I feel like this sums up a lot of the (frankly baffling) vitriol I've seen over the past few years re: Marie Kondo, which has now only worsened because there's something to binge watch. I really loved the show, and I would watch a second season, but I like her methods in general. I just cannot understand the frothing hate.
The backlash re. books specifically feels suggestive about the aspirations, anxieties, and maybe magical thinking? that educated middle class folks have around books. I'm not immune to that stuff, myself, but when there's this much bawling, some nerve has been touched.
I'm never going to do the twee thing where I thank an object
Do I think the KonMari method is bad or wrong? Of course not. I think everyone should use what speaks to them and what is useful and applicable in their own lives. It’s a vastly different approach than mine, which is good, because people are complex, and what works for one won’t necessarily work for another. I think it’s great that her method works for so many people and has inspired so many to try to get their homes and messes under control. I want everyone to have a home they’re comfortable and happy in, no matter what journey they take to achieve that.
After you've finished tidying your books, you may sometimes wonder whether you should have kept so many, but don't worry. As you continue tidying, you will hone your sensitivity to joy. If you notice anything later on that has served its purpose, you can discard it at that time. And it's such a pleasure to have lots of books that spark joy. If you have picked them up one by one and determined that these are indeed the books you love, then keep them with confidence and make up your mind to cherish them.
Do NOT listen to Marie Kondo or Konmari in relation to books. Fill your apartment & world with them. I don’t give a shite if you throw out your knickers and Tupperware but the woman is very misguided about BOOKS. Every human needs a v extensive library not clean, boring shelves
Other users soon followed, including author Jennifer Wright who, in a now-deleted tweet, wrote "This woman is a monster" in response to an image that showed Kondo with a speech-bubble that read, "Ideally, keep less than 30 books." Opinion pieces popped up, too, including an article by book critic Ron Charles in The Washington Post entitled, "Keep your tidy, spark-joy hands off my book piles, Marie Kondo."
Ironically it seems clear that many of the people criticizing her… carry emotional baggage re: their relationship with their possessions and could probably benefit from her advice.
Suggesting someone might be able to improve how they feel about their condition makes people who share like traits feel threatened or guilty for not doing the same, so they feel the need to justify themselves even if they weren't the ones being talked to or having their choices judged at all.
feeling that way hurts and if you can attack the person you think is making you feel that way as an attempt to get rid of those bad feelings, then you're probably not just joking when you criticize Kondo
“To minimise one’s belongings and use selected items with joy and respect sounds like Zen philosophy,” Kondo told the Telegraph. ...
She added: “... I didn’t practise Shintoism deeply but it has an influence on my tidying method."
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