"Kid's walkin' down the street, and he finds a welder's mask. He goes, 'Oh, cool -- a welder's mask,' and he picks it up and puts it on, and he's walkin' along, flippin' it up and down, when a Cadillac pulls up.
"'Pssst, kid, get in the car.'
"Kid gets in, and he's ridin' along with this old man, playin' with the welder's mask, and the old man says, 'Kid, you know what frottage is?'
"Kid goes, 'No, sure don't,' flippin' the mask up and down, and the old man says, 'Hey, kid, you know what mutual masturbation is?'
"Kid goes, 'Naw, never heard of it' -- flip, flip, flip -- and the old man leans over and says, 'Hey, kid, you know what pedophilia is?'
"The kid looks at the guy and says, 'Hey, buddy, listen -- I'm not really a welder.'"
If you don’t believe standup has a sexism problem, go to any open mic and get back to me. Could be you’ll get lucky and go to a show that makes you wonder what the hell I’m talking about. More likely you’ll get to see a little something I like to call the Damaged Male Parade. Comedy is a very attractive artform to people who are in a lot of pain – the rate of catharsis one can achieve through writing and telling jokes is quite high. For my part, I can say I was pretty much a dead man walking when I got into standup. (In fact, that’s a good way to describe my vibe onstage those first few times). Men will vastly outnumber women and the male experience will be the one you hear the most about throughout the evening. A lot of these guys are hurting, a lot of them blame women and at the open mic, they’re working out material inspired by that.
All of which is totally valid, of course! But consider what that means in practice for your average open mic show: dude after dude slouching up to the microphone to say “bitches, amirite?” before extolling all the many ways women are horrible creatures who destroy lives and have silly wants and needs. Now, these are jokes and people should be able to laugh at themselves so “can’t you take a joke?” is a valid but somewhat misleading question. A better one would be “can’t you take an average of ninety jokes in a sitting, one after another?” Or, “can’t you take this protoform of what may one day be a joke but is presently just an intensely off-putting expression of my frustrated desires and unrealistic expectations?” Or, “can’t you take an alternating series of jokes and protoforms that undermine the humanity of your gender told in a dark room by a succession of dudes to dudes for dudes spread throughout an entire evening? Why aren’t you laughing?”
Would a 9/11 joke really have been hilarious on 9/12?
If a comedian makes a joke you don't like, the social contract grants you the right to groan or to leave. If you escalate it beyond that, you're the one being the asshole, I'm afraid.
If you want to rip the performer to shreds on your blog, have at it. If you want to call them inappropriate, disgusting, not funny, what-have-you, great, let it rip in your review of the performance. But to throw someone off in the middle of their routine? That simply counts as rude.
Not to watch you grind whatever your personal axe is. It's not about being polite to the performer, it's about being polite to the rest of the audience.
I give a shit about the rest of the audience who I can only assume you're not planning to refund when you decide to take over the show.
I don't think this is really accurate. The most commercially successful and respected comics over the last 20 years have been people like Chris Rock, Dave Chapelle, Jon Stewart and Louis C.K.,
What kind of a solipsistic, self-righteous asshole goes to a standup comedy show and decides to get indignant and fight back when the comedian says something offensive?
You actually think rape jokes, which are almost all about how rape is wrong and unacceptable at core, cause rape?
So it's not really a whole other problem, it's the same problem but manifested differently. Underneath prison rape joking is (cultural) misogyny.
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