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What We Owe to Each Other

"If 'Seinfeld' was a show about nothing, 'The Good Place' is a show about everything — including, and especially, growing and learning. By all rights, it should probably be awful — preachy, awkward, tedious, wooden, labored and out of touch. Instead, it is excellent: a work of popular art that hits on many levels at once. It has been not only critically acclaimed but also widely watched, especially on streaming services, where its twists and intricate jokes lend themselves to bingeing and rebingeing."
posted by lunasol to MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 2:29 PM
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"I am a different person"

"Hark! A Vagrant, such as it is, is an archive website now." About ten years ago, Kate Beaton started posting her history-themed comics at "Hark! A Vagrant" [previously]. She's now moving on to other comics and books projects. "I miss making humour comics, but coming back to them, I will have to figure out what that will look like." Beaton dedicates this archive to her late sister Becky.
posted by brainwane to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 9:22 AM
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libraries change lives


Healing Personal Trauma is Central to Undoing the Patriarchy

"Men are caught between a natural desire for their full humanity (the ability to be emotional, vulnerable and empathic) and their desire to remain privileged and in dominator mode. 'Because the law and the economic and social order are heavily weighted in favor of men, the infantile needs of adult males are affirmed by a machinery of power, which does not affirm or validate the needs of adult women.'" A meditation and guide on how to heal from toxic masculinity and move towards positive masculinity.
posted by stoneweaver to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 3:31 PM
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Matreon: The Patreon platform for emotional labor

"Hello and thank you for attempting to engage in an unsolicited conversation with me! In order to ensure our interaction is productive and enriching for both parties, I invite you to join my Matreon. For just a few dollars a month, you can continue to approach me with whatever the hell is on your mind regardless of context or appropriateness, and I will continue to do the emotional labor required to respond without calling you a privileged, myopic dipshit.
posted by Thella to MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 11:17 PM
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Wave and ripple

A Meji-era design book of waves and ripple designs is now available for download. The three book series, titled Hamonshū, was created by artist Mori Yuzan. Direct link
posted by PussKillian to MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 12:09 PM
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When Asian Women Are Harassed for Marrying Non-Asian Men

The men who harass me know three things: I’m Chinese-American, my husband is white, and our son is multiracial. You hate Asian men, they insist; you hate your own child. You hate yourself.
posted by cynical pinnacle to MetaFilter on Oct 14 at 1:07 PM
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What is the best cookie recipe?

These are terrible times and I'm fixing to eat my feelings. Also, the holidays are upon us and I had a surprise success with cookie-based gifts last year. So what is the best cookie recipe?
posted by Frowner to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 8 at 3:40 PM
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Mmm, pie

Lauren Ko makes pies with geometric designs.
posted by cellar door to MetaFilter on Oct 14 at 4:30 AM
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قل كلمتك … وامش

Jamal Khashoggi (twitter), is a Saudi Arabian-born journalist [Al-Jazeera English] and opinion[Washington Post] writer[Al-Arabiya]. A critic[MidEastEye] of Saudi Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman[aka MBS][AJE] and his policies[WaPo], he left Saudi Arabia for Turkey last year. On October 2, he was called to the Saudi consulate in Istanbul[MEE] on what was apparently a routine paperwork matter.
He has not been seen since[AJE].
posted by the man of twists and turns to MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 10:21 AM
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Walk this way


Great documentaries... streaming

What are your favorite streaming documentaries about ordinary people, communities, problems?
posted by nantucket to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 9:52 PM
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The Light At The End Of The Tunnel (Is The Light Of An Oncoming Train)


& as I went to grab her buttcheeks she screams "NO MY GLASSES!"

please tell me about a time you laughed so hard you cried. (SLTwitter) Currently best viewed via the user's timeline, since she's retweeted the best ones, but I made the original tweet the main link for posterity. Also, I am deceased. Happy Friday!
posted by sunset in snow country to MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 12:26 PM
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Need more feel good fiction

I grabbed Becky Chambers' first book based on a recommendation I saw here. Then I read her other two books at warp speed. Until she writes more, it's time to move on. Where do I go next?
posted by Mister Fabulous to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 2:52 PM
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It's close to midnight...

Wayne Brady joins Postmodern Jukebox for a seasonally appropriate cover of Michael Jackson's Thriller.
posted by jenkinsEar to MetaFilter on Oct 14 at 4:18 PM
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Figure / Ground

The New York Times has just created an online map showing the silhouettes of the 125,192,184 buildings in the United States of America.
posted by Homeboy Trouble to MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 2:02 PM
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I think that we basically waited out the span of his short-term memory


Berea College: 90% Pell grant eligible, 40% minorities, 45% debt-free

"Berea College isn’t like most other colleges. It was founded in 1855 by a Presbyterian minister who was an abolitionist. It was the first integrated, co-educational college in the South. And it has not charged students tuition since 1892." SLAtlantic
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Dad wasn’t having it and insisted they could not leave the table until all the food on their plate was gone. My sibling finished the last few bites and then proceeded to vomit on the table and our dad. When I was 6, I went on my first visit to my grandparents who lived a few hundred miles away, to stay with them for a week. Every week,... [more]
posted by Mister Fabulous to MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 11:53 AM
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a letter of recommendation should be based on whether or not you believe a student has the academic merit to deserve it not where they are going to study From this controversy, it's obvious that not everyone agrees with this statement. And I don't think it's that simple. What if a student asked for a letter of recommendation to a... [more]
posted by Kutsuwamushi to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 2:30 PM
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>Is the husband in this article scummy or creepy? No. He is by definition scummy and creepy! Please don't be taken in by the public face he puts on for reporters - or, for that matter, the public version of the story told by his child bride which was carefully constructed in order to keep herself sane. I fell in love with a 22 yr old... [more]
posted by MiraK to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 2:23 PM
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In many ways, she was more mature than he was. NO. This view is so fucking prevalent and it starts in the preschool years and apparently never stops. [view]
posted by threetwentytwo to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 1:39 PM
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One article pointed out that this is an example of the extremely rare Reverse Milkshake Duck. [view]
posted by kyrademon to MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 10:09 AM
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From a friend: I'm afraid this guy, while addicted to pot, is just an asshole and blaming it on the weed. I smoked a lot of weed in my day, dropped and snorted a lot of chemical drugs, drank like a fish, in about every combination possible. While I had plenty of moments, in Kavanaugh speak, that were cringe-worthy, the sort of thing he is... [more]
posted by mecran01 to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 6:46 PM
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Or a yes, and hope it would last." this is the incomprehensible of incomprehensibles. if your 16 year old ran off and got married to some old creep, and you somehow justified giving your consent on paper so that at least she'd still speak to you sometimes, you'd hope it wouldn't last. you'd be counting the hours. you'd... [more]
posted by queenofbithynia to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 1:43 PM
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There was Maria Vargas, a shy and brooding girl who looked older than her 16 years Every time I see this trope - every time I see a girl described as looking "older" than she is - I think of one of my childhood friends. She hit puberty earlier than average. Men started sexually harassing her before she hit her teens. She still... [more]
posted by Kutsuwamushi to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 2:19 PM
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What do you mean by femininity, exactly? What does act like a lady entail? Because I’m definitely a cis woman and fuck that performative noise. If you feel like being feminine, hooray! If you don’t, also hooray! It doesn’t affect your gender at all. [view]
posted by lydhre to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 6:16 PM
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In many ways, she was more mature than he was. I just want to tell these people that this isn't a testament to the maturity of a teenaged girl, but a fairly strong condemnation of the adult man. If an adult man isn't more mature than a teenaged girl, he isn't mature enough to get married. [view]
posted by Groundhog Week to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 3:30 PM
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hahahahahahahahaha hahahahahahahaha I have no idea where to start The one that really gets me all the time is my terrible academic writing style. Let's just put it this way - one time a "blind" peer reviewer wrote on the very first page of one of my research pubs: "I CAN TELL IT'S YOU [BARCHAN] DUE TO HOW EVERY WORD OF THIS... [more]
posted by barchan to MetaTalk on Oct 13 at 5:56 PM
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Lots of my faculty friends at UM are nervous now and are considering not doing any letters of recommendation for now. I see lots of Republicans saying that they'll quietly stop hiring women because they're nervous about being falsely accused of sexual harassment or worse. This kind of reactionary, played-for-the-peanut-gallery... [more]
posted by tclark to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 2:15 PM
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Parodies of dumb tweets can only go so far in these dumb times, and that’s really not very far at all, but the kitties really make this. I did like the kitties (of course!) but for me what makes it is the son's good humour and clear statement that he is a feminist ally and staunch supporter of #MeToo. I was expecting that the story... [more]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl to MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 9:40 AM
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Also, if we could avoid men defending their own marriages by saying "my wife is a lot younger than me and she's more mature," that would be great, because (a) your wife was probably a legal adult when you married (b) women being thrust into the role of the "responsible" or "mature" one in is itself a widespread... [more]
posted by Kutsuwamushi to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 2:28 PM
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"surprisingly prevalent" TO WHOM no woman on earth is surprised by the grossness of men creeping on children [view]
posted by poffin boffin to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 1:25 PM
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The guy gave a truthful account of his drug additional/dependency. Just because it doesn't match up with your personal experience doesn't mean you should dismiss it out of hand. He recognized he had a problem and did something about it. What's with the self-righteousness in this thread? [view]
posted by gwint to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 7:45 PM
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Agreed, this is an unexpectedly harsh crowd. Arguing the sincerity of somebody who’s figured out that substance abuse has negatively impacted his life - and then gotten his shit together to get better - that doesn’t seem very metafilter. People are allowed to call themselves addicts, especially when their direct personal experience has shown them... [more]
posted by something something to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 9:05 PM
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But every single person here would (I think) say that she had the right to decide (at 14) if she would carry her child or terminate the pregnancy had the right? you make it sound so empowering. she had the responsibility of deciding the outcome of her pregnancy as the result of an adult's actions, and there was absolutely nothing she... [more]
posted by queenofbithynia to MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 3:02 PM
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I'm afraid this guy, while addicted to pot, is just an asshole I’m going to cut-and-paste a comment that I made here back in 2014 regarding the author of this piece:At the bookstore where I used to work, we once had Neal Pollack in for a book signing. In one area of the store, we had a wall entirely decorated with autographed,... [more]
posted by Atom Eyes to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 7:54 PM
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I believe these "aggressive while stoned" stories, but they clash with my own experience to the point of serious confusion. I do think there's a certain percentage of drug users who use their drug of choice as an excuse to "switch on" a side of their personality that they do not feel comfortable expressing when sober. [view]
posted by scose to MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 7:23 PM
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