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Divorce can make people do things they might regret. (SLYT)
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posted by msalt at 11:21 AM on April 16, 2008


> In a tearful and furious YouTube video...former actress and playwright ("Bonkers") Tricia Walsh-Smith lashes out against her husband...

I have nothing to add.
posted by ardgedee at 11:26 AM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


tl;dw- summary?
posted by Hactar at 11:32 AM on April 16, 2008


Here's how I figure it. She's far dumber than he. And it's a lot easier to get dumb people to give me their money. So I'm hoping she gets everything.
posted by Pastabagel at 11:33 AM on April 16, 2008 [3 favorites]


Wow, the media coverage got her a ton of YouTube hits today. The CNN article says 150,000, when I watched it this morning it was 250k, now it's twice that. Seems this might help her career more than her case.

I kind of liked her, even if she is a total gold-digger. Seems her pre-nup gives her 750k, guess that's not enough for some people.
posted by yellowbinder at 11:33 AM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


she found cohndohms and viagra
posted by StarForce5 at 11:33 AM on April 16, 2008


She and Heather Mills should start some kind of club. A club where you shame your children, and yourself, and the institute of marriage in general.
posted by Unicorn on the cob at 11:36 AM on April 16, 2008 [10 favorites]


The youtube video is currently over 530,000 views. Interesting (and, you know, revolting) as this may be, it doesn't come close to the quality of the video responses.
posted by mullingitover at 11:37 AM on April 16, 2008


I don't care. I watched some of the video and still don't care. Is there any reason I should care? I mean, it's not funny or insightful in any way, it's not outrageous, it's not much of anything but someone whining about...

What am I missing here?
posted by From Bklyn at 11:37 AM on April 16, 2008 [5 favorites]


Well, that was entertaining.
posted by delmoi at 11:38 AM on April 16, 2008


She and Heather Mills should start some kind of club. A club where you shame your children, and yourself, and the institute of marriage in general.

Heterosexuals are obviously a real threat to the institution of marriage.
posted by TedW at 11:39 AM on April 16, 2008 [3 favorites]


It's like a viral trailer for a Mike Leigh movie.
posted by carter at 11:40 AM on April 16, 2008 [2 favorites]


I was half expecting her to make pitchers full of cocktails, show us her tablescapes and mix up some Chef Boyardee and canned green beans to make a nice, semi-homemade meal.
posted by stavrogin at 11:41 AM on April 16, 2008 [9 favorites]


Oh god this is stupid. Is she telling the truth that she had "a film crew" doing this? What a mortifying gig for the crew.
posted by grobstein at 11:44 AM on April 16, 2008


Person who wants attention gets it; film at 11.
posted by XQUZYPHYR at 11:45 AM on April 16, 2008


Also, divorce lawyers crack me up. Apparently she's an innocent victim of her own love, leading a revolution of the powerless against "stupid" prenuptial agreements.

I'm in the wrong line of business, because that guy sounds like he's having fun.
posted by Mr. President Dr. Steve Elvis America at 11:46 AM on April 16, 2008


Context?
posted by DU at 11:48 AM on April 16, 2008


The youtube video is currently over 530,000 views. Interesting (and, you know, revolting) as this may be, it doesn't come close to the quality of the video responses.
posted by mullingitover at 2:37 PM on April 16


Thanks for pointing those out. The responses from bitter guys are the best. Few things are as petty and vindictive. Hell hath no comedy like flat bald guy's scorn.

Oh god this is stupid. Is she telling the truth that she had "a film crew" doing this? What a mortifying gig for the crew.
posted by grobstein at 2:44 PM on April 16


I bet you cash on the barrel they did it for free. She probably smiled and gave some down-on-his-luck cameraman a few minutes of personal attention and conversation, and he couldn't wait to volunteer. Wow, a rich powerful pretty lady wants to confide in me! I bet he canceled a paying job to do this. Countless popular kids have had their computers fixed or their phones programmed by nerds in precisely this fashion.
posted by Pastabagel at 11:48 AM on April 16, 2008 [2 favorites]


See and the only thing that struck me as noteworthy was how cheap the kitchen cabinets in that apartment are.
posted by Keith Talent at 11:51 AM on April 16, 2008 [5 favorites]


Tedw, I have no idea how or why you would contextualize my comment that way, but ok.
posted by Unicorn on the cob at 11:52 AM on April 16, 2008


She probably smiled and gave some down-on-his-luck cameraman a few minutes of personal attention and conversation, and he couldn't wait to volunteer. Wow, a rich powerful pretty lady wants to confide in me! I bet he canceled a paying job to do this.

Did you watch any of the video? When you see that much of the whites of someone's eyes, you run.
posted by DU at 11:53 AM on April 16, 2008 [4 favorites]


Her eyes scare me.

Also, if the pre-nup is that bad, don't sign it, you silly cow.
posted by jokeefe at 11:56 AM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


You know the bit where she brandishes a card and sings: 'Victory!' Does she get to play that card in court? Cos I've got this vision of New York divorce proceedings being played out like a totally sweet Pokémon battle.
posted by RokkitNite at 11:56 AM on April 16, 2008 [16 favorites]


Christ, I couldn't get past the first fifteen seconds. If a bird poops in her mouth or something halfway through, somebody let me know the time I ought to skip to.
posted by uncleozzy at 11:59 AM on April 16, 2008 [3 favorites]


Didn't make it past 3 minutes. sux 2be rich, I guess.

I am going to give my wife of 17 years an extra-big hug tonight.
posted by Artful Codger at 11:59 AM on April 16, 2008 [2 favorites]


Actress and playwright? Are you sure this is even real?
posted by infinitefloatingbrains at 12:00 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Why does this remind me of the performance art piece about leaving Britney alone?
posted by Ragma at 12:03 PM on April 16, 2008


Meh. The "Leave Britney alone!" guy does more with less.

Hey Pastabagel -- if you'll come over and help set up my wireless network, I'll let you see my boobs.
posted by BitterOldPunk at 12:03 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Red flag: Anytime someone repeatedly mentions "pension" in connection with a marriage.

(And didn't the evil step-daughter really look the part???)

Love this shit -- when bickering millionaires show their soft, white underbelly.
posted by VicNebulous at 12:05 PM on April 16, 2008


Marriage can make people do things they might regret. Divorce is just a corollary.
posted by WalterMitty at 12:06 PM on April 16, 2008 [2 favorites]


JEEZ! More than doubled again in the last 45 minutes. Up to over 1.2 million views!

Also, I had the same thought as one of the video responders... if they never had sex, doesn't that mean the marriage was never consumated and could be annulled?
posted by yellowbinder at 12:10 PM on April 16, 2008


What makes me sad is that someone probably wants to offer her a book/television deal now.
posted by drezdn at 12:16 PM on April 16, 2008


Aren't we essentially just feeding the troll, here?
posted by ninjew at 12:18 PM on April 16, 2008 [2 favorites]


I appreciate the DIY spirit of the thing, but this really would have been better pitched to Bravo for season two of the Real Housewives of NYC.
posted by The Straightener at 12:25 PM on April 16, 2008


I do not understand. She says she and her husband didn't have sex. Why does a much older rich guy marry a blonde the age of his daughter if not for the sex? Isn't that the whole point of marrying an attractive young gold digger?

Confused.
posted by Justinian at 12:26 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Bzzrrrrnnggg!
posted by Senor Cardgage at 12:29 PM on April 16, 2008 [3 favorites]


Justinian, maybe he's not into sex with women and just married her for cover.
posted by octothorpe at 12:32 PM on April 16, 2008


I do not understand. She says she and her husband didn't have sex. Why does a much older rich guy marry a blonde the age of his daughter if not for the sex? Isn't that the whole point of marrying an attractive young gold digger?

You believed her?
posted by Mr. President Dr. Steve Elvis America at 12:35 PM on April 16, 2008


I bet this is a viral video for Crispin Porter & Bogusky.
posted by mecran01 at 12:38 PM on April 16, 2008


Marriage can make people do things they might regret.

Love can make people do things they might regret. Hopefully once she cools down, she'll take down the video, although I suppose the feathers are probably too far off the chicken at this point.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 12:40 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Thank god homosexuals aren't ruining the sacred institution of marriage...
posted by munchingzombie at 12:43 PM on April 16, 2008


Tedw, I have no idea how or why you would contextualize my comment that way, but ok.

My comment was not so much aimed at you or your comment; it was more of my snarky way of pointing out that these messy public divorces don't do much to strengthen the "sanctity of marriage" that seems to be on the mind of so many people in this country lately.
posted by TedW at 12:45 PM on April 16, 2008


ThePinkSuperhero writes "Love can make people do things they might regret. Hopefully once she cools down, she'll take down the video, although I suppose the feathers are probably too far off the chicken at this point."

She married a very wealthy man and is now complaining that she isn't getting enough cash out of him. I get the impression that love was never a factor in any of her decisions.
posted by mullingitover at 12:47 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Is this the thread where we discuss the Ask Metafilter Video Beta? Because all I can say is, this just seems bound to bring out more of all the worst things about Relationshipfilter. And how do you even implement anonymous on it?
posted by nanojath at 12:48 PM on April 16, 2008


What makes me sad is that someone probably wants to offer her a book/television deal now.

The Attention Whore Economy.
posted by jason's_planet at 12:49 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


When they took the summer house....Well, that's when I knew I had to get on the internets.
posted by Jofus at 12:55 PM on April 16, 2008 [3 favorites]


I don't know who she is, or why I should care that she might or might not get a large sum of money, but I will say this;

Too much eye shadow + whites of your eyes showing = you looking like a very caffeinated and angry raccoon.

When she pulled out her Tarot cards, I turned off my brain.
posted by quin at 1:00 PM on April 16, 2008 [6 favorites]


I bet this is a viral video for Crispin Porter & Bogusky.

I thought it was a viral video for cocaine?
posted by PeterMcDermott at 1:01 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Welcome to New York City!

On the surface of it, I side with the evil, mean, mean daughter who is trying to steal her pension.
posted by R. Mutt at 1:02 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Plus ... everyone knows what nice guys NYC theater owners are.
posted by R. Mutt at 1:05 PM on April 16, 2008


She reminds me of the kind of person (and I've met quite a few people like this) who tell you really intimate and emotionally troubling details of their life within thirty seconds of meeting. You have no idea whether it's all true or not (although you suspect a lot of it, if actually true, is self-inflicted) and you spend the next 15 mortifying minutes nodding and interjecting sympathetic monosyllables whilst wondering 'Why, oh why is it my turn to deal with the crazy person again?'
posted by ob at 1:13 PM on April 16, 2008 [7 favorites]


Oh man! I cannot stop cringing. The phone call to that poor, poor secretary/assistant whatever! Must have been the highlight of her day.
posted by LeeJay at 1:15 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


When she pulled out her Tarot cards, I turned off my brain.

Dude, those were Angel cards. She has the Archangel Michael fighting her corner. Tarot's for the proles - folks like you are I are lucky if we manage to get the Page of Staves watching our sorry asses.
posted by RokkitNite at 1:16 PM on April 16, 2008


If only it was possible to cheer up this lady with a fun and romantic '80s pop song, perhaps performed by Rick Astley.
posted by iviken at 1:28 PM on April 16, 2008 [7 favorites]


Felder explained that his client was "acting out of passion." He also called the prenuptial agreement she'd signed with her husband, who is a quarter-century older than her, "stupid."

So why did his client sign? "Why do women sign these things? Love is blind, and sometimes it is deaf and dumb, too," Felder said. The video, he added, was the act of a powerless person, and "revolutions are made by powerless people."


Oh gee, I hope so! I hope some gold digger only getting 750,000 dollars from the husband she had hoped to goulishly inherit everything from revolutionizes divorce law! Lord knows, prenuptial agreements are a real problem, seeing as they're the only defense a man can have against the otherwise inevitable bloodletting that happens at divorce time. Man, there really does need to be a revolution against the prenuptial agreement. Won't anyone think of the gold diggers?!

So why did his client sign? "Why do women sign these things? Love is blind, and sometimes it is deaf and dumb, too," Felder said.

Well, I guess that makes a better sound bite than "She signed it because she figured he'd die soon and then she'd get everything."
posted by shmegegge at 1:31 PM on April 16, 2008 [2 favorites]


All your assets are belong to me.
posted by yoyoceramic at 1:32 PM on April 16, 2008


Viral Video Trainwreck
posted by paddysat at 1:36 PM on April 16, 2008


iviken, done.
posted by yellowbinder at 1:38 PM on April 16, 2008


Dude, those were Angel cards.

You mean these? Wow, and I thought tarot cards were lame.
posted by delmoi at 1:44 PM on April 16, 2008


wow... what a fucking waste of my time....
posted by HuronBob at 1:44 PM on April 16, 2008


I love how the typography on the subtitle "poor, vulnerable Tricia shows the flat she's being kicked out of" is just awful. Kerning is way too wide, except inexplicably they use a ligature for fl so that those two letters, alone, are tucked in tightly.

People these days have no shame.
posted by Nelson at 1:46 PM on April 16, 2008 [5 favorites]


Wow, no class at all. Even if everything she said is true (up to the point I could no longer stomach watching the train wreck), she still makes a very bad impression. If I'm ever stupid enough to engage in a prolonged monologue/rant tearing someone down in a public or private forum, I'm going to run it by a small disinterested focus group first as a reality check.

There should be a one day class in high school on how to comport yourself after a failed relationship, whether it's a job, marriage, friendship or whatever.
posted by BrotherCaine at 1:47 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


I do not understand. She says she and her husband didn't have sex. Why does a much older rich guy marry a blonde the age of his daughter if not for the sex? Isn't that the whole point of marrying an attractive young gold digger?

A conjecture: the cohndohms (is that the actual general British pronunciation or just the one for certain useless rich people?) and Viagra go with gay pornographies, making her what is known as a beard. He is involved with the musical theater...
posted by TheOnlyCoolTim at 1:48 PM on April 16, 2008


Furthermore, and I want to be clear about this, with these kind of people it's not the craziness that I can't stand as much as it's the craziness combined with the arm grabbing that makes me feel really, really awkward. I would imagine that in real life this woman is a crazy arm grabber.
posted by ob at 1:51 PM on April 16, 2008


She should renounce all the friends that knew about this on the basis that they let this happen.
Cuz friends don't let friends post stupid shit on YouTube*.

*free dumb t-shirt idea
posted by hellbient at 1:53 PM on April 16, 2008


cohndohms (is that the actual general British pronunciation or just the one for certain useless rich people?)

I only watched the video once (and that was too much) but I didn't notice anything odd about her pronunciation of the word condom. I'm pretty sure I say it the same way, and I'm not rich (although I might just be useless, one can hope...)
posted by ob at 1:56 PM on April 16, 2008


I think we need a constitutional amendment to ban British marriage.
posted by elwoodwiles at 1:58 PM on April 16, 2008 [2 favorites]


So wait, with one of those Angel Decks, I can force angels answer my questions? Because that's a pretty small step from making them do my bidding;

"Seraphim, I need an answer on that trigonometry question. And check your damn work this time. Ophanim, get me a drink. I want it brown, and no less than 80 proof. Cheribum, you need to go smite this fucker. He's been giving me attitude all week, and I want it to stop. I'm thinking... maybe a kneecap level smiting. Bring a baseball bat."

That would be so righteous.
posted by quin at 2:10 PM on April 16, 2008


Is she the first to post a rant about a soon-to-be-ex husband? Is the video particularly venomous or does it make reference to some meme? I don't quite get it--I'd have labeled it "Slow News Day" except that it's not.
posted by recoveringsophist at 2:20 PM on April 16, 2008


Money doesn't change people, it just brings out the worse of them.
posted by zouhair at 2:20 PM on April 16, 2008


How come they didn't video the cohndohms, the pawn, and the viagrah?

Video or it didn't happen. (also, it's ridic anyway, 'cause it would be so easy to just buy that shit and put it in his drawer/closet/etc.)
posted by exlotuseater at 2:32 PM on April 16, 2008


this youtube video really chafed me in it's whiny sense of entitlement conveyed by it's OP..
posted by CitrusFreak12 at 2:45 PM on April 16, 2008


> Is she the first to post a rant about a soon-to-be-ex husband?

I can't imagine that she is. After all, they brought the internet itself up at noon of a day in 1984; and then, at noon plus four minutes seventeen seconds, the first boobies link.
posted by jfuller at 2:50 PM on April 16, 2008


Is she the first to post a rant about a soon-to-be-ex husband?

That's what CNN said, basically. More likely: first prominent person to do so, where we could get enough notable figures to comment on the record.

Some prominent New York divorce lawyers couldn't think of another case where a spouse -- in this instance, the wife of a major Broadway theater operator -- had taken to YouTube to spill the secrets of a marriage in an apparent effort to gain leverage and humiliate the other side.
posted by msalt at 2:51 PM on April 16, 2008


Hm, I wonder how Cindy Adams found out about this story and decided to write about it in her column.
posted by goodnewsfortheinsane at 2:58 PM on April 16, 2008


Dear god, I wanted to turn it off 15 seconds in. I had it running in the background and read MeFi comments while listening, but not even the collective snark of The Blue could prevent the dip in IQ I received from listening to that vapid .... woman. Thing. Something.
posted by Phire at 3:02 PM on April 16, 2008


I thought she made a thoughtful, balanced, and articulate presentation in a wholly appropriate manner.
posted by mazola at 3:18 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


Cindy Adams' column? All I found at that link was a picture from an old Christmas party. That led to this column, but it's about that same party. Couldn't find anything current.

2 interesting things though -- Tricia Walsh-Smith has the exact same expression in 7 or 8 photos, grinning maniacally at a point three feet above the photographers right shoulder. And she has written two plays -- "Bonkers" and "Addictions."
posted by msalt at 3:21 PM on April 16, 2008


Wow, she's fixin' to snap like a rubber band.
posted by zzazazz at 3:25 PM on April 16, 2008


Right about the cabinets, kinda like a new double wide on display at manufactured home show or sumthun,.......huh?

She could be the charming <> presenter showing the units to buyers and doing hummers out in the parking lot at lunch to make the gig pay.
posted by Freedomboy at 3:26 PM on April 16, 2008


Several divorce lawyer aphorisms apply here:

1. It's the Noah's ark theory of marriage: they come in pairs.
2. The #1 cause of divorce is marriage; and,
3. They deserve each other.
posted by webhund at 3:31 PM on April 16, 2008


liquorice, I felt a bit sorry for her as well if only because it seems as if she is at the beginning, or in the middle of, a complete breakdown and when she comes out the other side of it she's REALLY going to regret making this video.
posted by LeeJay at 3:52 PM on April 16, 2008


You missed the closing credits:

A Michael Scott Joint (tm)
posted by chookibing at 5:05 PM on April 16, 2008


Get a job and work like the rest of us you ditzy broad!
posted by Senator at 5:58 PM on April 16, 2008 [1 favorite]


OK, this is funny. Did you notice the poster for her play, Addictions? (06:36) It says it won the 2006 Pulitzer for drama. Why funny? Because Pulitzer didn't give out a drama award in 2006. [Wikipedia list of winners]
posted by Superfrankenstein at 7:13 PM on April 16, 2008


Now more than 2,040,407 views. This must be on of the fastest spreading YouTube videos ever. Tricia may not have won a Pulitzer, but she could actually win the prestigious YouTube award. But in what category? Adorable? Instructional? Creative? Inspirational?
posted by iviken at 9:56 PM on April 16, 2008


I posit the Youtube Social Darwin Award, the first recipients being Mrs. Walsh-Smith and those girls who Youtubed themselves assaulting the other girl and went to jail.
posted by TheOnlyCoolTim at 10:15 PM on April 16, 2008


I attempted to be interested and then I attempted to wonder what it would be like to have sex with her and then closed the window because she's just annoying and I hate listening to rich or used-to-be rich people whine. It makes me want to rub dirt on their faces.
posted by fenriq at 11:48 PM on April 16, 2008


It's hilarious how the video starts with "Hi, it's Tricia again" and it's her first YouTube video.
posted by dhammond at 1:20 AM on April 17, 2008


they brought the internet itself up at noon of a day in 1984; and then, at noon plus four minutes seventeen seconds, the first boobies link...

...had finished downloading.
posted by Sparx at 3:15 AM on April 17, 2008


And people wonder why men leave their wives?
posted by fourcheesemac at 5:33 AM on April 17, 2008


Did you notice the poster for her play, Addictions? (06:36) It says it won the 2006 Pulitzer for drama.

To be fair, she said that was put in by her friend who made the poster. She snickered and said "One day!" I guess it's the glitterati equivalent of those places that put your face on a TIME magazine cover.

The reading (and the casting of Martha Plimpton) were, however, real. (And I checked -- the Public Theater is still independent, and not part of the Shubert Organization.) And you have to give her points for cancelling (temporarily) when she found out that one of the benefit's original sponsors was Smirnoff (the benefit was for Caron, an addiction recovery organization).
posted by dhartung at 10:26 AM on April 17, 2008


Its unfortunate because they looked like they were going to make it. [/snark]

I guess sometimes 750k isn't enough to forget things you've... done.
posted by Ynoxas at 1:56 PM on April 17, 2008


NY Times article: When the Ex Blogs, the Dirtiest Laundry is Aired
posted by Locative at 3:02 PM on April 18, 2008


Daily Mail article: The Viagra Monolgues

"Some people might be criticising me for my approach, but I've certainly got their attention. I knew that to get attention to my plight I had to be sensational and funny.

Also, camera crew was just "a girl with a camera."

At the beginning of last week, Tricia flicked through the Yellow Pages and found the number for a film crew.

"Well, actually it was just a girl with a camera. We filmed the video on the Tuesday. The original tape is more than an hour long. I have great stuff that hasn't been shown." Yet.

posted by Locative at 9:53 PM on April 18, 2008


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