And so I went to my gym, the Snap Fitness on Lagoon Avenue in Uptown—which, if you've seen it, you know is basically a crappy little storefront. The selling point, however, is that it’s open 24 hours, and I'm a night owl, and I am poverty-stricken and don't have TV at home; I mean, I have a TV, that exists as a horizontal surface to set things down on, but I can't afford cable—so I got in the groove of treadmilling late at night, while watching television.
What? "Deliberately setting out to..."?
You've never seen something you thought was amusing, and then told a friend about it later? Maybe even said man, I wish you'd seen it! Well, now we all have cameras in our pockets all the time.
So what I object to is the hyperbole in insisting that the impulse to take a photo and share with friends inherently means you're a bad person.
But looking through the Facebook “like” function, I could track down the most offensive commenters.
Most of them were women. Shocked? I wasn’t. Anyone who’s survived high school can tell you how women slice each other up to make ourselves feel better. I sent several of those women a message.
”You’re being an asshole,” the note said. “Why don’t you just do the right thing and delete the post and stop sharing it?”
The most common response was not remorse or defensiveness but surprise. They were startled that I could hear what they’d been saying.
I'm sure you never have conversations among friends that contain anecdotes about things other people did or said. Dance for the amusement of yourself and your friends, indeed. This is exactly what I meant by hyperbole.
I brought up mixed race as an example as an illustration of the contention that not all people's hurt is legitimate and deserving of being catered to. Because we all understand this in case of race, it was an excellent way of illustrating the principle.
It is possible to have feelings for mistaken reasons, and we are not obliged to cater to those.
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