Marriage upheaval
October 18, 2011 7:27 PM   Subscribe

Marriage is going through some serious changes. This long Atlantic article goes deep on what marriage means today, what it means to be a single woman with an ever-dwindling pool of successful older men, and what a society with more women than men is destined to be. It's also loaded with tons of crazy stats (40% of children born in the US today are to a single mom/unmarried parents) and offers ways to look towards the future of everyone getting married when they're older, or not at all.
posted by mathowie (98 comments total)

This post was deleted for the following reason: oof, I even searched! -- mathowie



 
A double.
posted by jedicus at 7:28 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


I think this might actually be a triple.
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 7:28 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


n00b.
posted by grouse at 7:29 PM on October 18, 2011 [19 favorites]


Foiled by the print version URL, I think.
posted by jedicus at 7:29 PM on October 18, 2011


awkward!
posted by lalex at 7:29 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


I want to marry mathowie
posted by KokuRyu at 7:30 PM on October 18, 2011


HURF DURF DOUBLE POSTER
posted by Gator at 7:30 PM on October 18, 2011


I think someone needs to read the posting guidelines.
posted by murphy slaw at 7:31 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


Let's hope some mod sees this soon...
posted by Abiezer at 7:31 PM on October 18, 2011 [6 favorites]


Waiting for the mythical red box explosion...
posted by stroke_count at 7:32 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


It's a trap!
posted by Dr. Zira at 7:33 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


Now I can hate this article twice!
posted by incessant at 7:33 PM on October 18, 2011 [4 favorites]


Let's hope some mod sees this soon...

No! This thread belongs to the people now; it's part of our heritage. OCCUPY THIS THREAD
posted by notion at 7:34 PM on October 18, 2011 [8 favorites]


every time a mod kills their own post, a REDBOX OF DELETION gets its wings.
posted by lalex at 7:34 PM on October 18, 2011 [4 favorites]


How come it doesn't say "staff" next to this post?
posted by cjorgensen at 7:36 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


Less than 0.1% of active MetaFilter members have 100% of the admin privileges.

WE ARE THE 99.9%
posted by grouse at 7:36 PM on October 18, 2011 [20 favorites]


HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAH

sorry, Matt, happens to the best of us.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:37 PM on October 18, 2011 [3 favorites]


I now get to feel no guilt whatsoever over my double this morning.
posted by Trurl at 7:37 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


I'm sticking around for the red box.
posted by cjorgensen at 7:37 PM on October 18, 2011


NUKE THE OTHER ONE!
posted by victors at 7:38 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


aw. Poor guy. Happens to the best of us.
posted by Stynxno at 7:38 PM on October 18, 2011


Meh, most reasonable locales just let marriage and common-law relationships slide into the same category. If you take into consideration common-law relationships, I'm pretty sure you'd find less of a shocking story.
posted by clvrmnky at 7:38 PM on October 18, 2011


I don't know how these people got this double post stuck in their website, or why.
posted by BlueJae at 7:38 PM on October 18, 2011


This feels a bit like standing around in Times Sq waiting for the ball to drop.
posted by Diablevert at 7:38 PM on October 18, 2011


Maybe this is a test of nerve for Taz as the new girl!
posted by Abiezer at 7:38 PM on October 18, 2011 [3 favorites]


/me suppresses urge to cross post his comment of rage.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:38 PM on October 18, 2011


Do we have to refresh? I'm worried this is going to be like waiting for the Great Pumpkin.
posted by Dr. Zira at 7:40 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


Maybe this is a test of nerve for Taz as the new girl!

Totally. The young apprentice must claim the status of master by deleting their mentor's post.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:40 PM on October 18, 2011


matthowie is a pretty cool guy. eh posts dobles and doesn’t afraid of anything
posted by murphy slaw at 7:40 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


If you take into consideration common-law relationships, I'm pretty sure you'd find less of a shocking story.

What do you mean by this?
posted by grouse at 7:41 PM on October 18, 2011


"When you can take the double from my hand..."
posted by Abiezer at 7:41 PM on October 18, 2011


I got a rock...
posted by BlooPen at 7:41 PM on October 18, 2011


WHAT ARE YOU SO AFRAID OF TAZ
posted by lalex at 7:41 PM on October 18, 2011


img tag, now!
posted by Ufez Jones at 7:42 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


It's best to walk away for an hour or so after posting.
posted by cjorgensen at 7:42 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


If you take into consideration common-law relationships, I'm pretty sure you'd find less of a shocking story.

People are still hooking up, living together, and helping each other out. They're just not getting their papers anymore.
posted by notion at 7:42 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


DO IT FOR JOHNNY MATHOWIE
posted by Dr. Zira at 7:43 PM on October 18, 2011


Hey, you! With the on-topic comments! Take it to the other thread!
posted by kaibutsu at 7:44 PM on October 18, 2011 [3 favorites]


This is the greatest post all year. I love you Matt.

Atlantic has sadly seen far better days.
posted by bukvich at 7:45 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


People are still hooking up, living together, and helping each other out.

That usually isn't a common-law marriage, unless they also have an intent to be married and possibly hold themselves out publicly as a married couple.
posted by grouse at 7:45 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


In Canada, cohabitation becomes common-law marriage after a year. Makes forms all kinds of complicated.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:46 PM on October 18, 2011


Has anyone actually flagged this or are we all just sitting here sniggering?
posted by Diablevert at 7:46 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


I heard that if you post five times in this thread Matthowie has to common-law marry you. That's just something I heard somewhere.
posted by murphy slaw at 7:46 PM on October 18, 2011


That usually isn't a common-law marriage, unless they also have an intent to be married and possibly hold themselves out publicly as a married couple.

Also the state has to recognize common law marriage. A lot of states don't anymore. And usually common law marriage only comes into play when someone dies without a will and the surviving common law spouse wants to be able to take advantage of spousal inheritance.
posted by jedicus at 7:46 PM on October 18, 2011


Okay. Turn on Fox. Wayne Newton and Michelle Bachmann. They're comparing face lifts and it's craaaaaazy.
posted by notion at 7:47 PM on October 18, 2011


Maybe Mathowie just needed some catharsis, and knowingly threw us a double to chew on.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:47 PM on October 18, 2011


MATHOWIE MATHOWIE MATHOWIE MATHOWIE MATHOWIE
posted by lalex at 7:48 PM on October 18, 2011


If you say that into a mirror, he'll appear in the shadows behind you.
posted by hippybear at 7:48 PM on October 18, 2011


Hellll no I didn't flag. The mods are on their own with this one, I do enough work around here.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:48 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


It's probably the beginning of a culling. Whoever posts in this thread is the first against the wall.
posted by Stynxno at 7:48 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


¿first?
posted by mandymanwasregistered at 7:49 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


MATHOWIE MATHOWIE MATHOWIE MATHOWIE MATHOWIE

I see cat people
posted by notion at 7:49 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


I didn't want to believe my wife was stealing from her job with the highways department, but when I got home, the signs were all there.
posted by Abiezer at 7:49 PM on October 18, 2011 [26 favorites]


Well, it's too late for us now. We should probably keep posting.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:50 PM on October 18, 2011


Save your wedding vows for the meetup.
posted by furtive at 7:50 PM on October 18, 2011


I figure he's looking for someone honest to give his vast fortune too and retire. Sort of a internet Charlie and the Chocolate factory.
posted by Gygesringtone at 7:51 PM on October 18, 2011


Mods are asleep! Marry pictures of sinks!
posted by sebastienbailard at 7:51 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


This is the greatest posts all year. I love you Matt.

ftfy
posted by victors at 7:51 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


This is why I'll be voting for the quidnunc kid.
posted by juliplease at 7:51 PM on October 18, 2011


This is as good a time as any to publicly reveal the existence of this thread.
posted by grouse at 7:51 PM on October 18, 2011 [28 favorites]


[silent clapping] #OccupyMetafilter
posted by honest knave at 7:51 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


Oh, man. Fake mini-marriages culminating in enspousenation totally needs to become a thing at meetups.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:51 PM on October 18, 2011


OCCUPY METAFILTER! WE ARE THE 99.99%!
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:52 PM on October 18, 2011


RANDOM COMMENT FOR GRATE JUSTICE
posted by elizardbits at 7:52 PM on October 18, 2011


Maybe Mathowie just needed some catharsis, and knowingly threw us a double to chew on.

It's his website, he can cry if he wants to.
posted by stroke_count at 7:52 PM on October 18, 2011


is it time to post ponies?
posted by elizardbits at 7:53 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


This is silly.
posted by dismas at 7:53 PM on October 18, 2011


Gygesringtone: "I figure he's looking for someone honest to give his vast fortune too and retire. Sort of a internet Charlie and the Chocolate factory."

That explains why I saw cortex in the alley whispering to the kids with golden tickets.
That doesn't sound right when you say it out loud.
posted by Dr. Zira at 7:53 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


This is as good a time as any to publicly reveal the existence of this thread.

Wow. If MeFi had achievements, pulling that off would definitely be one of them.
posted by jedicus at 7:53 PM on October 18, 2011 [3 favorites]


Déjà vu......
posted by gomichild at 7:54 PM on October 18, 2011


Did someone say ponies? I think all links in front page posts should be blink-enabled. So that we know where to click.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:54 PM on October 18, 2011


Why don't you look at the price I'm paying
Walk in, take a look inside
I've moved back the tables and the chairs to the wall
The valuable thing I've had to hide

Open up the red box
Come on open it up
Open up the red box
Come on open it up
posted by Durn Bronzefist at 7:54 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


WHO BANS THE BANNINATORS?
posted by mhoye at 7:54 PM on October 18, 2011


LEGALIZE DMT

2-4-6-8
I can't find any batteries #OccupyMetafilter
posted by notion at 7:54 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


Will I see the red box? I've never seen it before!
posted by winna at 7:55 PM on October 18, 2011


but seriously guys has anyone flagged this yet
posted by murphy slaw at 7:55 PM on October 18, 2011


I was here too!
posted by rtha at 7:55 PM on October 18, 2011


ANYONE WHO FLAGS THIS POST DIES
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:55 PM on October 18, 2011 [9 favorites]


I figure he's looking for someone honest to give his vast fortune too and retire. Sort of a internet Charlie and the Chocolate factory.

I hereby suggest we change the title "pintern" to "oompa-loopma".
posted by hippybear at 7:55 PM on October 18, 2011


METAFILTER IMPLOSION
posted by A dead Quaker at 7:55 PM on October 18, 2011


I tend to flag anything the mods write or post so they know someone is paying attention.
posted by Stynxno at 7:55 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


I was here, but I was also there. And now I'm neither here nor there, depending on when you're reading this comment.
posted by kaibutsu at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011


I JUST FOUND OUT MY HUSBAND FLAGGED THIS POST

BRB
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


I was going to say "poompa-ploompa", but that just sounds wrong.
posted by hippybear at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011


Today we are all banninators.
posted by Dr. Zira at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011


WHO IS MODDING? BEAR IS MODDING!? HOW CAN THIS BE
posted by murphy slaw at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


brb frantically googling ASCII PONY
posted by elizardbits at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011


Party thread! Party thread!
posted by kitarra at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011


Where is the red box? I need to return this movie about sharks who learn to hunt from boats I rented last week.
posted by winna at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011


Marry it and move on.
posted by yeoz at 7:56 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


THIS IS WHY WOMEN SHOULD NEVER GET MARRIED
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:57 PM on October 18, 2011 [1 favorite]


Portobellos for everyone
posted by oddman at 7:57 PM on October 18, 2011


WTF
MATT?
posted by mandymanwasregistered at 7:57 PM on October 18, 2011


I'LL FLAG WHAT I WANT WHEN I WANT.
posted by Stynxno at 7:57 PM on October 18, 2011 [2 favorites]


The first thing I thought I saw was, "Metafilter is going through some serious changes." Then I was disappointed. Then I wasn't.
posted by michaelh at 7:57 PM on October 18, 2011


Seriously, ladies, cats aren't so bad.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:57 PM on October 18, 2011


Hey guys, who wants all these orange juice coupons I have?
posted by Rangeboy at 7:58 PM on October 18, 2011


Portapotties for everyone.
posted by argonauta at 7:58 PM on October 18, 2011


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