*SNIFF*

August 27, 2004 11:45 AM

"...i'm cleansed, spent, and just a little moist."
the lachrymal performances of the elderly.
posted by quonsar (23 comments total)

what a bunch of pussies.
posted by eastlakestandard at 11:54 AM on August 27, 2004

That is a pretty awesome site.
posted by kavasa at 11:56 AM on August 27, 2004

I think that site is the most cynical thing i have ever seen; taunting both joy and grief. I thought it was funny at first, but then I realized that, apparently, emotion is not accepted as a valid part of masculinity. Thus, I promptly disregarded my thoughts on the matter and, reverting to base instinct, took off my pants and ordered the woman to get me another beer.
posted by sciurus at 12:04 PM on August 27, 2004

is that a new kind of fetish?
posted by matteo at 12:07 PM on August 27, 2004

the lachrymal performances of the elderly.

Half the guys in the gallery aren't a day over 35! How old is the domain-owner, 12?
posted by dhoyt at 12:15 PM on August 27, 2004

:'-(
posted by Peter H at 12:17 PM on August 27, 2004

sciurus - on what basis do you conclude it's taunting? Whatever the site's owner thinks, she or he doesn't make it obvious - and I find it hard to believe that someone honestly thinks the pictures of a man weeping over the body of his dead daughter is hilarious. It's just a website with pictures of men (as dhoyt says, the old thing is something of a misnomer) weeping.

Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar.
posted by kavasa at 12:23 PM on August 27, 2004

come on quonsar, admit it, you're on there somewhere eh?
posted by triv at 12:24 PM on August 27, 2004

[14:52] <dios> q should have said, "via dios on #mefi who is full of good links and should definitely get an account so he can be banned within the week."
posted by quonsar at 12:34 PM on August 27, 2004

on what basis do you conclude it's taunting?

Stuff like: "a sometimes scary and unsettling sorrow often disproportionate to the event." and links to "Sensitive Men with Facial Hair Crying" somehow don't make me think that this is an earnest attempt to laud men for showing emotion.
posted by sciurus at 12:36 PM on August 27, 2004

Only if that's Ronny James Dio(s). As his other personalities are known.
posted by yerfatma at 12:48 PM on August 27, 2004

So?

In America especially, it is often scary and unsettling to see men crying. A friend of mine almost (but not quite!) lost it in my presence after a breakup a while ago, and I was freaked out. I was scared! And unsettled!

And personally, I think any crying over a pro sports loss is disproportionate to the event.

Lastly(!). I don't think it's an attempt to laud men for showing emotion, either. It's an attempt to... amass a large collection of instances of men crying. Neither laudatory nor condemnatory (is that a word?). It just is what it is.

Chillax, son.
posted by kavasa at 1:01 PM on August 27, 2004

I'm not angry or offended, I just don't think it is funny. Perhaps my assumption that it was meant to be funny is off base, but judging from the mail the site has received I'm not the only one to reach that conclusion. Perhaps if it stated that the site was intended as an objective examination of men crying, then there would be no confusion.

In any case, my defensive assumption that it was humorous merely points out that 'crying men' is a touchy subject and should be addressed with little to no ambiguity. [or am i assuming things again?]

I think any crying over a pro sports loss is disproportionate to the event.

Not if it is a big game and you are on the team. Otherwise, I agree.
posted by sciurus at 1:28 PM on August 27, 2004

"via dios on #mefi who is full of good links and should definitely get an account so he can be banned within the week."

Over my dead body!
posted by Ufez Jones at 1:56 PM on August 27, 2004

Why does the sitemaker need to do our "examination" for us? Bring on the ambiguity, sez I.
posted by kavasa at 2:38 PM on August 27, 2004

Fair enough. Perhaps their forums have good discussions going on; too bad you have to register to even get a view of the threads. As it stands, I still feel that the sitemaker should be a bit more explicit with the aims.

It is in this spirit that we at oldmencrying.com are working to amass the largest collection of images, audio and video files, and narrative accounts of weeping men ever assembled.

is pretty explicit, but since it is surrounded by plenty of vaguely insincere sincerity I tend to doubt the motive.
posted by sciurus at 2:56 PM on August 27, 2004

My initial reaction? Fuck you. Then I noticed that Quonsar posted it, so I say Yay OK.

Oh yeah, and I am one of those elderly. I'm 39 years old. Fuck you. Fuck you in the ass with a banjo. A spiky banjo, with no lube.

I am not elderly, and I do indeed shed tears over the really sad shit in this world that I am a part of. Fuck you. Fuck you very much.

Oh was this a troll? Well haha. Fuck you. You have chosen to invalidate my grief. I don't care about any of the others, you will have to answer to them individually.

Fuck you.
posted by chrid at 4:01 PM on August 27, 2004

i only cry when fucked in the ass with spikey, lubeless banjos.
posted by quonsar at 4:20 PM on August 27, 2004

Well that's ok then.
posted by chrid at 4:23 PM on August 27, 2004

First one to register youngmenkissing.com gets to proclaim how scary and unsettling it all is when two guys lay a liplock on one another in public.

Back in your strictly defined roles, civilians.
posted by digaman at 4:31 PM on August 27, 2004

Damn you're a tough audience.


posted by chrid at 4:46 PM on August 27, 2004

Then there's young men crying.
posted by Civil_Disobedient at 7:58 PM on August 27, 2004

There is a Dr. William Frey who has done research on crying and found that emotional tears (as opposed to onion/smoke/etc.-induced tears) "contain more proteins - complex elemental substances that include essential compounds such as enzymes or hormones". From this article:

"Frey was able to isolate in emotional tears the hormone prolactin, which is released by the pituitary gland at times of intense emotion or stress and makes its way to the lachrymal (or tear) glands. Too much prolactin in your system can become toxic, so crying is a way of cleansing the body of this during stress."

So go ahead and cry your eyes out, guys! It's healthy! (Reading MetaFilter can help.)
posted by taz at 12:48 AM on August 28, 2004