Yes Means Yes
February 21, 2009 1:37 PM Subscribe
Moving beyond no means no.
The anthology Yes Means Yes
brings together writers, male and female, to explore the power of enthusiastic consent and to promote female desire free of coercion.
The book has spawned a series of readings
, live chats
, and some interesting blog responses
Meanwhile, Twisty at I Blame the Patriarchy takes a more straightforward approach
; consent must be given, but never assumed.
The problem with rape, other than the fact that 95% of it is perpetrated by men, always seems to boil down to this asinine controversy over consent. The issue is grossly encumbered with a futile focus on meaningless, temporary instances of the withdrawal of consent, to wit: “she said yes” or “she said yes and then she said no” or “she said yes and waited until two days later to say no” or “she said yes and has been lying about it ever since.” She said, she said, she said.
Well, what if lack of consent were the default? What if all prospective objects of dudely predation — by whom I mean all women — are a priori considered to have said “no”? What if women, in other words, were seen by the courts to abide in a persistent legal condition of keep-the-fuck-off-me?