Possibly related posts: (automatically generated)posted by nomadicink at 11:24 AM on November 4, 2010
Anyone want a 3 year old boy?hee hee
The Onion.No, The Onion.
posted by (Arsenio) Hall and (Warren) Oates at 11:18 AM on November 4
>Also: this is a rare example of a grown woman who is more naive than her five-year-old kid.Expecting adults to have a sense of decency and compassion is not naivete. I strongly believe that people need to cease lowering their standards for the lowest common denominators in the compassion category.
"Or he’s not. I don’t care. He is still my son. And he is 5. And I am his mother. And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don’t want to know you."If people are so thick-witted that they'll make judgments about her child based solely on the headline, because they can't be bothered to read past it to the very first paragraph, then that's pretty pathetic.
After some discussion it comes out that he is afraid people will laugh at him. I pointed out that some people will because it is a cute and clever costume. He insists their laughter would be of the ‘making fun’ kind. I blow it off. Seriously, who would make fun of a child in costume?Here she acknowledges her son's fears about being laughed at are correct, but attempts to deflect that out of "you'll be a boy in a dress" territory and into "people will laugh because it's a cute costume" territory. Perhaps she's wrong in doing that.
But it also was heartbreaking to me that my sweet, kind-hearted five year old was right to be worried. He knew that there were people like A, B, and C. And he, at 5, was concerned about how they would perceive him and what would happen to him.I don't think there was anything to hide from this child, or that he had any kind of idealized version of the world being fed to him. He know, alright, that going in dressed as he was might attract negative attention. Perhaps even bullying.
The Science Of Sexual Orientation | video.posted by ericb at 1:34 PM on November 4, 2010 [4 favorites]
> Wow, jeremy b, that is the most uncharitable reading of this piece possible.Well, it certainly is an uncharitable reading... but with so many hypercharitable and utterly uncritical interpretations and voices already chiming in, I'm more than glad to make a place at the table for this line of reasoning.
> Is it really so hard to believe that there are moms who would make stinky faces at a little boy daring to flout gender norms?It's not at all hard to believe that. It's also not at all hard to believe that there are moms who would twist or skew anecdotal reactions so as to better characterize themselves as the crusader they envision themselves as.
> [regarding an accusation of Münchausen's by Proxy] You're saying that you find equivalency between a child choosing a halloween costume and his mother asking him repeatedly if he's committed to wearing it and then that child attending a gathering wearing said costume while his mother confronts negative reactions from other parents at the gathering... with a parent fabricating medical conditions in their child, often to the detriment of that child's health, in order to gain the attention that parent pathologically needs....I'll not speak for the author of that post, but your characterization of his/her argument is absolute wankery. He or She neither said nor implied any such thing, and you're a lazy arguer for having conceived, typed, and submitted this travesty of a bad-faith willful distortion.
But on the same CNN program, a clinical psychologist, Dr. Jeff Gardere, accused the mom of “outing” her son by posting the photo on the Internet. “With all due respect, whether your child is gay or straight, I think you kind of outed him by putting him in the blog,” Dr. Gardere said.
The mother responded that her son has not been “outed,” because nobody knows the child’s sexual orientation. “First of all, he’s 5 years old,” she said on the program. “He’s made no sexual conscious choice — which I don’t believe it is (a choice) — but he’s made no overtures either way at the age of 5. I feel that people are reading into it in a negative way.”
She said her son simply loves Scooby-Doo and that he and his best friend, a girl, decided to both dress as Daphne this year. “Halloween is a night to dress up,” she said on the program. “You get to be something you are not. He loves Scooby-Doo.”
> Long knives? Really? For questioning someone's rather extreme inappropriate psychiatric diagnosis based on a blog post?Long knives. Really.
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Too bad he goes to the preschool at the Church of Perpetual Judgey Douchebuckets.
posted by Sidhedevil at 11:14 AM on November 4, 2010 [53 favorites]