"we stand for Mourner's Kaddish for 11 months after someone has passed"

April 27, 2022 4:16 AM

"This is a love letter to my friends and community. Please stay. You matter." "Mourners' Kaddish" is a song by musician Fureigh (disclaimer: a friend of mine) in the context of suicidality among transgender people. "my friend / I hope you know you’re dear / I’d rather celebrate you while you’re here."
posted by brainwane (6 comments total)

I'm kind of speechless, it's an amazing song. The pause after the first "I know you tried" couplet, it's just seems like the singer has so much more to say, and is pausing, trying to figure out if there's space for all they want to say, yet deciding, in the end, "I know you tried" is all that really needs to be, all that really can be said.

Just that little pause, in an already heartbreaking song, it's stunning.
posted by Ghidorah at 6:44 AM on April 27, 2022 [4 favorites]

Well ok, sobbing on a Wednesday. But this is great. Thanks.
posted by custardfairy at 7:22 AM on April 27, 2022 [1 favorite]

Ah geez, this is beautiful but my lip is quivering when I'm supposed to be working on my annual review documents. "I didn't off myself" is, I guess, an implicit accomplishment on any document like that? It's been a rough one.

Brainwane, can I ask--is "Fureigh" pronounced like "furry" or another way?
posted by Tesseractive at 10:08 AM on April 27, 2022 [2 favorites]

is "Fureigh" pronounced like "furry" or another way?

Their (linked) website is "soundslikefury.com"; I assume that's intentionally instructional.
posted by hanov3r at 10:57 AM on April 27, 2022 [2 favorites]

Yes, pronounced like fury.
posted by gingerbeer at 11:35 AM on April 27, 2022 [2 favorites]

"I didn't off myself" is, I guess, an implicit accomplishment on any document like that?

Given the last two years, “I’m still here” should be tacitly acknowledged as a profound achievement requiring strength and endurance far above and beyond anything we ever expected we’d need, Tesseractive. At least for the Metafilter annual review, you pass with flying colors.
posted by Ghidorah at 4:29 PM on April 27, 2022