Sorry That My Friendship Is A Crappy Consolation Prize
January 30, 2014 4:29 PM   Subscribe

The Friendzoner versus the Nice Guy.
posted by rcraniac (18 comments total)

This post was deleted for the following reason: This is a cute presentation, but it's a concept that's been talked to death here and elsewhere and this doesn't really add anything. -- restless_nomad



 
If he was really nice he'd be getting laid anyway.

Yeah, somebody's going to ask what's wrong with being nice, so let's head this off at the pass:

The whole point of the "Nice Guy" thing is that dudes like this aren't actually nice. They're using niceness as a strategy to get what they want. What they actually are is manipulative.
posted by Pope Guilty at 4:36 PM on January 30, 2014 [12 favorites]


This is an eloquent and concise review of the Friendzoning/Nice Guy literature and I liked it.

SUDDENLY BOOTS was a nice touch.
posted by daveliepmann at 4:38 PM on January 30, 2014


Yeah, somebody's going to ask what's wrong with being nice

Are they, though, really? I mean, hasn't this discussion been chewed over, swallowed, digested, evacuated and back around again about a thousand times over? At this point why don't we just number all the possible things to be said and posts can just consist of columns of numbers. Me, I think #3, #16 and #18. I'd have thrown in a #17, too, but that's just vulgar favorite-bait.
posted by yoink at 4:40 PM on January 30, 2014 [5 favorites]


Metafilter: That's just vulgar favorite-bait.
posted by Cookiebastard at 4:41 PM on January 30, 2014 [1 favorite]


Dating is (and has always been) such a goddamn minefield I'm surprised anyone actually makes it work.
posted by The Card Cheat at 4:42 PM on January 30, 2014 [1 favorite]


Nooooooo this is so /r/PUA.
posted by steinsaltz at 4:43 PM on January 30, 2014


*BITCH KICK!* You don't get fucking brownie points for not raping me.

Love this.
posted by scody at 4:43 PM on January 30, 2014 [3 favorites]


Yoink, I'm tempted to call you out to MetaTalk for the #18.

This is MeFi, after all, not Fark!
posted by darkstar at 4:43 PM on January 30, 2014


Why do fake nice guys get the superhero uniforms? I'm a real nice guy and I don't get anyth...oh, right.
posted by ambrosen at 4:44 PM on January 30, 2014 [2 favorites]


Look, the #18 was clearly ironic, o.k.?
posted by yoink at 4:44 PM on January 30, 2014 [2 favorites]


A fedora is, in itself, not inherently evil.
posted by Artw at 4:44 PM on January 30, 2014


Say the number, sir!
posted by edgeways at 4:44 PM on January 30, 2014


Fair enough, then.
posted by darkstar at 4:45 PM on January 30, 2014


A fedora is, in itself, not inherently evil.

The real problem isn't the fedora on your head but the fedora in your head.
posted by Pope Guilty at 4:45 PM on January 30, 2014 [10 favorites]


I think it would be pretty great if women would start complaining about how all these dudes totally girlfriendzone them.
posted by Jairus at 4:45 PM on January 30, 2014 [3 favorites]


start complaining about how all these dudes totally girlfriendzone them.

Wasn't that plan making the rounds like two days ago?
posted by postcommunism at 4:47 PM on January 30, 2014


"if women would start complaining about how all these dudes totally girlfriendzone them"

They do complain. They are a minority group among women.
posted by Ardiril at 4:48 PM on January 30, 2014


Wasn't that plan making the rounds like two days ago?

Always two days too late!
posted by Jairus at 4:49 PM on January 30, 2014


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