Rules govern turn construction and give options to designate the next turn-taker in such a way as to minimize gaps and overlap. Once a Transition Relevance Place is reached, the following rules are applied in order:
1. The current speaker selects the next speaker and transfers the turn to them; or
2. One of the non-speakers self-selects, with the first person to speak claiming the next turn; or
3. No one self-selects, and the current speaker continues until the next TRP or the conversation ends.
Me: Hey Ma, how was your day? [neutral question to start conversation]
Mom: Good, everything was so lovely. How was yours? [neutral return question to start conversation]
Me: Not bad, had a good discussion with coworker about... [starting conversation with a gambit]
Mom: Addie (her dog) met a new Lab down the street and they just played and played. She's such a good dog every always says so. She's is the best dog in the whole wide world. [Wants to talk about her dog]
Me: Cool, we took Lola (our dog) to the dog... [Okay, we're talking about dogs now]
Mom: And the neighbor kids came over and they played with the dog and she is just so nice to them and they are great kids. [No, I really want to talk about how great my dog is. I'm still feeling strongly about my dog, the last person I talked to said my dog sucked. Kid changed subject so clearly her thing isn't Important to her]
Me:... [oh god is this how it's going to be fine fuck this]
Mom: (continued narration of her day.) [whew, now I've gotten the dog thing out. Chat chat, better fill up the space, Kid isn't talking much.]
Me:... [god fuck this]
Mom: So anyway, I feel like you never talk to me. Seriously, what was up with your day? [I have been holding this conversation afloat for half an hour, didn't you care about anything?]
No! I'm not leaving you behind!
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