The surgery hasn’t just changed the way I think about myself
Yeah, I really, really, really don't think this is true, based on everything else she said.
The surgery hasn’t just changed the way I think about myself; it has changed the way I interact with other people. I’ve grown a lot more confident in my appearance, and now I’m much more willing to be seen than I was before. I feel more attractive, and that in turn makes people think I am more attractive. Of course there’s still a difference between how self-assured I feel with and without clothes on.
To me, the most fascinating product of the surgery is that it’s changed the way men react to me when I have my clothes on. Before, it was not uncommon for a man to stare blatantly at my large chest. When guys would approach me, in bars or at parties, most of them seemed to be operating on the assumption that I was a little bit of a slut. This was not, in fact, the case. I was a shy, fairly serious person who did not sleep with people lightly. And yet men I didn’t know regularly talked to me like I was eager to be their sexual plaything.
Then suddenly I had smaller breasts! When I’d walk around, men would still look at me, but they were no longer looking right at my breasts. I could feel them taking in the whole picture of me — my face, my body, my legs, and sometimes my breasts too. Almost overnight guys began treating me like a pretty girl instead of an easy girl. When they would talk to me, they would approach me like I was a normal person. They took me seriously. They would ask me questions about who I was, what I was interested in — a rare occurrence pre-surgery. I was shocked the first few times, but it kept happening. Friends of mine confirmed the difference so I knew I hadn’t imagined it, and I’ve since talked to other people who’ve had breast reductions and experienced the very same shift. Something to think about.
In response to #1: She doesn't seem to have more confidence or belief in her self, not just her value in the meat market.
First of all, it's pretty clear that her "value on the meat market" actually went down in terms of how guys interacted with her.
If you had a huge (but benign) tumor hanging off of you that affected your balance, and caused others to stare, wouldn't you get it cut off?
You care more than anyone you will ever encounter.
I mean, okay, I won't go so far as to say that appearance doesn't matter at all, but seriously, most guys would rather have a partner who doesn't constantly fret about her (or his) hair/eyes/ass/nose/breasts/leftbigtoe/whatever.
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