosing shrooms tho.
posted by seanmpuckett at 2:01 PM on May 11


I would probably take psychic damage from an 80s list tho.
posted by seanmpuckett at 2:04 PM on May 11 [5 favorites]


> tOOL

i suspect tool is taking over rush's catalog of has-no-female-fans jokes.
posted by Clowder of bats at 2:18 PM on May 11 [4 favorites]


Do I get extra points for the fact that I still wear a pair of Birkenstocks I’ve owned since the 90s?

You do in my heart.
posted by The Manwich Horror at 2:25 PM on May 11 [6 favorites]


My husband and I bonded at 18 over a shared love of Everclear. Their joke doesn't exactly land for me, but it was nice to see them included.
posted by Bulgaroktonos at 2:29 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


Breeders on the suburban dads list: "You have no idea when or how to clip your hedges or prune your trees or mow your lawn, so you just copy whatever your neighbor Todd does, and Todd is starting to notice and get weird about it."

Not a dad, don't live in the suburbs, have never clipped hedges or pruned trees, but shit yeah, nailed it.
posted by Pedantzilla at 2:30 PM on May 11 [7 favorites]


Yo La Tengo: You are taking quilting/archery classes through the local community college and have rashly, optimistically bought all the gear because this time you are going to stick with this new hobby

I thought I was going to escape with YLT not being on these lists, and it's not specifically those activities for me, but this is a headshot.
posted by LionIndex at 2:34 PM on May 11 [10 favorites]


We don't really have suburbs in the US sense or craft beer, but still worth a chuckle or two.
posted by signal at 2:37 PM on May 11


I am single, I live in Brooklyn and I had more than one favorite band. What do I win?

I listened to jazz as a teenager, what do I win?
posted by Greg_Ace at 2:54 PM on May 11 [6 favorites]


From the dad list: single, not a dad, and technically Cambridge is a Boston suburb but it is nobody’s idea of “the suburbs”…

Breeders + Toad the Wet Sprocket + Candlebox + Pearl Jam + Silverchair + Smashing Pumpkins = Jesus Christ it’s like somebody emptied an entire fucking magazine into the posturing I pretend is a personality.

Utterly savage. Uncalled for. Unconditionally loved this.
posted by Ryvar at 2:59 PM on May 11 [21 favorites]


My respect and esteem as always, Greg_Ace! (*I* listened to Renaissance/baroque music as a teenager, but then I'm a boomer, so I'm disqualified anyway.)
posted by Kat Allison at 3:00 PM on May 11 [3 favorites]


Cranberries, and dead on.
posted by Flight Hardware, do not touch at 3:18 PM on May 11 [3 favorites]


Foo Fighters: No matter what you do, you’ll never be as good as your spouse’s dead first husband.

Ouch indeed. (From the dads’ list.)
posted by bendy at 3:20 PM on May 11 [5 favorites]


I listened to jazz as a teenager, what do I win?

The ability to out Suburban Dad those other Suburban Dads by being the only one with a BJCP (Beer Judge Certification Program) ranking that allows you to judge home-brew competitions.
posted by Gygesringtone at 3:23 PM on May 11 [9 favorites]


A couple of months ago I was visiting family and my 12 year old nephew elbowed me and said "Hey, Card Cheat, [his best friend, the same age] thinks you're the cool adult." The best friend was standing beside him so I asked in genuine suprise "Really? How come?" "*shrug* Because you don't have kids."

There you go, that's the secret to never recognizing yourself on lists like these.
posted by The Card Cheat at 3:27 PM on May 11 [12 favorites]


There you go, that's the secret to never recognizing yourself on lists like these.


Really? I thought the secret was denial.
posted by notoriety public at 3:37 PM on May 11 [13 favorites]


Agree that I am hampered by the lack of Tori Amos, but at least I've been skewered via NIN, The Cranberries, and Smashing Pumpkins.

Side note: just being visibly alt (and politically progressive) is basically cruise control for always being The Cool Adult (unless you then say Effed Up Things around the youth). If you have achieved this with a normcore style, my (wide-brimmed black straw) hat's off to you.
posted by verbminx at 3:42 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


This is perfect on many levels, gj
posted by likeatoaster at 3:49 PM on May 11


Ctrl-F "L7" not found
posted by ivan ivanych samovar at 4:11 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


Hmmm. I must have been too old to have a favorite 90s rock band.
posted by 2N2222 at 4:19 PM on May 11 [4 favorites]


What 70s/80s band is "reads the dad list and searches 'lemonheads' on YouTube"
posted by ctmf at 4:23 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


I thought the secret was denial.

No it isn't!
posted by Greg_Ace at 4:30 PM on May 11 [10 favorites]


Boards Of Canada: When you take your kids to the playground, instead of being fully present you are awash in confusingly superposed memories of your own children, your own childhood, and your middle-aged nostalgia for the early-twenties nostalgia for your own childhood all smooshed together. Also you have moved to Canada.
posted by Jon Mitchell at 4:47 PM on May 11 [14 favorites]


Ben Folds Five is on the Mom's list but not the Dad's. I'd complain about this, but the Mom's entry is broad enough to cover both (cough).
posted by AlonzoMosleyFBI at 4:47 PM on May 11


Oh and you have a cargo bike, obviously
posted by Jon Mitchell at 4:48 PM on May 11 [6 favorites]


Ben Folds Five is on the Mom's list but not the Dad's. I'd complain about this, but the Mom's entry is broad enough to cover both (cough).

For Xennial dudes Ben Folds Five was second only to Dave Matthews Band on the list of music you had to pretend to like in order to get laid in college. *ducks* *runs*
posted by Ryvar at 4:58 PM on May 11


Sleater-Kinney: You like craft beer and claim you were into it “before it became such a thing.”

This is uncanny!
posted by phliar at 4:58 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


OHHH NOOOOOO
I didn’t even have to open it - NIN would have been mine - and the laugh still has not died out, even as I type. Ohhohohohoho

(Especially because the sexual adventures of my youth were legion, but all entirely in my own imagination ahhhahahaha)
posted by rrrrrrrrrt at 5:11 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


Also, Ryvar, I am FASCINATED - Ben Folds and Dave Matthews are two of the most ladyparts-withering bands I’ve ever known, and so I wonder where and for what kind of girls they were alluring!
posted by rrrrrrrrrt at 5:13 PM on May 11 [8 favorites]


No Skinny Puppy, but NIN is a good proxy. And that lands.
posted by Shepherd at 5:34 PM on May 11 [4 favorites]


Ben Folds and Dave Matthews are two of the most ladyparts-withering bands I’ve ever known

I mean, I agree as far as it being a turnoff goes, because having your hand up a girl’s shirt in her dorm room while “Crash” plays in the background and thinking to yourself “man this would be so awesome if it were literally any other song in the universe…” was a quintessential rite of passage for dudes born between 1980-1983.
posted by Ryvar at 5:37 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


Robyn Hitchcock:

You've solved the comfortable-and-actually-dead-cute footwear problem many, many times over. Also, you are not suburban, and though you are definitely capable of despair and anger, you are almost completely incapable of being bored.
posted by palmcorder_yajna at 5:38 PM on May 11 [6 favorites]


You pretended to like all of these bands but actually just wanted to listen to country radio: you're still wearing skinny jeans because they haven't worn out yet and by the time you buy wide legs they'll be mom pants anyway.
posted by Emmy Rae at 5:52 PM on May 11 [6 favorites]


My favorite 90s bands (R.E.M., Green Day, Ani DiFranco) weren’t on the list and I don’t live in the suburbs. I am the mom who says “skibidi toilet” to purposely troll my kids and refuses to wear athleisure or Uggs in a desperate attempt to show I’m “the cool mom.”

(I am not a cool mom.)
posted by sonika at 6:00 PM on May 11 [11 favorites]


Us older millenials want to know what your favorite 00s era webcomics has to say about how you'll find love but never buy a house.
posted by es_de_bah at 6:42 PM on May 11 [4 favorites]


Primus: You went to see them last year with your cousin, because he provided the backline for the show, and while you're old and not cool, you weren't the oldest or the uncoolest one there, so count it as a win.
posted by signal at 7:18 PM on May 11 [1 favorite]


I used to like Garbage a lot but they have problematic politics.

Uh... do I want to know what this is about?
posted by oneirodynia at 7:31 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


I used to like Garbage a lot but they have problematic politics

I am pretty sure I don't want to know.

Also technically I am not a mom (and my name is not Karen though my sister-in-law is an actual Karen) but I still feel busted by the CAKE entry.
posted by gentlyepigrams at 7:32 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


Sleater-Kinney missing from the mom's list?

Sleater-Kinney: turns out young fella you was more of a riot grrrl than you realized. Congratulations on your transition. You're so much cooler now than you were then.
posted by kokaku at 7:34 PM on May 11 [10 favorites]


No R.E.M. and no Queen- well, they weren't a 90s band, but I discovered them in the 90s. Other than those, I have realized that I apparently didn't really like bands, since I mostly listened to singer-songwriters like Tori Amos or Lorena McKennitt.

But I did really like zombie by The cranberries, and I've never gotten around to dyeing my hair so I'll take that one. I also liked barenaked ladies but only their first album - so does that make me super cool? Or super nerdy because I like the first album mostly for the song grade nine and its awesome wrath of khan reference.
posted by jb at 10:55 PM on May 11 [2 favorites]


Wait, is this my favorite band in the nineties, or my favorite 90s band now?

My favorite band in the 90s was the Beatles and my favorite 90s band now is Tool. Or maybe NIN but that has more to do with Reznor’s movie work.
posted by nat at 1:25 AM on May 12 [1 favorite]


Sigh, because after all, everything you do or think leads ultimately to some kind of performance. Articles like this are soul-sucking.

Also, why is this type of piece always gendered?
posted by rabia.elizabeth at 8:38 AM on May 12


Sleater-Kinney missing from the mom's list?

The Lemonheads and STP too. With their main appeal being Evan Dando and Scott Weiland. I would have also expected Pulp. Were the people who wrote these even there?


Also, why is this type of piece always gendered?


And married, and parents. I guess the rest of us are still basically children right?

soul-sucking

it kinda rips your life away
posted by snuffleupagus at 8:53 AM on May 12 [3 favorites]


Nine Inch Nails: what sexual adventures? Never mind, just pass me the trowel.
posted by The Ardship of Cambry at 4:51 PM on May 12 [3 favorites]


L7: You’re happy that your spouse is so supportive of your polyamory. In the back of your mind, you wonder if it’s because they find you terrifying.
posted by box at 5:26 PM on May 12 [2 favorites]


Maybe none of us are that special or unique after all
posted by Miko at 8:11 PM on May 12 [1 favorite]


Maybe the true dimensions of our full
Humanity can never be captured by our choices in pop culture enjoyment
posted by Miko at 8:15 PM on May 12 [3 favorites]


What this sort of piece says about McSweeney's: they're turning into Buzzfeed.
posted by Halloween Jack at 9:19 PM on May 12 [5 favorites]


Can we once and for all kill the trope that says "if you watch arty subtitled black & white films" (or whatever variation on this idea) you're lying to yourself about liking them and it's only to impress a boy? There are A LOT of dyed-in-the-wool female cinema nerds out there!!
posted by mirepoix at 7:15 AM on May 13 [7 favorites]


Plus the idea that any film you had to watch with subtitles is 'artsy' is such a lower-middle-brow, insular, American idea.
posted by signal at 7:32 AM on May 13 [4 favorites]


Fiona Apple: Your personality is more than the sum of your aesthetic preferences.
posted by box at 7:33 AM on May 13 [2 favorites]


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