Thank God they are still young (just started third grade) but we're not having any sleepovers here no matter how much they ask. I am afraid for the social impact on them. They are so upbeat, so enthusiastic. They don't know we're in a ditch. It would break my heart if they figured that out.posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 8:32 AM on August 23, 2011 [6 favorites]
You want the kids to feel normal and happy? Let them have the sleepover. Rent the movie from the library and use a coupon to buy them a pizza. I mean, Jesus Christ, forcing your kids to act like social pariahs is not the solution.
I am over the bruises to my ego; I just ignore my mother-in-law completely now. The worst thing though is the impact on my kids. We were making $120K plus two years ago. Now, about $35K. Lost the house. Thankfully still in the same school. That said, the kids went from being respectably comfortable in their cohort to being comfortable if tattered (used clothes, battered rental, same old car, no summer trips, etc.). Thank God they are still young (just started third grade) but we're not having any sleepovers here no matter how much they ask. I am afraid for the social impact on them. They are so upbeat, so enthusiastic. They don't know we're in a ditch. It would break my heart if they figured that out.This reminded me of that thread about kid kidnapped from Guatemala and brought to the US for 'adoption'. A lot of people in the thread seemed to be under the impression that taking the kids from being "rich" in the U.S. to being "poor" would be some kind of trauma. But kids just don't understand wealth the way adults do. They understand having a toy vs. not having a toy but they don't have access to the same freedom that wealth brings to adults and they don't have to work crappy jobs even if their parents do.
Generally, the times when I'm reading about how employers tend to evaluate prospective candidates outside of my field are not among them.No kidding!
You mean you're only getting offers that are so bad, they don't add up to unemployment + cost of gas/bus fare/etc to work? If that's the case, I sympathize. If not and it's just "not enough" when unemployment benefits are also "not enough", then not so much. It's unpleasant, but be mercenary. That, or lead the way and start organizing protests, because there's plenty of desire to join in and nobody to lead.Unemployment pays what, about $1k/mo? It depends on what your prior job was, your state, and so on. But $7.50/hr full time is only slightly more, and you'll be lucky to get full time. at a crappy McDonald's job.
Look. I don't know you, I don't know your situation or anything like that and I'm honestly not trying to be a dick or a troll but you are staying on unemployment because the psychological benefit of supporting yourself isn't worth gas moneyWhat the hell is the 'psychological benefit' of working a shitty job that barely covers your bills? A lot of times those low wage jobs are crap. They're not enjoyable at all. And they're tiring. Even if you have time in the day to send out resumes, you're going to be exhausted, you feet will might be sore from standing all day, and so on.
I know it's tough out there, but we shouldn't have in society an option where you don't choose to work because the psychological & financial benefits of unemployment are easier on you. That's horrible.Why not? You paid for it while you were working? Unemployment is typically structured to pay you until you find an equivalent job to your old one for some time, and then after a while it requires you to look for any job.
I don't think any employee pays into Unemployment, actually. It's strictly a tax on businesses. You may pay into it indirectly, as in you might've gotten higher wages while working if the company didn't have to pay blah blah blah.Economically speaking, it doesn't matter where the tax is levied, both the buyer and seller contribute at an effective rate determined by market forces. The business has a total cost of employment for each employee, and the employee has their takehome pay. It doesn't really matter who "officially" pays the parts in between, if those taxes went away the gap would narrow. In a low-unemployment world employee takehome pay would go up. In a high unemployment world employee takehome pay would go down.
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